| 6/9/2008 10:52:45 AM |
Why do men ASSUME that you're looking to get laid? |
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snowbird1961
Los Lunas, NM
age: 46
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taboo, that was very well said. I agree with you.
lovly, not all men are looking to get laid or think we are. But in the defense of both men and women, it is our nature to often feel the need for sex. It is up to each individual on whether they act on it or control it. We can't place the whole gender race on the spot based on a few bad experiences. We are all different. Just keep looking for the one who fits the image you want. Good luck.
[Edited 6/9/2008 10:56:18 AM]
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| 6/9/2008 10:54:12 AM |
Why do men ASSUME that you're looking to get laid? |
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deano1234
Pierson, IA
age: 44
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I agree the first date is is pretty forward. I also know some women have the sex drive of a elephant, once every 2 yrs is enough. No one buys a car without driving it. Give the guy a break. He just wasted 20$ on a blue pill, and 4 hours from now he will be in an emergency room asking a doctor to get rid of this thing.
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| 6/9/2008 11:09:01 AM |
Why do men ASSUME that you're looking to get laid? |
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theodorebear
Hopkinsville, KY
age: 41
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I would have to agree about the double standard here. SOME women expect to be ASKED for sex rather quickly into the relationship and some prefer the father time approach. You cannot stereotype the entire bunch based on one's actions. However, when one DOES ask too early to suit you, don't slam the door, ask if they mind waiting until you get to know each other better. ALSO, for you ladies that DO expect an immediate mauling, some guys don't want to just "Jump in the Sack", they might actually respect you for YOU and want to build something meaningful, not just based on sex.
I dated a woman that thought I was not interested in her because I hadn't tried to get in her pants by the 3rd date. I prefer to let nature take it's course. If SHE wants something, she's a big girl and quite capable of sending the appropriate signals. If she does NOT send the signal, the she should not expect the approach. However, some guys are just so nice and old fashioned you ladies will need to just go ahead and club them and drag them to the bedroom....
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| 6/9/2008 11:29:40 AM |
Why do men ASSUME that you're looking to get laid? |
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nicegy41
Oak Harbor, WA
age: 41
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Its a 50/50 thing both sides do it. i have meet women never had any intention of doing anything. Next thing i know im down south going to town. I never push myself on anyone. but if she starts it im going to finish it. Hey sorry im just a guy.
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| 6/9/2008 1:10:34 PM |
Why do men ASSUME that you're looking to get laid? |
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egglebert
Steinbach, MB
age: 45 online now!
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The advantage of initiating contact on the DH site is to initiate communicate with another other person and establish an understanding of what the relationship means to each other.
Every one is here of their own personal reasons, whether it be friendship, intimate relationship, sex, or only entertainment.
We all have to weed through the people we contact to find that someone who provides us with those essential qualities we are desiring.
If you are very set on your expectations of the other person and find yourself constantly dissappointed, then perhaps:
1.you have not been open enough to your "friend" on those expectations from the start or
2.you are responding to the wrong "friends"
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| 6/9/2008 2:18:31 PM |
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fatactress
Cumberland, MD
age: 46
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Some men are looking for a little somethin somethin...some are not. But I have noticed it too. Lets assume they have two heads..(which they do) and one sometimes over rides the other..its forgivable..just ask them which head is doing the talking this time??lol..oh..Ive seen ladies do the same..and they only have one head so whats their excuse??
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| 6/9/2008 3:33:02 PM |
Why do men ASSUME that you're looking to get laid? |
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ladyeden
Waynesville, MO
age: 48
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Some do, some don't - at least not right away.
Those looking for a quick "score" are hoping you/we are.
For them its a quick in-n-out (pun intended) numbers game with a shotgun approach.
They get around more because they don't spend as much (or any) time considering if they like you, if you have things in common, if they want to get to know you or any of that other stuff that takes time for things they aren't interested in - they just wanna pollinate.
If you're offended, not interested - just delete, block and wash your hands as often as needed. Don't take it personally - they sure aren't!
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| 6/9/2008 4:07:20 PM |
Why do men ASSUME that you're looking to get laid? |
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passionate8
Gibsonton, FL
age: 51
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I assure you most men don't feel that way. While it is true we think of sex 36 times a day on average, it is not the first thing on most mens minds when on the first date.
You must realize these sites attract some of the lower life forms and those who just can't get a date anywhere else.
There are good men on these sites, just be careful when picking one to go out with. try to determine if he has a good heart!
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| 6/9/2008 4:16:25 PM |
Why do men ASSUME that you're looking to get laid? |
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ezgoing46
South Bend, IN
age: 48
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Let me see, if women weren't putting out on the first or second date then guys wouldn't be expecting it. If its offered who is going to turn it down.
But my own personal belief is if you wait you begin to know the person as a person, because to me sex changes everything. I say to everyone, to wait for awhile even a month!, and see how different it is. You will be amazed.
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| 6/9/2008 4:26:01 PM |
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lillibet
New South Wales
Australia
age: 50
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I was once told never assume anything...So I guess if a man starts talking sex with me quite readily then i wont assume hes just after sex I will ask him outright and if he is i will tell him hes looking at the wrong girl. To me sex is a healthy part of a relationship but Im not about to be fooled around with by some hardup desperate manllooking for an easy lay. I guess its a case of finding someone with the same morals as yourself..Believe me there are still some great men about who treat women as a person and not a sex object...
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| 6/9/2008 4:31:40 PM |
Why do men ASSUME that you're looking to get laid? |
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wishicould
Mesquite, TX
age: 51
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Wait a minute...aren't we all want to get laid?...I mean...is the sexual part of a relationship not included?
I think the trick is that men and women want it at different times. There is no harm in talking about it, early on. But men want it to happen sooner, rather than later. Women want to develope feelings and connections, first.
However, in most adult relationships, you naturally expect sex to be a part of (an important part of) the relationship.
What is a turn off for women, is when you just met a guy and things start getting hot and heavy too quick. Without trust and a certain level of connection and chemistry, it feels unappropriate...hmmm..uncomfortable.
I personally would like to get intimate with my guy AFTER I know there is some degree of exclusivity involved. If he has a few play mates going on the side, which he is absolutly entitled to...BEFORE we are intimate, he needs to make up his mind and then get me to bed. Then if things are not good enough, he can break it up and then try new fields to play.
JMHO.
Makes sense to me...how come it never works out that way?
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| 6/9/2008 4:35:07 PM |
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notsoez2bcheezy
Trumansburg, NY
age: 40
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Because we are looking to get laid.
We keep hoping that if we take that attitude all the time - the odds are eventually we'll get some!
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| 6/9/2008 4:44:07 PM |
Why do men ASSUME that you're looking to get laid? |
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rlynn_1
Hedgesville, WV
age: 39
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because im a slut! 
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| 6/9/2008 5:02:33 PM |
Why do men ASSUME that you're looking to get laid? |
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irresistiblered
Aurora, CO
age: 43
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Because we are looking to get laid.
We keep hoping that if we take that attitude all the time - the odds are eventually we'll get some!
There is your answer.
However...if you guys be patient... play it right... you have a better chance of it.
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| 6/9/2008 5:03:20 PM |
Why do men ASSUME that you're looking to get laid? |
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pleasurepirate
Shreveport, LA
age: 47
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You mean you aren't all here looking to get laid? 
Damn! 
Actually, I feel you. It's kinda like guys who send pics of their equipment in an introductory email as if women will be so overwhelmed with lust they won't be able to help themselves (which actually works if women did that with some guys). lol. I was discussing this very subject with a wench friend about all the shit they receive, how women want it as bad as men, some even worse, yet don't want a guy to immediately say, "Hi, I'm horny. When can we have sex?"
To you guys who don't have a clue yet, that would be like first meeting a woman in person, that you met on DH, and her immediately asking you what colors she should choose for her bridesmaids dresses when ya'll get married. If that wouldn't scare you, you probably have a history of restraining orders and couldn't buy a clue with your life's savings.
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