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brownsugg93
Milwaukee, WI
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Lets just say theres a special lady in your life but she wants to take things slow and wait to have sex (Youve been talking 2 months and recently started dating)
Would you compromise with her and do other things besides sex and be satisfied
Or
Would you start looking for women whos expectations are more relaxed
Because I just got dumped
  
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| 11/24/2014 11:15:47 PM |
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jester0011
Lake Waccamaw, NC
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maybe
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| 11/24/2014 11:17:35 PM |
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nycman530
New York, NY
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3 or 4 dates. If she gives it up the first date, she's too easy.
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| 11/24/2014 11:18:49 PM |
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brownsugg93
Milwaukee, WI
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3 or 4 dates. If she gives it up the first date, she's too easy.
i didnt say a certain amount of dates  In this scenario u cant predict when it will happen
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| 11/24/2014 11:20:09 PM |
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myrealme
Nampa, ID
40, joined Aug. 2013
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I thought it was a reasonable answer 
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| 11/24/2014 11:23:51 PM |
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damsel876
Osceola, AR
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I thought this was going to be about men who wait for girls to get ready before a date.
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| 11/24/2014 11:27:50 PM |
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ibane
Zanesville, OH
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U lost me at 2 months.
Wait....u lost me at 2 weeks.
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| 11/24/2014 11:31:00 PM |
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dragonfly315
Albany, OR
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It's definitely worth the wait. The last person I was with wanted to get in the sheets on date #2, barely a week after I met them. I reluctantly agreed, but things fell apart in less than a month.
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| 11/24/2014 11:35:22 PM |
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ibane
Zanesville, OH
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Ok ...sucks u were dumped.
For what its worth..if its something that I absolutely know is gonna turn out to be awesome. .its worth waiting for.
But no-one ever knows that....so they dont want wanna wait to find out
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| 11/24/2014 11:38:41 PM |
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naturebiy
Mc Kenzie, TN
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Sex is great..
But is easily found..
Finding a good comptable person..
Is not as easy to find..
So yes..waiting would be no problem at all.
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| 11/24/2014 11:39:18 PM |
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italianroyalty
London
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If she gives it up so soon then she isnt a keeper..
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| 11/24/2014 11:42:00 PM |
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ronleeseberg
Mauston, WI
48, joined Jan. 2012
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Why, are you taking applications OP?
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| 11/24/2014 11:56:28 PM |
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purdiibirdi
Nice
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i make em wait until the honeymoon... it's why i'm still a single virgin. 
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| 11/25/2014 12:03:32 AM |
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eaglesight
Bronx, NY
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Lets just say theres a special lady in your life but she wants to take things slow and wait to have sex (Youve been talking 2 months and recently started dating)
Would you compromise with her and do other things besides sex and be satisfied
Or
Would you start looking for women whos expectations are more relaxed
Because I just got dumped
First of all, if you gotta take 2 months just to "talk" without any prior meet up , its game OVER. at least for me. Can't really blame the guy, he probably freaked out on the prospect of either no sex on sight or a controling woman...listen all I' m saying is when chemistry is right and you enjoy the person' s company, the chips will naturally fall where they belong on their own. Putting time lines on such things just shows you're a controlling freak.. just my cents
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| 11/25/2014 12:25:19 AM |
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mikey20928
Andersonville, TN
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Lets just say theres a special lady in your life but she wants to take things slow and wait to have sex (Youve been talking 2 months and recently started dating)
Would you compromise with her and do other things besides sex and be satisfied
Or
Would you start looking for women whos expectations are more relaxed
Because I just got dumped
I hate blueballs but I might work with a nonskank. Opinions are everywhere.
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| 11/25/2014 12:27:33 AM |
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apokernut
Elk Grove Village, IL
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I usually f**k 'em before the first dat.
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| 11/25/2014 12:46:45 AM |
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b2cold
Bark River, MI
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If she's a knock out then yes I'd gladly wait. If not then I dunno
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| 11/25/2014 1:04:37 AM |
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1darksavior
Far Rockaway, NY
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i would not im into that instant connection hot and steamy after two weeks i would think you were not into me.
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| 11/25/2014 1:06:23 AM |
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1darksavior
Far Rockaway, NY
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It's definitely worth the wait. The last person I was with wanted to get in the sheets on date #2, barely a week after I met them. I reluctantly agreed, but things fell apart in less than a month.
nope it was not to be it had nothing to do with sex
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| 11/25/2014 1:12:29 AM |
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bluecougareyes
Chelan, WA
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I thought this was going to be about men who wait for girls to get ready before a date.
^^^^^
As a teenager with a car and dating while in high school...
I learned to get to her place .. about 30 to 60 minutes LATE... for our date.
Theirs mush less presser / stress for her to be ready ON TIME !...
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| 11/25/2014 1:26:11 AM |
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amusicluvr
Salem, OR
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I do not need sex right away, and can wait, but have limits on how long I would wait. It would depend upon how good a match the woman was otherwise. There is more to a good relationship than just sex. If the rest is good enough, the sex can wait a bit longer. If there is no sex, and the rest of the stuff is not so great, I'd cut my losses, and find a better match. Compatible tastes & interests, similar religious / political views, compatible hobbies & pastimes, loyalty, good conversational ability, similar senses of humor, honesty, compatible life goals, and more, all play into how good a match a person is, or is not. The more of these things that are really great, the longer the sex can wait. Eventually, though, there has to be a good level of sexual compatibility, too, and the only way to know that is there is to have sex with each other.
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| 11/25/2014 2:11:20 AM |
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mikey20928
Andersonville, TN
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Three date rule.. If she don't want it by then, then your just feeding a starving b*tch..
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| 11/25/2014 2:58:49 AM |
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cavie59
Enid, OK
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There is a time limit on how long I will wait. Pass that time limit and I move on.
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| 11/25/2014 3:01:14 AM |
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dan9787_3
Laval, QC
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If she's special, I'm waiting, no problem.
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| 11/25/2014 6:36:09 AM |
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xray6
Fort Stewart, GA
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Lets just say theres a special lady in your life but she wants to take things slow and wait to have sex (Youve been talking 2 months and recently started dating)
Would you compromise with her and do other things besides sex and be satisfied
Or
Would you start looking for women whos expectations are more relaxed
Because I just got dumped
NOPE
why wait when there is a woman ready to do what you're not willing to do and then some.
and if she's a point and a half hotter you definitely lose.
women act like they are the last woman in the world that will be good to a guy.
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| 11/25/2014 6:46:13 AM |
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txrose64
Pearland, TX
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oh kiddo...19 years...if he won't wait until you're comfortable and or want to...whenever that is..first date to a year or more..kick him to the curb.
adios and good ridance, pump and dump with someone else 
he can take care of his blue balls..or his groin stones or all the nonsense that men do to try to guilt or pressure you into sex before you're ready...it's a pain that's real, but NONE of your doing...unless you need to administer this cooling off agent 
when YOU are ready and with someone you want to have sex with is worth the wait..trust me.*HUGS*
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| 11/25/2014 6:51:47 AM |
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xray6
Fort Stewart, GA
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I used to miss my snuggle buddy
I got over her though
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| 11/25/2014 6:53:29 AM |
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instantcomfort
Indianapolis, IN
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Lets just say theres a special lady in your life but she wants to take things slow and wait to have sex (Youve been talking 2 months and recently started dating)
Would you compromise with her and do other things besides sex and be satisfied
Or
Would you start looking for women whos expectations are more relaxed
Because I just got dumped
Should have gave him a blowjob and swallowed
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| 11/25/2014 6:58:07 AM |
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soflwill
West Palm Beach, FL
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Everything is subjective, the question is always; "is it worth it?"
The longer you take to move forward the more most people will think you're just playing games. You took over 2 months just to meet, I wouldn't have waited two months before moving on because it is obvious that you had no real interest. There are reasons why you keep putting things off and that means you have no real interest. A woman who was strongly interested would have met sooner and by now have had sex. He didn't dump you, he got the message that you're just playing games and have no real interest in a relationship.
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| 11/25/2014 7:00:53 AM |
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rocket000
Suwanee, GA
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Op, you sound like a nice young lady. Why don't you try meeting nice young men through another venue such as church, volunteering, hobbies, activities, etc.?
You will have the opportunity to actually talk and interact with them in a real world setting without pressure...
As txrose stated, don't you feel pressured by any guy for anything...
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| 11/25/2014 7:23:21 AM |
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sir_hugo_drax
Big Timber, MT
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A relationship is either going to work or it isn't. You can't make it work by requiring an arbitrary number of dates before sex...
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| 11/25/2014 7:27:07 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
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It might have been that, but maybe it was something else.
going by most of your threads, you seem to have anymocity and issues...it shows in them and your comments on here.
maybe that was the real issue.
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| 11/25/2014 7:36:11 AM |
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mistermister81
Opa Locka, FL
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Lets just say theres a special lady in your life but she wants to take things slow and wait to have sex (Youve been talking 2 months and recently started dating)
Would you compromise with her and do other things besides sex and be satisfied
Or
Would you start looking for women whos expectations are more relaxed
Because I just got dumped
Most men in that situation will go find another woman that's on the same page as him sexually. You have a lot of women that like to use sex as a control method to test a guy to see what he's going to do. Yes a guy may *wait, but if in the process of doing so another woman is willing believe he will most likely go for it.
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| 11/25/2014 8:01:38 AM |
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apokernut
Elk Grove Village, IL
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Op, you sound like a nice young lady. Why don't you try meeting nice young men through another venue such as church,NEAREST BROTHL, volunteering, hobbies, activities, etc.?
You will have the opportunity to actually talk and interact with them in a real world setting without pressure...
As txrose stated, don't you feel pressured by any guy for anything...
tHREE. fixed!!
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| 11/25/2014 8:02:30 AM |
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eyesofmedusa
San Antonio, TX
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Sex is great..
But is easily found..
Finding a good comptable person..
Is not as easy to find..
So yes..waiting would be no problem at all.
This !!!!
I am.just...well.
Many humans are soooo worried about sexual capatability...and then HOPE they will be emotionaly compatable.
I wld have to know he has a good heart....strong mind..values and goals similar to mine...can be my friend..and.mate before he gets between my legs.
And I am not going to happen in 2 to 3 dates.
Many get laid ...THEN hope the.rest comes together...
Yeah.....no thanks...
Op...I am sorry 
I wld say...hang on...there are plenty of.great guys out there. But there aren't.
If you find one ? Hang onto him girl...
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| 11/25/2014 8:03:20 AM |
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kawkasian
Houston, TX
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Lets just say theres a special lady in your life but she wants to take things slow and wait to have sex (Youve been talking 2 months and recently started dating)
Would you compromise with her and do other things besides sex and be satisfied
Waiting wouldn't be compromising with her, compromising would be meeting halfway.
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| 11/25/2014 8:05:39 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
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^^^^^yep.
Maybe this guy just didn't care for a pedestal one sided relation....and having to hear of all mens faults to boot.
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| 11/25/2014 8:06:10 AM |
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candoone
Albany, LA
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Damn cawk you were sexy back in the day let me suck yo d*ck, on the house this round
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| 11/25/2014 8:06:49 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
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^^^^^^^^you'll have to wait till the 90 days are up.....lol
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| 11/25/2014 8:15:39 AM |
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candoone
Albany, LA
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My 90 day rule is ridiculous! Im a head hunter now 
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| 11/25/2014 8:16:03 AM |
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kawkasian
Houston, TX
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Damn cawk you were sexy back in the day let me suck yo d*ck, on the house this round
My aged penis is wrinkly, scarred and beat up now after years of abuse from a cacophony of wh*res abusing it.
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| 11/25/2014 8:17:44 AM |
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candoone
Albany, LA
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Us wh*res mean well
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| 11/25/2014 8:24:05 AM |
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eyesofmedusa
San Antonio, TX
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My aged penis is wrinkly, scarred and beat up now after years of abuse from a cacophony of wh*res abusing it.
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| 11/25/2014 8:24:33 AM |
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mustangwriter
Boerne, TX
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Op, you sound like a nice young lady. Why don't you try meeting nice young men through another venue such as church, volunteering, hobbies, activities, etc.?
You will have the opportunity to actually talk and interact with them in a real world setting without pressure...
As txrose stated, don't you feel pressured by any guy for anything...
and I might add...if he's pressuring you, maybe he's not the right guy.
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| 11/25/2014 8:39:32 AM |
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dezweather
Phoenix, AZ
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Seeing someone for two months without having sex would make me wonder if she had a problem she was uncomfortable telling me about. If I was really into her and thought we might have a future, I'd wait.
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| 11/25/2014 8:41:42 AM |
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viper1e
Jeannette, PA
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Lets just say theres a special lady in your life but she wants to take things slow and wait to have sex (Youve been talking 2 months and recently started dating)
Would you compromise with her and do other things besides sex and be satisfied
Or
Would you start looking for women whos expectations are more relaxed
Because I just got dumped
Just because I'm waiting "for her", doesn't mean I'm being celibate.And if she can't handle that,? Then I guess she needs to take care of business.
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| 11/25/2014 8:44:42 AM |
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lynyrd80
Wood River, NE
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Sex is great..
But is easily found..
Finding a good comptable person..
Is not as easy to find..
So yes..waiting would be no problem at all.
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| 11/25/2014 8:47:13 AM |
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settee_m
Dallas, TX
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Most men in that situation will go find another woman that's on the same page as him sexually.
Most men? How about all men who are in it for the pump and dump.
You have a lot of women that like to use sex as a control method to test a guy to see what he's going to do.
Most women and women exhibit control over their bodies, but if you think her controlling herself is a test to you, you've already flunked the test.
Yes a guy may *wait, but if in the process of doing so another woman is willing believe he will most likely go for it.
Good idea.
This thread is a shining example of why women should think long and hard about being pressured into having sex with a date. If it isn't mutual, skip it.
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| 11/25/2014 8:48:03 AM |
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sweetmama117
Bronx, NY
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oh kiddo...19 years...if he won't wait until you're comfortable and or want to...whenever that is..first date to a year or more..kick him to the curb.
adios and good ridance, pump and dump with someone else
he can take care of his blue balls..or his groin stones or all the nonsense that men do to try to guilt or pressure you into sex before you're ready...it's a pain that's real, but NONE of your doing...unless you need to administer this cooling off agent
when YOU are ready and with someone you want to have sex with is worth the wait..trust me.*HUGS*
^^^^This^^^ OP a man is going to dump you no matter what. I would
rather be dump cause I didn't give in to the pressured, then being
jumped and dump left feeling used.
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| 11/25/2014 8:49:59 AM |
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kawkasian
Houston, TX
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Most men? How about all men who are in it for the pump and dump.
If a woman you are dating after 2 months still hasn't "given it up" then there are underlying compatibility issues with MOST men, it's also a form of control AND uncompromising..It's not 1890. A massive component of a relationship is intimacy, re: sex.
...as always without sex it's just a friendship. Simply because a man doesn't want to wait some arbitrary period doesn't mean he's only there for the "pump and dump"...he might be there for the WHOLE package...and only getting a partial delivery/damaged goods.
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| 11/25/2014 8:50:46 AM |
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eyesofmedusa
San Antonio, TX
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Just because I'm waiting "for her", doesn't mean I'm being celibate.And if she can't handle that,? Then I guess she needs to take care of business.
You hv posted this mess for yrs....
On behalf of.myself ?
If you can't find me worth waiting for..without dking down another ?
Why in.the hell wld I allow you in my.life anymore ?
And sexually satisfying you ?
Is not my job....my " business " is my career....and not your sexual appetite.
Keep thinking this way...keep picking the type of.woman you do....keep being so happy with the results
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| 11/25/2014 8:54:26 AM |
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chitowngirl78
Oak Lawn, IL
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Lets just say theres a special lady in your life but she wants to take things slow and wait to have sex (Youve been talking 2 months and recently started dating)
Would you compromise with her and do other things besides sex and be satisfied
Or
Would you start looking for women whos expectations are more relaxed
Because I just got dumped
He did you a favor... Why would you want to be with someone who doesnt respect your boundaries?!
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| 11/25/2014 8:59:36 AM |
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viper1e
Jeannette, PA
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You hv posted this mess for yrs....
On behalf of.myself ?
If you can't find me worth waiting for..without dking down another ?
Why in.the hell wld I allow you in my.life anymore ?
And sexually satisfying you ?
Is not my job....my " business " is my career....and not your sexual appetite.
Keep thinking this way...keep picking the type of.woman you do....keep being so happy with the results
If you're the one getting the dinners, movies, and roses, then obviously you ARE worth "waiting for".
Why should it even be an issue if Suzie is taking care of the rest until you're "ready"? 
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| 11/25/2014 9:00:20 AM |
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settee_m
Dallas, TX
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Most men? How about all men who are in it for the pump and dump.
If a woman you are dating after 2 months still hasn't "given it up" then there are underlying compatibility issues...It's not 1890. A massive component of a relationship is intimacy, re: sex.
...as always without sex it's just a friendship. Simply because a man doesn't want to wait some arbitrary period doesn't mean he's only there for the "pump and dump"...he might be there for the WHOLE package...and only getting a partial deliver.
Did you read some of the posts in this thread? The third date rule? Isn't that an arbitrary period? How many men posted if they aren't getting sex up front, meaning the first couple of dates, they aren't sticking around.
And of course, there's ibane's assumption, she has to prove she's good in bed before he'll date her...
There would only be underlying compatibility issues, even after 2 months of no sex, if you're assuming he's ready and she's not.
Why is wanting a relationship within two months too soon, but sex is mandatory?
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| 11/25/2014 9:02:29 AM |
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ladiebugg55
Redding, CA
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I've basically been married most of my life..in both relationships there was a waiting period..I wait until I've gotten to know him better, plus I need to have developed feelings for him..I also need to get to the point where I feel the relationship is going to work..
I rarely had problems with men that pushed for sex too soon (for me)..I've only had sex with the men I married...luckily I'm the type men like to take home to momma..it's about respect for me..no respect, no dating..
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| 11/25/2014 9:06:18 AM |
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eyesofmedusa
San Antonio, TX
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If you're the one getting the dinners, movies, and roses, then obviously you ARE worth "waiting for".
Why should it even be an issue if Suzie is taking care of the rest until you're "ready"?
I had no.problem with this when I was young..actually had it as the agreement....but we were teenagers.
I wld expect a man.....to be a man...as strong as me.
Guess what ?
They dnt exist.
Why I wlkd away frm the whole thing..
Not worth the time nor the energy
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| 11/25/2014 9:08:03 AM |
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kawkasian
Houston, TX
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Did you read some of the posts in this thread? The third date rule? Isn't that an arbitrary period? How many men posted if they aren't getting sex up front, meaning the first couple of dates, they aren't sticking around.
A rule isn't arbitrary  . A set amount of time would be a rule, 3 days, 90 days etc...the perosn knows when it's going to happen and so can make an informed decision. Just waiting around with no end in sight and no real explanation for the wait..is arbitrary, controlling, uncompromising etc
There would only be underlying compatibility issues, even after 2 months of no sex, if you're assuming he's ready and she's not.
What is there to be ready for??? Do you need 2 weeks readiness to take a shit?...it's a physical act...not a test 
Why is wanting a relationship within two months too soon, but sex is mandatory?
Without the sex it's a friendship...not a relationship in the general sense. If you want a friend buy a dog etc.
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| 11/25/2014 9:10:47 AM |
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eyesofmedusa
San Antonio, TX
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This !!!!
I am.just...well.
Many humans are soooo worried about sexual capatability...and then HOPE they will be emotionaly compatable.
I wld have to know he has a good heart....strong mind..values and goals similar to mine...can be my friend..and.mate before he gets between my legs.
And I am not going to happen in 2 to 3 dates.
Many get laid ...THEN hope the.rest comes together...
Yeah.....no thanks...
Op...I am sorry
I wld say...hang on...there are plenty of.great guys out there. But there aren't.
If you find one ? Hang onto him girl...
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| 11/25/2014 9:12:35 AM |
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helmholtzwatson
Raleigh, NC
49, joined Jun. 2014
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Never had it be a problem.
If it's mutual attraction, then all things are shared, incluing anticipation.
Hell, I'm usually the 'slow' one.
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| 11/25/2014 9:17:09 AM |
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lindsey_g3
Dewitt, MI
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If someone dumped u for that then u dodged a bullet. ive been talking to my bf a couple months and we have been on a few dates and havent even open mouthed kissed yet....im sure if I wanted sex right now he would be happy...but he is totally ok with waiting for me to be ready.
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