| 7/1/2008 5:48:57 PM |
why is dating and handicap so hard? |
|
bigbadklondyke
Eaton, OH
age: 45
|
Uhm thats a wonderful question. I have the same problem which I think everybody that is handicap. I was on a website called disaboom and I chated w/ alot of handicap guys but they all want girls who don't have I disability and I just don't understand why.
They are looking for a nurse and a purse. I wish them luck.
I believe if two people with disabilities can combine resources and each of their abilities could offset the other's disability they could make a a good life for themselves.
hey look I'm not cry'n I still have fun if it happens it happens I don't no y he is cry'n all I said was welcome 2 the boat
|
| 7/2/2008 2:36:20 AM |
why is dating and handicap so hard? |
|
lindasj
Cincinnati, OH
age: 49
|
Uhm thats a wonderful question. I have the same problem which I think everybody that is handicap. I was on a website called disaboom and I chated w/ alot of handicap guys but they all want girls who don't have I disability and I just don't understand why.
They are looking for a nurse and a purse. I wish them luck.
I believe if two people with disabilities can combine resources and each of their abilities could offset the other's disability they could make a a good life for themselves.
hey look I'm not cry'n I still have fun if it happens it happens I don't no y he is cry'n all I said was welcome 2 the boat
Hmm,I think you might have misunderstood my post to gigglebox21. She was wondering why a disabled man would not date a disabled woman . I hope you understand what I was saying. I was responding to her.I think a disabled person should not rule out a relatioship with another disabled person.
|
| 7/2/2008 4:02:33 PM |
why is dating and handicap so hard? |
|
bigbadklondyke
Eaton, OH
age: 45
|
Uhm thats a wonderful question. I have the same problem which I think everybody that is handicap. I was on a website called disaboom and I chated w/ alot of handicap guys but they all want girls who don't have I disability and I just don't understand why.
They are looking for a nurse and a purse. I wish them luck.
I believe if two people with disabilities can combine resources and each of their abilities could offset the other's disability they could make a a good life for themselves.
hey look I'm not cry'n I still have fun if it happens it happens I don't no y he is cry'n all I said was welcome 2 the boat
Hmm,I think you might have misunderstood my post to gigglebox21. She was wondering why a disabled man would not date a disabled woman . I hope you understand what I was saying. I was responding to her.I think a disabled person should not rule out a relatioship with another disabled person.
true true
|
| 7/3/2008 5:26:34 PM |
why is dating and handicap so hard? |
|
bookshort
Herrin, IL
age: 59
|
I was wondering why I was getting so many winks from people who have disabilities. Thing was they didn't tell me they had disabilities, I figured it out after we winked, and e-mailed and even progressed to I'ming. I had to pull teeth to get the admission that "well, I don't work because of --whatever." Personally I believe they were looking for a nurse with a purse. Now, that really pisses me off. I am a person with a disability and YOU want me to provide the purse and then for God sake after working my a** off all day come home and be your nurse!! Excuse you me, but I have no time nor sympathy for this woe is me forum.
|
| 7/3/2008 5:45:00 PM |
why is dating and handicap so hard? |
|
springfever100
Nepean, ON
age: 41
|
actually, many disabled I know, myself included, do try their best, and I'm always one for supporting myself, I don't need or want someone else's money, also I always say upfront, my issues when i write profiles, i hold nothing back and many are touched by my complete honesty , I'm not perfect, but I do work a small job, I clean, cook,and sustain myself the best i can, lots of disabled out there are not golddiggers or moneyseekers, they just want to be accepted and have a little companionship with a woman or man, it gets lonely being disabled, and being disabled doesn't diminish the capacity to love or have feelings like everybody else,
|
| 7/6/2008 11:27:47 AM |
why is dating and handicap so hard? |
|
esa52
Summerfield, FL
age: 56
|
I agree with you lidsai,quote," All they want is a nurse and a purse" When most men find you have physical disabilities,even if they may also, they don't want to date.Never mind that you maybe trying to help yourself to the best of your ability. I also work part time.They don't want to be tied down by someone they consider a drag and a burden.Maybe, they think both of you having disabilities would be too much to deal with.Be honest, how many people over 40 don't have some kind of physical problem? They forget, we still have a lot to give, when the right person comes along.
[Edited 7/6/2008 11:37:11 AM]
|
| 7/9/2008 11:56:14 AM |
why is dating and handicap so hard? |
|
wheelsincanada
Kitchener, ON
age: 45
|
well i`am over 40 and i want a date not a nurse. it is not easy for handicap people to get dates. because they only see the chair and not the person. i would like to think i`am a nice guy. all i want is to be with someone special thats all.
|
| 7/14/2008 2:05:38 PM |
why is dating and handicap so hard? |
|
espi669
Arlington, TX
age: 25
|
Ok I just turned 25 and have been dealing with CP my entire life so I know what it means to be resistant and think there will never be someone right out there. There have been a few that have challenged me to overcome these fear and move forward. My "disability" isn't as bad as some others cause thankfully I was able to have a few corrective surgeries through the shriners when i was younger. But that doesn't change the fact that it is still hard to be seen as normal in the eyes of the opposite sex
|
| 8/13/2008 4:12:48 PM |
why is dating and handicap so hard? |
|
bethinmi
Milford, MI
age: 37
|
Geez, that is so bad, wheelsincanada. Not uncommon, but very bad. My heart goes out to you.
|
| 8/30/2008 11:39:20 AM |
why is dating and handicap so hard? |
|
wheelsincanada
Kitchener, ON
age: 45
|
sorry if it takes so long to respond. i have tried other dating websites and no luck. there was one on here who looked promising, but when i wanted to meet her she never respond back. i think the one who said that handicap people are only looking for sonmeone to look after them needs to get a life. she doesn`t know anything about handicap people. we have helpers who come in and help us with what we need to do. like get up in the morning and get back in bed. what i`am looking for is someone to love thats all. someone to spend time with.
|
| 8/30/2008 12:48:22 PM |
why is dating and handicap so hard? |
|
needromance
Shelby, NC
age: 47
|
It looks to me like 2 disabled people together would be a better relationship. The respect and understanding along with support for the other is right there. Working together in a relationship is the whole idea of a relationship. whether its friendship, lovers or being married.All relationships have up and downs.
|
| 8/30/2008 1:01:55 PM |
why is dating and handicap so hard? |
|
wheelsincanada
Kitchener, ON
age: 45
|
well i have had more downs than ups. my ex just wanted me for my money and the thing is she knew i wasn`t rich. within the span of one year i lost my girlfriend, one of my helpers to cancer and my sister stopped talking to me.
|
| 8/31/2008 6:40:41 PM |
why is dating and handicap so hard? |
|
mountainman7
Chattanooga, TN
age: 41
|
I found that living here in the "Deep South" in the USA that people who have disabilities are often treated as another minority. The South seems like light years behind other parts of this country. Dating can be difficult because of the way society wants people to be. If you're young and beautiful, society accepts you for whom you are. If you have a physical or other handicap, people look at it as if something must be wrong. Of course, it's a perception and judgment for which society determines a person to be.
Scott
|
| 9/1/2008 7:18:32 AM |
why is dating and handicap so hard? |
|
needromance
Shelby, NC
age: 47
|
I am disabled too. The reasons are many for healthy people. The difficulty for the disabled to do some of the activities that the more active dating crowd. I am not in a wheelchair yet. I am however limited in my activities. People who are not disabled do not want to attend to or have the patience ot deal with someone that can not keep up. This is my situation. With my disabilities There are lots of activities we can do. Cook outs, traveling, dining out or in is still a great way to have fun. Society here in the deep south does not take that into consideration.It is a sad but true situation.
|
| 9/3/2008 11:13:59 AM |
why is dating and handicap so hard? |
|
dragonlady36
New Albany, IN
age: 36
|
I agree! all people see me as is a burden. I still get things done it just takes me longer.
When I drive or go out I have to wear a big brace and sometimes walk with a walker. People look at me different. They stop and move out of the way or look away. I have been alone now for 2 years my last boyfriend left right after my last back surgery. I could not perform up to his needs, so he found someone that could.
Sometimes I feel like now theres no hope in finding someone. I just recently started online dating sites to see if that Mr Right  is out there somewhere.
Maybe... 
|