sharonipa
Coos Bay, OR
72, joined Mar. 2011
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Well, it's been about 5 1/2 yrs. now since my husband has been gone. I've made it through the 'fog', the re-adjustment, the 'trying' to start over, meeting guys, etc.
I've come to the conclusion that I'm just going to live...enjoy each day for what it is. I don't have to change my life anymore than it has been changed already. I can wake up in the morning, enjoy the warm sunshine, the birds singing, the flowers, dogs barking, children laughing. Why do I have to 'change'? If I think that I need companionship, there are many ways that I can find that. I can join a group of people who have the same interests, like painting, survivalist stuff, wild edibles and medicines, hiking, gardening, sewing, crafts, religion, genealogy, well, the list goes on because my interests are many  I could volunteer for any number of things....I could be on a schedule and be as busy as I wanted......if I wanted, or just work on my house and yard. All of that is there if I want it.
In the mean-time, I bought my garden seeds and plants...'gotta have food my baby chicks are laying eggs now....and I'm getting my camping gear ready to go camping again next week. No more 'slippery sleeping bags', or tent on a slope, like last time, in 'cold weather'
Me and my doggies...4 little dachshunds, they're all old like me. My little Stuart can't stand up anymore, his hind legs gave out a few weeks ago, so I have to carry him out, but I'll do that as long as he's not in pain. He loves to lay in his bed by the campfire. My little dogs are old like me, but we are absolutely going to have a nice summer...we'll go camping and hotdogs and barbecue and cook on the campfire. 'Yep, life is good
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snakepond
Somerset, KY
53, joined May. 2010
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I absolutely agree. I am happy....period.
The adjustments of the last 4 yrs have not been easy but my life is full of family and friends.
I have a good job and a life full of activities.
If your pain and grief is new and raw. Just take it one hour at a time. I found that trying a full day was just to scary.
Don't hestitate to seek help and talk to someone. It helps to know your not going crazy.
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janecitizen52
Brunswick, OH
71, joined Mar. 2012
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Wow, finally, a refreshing widower's thread, yes!
Like you, I have found that life is what we make it.
I have chosen to find happiness from within and there
is still so many things to be enjoyed.
My happiness today will be enjoying the sunshine with
a stroll in a local park and a brown bag lunch, with
just me. There will be a friendly hello to those I
pass and comfort will be enjoyed in doing my own thing.
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sunnydee7777
Clermont, FL
67, joined Aug. 2011
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I agree with all of you ladies.  
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24milkduds
Vallejo, CA
58, joined Mar. 2012
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moonbeams73
Grand Rapids, MN
62, joined Sep. 2009
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I'm happy too!
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justjimmy2
Arizona
Argentina
64, joined Aug. 2012
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Yes it feels odd to know you have lost such a big part of your life and now you start a new one. Only someone who has lost a loved one can understand how much you can miss someone but at the same time when the grief subsides there is kinda a freedom. Free from the hurt and pain of loss.
Ya I know I am not saying this right but yall understand me. You can breath again without it hurting and every breath is giving you back life.
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