10/6/2013 12:44:31 AM |
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chris326ct
Wolcott, CT
33, joined Jul. 2013
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Ok I need some real MATURE feedback to this situation, especially girl's feedback.
I've been knowing a friend's friend for about 2 months. Great girl. Strange thing is she's usually not my type. Within the past 3 weeks she's been to my house 3x and slept over twice (in the same bed) 3 weeks ago up to last night she's been trying to work things out with her ex. When she first slept over it was after a huge argument with her ex, yesterday her and her ex finialized things aren't going to work out. Last night we went out for drinks and other stuff ended up back at my house.
During these two times nothing went down. The girl knows I liked her. I told her straight up about 2 weeks ago but at that time I had to acknowledge she has hopes of getting back together with her ex and I told her that's why I'd never try anything to her. She says I'm such a gentlemen and compliments on who I am but now I'm thinking I need to step back before I'm trapped in that "such a good friend" zone.
My question is you think she's coming over for the hell of it. Do you think theirs a specific purpose and what do you think I should do… I won't lie. She's very pretty, very intriguing and that's great but to be honest there's this very lustful side of me just wanting her real bad.
So ladies (and guys too) what do you think?
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10/6/2013 11:31:41 AM |
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johnnyfee
West Haven, CT
60, joined Aug. 2011
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Number 3. ^^^^ stay away.
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10/6/2013 5:38:28 PM |
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chris326ct
Wolcott, CT
33, joined Jul. 2013
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I could see it as an ego boost for her. As for #3 eh maybe. I think she a bit mature to not play the jealousy game. But you never know.
I do have this 14 day rule where if two people say things aren't going to work out and they leave each other give it 2 weeks to see if they get back together. So with that being said, I am doing nothing too forward for the next two weeks and some. I don't need false hopes in a situation of a friend becoming more....
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10/6/2013 11:17:03 PM |
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workinprogress9
East Hartford, CT
43, joined Oct. 2013
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I think there's at least a few more possibilities here...
#4. She's really wants to keep her options open. She'd go back to her old relationship in a second, but wants you there as a safety net.
#5. She confused about what to do next, just like you, and needs time to sort things out.
I'd personally say it's #5. Most people I've met aren't malicious or misleading to their friends intentionally, and I feel that perceived mixed signals from you are just you picking up on her indecisiveness.
I also think you did the right thing about being up-front about your intentions, however, if you don't push the issue a little, she might be ok with the status quo as long as you let her keep it, simply because it means she doesn't have to make ANY decision, and that will probably be unhealthy for both of you.
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10/13/2013 12:49:06 AM |
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chris326ct
Wolcott, CT
33, joined Jul. 2013
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@ Garfield: We went out with a couple of friends to Mohegan Sun. It seems she has moved on. But I think it's still too soon to say it's really done and over. I'm thinking Wednesday inviting her out a bar after work to just talk... I'm really liking her and I caught myself feeling jealous yesterday and I was like "whoa!" Had to catch myself in not showing it.
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10/13/2013 9:28:30 AM |
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chris326ct
Wolcott, CT
33, joined Jul. 2013
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Well I met her out in the "real world" lol. She's a friend's friend. Which I also think makes the situation a bit hard since we have plenty of mutual friends now and basically tight. For example Friday Mohegan Sun, and now I'm buying food and getting ready to have them all over for dinner and football.
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10/13/2013 9:29:32 AM |
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chris326ct
Wolcott, CT
33, joined Jul. 2013
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Besides Garfield, weren't you gonna try and find a pretty Peruvian woman for me? Lol. Jk. Let's not get on that topic again.
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10/13/2013 6:33:29 PM |
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chriskiss203
New Haven, CT
27, joined Mar. 2012
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Shes just going with u when things go bad with the other man!! Either way sleep with her or stay away u will just always be a friend she can talk too when things not going her way!! Aleast get someing out the deal!!
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10/13/2013 9:54:42 PM |
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chris326ct
Wolcott, CT
33, joined Jul. 2013
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Shes just going with u when things go bad with the other man!! Either way sleep with her or stay away u will just always be a friend she can talk too when things not going her way!! Aleast get someing out the deal!!
Yeah I do think that too. That I'm playing that role. But I think i am going to make the aggressive move. In the right ways. We're both adults. She's very very mature. I think if this goes good, great, if it blows up on me the vibe between us won't change that much. I might see her Thursday but hopefully she's coming to this little road trip night out with some of our friends that is happening Saturday. I think that's when I'll really start making moves that count
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10/14/2013 8:16:55 AM |
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chris326ct
Wolcott, CT
33, joined Jul. 2013
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Garfield I used to be such a regular at Van Dome everybody knew my name. Plus I grew up in New Haven I like to go places outside of my zones. But yes plenty of Peruvians go there. Both of my ex's are there frequently. And theyre always always with their friends.
This girl is White. I think I said this before but she's wouldn't usually be my type. For one, I'm not that attracted to white woman. Plus she's also very very calm and mellow. I'm used to vibrant girls. Maybe life is hinting for a change. Lol
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10/16/2013 2:03:36 AM |
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chris326ct
Wolcott, CT
33, joined Jul. 2013
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Well I guess everything is somewhat said and done between me and her. I invited her to dinner and she responded that she wants to keep this on a friendship level so cooking dinner seems like not a good idea... The cards are dealt. I'm deep in the friendship zone and I don't myself seeing any sunlight in this situation.
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10/18/2013 2:29:24 PM |
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chris326ct
Wolcott, CT
33, joined Jul. 2013
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Not much in a rush to find a woman. It was disappointing but oh well. I'm not one to be bummed, heartbroken, etc... I got work, my family (no kids, just family) and a good social life. No one girl that wasn't in a relationship could bum me out and be a cloud over those three things
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