| 12/15/2014 9:22:50 AM |
Disabled daughter turning 18 |
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dragonlady72
New Albany, IN
43, joined Apr. 2011
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I don't comment or get on here very much but I needs some advice. Please be kind...
I am stuck and not knowing who to talk to or what to do. My daughter has Asperger's and Severe Anxiety. I have protected her for as long as I can and now she wants to move almost 200 miles away when she turns 18 in March. The closer it gets the worse I feel. Do I let her go and meet her internet friends or do I somehow stop her? Do I stop being her payee for her SSDI or can I still manage her money for her when she goes? I don't know what to do or who to turn to but this momma is really struggling! What should I do? 
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| 12/15/2014 10:10:14 AM |
Disabled daughter turning 18 |
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bbwtreasure
Winfield, IL
52, joined Feb. 2008
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Depending on the type of disability, you may have to still be the rep payee. I suggest you call Social Security administration before she turns 18 and find out if you need to remain payee and if she has to stay near you. I would also see if there is an Asperger's support group in you area.
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| 12/16/2014 2:56:12 PM |
Disabled daughter turning 18 |
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here4foromsonly
Cincinnati, OH
54, joined Sep. 2012
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I agree contact Social Security. They will let you know about the payee part. In some way it may be for the best then if the new friends are taking her for a financial help on their part she won't be able to help them out.
I have a grandson so I understand about protecting them. He has PPD.
Good luck.
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| 12/16/2014 4:14:42 PM |
Disabled daughter turning 18 |
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findingtheoneiw
El Cajon, CA
34, joined Aug. 2014
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Hi lady. I wonder why she wants to move 200 miles away from her mom anyway. Does she even know these internet friends? She should want to be around mommy at least sometimes. Also I think those disabilities you named aren't always so bad when a person grows up and goes out and about. My half brother is on disability for a mild problem. He kept talking about how he wanted to leave mother for a long time but he ended up staying and got better after all. But if he ever left then he does eventually need to learn to be his own payee. Just my thought happy holidays
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| 12/18/2014 12:19:46 AM |
Disabled daughter turning 18 |
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mr_killmark
Chicago, IL
31, joined Jun. 2014
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Well I'm disable I have seizure n I got my SCSI money for me that it,but I act normal with you n her it time to be a adult n be responsible.if she is ready to be depending to be alone let her be free it time.
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| 12/18/2014 4:14:43 PM |
Disabled daughter turning 18 |
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bbwtreasure
Winfield, IL
52, joined Feb. 2008
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Is there a way she can become more independent near you? Let her show you how she handles more responsibilities? Take baby steps.
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| 12/19/2014 8:59:32 AM |
Disabled daughter turning 18 |
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godsbutterfly1
Woodlyn, PA
60, joined Dec. 2010
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That's a good idea. Maybe she could go into an assisted living situation or group home.
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| 12/19/2014 9:00:25 AM |
Disabled daughter turning 18 |
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godsbutterfly1
Woodlyn, PA
60, joined Dec. 2010
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She might be open to that compromise, then at least she'd have a taste of what it was like and it's in a semi controlled environment.
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| 1/12/2015 1:37:20 AM |
Disabled daughter turning 18 |
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goldenpearl1970
Salem, OR
45, joined Apr. 2013
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Yes you'll be able ti be her payee rep. As long as she can't manage her money and exspecially if her drs agree with you. That you'll continue to be the payee. Also one other thing as far as her leaving so far away I'm really not sure. I no when my daughter moved from home and continues to be away from home I've let ssi know this and they continue to allow me to be her payee rep. But look a lil further into with ssi , as far as distance.
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