10/26/2011 8:59:02 PM |
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daziemae

Oklahoma City, OK
59, joined Jul. 2010
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I have been dating a man I met on here for a few weeks. Through updates on yahoo messenger, I discovered he was on at least one sex dating site. I made a profile on there just to see what it was all about. After I found out what I wanted to know I deleted. There were a lot of people I've met on D.H. on there. Also there were a lot of people from my home town, and surroundings towns I know. A lot married. I feel so naive for a fifty some year old. Should I stop seeing this man?
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10/26/2011 9:02:41 PM |
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linezha

Winnie, TX
31, joined Sep. 2011
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Is a sex dating site really any different than DH?
Everyone has different intentions, regardless what site it is.
Should you stop seeing him, simply because he has an account on said site? No!
Should you stop seeing him based in his intentions on said site? Possibly.
What were his intentions? Is he still seeking someone else? How serious are you two? Does his intentions go against your moral beliefs?
Too many unknown variables to make an accurate opinion.
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10/26/2011 9:03:37 PM |
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libertine666

West Springfield, MA
50, joined Feb. 2011
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At least you didn't see him on gaydar.net be seeing you.
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10/26/2011 9:07:47 PM |
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daziemae

Oklahoma City, OK
59, joined Jul. 2010
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Everyone on there had nude pictures on there and more. And yes he was online on there at the time I put my profile on there.
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10/26/2011 9:09:29 PM |
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metu

Auburndale, FL
54, joined Apr. 2007
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Have you even bothered trying to TALK to him about it? I know it's a radical concept, buuuut...
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10/26/2011 9:12:34 PM |
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bumblebee7

Fort Payne, AL
60, joined Apr. 2011
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When I was first divorced, I wasn't wanting any real involvement...just wanting the company of a responding woman and fun ,ainly. So, I was on AFF for two years, only met on, we were supposed to have a fwb, but it turned into more....I stayed that long, because of the forums.
At that time before Penthouse bought them out, in reality it was more like a conventional dating site, many were there to seek someone for a relation with sexual compatibility...though just like here or many other regular dating sites...there were some swingers, and people for sex only...the advertisement hype and more explicid pictures some posted made it seem more wild than it was.
Every site between the lines has people of both genders seeking just sex, the lack of sexual hype, and more confined rules make it seem otherwise.
Look a person can be looking for a relationship, but many have a partner in the meantime...and people on sex sites have gotten together and even married.
Go read "sex and dating" here...not much different than reading on a sex site.
Many here are here for just sex.
So??
But, the choise if yours only....talk to him, and etc, before you pass judgement based on this alone.
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10/26/2011 9:14:57 PM |
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runningfoc0

Fort Collins, CO
27, joined May. 2011
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@ Daz, do what feels right to you. Some people on here are more radical, whereas some people on here are more conserve in the dating world. If you feel it's a redflag to you, then leave him or ask him about why he joined. If it really doesn't concern you continue onward with him.
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10/26/2011 9:31:36 PM |
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daziemae

Oklahoma City, OK
59, joined Jul. 2010
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I'm not judging him. He has every right to do what he wants. He was not on there for the forrums I don't think because he has been on here for a long time and never posted in the forrums. He has wanted to have sex via web cam with me, so I would think that is what he is into. Which is fine for some, just not for me.
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10/26/2011 9:33:08 PM |
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bumblebee7

Fort Payne, AL
60, joined Apr. 2011
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Well...if thats the case then, your probably right...go with your gut instincts
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10/26/2011 9:42:13 PM |
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daziemae

Oklahoma City, OK
59, joined Jul. 2010
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Thanks bumble bee. I'm feeling really used. I don't like the feeling.
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10/26/2011 9:50:44 PM |
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settee_s

Flower Mound, TX
62, joined May. 2011
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OP, I gotta ask....have you met this man in person?
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10/26/2011 9:55:33 PM |
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katrina1964

Melrose, MA
51, joined Sep. 2011
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Dazie if the site is AFF, alot of guys go on there to watch sex videos, or do the instant messenger thing. Or they can even web cam themselves live on there. What is your new friend looking for exactly? A relationship FWB, or just fun. If he's not looking for the same thing you are, then it's best to let him go.
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10/26/2011 10:03:58 PM |
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daziemae

Oklahoma City, OK
59, joined Jul. 2010
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OP, I gotta ask....have you met this man in person?
Yes I've been dating him over a month.
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10/26/2011 10:11:46 PM |
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settee_s

Flower Mound, TX
62, joined May. 2011
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Did you get the feeling he was dating women from these other sites?
I don't know anything about these other sites, but it sounds as if you disapprove of them..can you pin point what it is that concerns you? Do you think he may be a sexual deviant because he's a member of these sites?
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10/26/2011 10:21:09 PM |
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flame36d

Newcastle, NE
58, joined Nov. 2008
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He sounds kinda skanky. Not that there's anything wrong w/ that. I wouldn't date him though.
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10/26/2011 10:23:58 PM |
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daziemae

Oklahoma City, OK
59, joined Jul. 2010
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He sounds kinda skanky. Not that there's anything wrong w/ that. I wouldn't date him though.
You are right Flame and I don't think I want to date him anymore.
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10/26/2011 10:55:11 PM |
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tater79

Springfield, IL
37, joined Jun. 2008
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I have been dating a man I met on here for a few weeks. Through updates on yahoo messenger, I discovered he was on at least one sex dating site. I made a profile on there just to see what it was all about. After I found out what I wanted to know I deleted. There were a lot of people I've met on D.H. on there. Also there were a lot of people from my home town, and surroundings towns I know. A lot married. I feel so naive for a fifty some year old. Should I stop seeing this man?
the last line in this surpasses naivitivity(or however that would be spelled)
and enters dumbland..............
what do you think?
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10/26/2011 11:12:00 PM |
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vanir

Victoria
Australia
46, joined Mar. 2008
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dazie I must admit even to me it sounds like a sexual incompatability, which is handy to know before it's a really awkward moment.
At the moment you just feel maybe like a piece of meat a bit, but that's probably intuition.
Hey people are into all sorts of things, some are turned on by depravity. I don't bother reading too much into incompatabilities anymore, I found it a waste of time.
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10/26/2011 11:20:10 PM |
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ashadeofred

Lansing, MI
65, joined Dec. 2007
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You are right Flame and I don't think I want to date him anymore.
When in doubt, take a step back. If it doesn't feel right to you....stop.
I agree with Flame. I know I wouldn't want to date him either. He KNOWS what that site is.
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10/27/2011 6:30:01 AM |
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daziemae

Oklahoma City, OK
59, joined Jul. 2010
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Yes linezha I think This might have a lot to do with a difference in our morals. And thanks tator for Making it clear that I"m a stupid person. We can always count on you to point out everyones flaws.
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10/27/2011 6:37:25 AM |
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daziemae

Oklahoma City, OK
59, joined Jul. 2010
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Thanks for your help everyone.
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10/27/2011 6:44:59 AM |
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roscopeako
Mechanicsburg, PA
38, joined Sep. 2011
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I am so glad, I would never ask strangers, about how to handle someone I was dating, or talking too,lol. After all you learned, who knows half these ppl could be on beastiality sites,lol. I mean you didnt realize half your town, married, or not were sexual deviants,lol? 
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10/27/2011 6:53:22 AM |
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kerala777
Vallejo, CA
56, joined Sep. 2011
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I wouldn't date him any more either. I sympathize completely, it's kind of horrible to find out people don't have attractive sexual habits. It's. Depressing as hell, actually.
I hope you meet a wholesome guy.
Xxx
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10/27/2011 6:54:49 AM |
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kerala777
Vallejo, CA
56, joined Sep. 2011
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I am so glad, I would never ask strangers, about how to handle someone I was dating, or talking too,lol. After all you learned, who knows half these ppl could be on beastiality sites,lol. I mean you didnt realize half your town, married, or not were sexual deviants,lol? 
Checking things out with other people, is a normal thing women do. It's also a way of diffusing the shock and getting some support.
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10/27/2011 7:10:43 AM |
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roscopeako
Mechanicsburg, PA
38, joined Sep. 2011
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Checking things out with other people, is a normal thing women do. It's also a way of diffusing the shock and getting some support.
I am not a woman, and dont think like one,lol. So you would know better than I would. I look at issues, and address them. I just cut through the red tape!
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10/27/2011 10:36:39 AM |
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consentual
Bethany, OK
61, joined Oct. 2008
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I am facinated at the way both men and women act like prudes in the victorian age! Priests molest children; it happens in the most holy of places. Do the priests advertize that they are child molesters? It doesn't matter what the rules of any site is, it is up to you to weed out the chaff and figure out what is real! good luck!
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10/27/2011 10:40:51 AM |
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esmeraldar

Toms River, NJ
67, joined Jan. 2009
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Have you even bothered trying to TALK to him about it? I know it's a radical concept, buuuut...
I agree with metu. Maybe talking to him would give you a better idea of why he was on the site. Was he looking for sexual partners or just satisfying his fantasies? Talking to him would give you a better idea of whether you want to keep seeing him.
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10/27/2011 10:42:58 AM |
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wallflower69
Pierson, FL
46, joined Aug. 2010
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many people have profiles on many different sites..i know i do..but i am not advertising to hook up or for phone fun or for trading pics..i am looking for a real relationship and that's what my profile says (i think)..if he was on there looking for fun then yes get rid of him now and fast..i know i would.. 
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10/27/2011 10:54:52 AM |
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audio_slave
Vk
Iceland
56, joined Sep. 2011
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I'm not judging him. He has every right to do what he wants. He was not on there for the forrums I don't think because he has been on here for a long time and never posted in the forrums. He has wanted to have sex via web cam with me, so I would think that is what he is into. Which is fine for some, just not for me.
was his name, Pepper?
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10/27/2011 11:18:46 AM |
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grneyedluvr2

Sebastian, FL
50, joined Apr. 2011
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Why is it people view sex as a horrid, aweful, rotten, disgusting, thing? That site (I'm assuming AFF) is no different than any other site, except you have to pay for it. There's just as many players, sluts, wh*res, and douchbags on this site, as there is on there. You get out of it, what you put into it. Did you look at his profile? Did he have d*ck pics plastered all over his wall? Did he have a dozen testimonials attributing to what a good(or bad) time he had with this, or that woman? Like metu said, have you even talked to him about it? It's pretty f**king immature of you to come on here and spread his business all over to the whole world, and yet, you haven't even asked him about it...just sayin...
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10/27/2011 11:20:16 AM |
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libertine666

West Springfield, MA
50, joined Feb. 2011
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was his name, Pepper?
It's so cool to be infamous. be seeing you.
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10/27/2011 11:23:25 AM |
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sand_inhershoes

Milton, FL
53, joined Jul. 2011
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Everyone on there had nude pictures on there and more. And yes he was online on there at the time I put my profile on there.
Sounds like a pervert to me.
It depends on what you are looking for.... are you looking for a monogamous relationship?
If you are..... I think you should forget him and move on.
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10/27/2011 12:42:44 PM |
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snyderdating
Pompano Beach, FL
50, joined Oct. 2011
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News flash: This site has the word "hookup" in the name. That means sex. Duh!
With that said, many others are looking for a normal relationship.
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10/27/2011 12:51:22 PM |
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ibrakehearts

Greater Manchester
United Kingdom
41, joined Aug. 2011
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Everyone on there had nude pictures on there and more. And yes he was online on there at the time I put my profile on there.
. You should of tried it on with him see if he took the bait, then you would no the answer to your question.
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10/27/2011 1:00:45 PM |
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musicdesign

Moodus, CT
53, joined Apr. 2007
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. You should of tried it on with him see if he took the bait, then you would no the answer to your question.
excellent idea. also, did he have nude photos posted on this site?
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10/27/2011 7:58:04 PM |
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legaleye

Columbus, OH
63, joined Mar. 2008
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For the record, monogamous and kinky are not always mutually exclusive.
But from what I recall, the OP said he wanted webcam sex, which makes absolutely no sense to me in any event.
I see this issue over and over again in the formation of relationships, which is the lack of communication which leads to the failure to form a solid foundation for a relationship. Having dated him for a month in person, which is what I understand, how well do you know him? Of course, if a month is two dates, one every other week, you arent there yet, but there should be some conversation and communication. What I find though, is that all too many people, as someone else here observed, are just way too hung up on it ever to engage in a meaningful discussion about sensuality, sexuality, etc.
Then when they find out they are sexually incompatible someone goes away disappointed and complaining about how they invested all this time in someone for nothing.
If I were you, I would go out with him and engage in some meaningful conversation. Ask him what other dating sites he is on for example, and prepare to be truthful yourself. See if he tells you, deflects or lies. Engage in some conversation about topics you may feel uncomfortable about and see where he goes with it. If the response are not to your liking, i.e. incompatible, then you know you will make the right decision and call things off.
Until you do that, all you have is speculation.
Enjoy.
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10/27/2011 8:14:01 PM |
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settee_s

Flower Mound, TX
62, joined May. 2011
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I agree with legal....it's at least worth a conversation..
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10/28/2011 9:46:47 AM |
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daziemae

Oklahoma City, OK
59, joined Jul. 2010
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Why is it people view sex as a horrid, aweful, rotten, disgusting, thing? That site (I'm assuming AFF) is no different than any other site, except you have to pay for it. There's just as many players, sluts, wh*res, and douchbags on this site, as there is on there. You get out of it, what you put into it. Did you look at his profile? Did he have d*ck pics plastered all over his wall? Did he have a dozen testimonials attributing to what a good(or bad) time he had with this, or that woman? Like metu said, have you even talked to him about it? It's pretty f**king immature of you to come on here and spread his business all over to the whole world, and yet, you haven't even asked him about it...just sayin...
I don't veiw sex as horrid, rotten, and disgusting at all. I don't think I said that at all did I? I do veiw sex with just just anyone that way. You must have been one of those people on there. So defensive.
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10/28/2011 9:53:26 AM |
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grneyedluvr2

Sebastian, FL
50, joined Apr. 2011
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I don't veiw sex as horrid, rotten, and disgusting at all. I don't think I said that at all did I? I do veiw sex with just just anyone that way. You must have been one of those people on there. So defensive.
I had an account on there years ago. Granted, there's a lot of pervs there, and a lot of players. There's just as many, if not more here. This is free. AFF isn't free. I'm not defensive, I'm just saying you put all this stuff out here in internet land BEFORE you ever asked him about it. WTF is up with that? I would very leery in dating someone like you. You got loose lips and seem like a drama queen.
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10/28/2011 9:53:49 AM |
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daziemae

Oklahoma City, OK
59, joined Jul. 2010
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I did try to talk to him about it, But he didn't really want to talk, but he did make sure I couldn't see his updates anymore. LOL.
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10/28/2011 10:02:40 AM |
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grneyedluvr2

Sebastian, FL
50, joined Apr. 2011
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then move on. simple as that. click next on the ol search engine. that's what the rest of us do.
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10/28/2011 10:07:43 AM |
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lovetosmile57

Cincinnati, OH
59, joined Jun. 2011
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Everyone on there had nude pictures on there and more. And yes he was online on there at the time I put my profile on there.
You have a partially nude picture on your profile, just saying… Nice leg…. 
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10/28/2011 10:08:58 AM |
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crzyblubttrfly

Fort Smith, AR
56, joined Apr. 2009
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If he didn't want to discuss it you are probably not compatible sexually. Not the best partner for you. He could be ashamed or have hang ups he knows you won't deal with well. Doesn't mean he is wrong, just not your type.
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10/28/2011 10:22:54 AM |
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lovetosmile57

Cincinnati, OH
59, joined Jun. 2011
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Well now, seems like you have a dilemma on your hands. Your guy friend is on a sex dating site and you’re on a free dating site. Both of you seem to be looking for something that the other is not offering. I would not cast stones at someone when you yourself are living in a glass house.
I’m however still a bit confused about how you found out….
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11/6/2011 1:42:57 AM |
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emwolb_31
Checotah, OK
64, joined Aug. 2008
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i'm thinking that he's reasonably normal. after all we're not teenagers, we're all old enough to know what we want in a partner. now by putting out the bait, i.e. being even in this datehookup site, if you didn't get a catfish or two to nibble at the bait, all would be for nothing, right? it's up to you how you treat this issue, but i wouldn't even consider it an issue at all, but rather somewhat normal. perhaps his request for cam to cam stuff, was his way to figure out if you were on the same wavelength as he is. we're all wired in a different pattern. if everyone was the same, ya might as well be looking for a robot instead of a real person. at least his first question to you wasn't, "so, are you allergic to ductape?" you're old enough to make decisions, and why would you think that any of us in this site are qualified to make decisions for you? just a thought. by the way, i'm jim, nice to meet you, "are you allergic to ductape?" sorry, couldn't help it.
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11/6/2011 1:47:03 AM |
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mrld_ii

Stockton, CA
55, joined May. 2011
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Be careful about believing everything you see, OP.
If someone searched for me and my memberships, they'd find "mrld_ii" is a member of a 'dating' website known as "One Night Stands in Stockton".
Imagine my surprise when I found myself there. For a $39.99 membership fee, which automatically renews each month, I could have actually gone to my profile to see what, exactly, I'll do on a one-night stand.
In Stockton.

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11/6/2011 1:48:21 AM |
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hefner007
Brooklyn, NY
27, joined Nov. 2011
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Quick question...i used to be on here all the time...wat ever happened to the "sex and dating" forum?
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11/6/2011 2:25:19 AM |
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susieq_tx

Harlingen, TX
63, joined Mar. 2011
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So he's a perv and you're a snoop. Seriously, I'd just talk to him about it. Then I'd make a decision...but it would be an informed decision.
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11/6/2011 6:29:28 AM |
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nothereyoudont

Albuquerque, NM
50, joined Jul. 2010
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'Sex dating' sites scam men for money.
No one actually meets anyone.
Non-sex 'dating' sites are advertiser vehicles.
No one actually meets anyone.
Bar wins yet again.
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11/6/2011 7:03:32 AM |
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shellymyshelly

New Berlin, WI
48, joined Oct. 2011
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then move on. simple as that. click next on the ol search engine. that's what the rest of us do.
When I was on AFF It was free. I still have an acct. But havent been on there for months. Men have to pay on there. I never had to pay though.
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11/6/2011 7:05:30 AM |
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shellymyshelly

New Berlin, WI
48, joined Oct. 2011
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Quick question...i used to be on here all the time...wat ever happened to the "sex and dating" forum?
When I am on my cell I have no option for sex and dating. Only on laptop.
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11/6/2011 7:11:37 AM |
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cayman144

Waco, TX
68, joined Jul. 2011
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So he's a perv and you're a snoop. Seriously, I'd just talk to him about it. Then I'd make a decision...but it would be an informed decision.
^^^^. What she said
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11/6/2011 8:06:29 AM |
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honestami

Ravenna, OH
60, joined Dec. 2008
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I have been dating a man I met on here for a few weeks. Through updates on yahoo messenger, I discovered he was on at least one sex dating site. I made a profile on there just to see what it was all about. After I found out what I wanted to know I deleted. There were a lot of people I've met on D.H. on there. Also there were a lot of people from my home town, and surroundings towns I know. A lot married. I feel so naive for a fifty some year old. Should I stop seeing this man?
Why must people use trickery and games to get an answer to their quetions anymore??
What would be wrong with just asking someone if they were on there? If they lie,then grab them by their ear and drag them to the PC and show them their sex profile?
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11/6/2011 8:29:10 AM |
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mustangwriter

Boerne, TX
55, joined Nov. 2009
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Without a commitment... I really don't see the problem.
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11/6/2011 8:34:46 AM |
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kerala777
Vallejo, CA
56, joined Sep. 2011
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 Why must people use trickery and games to get an answer to their quetions anymore??
What would be wrong with just asking someone if they were on there? If they lie,then grab them by their ear and drag them to the PC and show them their sex profile? 

Totally. Life would be so much better with straightforward communication, wouldn't it?
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11/6/2011 9:02:47 AM |
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ericjasonp

Chalfont, PA
51, joined Feb. 2011
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Can you please list the site?
This sounds like something
I must investigate.
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11/6/2011 9:06:55 AM |
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shellymyshelly

New Berlin, WI
48, joined Oct. 2011
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Can you please list the site?
This sounds like something
I must investigate.
Lol, Adult Friend Finder, AFF, you can view live people doing things, and they can view you. Most women and men post profile pics of them naked
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11/6/2011 9:12:20 AM |
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ericjasonp

Chalfont, PA
51, joined Feb. 2011
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And this is supposed to be bad???
I think not.
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11/6/2011 9:15:15 AM |
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shellymyshelly

New Berlin, WI
48, joined Oct. 2011
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And this is supposed to be bad???
I think not.
It's addicting and can take over your life. 
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11/6/2011 9:20:38 AM |
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hotpink36

Springfield, OR
43, joined Jul. 2008
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I am far from being a prude, but that site sounds disgusting!!!!! I would just move on a month in and trust issues it's not worth it......
now if it was out in the open and you guys were exploring together, but still a month is pretty earlier to have doubts already....
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