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toughluk
Jacksonville, FL
55, joined Sep. 2014
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Have You Ever Been Disappointed...
In Certain Actions,Words ,Character...
That It Kinda Hinders Your Trust..
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| 10/25/2014 9:43:22 AM |
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lisaorchid
Roanoke, VA
27, joined Jun. 2013
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Yeah all the time. People suck!
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| 10/25/2014 9:46:40 AM |
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toughluk
Jacksonville, FL
55, joined Sep. 2014
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Im So Very Disappointed In Some People
Ive Often Wondered What Path Someone Walked To Get Where They Are In Life
I Try To Understand Peoples Shortcomings And Except Their Good Qualities
But Lately I Just Dont Even Want To deal With It In My Life
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| 10/25/2014 9:48:45 AM |
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ambitiouswoman3
Albany, NY
25, joined Nov. 2012
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I don't let negative interactions with one individual affect any future romantic relationship with another man. Every man is different, and I recognize those differences. It's quite ignorant & unfair to categorize each man as one single entity.
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| 10/25/2014 9:51:55 AM |
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toughluk
Jacksonville, FL
55, joined Sep. 2014
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I don't let negative interactions with one individual affect any future romantic relationship with another man. Every man is different, and I recognize those differences. It's quite ignorant & unfair to categorize each man as one single entity.
your 25.....
wonder if that opinion will change in next 20 or so years..
if not good luck
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| 10/25/2014 9:52:26 AM |
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hippo65
Albuquerque, NM
49, joined Apr. 2013
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We all have.But I try not to let it bother me for too long.
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| 10/25/2014 9:55:25 AM |
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sweetnsassy227
Valparaiso, IN
55, joined Jul. 2014
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Don't expect anything from a date, you can't be disappointed that way.
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| 10/25/2014 9:55:54 AM |
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toughluk
Jacksonville, FL
55, joined Sep. 2014
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Very True Hippo...
Luckily ,You can Log The F**k Off
And Walk Away From Here..
Enjoy Life With Real People That Have Hearts 
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| 10/25/2014 10:02:41 AM |
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toughluk
Jacksonville, FL
55, joined Sep. 2014
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Well Ive Unblocked All The Darkness...
Ive Got A Ton Of Stuff To Do Today...
Cant Seem To Keep A Pic Up...
Really Dont Care....
Anyhow Happy Saturday Folks....
I Am Thouroughly Disappointed In A Few...
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| 10/25/2014 10:13:58 AM |
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txrose64
Pearland, TX
50, joined Jan. 2013
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Don't expect anything from a date, you can't be disappointed that way.
absolutely! if it's that I'm just going out for something new that I'll pick up my tab and if I'm lucky have some fun, talk to some interesting folks ...so that way it's ALL good.
people are human, and the only one we can control is our own selves..so go with that in mind..and you won't be so disappointed so much. 
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| 10/25/2014 10:16:05 AM |
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ambitiouswoman3
Albany, NY
25, joined Nov. 2012
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It's creepy that you're perving my profile. Aren't you female? I'm not lesbian or bisexual & have zero interest in females.
Age is irrelevant, and it's rather sad that you're stuck on bitterness that you won't reverse your mindset. I'm not a bitter woman, so I don't let negative individuals affect me. I focus time & energy on the ones worth my energy & time. Losers never get a second of my time.
your 25.....
wonder if that opinion will change in next 20 or so years..
if not good luck
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| 10/25/2014 10:16:51 AM |
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kartusch
Logan, UT
39, joined May. 2014
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Yep all the time.
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| 10/25/2014 10:17:14 AM |
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hippo65
Albuquerque, NM
49, joined Apr. 2013
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Very True Hippo...
Luckily ,You can Log The F**k Off
And Walk Away From Here..
Enjoy Life With Real People That Have Hearts
You know I never did understood how can people not do that??
I seen fights, and yes it involved you, and I remember telling myself why does she gives them a satisfaction of knowing they upset her?
Something to think about.
So what if someone thought that lady hair was purple?? More she says it isn't, they more they will say it is? Bullying 101..
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| 10/25/2014 10:18:36 AM |
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toughluk
Jacksonville, FL
55, joined Sep. 2014
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Actually Looked At Your Profile..
Because Its A Fake...Not Because Im In Any Way Attracted To You..
As You Know I Had You On BLOCK...
But Really Dont Give A Flying F**k About Getting Flagged Out..
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| 10/25/2014 11:47:47 PM |
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hippo65
Albuquerque, NM
49, joined Apr. 2013
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Actually Looked At Your Profile..
Because Its A Fake...Not Because Im In Any Way Attracted To You..
As You Know I Had You On BLOCK...
But Really Dont Give A Flying F**k About Getting Flagged Out..
Was that for me??
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| 10/25/2014 11:58:08 PM |
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mercedes01
New South Wales
Australia
95, joined Jan. 2010
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Disappointed yes but it doesn't hinder my trust simply because I wouldn't want a bloke to think I was a whack job just because his ex was.
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| 10/26/2014 12:00:36 AM |
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latinasm
Amarillo, TX
46, joined May. 2014
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Disappointed yes but it doesn't hinder my trust simply because I wouldn't want a bloke to think I was a whack job just because his ex was.
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| 10/26/2014 12:03:38 AM |
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soulflight
Dayton, OH
52, joined Apr. 2014
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a single or even a handful of dates with a man is not going to impact my view of all men. That's just silly.
Now when a relationship ends, there is a grieving process and sure, everyone has their moments but mature, rational adults work through ALL phases of grieving...there just seems to be a bunch of people here on DH that are stuck in that process.
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| 10/26/2014 12:18:27 AM |
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shadowmaster13
North Beach, MD
56, joined Nov. 2013
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I'm disappointed. I think I am about to set a world record for the most canceled at the last minute for some reason or the other dates. I'm starting to think no one really wants to actually meet on these dating sites.
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| 10/26/2014 12:19:47 AM |
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luxorus
Pachacamac
Peru
36, joined Apr. 2014
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Naa just cook your favorite dish and watch a movie
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| 10/26/2014 12:28:56 AM |
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amusicluvr
Salem, OR
62, joined Nov. 2013
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Disappointment is part of life. If you are tired of it, you are tired of living. There is a solution for that. If you'd rather go on living, learn to take the bad with the good...the rough with the smooth. Learn to brush off disappointments, and move on to something better. There are two types of damned fools in the world...the damned fools who trust EVERYone, and the damned fools who trust NO one. Try to NOT be either type of damned fool. Trust those who deserve to be trusted, and dis-trust those who deserve dis-trust. Learn to tell the difference.
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| 10/26/2014 12:40:42 AM |
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ladiebugg55
Redding, CA
58, joined Jun. 2012
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It's creepy that you're perving my profile. Aren't you female? I'm not lesbian or bisexual & have zero interest in females.
Age is irrelevant, and it's rather sad that you're stuck on bitterness that you won't reverse your mindset. I'm not a bitter woman, so I don't let negative individuals affect me. I focus time & energy on the ones worth my energy & time. Losers never get a second of my time.
your 25.....
wonder if that opinion will change in next 20 or so years..
if not good luck
I look at just about everyone profiles male and female if they post in the forums..it gives me a little more insight as to who they are (sometimes) then I maybe able to understand why they say what they say in the forums..I know others do the same..js..
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| 10/26/2014 2:43:53 AM |
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purdiibirdi
Nice
France
39, joined Aug. 2014
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disappointment forces you to move-on.
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| 10/26/2014 3:50:03 AM |
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ronleeseberg
Mauston, WI
48, joined Jan. 2012
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I found an easy way to be less disappointed when meeting most women. I lowered my expectations.
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| 10/26/2014 4:02:58 AM |
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grneyesrme
Sacramento, CA
46, joined Aug. 2013
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Definitely! Everybody who has ever dated has at one point or another.
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| 10/26/2014 7:44:12 AM |
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testsignup
Springfield, VA
61, joined Sep. 2009
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Not sure exactly what you are referring to, Op.
I'm aware that disappointment in others can result from various things. In particular, when one is disappointed again and again, it can indicate that it's YOU who are having the problem.
Not accusing you of anything, I don't know you (I do know you from Adam by the way...I was about to use that old phrase, and then realized that Adam is said to have died five thousand years ago, so chances are against you being him). The thing is, repeated disappointment in other people or events or things, is often an indication that a person is suffering from clinical depression.
It's also not uncommon for a person seeking a new mate, to reject every new person who reminds them of a previous problem mate. That is, the disappointment is due to expecting all the negatives of the previous mate to show up, because the new person does something innocuous that reminds you of them. Just as you can accept and trust someone you ought not to, because they happen to move in a way that reminds you of someone you already trust, you can also reject people who are actually okay, because they remind you of a not-so-nice person.
I recommend putting in the work to identify exactly why you are disappointed each time. If you can put your finger on the reason why, you can then make a decision about whether to stick with your decision to reject them, or over-rule your knee-jerk reaction, and give them another real chance with you.
Essentially, self-awareness can repair or at least adjust for, prejudice and fear.
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| 10/26/2014 7:47:38 AM |
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toughluk
Jacksonville, FL
55, joined Sep. 2014
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Good Post Test..
Has A Lot Of Merit..
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| 10/26/2014 7:53:47 AM |
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cali8zice
Albany, NY
49, joined Oct. 2012
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Disappointments are expected in life but we carry on lol
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| 10/26/2014 8:12:45 AM |
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toughluk
Jacksonville, FL
55, joined Sep. 2014
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Disappointments are expected in life but we carry on lol
Very true..
Part Of Growing Up...
I Never Expect Anything There for No Disappointments.
Actually feel odd when someone does something nice for me..
Its Not Expected..
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| 10/26/2014 8:22:04 AM |
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fckyuho
Abtenau
Austria
76, joined Oct. 2014
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Disappointed is actually growth in knowing who you are and what you wont put up with...
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| 10/26/2014 8:23:13 AM |
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ol39er
Cicero, IL
42, joined Jul. 2011
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Yes. Dating can be an exercise in disappointment.
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| 10/26/2014 8:45:42 AM |
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toughluk
Jacksonville, FL
55, joined Sep. 2014
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Yes. Dating can be an exercise in disappointment.
Or A Learning Curve..
I Always Hope For The Best For Everyone..
I Have Found Peace..
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| 10/26/2014 8:53:13 AM |
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don_johnson99
Janesville, WI
54, joined Nov. 2013
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If you let everything that people do or say bother you you would kill yourself.
Remember this, people are a**holes until proven differently.
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| 10/26/2014 9:12:21 AM |
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hippo65
Albuquerque, NM
49, joined Apr. 2013
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Quote from toughluk:
Actually Looked At Your Profile..
Because Its A Fake...Not Because Im In Any Way Attracted To You..
As You Know I Had You On BLOCK...
But Really Dont Give A Flying F**k About Getting Flagged Out..
Was that directed at me?
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| 10/26/2014 9:13:49 AM |
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toughluk
Jacksonville, FL
55, joined Sep. 2014
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No Hippo It Wasnt
I Remember You A Long Time Ago..
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| 10/26/2014 9:15:59 AM |
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hippo65
Albuquerque, NM
49, joined Apr. 2013
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Phew..
Thanks I was just curious..Let's get some coffee..
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| 10/26/2014 9:18:46 AM |
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toughluk
Jacksonville, FL
55, joined Sep. 2014
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i Didnt See You Asking Earlier In Thread...
Wasnt Really Following my own Thread..
Sorry if You Were Wondering..But Wasnt Directed Towards You.
Believe It Or Not..There Arent Many Fakes On Here
Just Multiples Of Same Certain Posters..
They Usually Uncloak Within A Week..
J/S
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| 10/26/2014 9:25:07 AM |
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hippo65
Albuquerque, NM
49, joined Apr. 2013
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I do believe there are fakes..Multiple profiles..Can't figure out the reason behind it.
But that comment was right after mine, so I asked..Glad we cleared that out.
I would have no idea how to create a fake profile, or another profile, but again don't see why should anyone?
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| 10/26/2014 9:25:30 AM |
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settee_m
Dallas, TX
61, joined Feb. 2013
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Are you talking about dating or this silly website?
If it's about dating, here's some advice from Wilson Pickett...
Sit yourself down
bang out a tune on that grand piano
Sit yourself down
lay languidly down upon that sofa
Ooohhh, isn't it nice
when your heart is made out of ice
Ride, Sally, ride
it's not your time or way of confusion
Ride, Sally, ride
'cause if you don't, you'll get a contusion
Ooohhh, isn't it nice
when your heart is made out of ice
Sit yourself down
take off your pants, don't you know this is a party
Sit yourself down
why do you think we brought all these people, Miss Brandy
Ooohhh, isn't it nice
when you find your heart's made out of ice
Ride, Sally, ride
it's not your time, it's just your confusion
Ride, Sally, ride
it's not your time, you'll get a contusion
Ooohhh, isn't it nice
when you find your heart is made out of ice
(Ride, Sally ride)
(Ride, ride, ride, ride, Sally ride) Ride, Sally, ride
(Ride, ride, ride, ride, Sally ride) Hey, ride, Sally, ride
(Ride, ride, ride, ride, Sally ride) Ride, Sally, ride
(Ride, ride, ride, ride, Sally ride, oh-oh-oh, oh)
(Ride, ride, ride, ride, Sally ride, hey-hey-hey, hey-hey)
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| 10/26/2014 9:31:40 AM |
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toughluk
Jacksonville, FL
55, joined Sep. 2014
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I think I'm gonna be sad
I think it's today, yeah
The girl that's driving me mad
Is going away
She's got a ticket to ride
She's got a ticket to ride
She's got a ticket to ride
But she don't care
She said that living with me
Is bringing her down, yeah
For she would never be free
When I was around
She's got a ticket to ride
She's got a ticket to ride
She's got a ticket to ride
But she don't care
I don't know why she's riding so high
She ought to think twice
She ought to do right by me
Before she gets to saying goodbye
She ought to think twice
She ought to do right by me
I think I'm gonna be sad
I think it's today, yeah
The girl that's driving me mad
Is going away, yeah
Oh, she's got a ticket to ride
She's got a ticket to ride
She's got a ticket to ride
But she don't care
I don't know why she's riding so high
She ought to think twice
She ought to do right by me
Before she gets to saying goodbye
She ought to think twice
She ought to do right by me
She said that living with me
Is bringing her down, yeah
For she would never be free
When I was around
Ah, she's got a ticket to ride
She's got a ticket to ride
She's got a ticket to ride
But she don't care
My baby don't care, my baby don't care
My baby don't care, my baby don't care
My baby don't care, my baby don't care (fade out)
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| 10/26/2014 9:35:22 AM |
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stumppy
Wind Gap, PA
68, joined Jan. 2008
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I never am disappointed. I always try to anticipate the worst outcome and also consider the best outcome.
Typically it is somewhere in between.
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| 10/26/2014 9:38:12 AM |
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sdgncalix3
Las Vegas, NV
41, joined Dec. 2012
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Don't date
Problem solved.
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| 10/26/2014 9:42:14 AM |
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chitowngirl78
Oak Lawn, IL
36, joined May. 2014
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Oh sure.. all the time. But just remember that people who try to bring you down, dont really know you as a person. Most negativity comes from jealous people who wish they could be you.
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| 10/26/2014 9:44:37 AM |
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toughluk
Jacksonville, FL
55, joined Sep. 2014
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Oh sure.. all the time. But just remember that people who try to bring you down, dont really know you as a person. Most negativity comes from jealous people who wish they could be you.
I Doubt Anyone Wants My Shoes...
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| 10/26/2014 9:46:37 AM |
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chitowngirl78
Oak Lawn, IL
36, joined May. 2014
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Yes. Dating can be an exercise in disappointment.
Those who forget the past are doomed to repeat it. All depends how you use the information you gain from different dating experiences. Do you learn from them or do you complain about them? 
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| 10/26/2014 10:02:03 AM |
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cavie59
Enid, OK
55, joined Feb. 2010
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All the time.
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| 10/26/2014 11:59:06 AM |
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hisbaby4ever13
Ramseur, NC
31, joined Jul. 2014
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Of course..
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| 10/26/2014 12:01:08 PM |
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mikey20928
Knoxville, TN
52, joined Jun. 2014
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What's a date?
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| 10/26/2014 12:01:44 PM |
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toughluk
Jacksonville, FL
55, joined Sep. 2014
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Something That Takes Effort..
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| 10/26/2014 12:37:27 PM |
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jmo422
Burlington, NC
34, joined Sep. 2014
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Definitely, but I always remember that people are people and that no one is perfect. Has past disappointment hindered my future trust in people as a whole? No, but it HAS made me a lil bit more careful with who I trust and it's, also, made me more observant of the differences between words and actions. If everything is consistent all the way around, then that's who I can trust and learn to trust wholeheartedly as I come to know 'em. But if there's ANY inconsistencies whatsoever and it causes me to question their intentions, then I'll back off... completely!!
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| 10/26/2014 12:40:54 PM |
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hisbaby4ever13
Ramseur, NC
31, joined Jul. 2014
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^
Exactly
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| 10/26/2014 12:47:36 PM |
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hastoko
Clackmannanshire, Scotland
United Kingdom
30, joined Oct. 2014
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Well Sparky, I met a real "NUT CASE" last night and this should be interesting...I'm just sticking with it for now to get a laugh and to keep me off of DH during my free time since I have a hunch more is going on. The woman is gorgeous, slim, well built, rich as hell and is somewhat of a Sugar Mama...but totally "INSANE" which I find hysterical. Something doesn't fit and the things I spotted would probably be meaningless to others. Didn't even meet her online...at Starbucks of all places. She's also into weird sex and not even going there yet. When I back off I think it excites her...20 texts over the night and ranging from loving to somewhat angry. My perceptions are usually fairly good...just wondering if she's standard crazy or the worse kind. My point...no one should be disappointed while dating. If you're insecure you will have doubts or blame yourself...if you're strong you just move on and find the right one. Say hello to all the Momos...have fun.
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| 10/26/2014 1:10:49 PM |
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beverduster
La Feria, TX
49, joined Apr. 2008
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i worry more about a bird takinin a shit while he is flying over my head
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| 10/26/2014 1:12:50 PM |
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amargosa
Riddle, OR
56, joined Aug. 2011
online now!
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As soon as they get to the part where they say they are not really in my town at the moment, but temporarily visiting in Nigeria. 
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| 10/26/2014 1:26:01 PM |
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jmo422
Burlington, NC
34, joined Sep. 2014
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Dude, that female is straight-up crazy!! I mean, stalker much? She, also, reminds me of that line in the song 'Every Little Thing She Does Is Magic' by The Police...
"I resort to call her up a thousand times a day..." I mean, who the hell has time to do that, also? 
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| 10/26/2014 1:28:04 PM |
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jester0011
Lake Waccamaw, NC
47, joined Jun. 2014
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this is something I know little about.I'm guessing it don't feel good
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| 10/26/2014 1:57:36 PM |
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toughluk
Jacksonville, FL
55, joined Sep. 2014
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Well Sparky, I met a real "NUT CASE" last night and this should be interesting...I'm just sticking with it for now to get a laugh and to keep me off of DH during my free time since I have a hunch more is going on. The woman is gorgeous, slim, well built, rich as hell and is somewhat of a Sugar Mama...but totally "INSANE" which I find hysterical. Something doesn't fit and the things I spotted would probably be meaningless to others. Didn't even meet her online...at Starbucks of all places. She's also into weird sex and not even going there yet. When I back off I think it excites her...20 texts over the night and ranging from loving to somewhat angry. My perceptions are usually fairly good...just wondering if she's standard crazy or the worse kind. My point...no one should be disappointed while dating. If you're insecure you will have doubts or blame yourself...if you're strong you just move on and find the right one. Say hello to all the Momos...have fun.
I Do Dunkins
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| 10/26/2014 1:59:19 PM |
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toughluk
Jacksonville, FL
55, joined Sep. 2014
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To All MOMOs,,Someone From Scotlands Says HI
Message Delivered
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| 10/26/2014 1:59:39 PM |
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hastoko
Clackmannanshire, Scotland
United Kingdom
30, joined Oct. 2014
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Dude, that female is straight-up crazy!! I mean, stalker much? She, also, reminds me of that line in the song 'Every Little Thing She Does Is Magic' by The Police...
"I resort to call her up a thousand times a day..." I mean, who the hell has time to do that, also?
Dude, you don't know how crazy she is and it's hilarious...main reason I'm sticking with it. She said she was paying for dinner...grabbed my arm and led me to a fine restaurant. To piss her off I ordered a salad with a diet coke...plus garlic bread. Man the look she gave me...funny as hell. She showed me her place...looks like an isolated echoing museum. I'll be running her plates for sure...may even go for the finger prints. The broad is edgy also...looked over her shoulder all evening and made me drive in her own fancy car. I purposely drove to the ghettos to see if she would ask for some Peruvian Dancing Dust which is popular there...never went for it and yet wasn't nervous or scared. Not a high class hooker...most likely family money or worse. Maybe a former model (40 ) or owns some private business or stocks. I know there's more to the story...there has to be. She also has a lot of expensive furniture in the home...topped of with a dildo lighter on her table and a 50" big screen that isn't even hooked up yet. Friggen wine cabinet is bigger than some stores. No uppers in the med cab. Normally I wouldn't do this...however she picked me up and her approach was strange to say the least. It's better than coming on line. Last text..."When can we get together again longer this time". 
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| 10/26/2014 2:01:35 PM |
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hastoko
Clackmannanshire, Scotland
United Kingdom
30, joined Oct. 2014
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Sparky...you freaked me out...I should kill you. That up side down pic threw me off...I thought the phone cracked. How you doing.
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