| 4/9/2014 6:19:30 AM |
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caliokc
Oklahoma City, OK
44, joined Jan. 2014
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My soon to be ex was a stay at home mom who got bored with her life & got a secret boyfriend after 18 years. Got pregnant & aborted his baby. I chose to forgive but she became evil. In the end she coldly said I should kill myself & if I didnt I'd regret it later. So we have a house I'm letting her have that I pay off last $10k on. I walk with nothing but my 17yr son. She wants alimony. I say she gets nothing. Fair?
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| 4/9/2014 8:17:02 AM |
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heather1283
Noble, OK
33, joined May. 2013
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I'd say so. But I left after he got a girlfriend. All I demanded was he buy me a reliable car. I was a housewife for 10 years and there's always different situations. Many like to say I shouldn't have anything because I didn't work for it. I kept house with 4 children, one a special needs child who require specialized nursing care. I worked my a** off and he didn't do shit but barely pay the bills. I don't want to fight, I just want to be rid of him.
She wanted another then he can take care of her. F**k her. I started over with nothing. Not even work history. I struggle every damn day. She can do it her damn self. What a selfish b*tch. 
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| 4/9/2014 9:22:09 AM |
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jrbogie1949
Ventura, CA
68, joined Mar. 2009
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can't say if it's fair or not without blowing of suds of a few cold ones with your ex. you know, hear her side of the story. you're buying the beer by the way.  
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| 4/9/2014 9:32:05 AM |
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heather1283
Noble, OK
33, joined May. 2013
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Oh a douchtard. 
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| 4/9/2014 5:28:46 PM |
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purplerider1200
South Bend, IN
61, joined Aug. 2011
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Usually the spouse with custody gets the house. My house was my house before I got married, so she lost out on that. The court system can be pretty lopsided sometimes.
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| 4/10/2014 12:26:59 AM |
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caliokc
Oklahoma City, OK
44, joined Jan. 2014
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Im the point paying her mortage & my rent and all bills after 4 months unbearably sucky & stressing. She went got foodstamps but not a job. I think a job she thought hurt her chance alimony. Game player.
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| 4/10/2014 2:24:24 AM |
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cavie59
Enid, OK
58, joined Feb. 2010
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My soon to be ex was a stay at home mom who got bored with her life & got a secret boyfriend after 18 years. Got pregnant & aborted his baby. I chose to forgive but she became evil. In the end she coldly said I should kill myself & if I didnt I'd regret it later. So we have a house I'm letting her have that I pay off last $10k on. I walk with nothing but my 17yr son. She wants alimony. I say she gets nothing. Fair?
Get a GOOD Lawyer that is base in family law, make sure you can prove the adultery, and then sue her for divorce. She chose her path. You should get EVERYTHING, and she should get NOTHING.
If I remember correctly, adultery is still on the books as a reason for divorce.
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| 4/10/2014 3:19:27 PM |
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sassypants760
San Marcos, CA
42, joined Feb. 2014
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can't say if it's fair or not without blowing of suds of a few cold ones with your ex. you know, hear her side of the story. you're buying the beer by the way.
This^^^
There Is always 2 sides to each story.
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| 4/11/2014 5:00:42 PM |
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caliokc
Oklahoma City, OK
44, joined Jan. 2014
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Thats true there is always 2 sides. But sometimes those sides are unbalanced, mispercepted hurts, stuff that each were the seed to something no one knew what it'd grow into. Were all walking imperfections but being able to honestly looking in mirror at self & know your preconceived expectations and let them know them b4 hand.
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| 4/12/2014 8:21:46 AM |
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jrbogie1949
Ventura, CA
68, joined Mar. 2009
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still, we can't know to which side the unbalance occurs without hearing both sides. i never talk negatively about my ex for this very reason. she's not around to have her say.
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| 4/13/2014 11:22:36 AM |
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just_khloe
Ashtabula, OH
48, joined Jul. 2013
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If you're an adult...stand on your own two feet and take care of yourself...nobody owes you anything!
If someone needs money to take care of their kids that's different
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| 4/13/2014 11:09:07 PM |
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pickygirl72
Pinon Hills, CA
46, joined Sep. 2011
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Sorry OP. I hate when some woman cry a river of tears and want a sh!t load of alimony and then never seem to try to get a job or better themselves.
I walked away with a small truck, a few peices of furntiure and my dog.
Our house foreclosed and we didn't really have anything to split up.
My ex did start paying me a little bit of alimony a few months ago, but nothing that will break his bank. I requested it only for a few years to help me with school/bills. After a few yrs its up to me to be self reliant. We were married 20yrs, no kids.
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| 4/15/2014 7:45:04 PM |
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caliokc
Oklahoma City, OK
44, joined Jan. 2014
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I agree with ya jrbogie. Always two sides. Mine was smoking cigarettes and lying about it. Jrbogie just realized your from my hometown. Moved here at 21.
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| 4/16/2014 7:23:23 AM |
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jrbogie1949
Ventura, CA
68, joined Mar. 2009
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cool. i just recently moved here.
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| 4/16/2014 8:01:25 PM |
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purplerider1200
South Bend, IN
61, joined Aug. 2011
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My ex-brother-in-law got hung out to dry when his wife & he seperated. After his maintainance payments, he was left with $46 bucks a week to live on. Then she split with the kids, and missed seeing his kids growing up. He found them after 20 years, one was living 25 miles from him, and my niece was living 15 miles from me. Curious thing, I'd seen my niece a number of times, but never knew it was her. The last time I had seen her, she was 11 years old. Gads, had she changed.
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| 4/17/2014 7:39:12 AM |
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caliokc
Oklahoma City, OK
44, joined Jan. 2014
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Basicly whats happening is with our tax refund and a car wreck insurance $ we get paying off house & she gets it. Only owe $8k on it. House worth $60k plus whats in it. She gets 2 vehicles. I get one vehicle worth $6k but owe $4k. Now I pay for house appraisal to compare it to my $46k in my retirement. If all is close to even swapping house vs retirement I'm thinking alimony may be my choice as it over and above even. She comes out 10-$15k up on me I think. I have an attorney she didn't get one.
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| 4/27/2014 8:37:05 AM |
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jess_is_back
Jefferson City, MO
30, joined Mar. 2013
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There are 3 sides to every story, his, hers and the truth.. Im perplexed at the greed and selfishness that occurs when relationships fail. No one plans for a relationship to fail but logic is to play the odds.. Men consider ramifications of entering into an "old fashion" relationship. Women don't put yourself in a position to be dependent on a man..
My situation I could of been the ex from hell, but whats the point!?! (rhetorical question).
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| 5/1/2014 9:55:30 AM |
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xcaliber209
Atwater, CA
28, joined Apr. 2014
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No there are 3 sides to every story his , hers, And the truth , the problem is society both men and women f**ked up used to be men , now most women doing with men used to do
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| 5/1/2014 9:56:12 AM |
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xcaliber209
Atwater, CA
28, joined Apr. 2014
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Crap I just realized the person above me posted the same thing I didn't copy you I promise
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| 5/1/2014 1:40:56 PM |
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jess_is_back
Jefferson City, MO
30, joined Mar. 2013
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Why people go into a marriage without a prenup is bewildering.. No,nobody plans on it going wrong but seriously look at the stats for the last 40 yrs.. If your going to enter into a legal contract, which is all it really is, get that other contract to cover your ass.
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| 5/2/2014 3:39:02 PM |
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tyler74171
Mauldin, SC
43, joined Jul. 2013
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^^^ truth
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