I know most women have to deal with the baby mama drama when they date a man with children. My oldest sister was dealing with the baby mama drama for a while at first with her newest guy and then the mama died in an accident. Now the child is with the daddy 24/7/365 and my sister is so in love with that man but can't stand to be around his kid every single time she's around him. He has sitters and family that helps but the kid is a rotten, fat, sloppy, rude kid and the mama taught the little boy (age 6) to be that way because his mama neglected him and rarely paid attention to him and the whole family spoiled him rotten cause he's an only grandkid.

My sister can't stand the kid and will only tolerate him because she is so in love with his father. He was easy when mama was living cause he only came to his dad's on weekends and even then he usually stayed with grandma and grandpa so they could hang out. Now the kid is always there.

I told her just hang in there and give it more time, it's only been 9 months. What do you all say?

I know most women have to deal with the baby mama drama when they date a man with children. My oldest sister was dealing with the baby mama drama for a while at first with her newest guy and then the mama died in an accident. Now the child is with the daddy 24/7/365 and my sister is so in love with that man but can't stand to be around his kid every single time she's around him. He has sitters and family that helps but the kid is a rotten, fat, sloppy, rude kid and the mama taught the little boy (age 6) to be that way because his mama neglected him and rarely paid attention to him and the whole family spoiled him rotten cause he's an only grandkid.

My sister can't stand the kid and will only tolerate him because she is so in love with his father. He was easy when mama was living cause he only came to his dad's on weekends and even then he usually stayed with grandma and grandpa so they could hang out. Now the kid is always there.

I told her just hang in there and give it more time, it's only been 9 months. What do you all say?

She needs to chill and more importantly she and the dad need to formulate a proper plan to deal with the child and if that is the goal, create a new family. Both adults need to be positive influences and willing participants and they need to understand this will take time and effort.

One wonders where she feels a bit of jealousy or competition with respect to the dad's available time? Certainly an item to discuss.

At age 6, this sounds like a troubled young man. Also, dont downplay his loss of his mother in an accident. No matter what she was like to other adults, she was still his mother and the wound can go deep, real deep.

I am a single/Divorced dad with four children,(NOT KIDS). I did find a lady who loved my children just as her own and they in turn loved her, Unfortunately she died of a brain hemorrhage at the age of 47. I would very much like to find another lady to share life with, But it seems that so many do not want to help raise another's children and I do not blame them or hold this against them as most have raised their own. But if any woman would like to be part of my life my children must be acceptable to them if not just go on their way as it would be so much trouble for all concerned. Children are the responsibility of the parents who conceived them and that should never end. lonely at times but happy with my children.

Not meaning offense, but it sounds like your sister doesn't deserve a good man who is a true father to his son like that. Maybe she should move on and let him continue to be a good father to his son.