YOU attract what you are. not what you want.

What if u r both?????????? I mean, wtf!?????????? The law of attraction is such a contradiction! There isnt a single human without insecurities who hasnt ever doubted themself. The law says...we all have negativity and not to worry because positivity holds the most strength and ability..........the book. How many millions was made off of some concept we allready know? A concept that doesnt really change anything or anyone?

Quote from txrose64:

of course it's true, laws of attraction in physics, "like attracts like" I don't normally do "cut and pastes" but she says it so well....

The law of attraction states that "like attracts like." This means that people with a low frequency -- people who are insecure and self-abandoning -- attract each other, while people with a high frequency -- people who love and value themselves -- also attract each other. People who are positive, open, secure, giving, caring and kind to themselves and others are not attracted to people who are closed, negative and needy of approval and attention.

While no one deliberately seeks out someone who is closed, negative and needy, if this is you, this is what you will attract into your life. If you want a loving relationship, then you need to do the work of learning how to take emotional responsibility. This means:

Learning to be present in your body rather than stuck in your mind avoiding your feelings
Being open to learning about what your feelings are telling you rather than protecting against them with various addictions and self-judgments
Learning to access a spiritual source of love, rather than expecting someone else to be your higher power
Learning to take loving action in your own behalf rather than expecting others to do this for you
If you are seeking a relationship, why not start today learning how to love yourself rather than continue to abandon yourself? If you are a in a relationship that is having problems, the most important thing you can do to help the relationship is learn how to love yourself rather than continue to abandon yourself.

Margaret Paul, PhD, Huffington Post, 5/2012.

7/18/2013 4:41:58 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
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7/18/2013 4:43:06 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
brandycool1 Syracuse, NY 45, joined Jun. 2013	Possibly. I tend to attract a lot of good men.
7/18/2013 4:58:33 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
txrose64 Pearland, TX 52, joined Jan. 2013	of course it's true, laws of attraction in physics, "like attracts like" I don't normally do "cut and pastes" but she says it so well.... The law of attraction states that "like attracts like." This means that people with a low frequency -- people who are insecure and self-abandoning -- attract each other, while people with a high frequency -- people who love and value themselves -- also attract each other. People who are positive, open, secure, giving, caring and kind to themselves and others are not attracted to people who are closed, negative and needy of approval and attention. While no one deliberately seeks out someone who is closed, negative and needy, if this is you, this is what you will attract into your life. If you want a loving relationship, then you need to do the work of learning how to take emotional responsibility. This means: Learning to be present in your body rather than stuck in your mind avoiding your feelings Being open to learning about what your feelings are telling you rather than protecting against them with various addictions and self-judgments Learning to access a spiritual source of love, rather than expecting someone else to be your higher power Learning to take loving action in your own behalf rather than expecting others to do this for you If you are seeking a relationship, why not start today learning how to love yourself rather than continue to abandon yourself? If you are a in a relationship that is having problems, the most important thing you can do to help the relationship is learn how to love yourself rather than continue to abandon yourself. Margaret Paul, PhD, Huffington Post, 5/2012.
7/18/2013 5:00:19 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
xiexie_muffin Sichuan China 44, joined Jun. 2013	Not really. But I would agree that in order to attract a good catch, you probably need to BE a good catch.
7/18/2013 5:02:44 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
bumblebee7 Fort Payne, AL 61, joined Apr. 2011 online now!	You attract because of what you are and it may not be always what you want is a more accurate statement.
7/18/2013 5:07:11 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
dasnixter Jessieville, AR 58, joined Jul. 2010	"probably need to BE a good catch." Or perhaps have tasty non-faux muffins.
7/18/2013 5:09:51 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
xiexie_muffin Sichuan China 44, joined Jun. 2013	Quote from dasnixter: "probably need to BE a good catch." Or perhaps have tasty non-faux muffins. Is this your way of telling me I'm not a good catch, Das?
7/18/2013 5:13:04 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
dasnixter Jessieville, AR 58, joined Jul. 2010	No way Jose! The muffins they ah knead to be real. Real hawt and tasty.
7/18/2013 5:17:02 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
xiexie_muffin Sichuan China 44, joined Jun. 2013	Great, now you're saying my boobs are squishy like dough.
7/18/2013 5:21:23 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
ladiebugg55 Redding, CA 60, joined Jun. 2012	Bull!..I can only speak for myself but I get approached by all types and ages..
7/18/2013 5:23:04 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
dasnixter Jessieville, AR 58, joined Jul. 2010	What cookbook are you reading? I no knead to know I need the dough.
7/18/2013 5:24:43 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
xiexie_muffin Sichuan China 44, joined Jun. 2013	::laughing: That makes no sense, but I'll let you have it.
7/18/2013 5:30:35 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
cul_hand_luke Lubbock, TX 38, joined Jan. 2013	I can't say that I agree. If like attracts like then I would concede that the women I have been with were not good people. Normally they had made better choices than I up to that point in life. I have always attracted the goody two shoes girl.
7/18/2013 5:31:32 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
blaaarg Winchester, VA 29, joined Jul. 2013	@txrose64:Magnets, how do they work? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OvmvxAcT_Yc No, seriously, after searching the only thing I was able to find about her is a Phd in psychology without saying from where. I DO see she is making money off that bologne however. EDIT: As for rules of attraction, there is a pretty specific formula for picking up women. That is why PUA techniques are so popular. [Edited 7/18/2013 5:32:29 AM ]
7/18/2013 5:37:14 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
happylauren Crown Point, IN 54, joined May. 2013	Not true. Until a person has healthy boundaries bad people are going to come after them. People cam sense if you're someone who can be taken advantage of. When you become emotionally strong bad people will not even approach you.
7/18/2013 5:51:29 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
cul_hand_luke Lubbock, TX 38, joined Jan. 2013	Quote from starr_bomb: Unless im a middle aged white man. . . ............no Are you sure you're not a middle aged white guy reincarnated?
7/18/2013 5:52:42 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
xray6 Jacksonville, FL 28, joined Mar. 2012	Quote from sconnienation: I don't know xray.....but my life has changed dramatically since I got rid of that crazy chick magnet in my pocket. you got rid of all your credit cards and the keys to your Mercedes Benz? J.K.
7/18/2013 6:00:45 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
txrose64 Pearland, TX 52, joined Jan. 2013	just from my personal experience it holds true. now ones that I used to attract that I consider to be less than desirable (S&M types, with a twist of mama's boys and bad boys) I do attract them still but I also have learned where not to tread!! I think that's not all of the equation of course but I know misery loves company, negative energy attracts negative energy. We are made up of "energy" what you broadcast is what's received and attracts and if it's from an unhealthy place, it's not going to be good. I try to bring a whole and "with it" me to the relationship table, of course we've all got "stuff" we've got to work on, but as Granny always said "Never fck anyone crazier than yourself"!! (she was a hoot, followed by "after adolescence, never put your a* over your head" and "don't mess with anything bigger than you that bites" she didn't like horses, I do and Sweetie's bigger than me and only bites to play!! so two out of three ain't bad!! But the older I get, the more I realize: Granny's never wrong!! that whole "lady outside the bedroom and a wh*re inside it, and never ever confuse the two and all's well" thing has been invaluable!! [Edited 7/18/2013 6:01:28 AM ]
7/18/2013 6:11:30 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
gamerman17 New York, NY 29, joined Apr. 2010	Depends on your personality and where you currently live at to be honest. If you're the type of person that always have a nasty attitude and have a cynical view on life, more than likely that's going to drive away the generally good people from you and you'll be susceptible to more of the a**holes and idiots that isn't good for you. Not all the time however, just the majority of the time. On the other hand, you can be a very good sweet person, but live in the most dangerous of areas where no good men and and women are ubiquitous you'll either have to stay single or lower your standards and get one of the people that's well below your standards. Just my thoughts......gamer
7/18/2013 6:49:44 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
texastaurus67 Universal City, TX 49, joined Feb. 2013	It may be true sometimes, but not always.
7/18/2013 6:54:29 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
ladyjess111 Newport News, VA 29, joined Jun. 2012	I am not sure about that.... I love Jack Black is my tipe of guy and always in my life serious guys and boring
7/18/2013 7:03:19 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
beautifulfire Nashville, TN 58, joined Jun. 2013	Quote from xray6: is there any truth to this statement? It's both true and untrue.
7/18/2013 7:11:32 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
txrose64 Pearland, TX 52, joined Jan. 2013	Quote from blaaarg: @txrose64:Magnets, how do they work? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OvmvxAcT_Yc No, seriously, after searching the only thing I was able to find about her is a Phd in psychology without saying from where. I DO see she is making money off that bologne however. EDIT: As for rules of attraction, there is a pretty specific formula for picking up women. That is why PUA techniques are so popular. Luke I don't know her from Adam, it's just an article I read at Huffington, but I agreed. I didn't want to plagerize. as for magnets..clever boy, they PULL (attract) or repell, depending on which end positive or negative...actually! good analogy!!
7/18/2013 8:30:59 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
dasnixter Jessieville, AR 58, joined Jul. 2010	Quote from xiexie_muffin: ::laughing: That makes no sense, but I'll let you have it. Woo Hoo!
7/18/2013 8:33:29 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
midniteriddler1 Austin, TX 48, joined Nov. 2010	I don't see much truth to the statement. IRL... I tend to attract some of the most verbose women ever... I say maybe 10 words a day.
7/18/2013 8:34:36 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
amargosa Riddle, OR 58, joined Aug. 2011	Not hardly. I attract good looking, high-maintenance women with issues who are between bad-boy boyfriends.
7/18/2013 8:36:20 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
amargosa Riddle, OR 58, joined Aug. 2011	Quote from midniteriddler1: IRL... I tend to attract some of the most verbose women ever... I say maybe 10 words a day. What is up with that? I meet these motormouths by the dozen. I say hi when we meet and that is the last word that I can get out of my mouth before they begin a high-speed two-hour monologue that would put a chamber full of congressmen asleep.
7/18/2013 8:37:03 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
onnightwings Raleigh, NC 53, joined Dec. 2009	Not true in just the physically attracted to you sense, but it does hold some weight in the 'important things for a relationship' aspects. Of course, many folks do not see themselves as how they truly are..so they may miss this connection entirely.
7/18/2013 8:39:38 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
no1likesteph Little Elm, TX 42, joined Feb. 2013	Well crap.... If this is true then what the hell am I? I must be a bit odd. Wait.....
7/18/2013 8:42:40 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
avenger64 Cedar Rapids, IA 58, joined Jul. 2012	Quote from bumblebee7: You attract because of what you are and it may not be always what you want is a more accurate statement.
7/18/2013 8:42:44 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
xray6 Jacksonville, FL 28, joined Mar. 2012	interesting viewpoints
7/18/2013 8:45:38 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
aliveatfive Pittsfield, MA 44, joined Jul. 2013	Not always, sheep attract wolves actually. I am a really upstanding guy, I go to church, pray, don't cuss much, honor my mother and father, am cheritable, and try to build people up, and that's no joke, you can ask anyone who has known me. I am known amongst my friends as being a very honets, and solid stand up guy, and I've had women do me dirty A lot, so I don't believe this saying. I think its a way to make excuses for bad behavior of others in a relationship. To an extent possibly. [Edited 7/18/2013 8:46:27 AM ]
7/18/2013 8:51:09 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
xray6 Jacksonville, FL 28, joined Mar. 2012	Quote from aliveatfive: Not always, sheep attract wolves actually. I am a really upstanding guy, I go to church, pray, don't cuss much, honor my mother and father, am cheritable, and try to build people up, and that's no joke, you can ask anyone who has known me. I am known amongst my friends as being a very honets, and solid stand up guy, and I've had women do me dirty A lot, so I don't believe this saying. I think its a way to make excuses for bad behavior of others in a relationship. To an extent possibly. how is it making excuses if its a neutral statement.
7/18/2013 8:54:12 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
dasnixter Jessieville, AR 58, joined Jul. 2010
7/18/2013 8:54:13 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
xray6 Jacksonville, FL 28, joined Mar. 2012	a long time ago I used to be overly nice just like you. I think you're confusing attracting with selecting the women I attract that have pursued me are a lot different than the women that I select and pursue
7/18/2013 8:55:20 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
beyond_horizons Channel Islands United Kingdom 28, joined May. 2013	No. If that was true I'd have ugly midgets with no personality being attracted to me. Instead, I have nobody.
7/18/2013 8:56:14 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
aliveatfive Pittsfield, MA 44, joined Jul. 2013	It's an excuse when used in the context of telling someone who is discussing being wronged by someone, or encountering a patterns in relationships, to just write it off and tell them, "well, you attract they type of people you are". It's suggests bad things don't happen to good people, or that certain people don't prey on good people. Sometimes patterns are because of trends in society, not because the person is behaving a certain way. in my humble opinion.
7/18/2013 9:01:55 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
aliveatfive Pittsfield, MA 44, joined Jul. 2013	Quote from xray6: a long time ago I used to be overly nice just like you. I think you're confusing attracting with selecting the women I attract that have pursued me are a lot different than the women that I select and pursue No, women who have persued me have turned out to be nothing like what I am. I usually only go out with women who persue me, but Sometimes I pick women. Women I pick rarely go out with me though. I think you assume I don't have a good grasp on myself and haven't properly assesed my experiences or something.
7/18/2013 9:03:33 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
forsalecheep Hollywood, FL 51, joined Jul. 2012	beauty attracts beauty. ugly attracts ugly. but a simple variable can be added. MONEY! ugly +money attracts beauty. now add in slutty.. a perfect ten can be surpassed by a strong slutty 7 many days. now add drama... drama can make a ten a two in a new york second. so a drama free slutty 7 should rule the earth..
7/18/2013 9:13:36 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
lonleyshinobi1 Camden, NJ 32, joined Jul. 2013	I dont think so... but also Ive never heard that saying before. but Im slim, stay working even if its odd jobs with a friend, with no children. The only women attracted to me are and no disrespect to them but huge overweight, out of work, ladies with mobs of kids...smdh if Im single for another year (4 in a row) then Im mite try to take over the world like tobi from naruto...cause I mean hell what else is there to do
7/18/2013 9:15:36 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
txrose64 Pearland, TX 52, joined Jan. 2013	Quote from forsalecheep: beauty attracts beauty. ugly attracts ugly. but a simple variable can be added. MONEY! ugly +money attracts beauty. now add in slutty.. a perfect ten can be surpassed by a strong slutty 7 many days. now add drama... drama can make a ten a two in a new york second. so a drama free slutty 7 should rule the earth.. Says the guy who's moniker is "Forsalecheep"!! now THAT is funny!
7/18/2013 9:16:28 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
xray6 Jacksonville, FL 28, joined Mar. 2012	Quote from forsalecheep: beauty attracts beauty. ugly attracts ugly. but a simple variable can be added. MONEY! ugly +money attracts beauty. now add in slutty.. a perfect ten can be surpassed by a strong slutty 7 many days. now add drama... drama can make a ten a two in a new york second. so a drama free slutty 7 should rule the earth..
7/18/2013 9:27:34 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
dasnixter Jessieville, AR 58, joined Jul. 2010	Quote from xiexie_muffin: ::laughing: That makes no sense. It's a fool that looks for logic in the chambers of the human heart.-Ulysses Everett McGill
7/18/2013 9:29:44 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
the_lynguist Denver, CO 37, joined Jul. 2012	I thing good looking women petty much attract everyone on this site.
7/18/2013 11:51:52 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
barrydalmi Baltimore, MD 53, joined Dec. 2007	Of course there is truth to it. You catch what you have the bait for. However, it can be more complicated than some of the things said here. Although none of the opinions or papers qouted are particuarly right or wrong. From a real everyday sense what most people have said about it being true makes some sense. But as a hypothetical/academic question.... There is that old chestnut of "economics" and game theory to deal with. For example- there are conditions under which I can have a 30 year old NFL cheerleader with one change in the package that I bring to the "playing field". I don't have to become more fit (mentally or physically), I don't have to get younger, I don't have to change my personality, I don't have to be funnier.
7/18/2013 11:57:16 AM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
xray6 Jacksonville, FL 28, joined Mar. 2012	so how to attract what we want
7/18/2013 12:07:17 PM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
e_latina Murphys, CA 29, joined Jun. 2013	Of course it is true, BUT just like anything else there is always an exception to the rule.
7/18/2013 12:12:12 PM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
aliveatfive Pittsfield, MA 44, joined Jul. 2013	What is this "attract" that you speak of, I just pull up, chloroform them, and throw them in the van.
7/18/2013 12:17:52 PM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
e_latina Murphys, CA 29, joined Jun. 2013	Quote from xray6: so how to attract what we want Don't focused on what you don't have. The way we see things determine how we attract things.
7/18/2013 12:23:52 PM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
finallynx84 Ridgewood, NY 32, joined May. 2013	You attract what you are... I've been attracting big breasted white girls... God and I've been going to the men's room all my life
7/18/2013 12:26:11 PM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
patriottype Grand Prairie, TX 46, joined Jul. 2013	I let let them see my willey accidentally they usually put up with whatever I say after that.
7/18/2013 12:34:06 PM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
no1likesteph Little Elm, TX 42, joined Feb. 2013
7/18/2013 2:36:03 PM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
imalmostready Hartford, CT 40, joined May. 2013	I guess, that would b more comfortable then going for what i want then...right?
7/18/2013 2:37:13 PM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
imalmostready Hartford, CT 40, joined May. 2013	Quote from whalemstr: So you're saying - If I act like an ass, then I will only attract asses?? what if I just show my ass? does it still work??? where is it?
7/18/2013 2:43:44 PM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
damage_control Glendale, AZ 41, joined Jun. 2013	is there any truth to this statement? Sort of, but not really. You constantly communicate who you are and what you want, indirectly. Some people are more clear about one than the other depending on many factors. Some people are more able to understand your learned method of communication easier than others, sometimes they can understand how you are communicating one facet easier than the other. Some people are going to be more attracted to what you are than what you want. Others are going to be more attracted to what you want (e.g.synergistic short term goals) than what you are. Some people are going to be more attracted to their misinterpretation of what they think you are communicating what you are, or what they mistake as what you want. Etc., etc., etc. IOW sorry, life's just not that easy where you can be handed a simple sentence and believe you have it all figured out. "Truisms" generally have multiple interpretations and are used more for social bonding than any absolute meaning or practical applicability to them.
7/18/2013 2:45:08 PM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
imalmostready Hartford, CT 40, joined May. 2013	What if u r both?????????? I mean, wtf!?????????? The law of attraction is such a contradiction! There isnt a single human without insecurities who hasnt ever doubted themself. The law says...we all have negativity and not to worry because positivity holds the most strength and ability..........the book. How many millions was made off of some concept we allready know? A concept that doesnt really change anything or anyone? Quote from txrose64: of course it's true, laws of attraction in physics, "like attracts like" I don't normally do "cut and pastes" but she says it so well.... The law of attraction states that "like attracts like." This means that people with a low frequency -- people who are insecure and self-abandoning -- attract each other, while people with a high frequency -- people who love and value themselves -- also attract each other. People who are positive, open, secure, giving, caring and kind to themselves and others are not attracted to people who are closed, negative and needy of approval and attention. While no one deliberately seeks out someone who is closed, negative and needy, if this is you, this is what you will attract into your life. If you want a loving relationship, then you need to do the work of learning how to take emotional responsibility. This means: Learning to be present in your body rather than stuck in your mind avoiding your feelings Being open to learning about what your feelings are telling you rather than protecting against them with various addictions and self-judgments Learning to access a spiritual source of love, rather than expecting someone else to be your higher power Learning to take loving action in your own behalf rather than expecting others to do this for you If you are seeking a relationship, why not start today learning how to love yourself rather than continue to abandon yourself? If you are a in a relationship that is having problems, the most important thing you can do to help the relationship is learn how to love yourself rather than continue to abandon yourself. Margaret Paul, PhD, Huffington Post, 5/2012.
7/18/2013 2:48:54 PM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
imalmostready Hartford, CT 40, joined May. 2013	[quotehea concept that exists without any of our effort. ader]Quote from imalmostready:
7/18/2013 2:59:18 PM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
imalmostready Hartford, CT 40, joined May. 2013	.........a concept that exists on its own....without anyone changing a thing.......we all have good and bad experiences. And we all die too. Shocker!
7/18/2013 3:02:21 PM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
smthgabouther Baltimore, MD 35, joined Dec. 2012	Quote from xray6: is there any truth to this statement? I hope so; that would make me pretty awsome because my man is the best!
7/18/2013 3:09:31 PM	YOU attract what you are. not what you want.
tajie94 South Windsor, CT 21, joined Jul. 2013	Quote from xray6: is there any truth to this statement? Wouldn't that go against the statement opposites attract? Personal I think u shouldn't try to find what you don't have like if you live at home w/ ur parents take the bus and work at Walmart don't try to find someone that had a high paying job, two houses, three cars and a boat. But that's just my opinion.

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