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nene_bug69
Midland, MI
24, joined Jul. 2014
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After months of dating the most amazing significant other you've ever had he asks you to move with him.
For the past few months you've been driving a couple hours to each other's house and now he asks you to move in with him a couple hours away from your family and friends. Your life. You knew this was going to eventually happen if things worked out.
What do you do?
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| 12/2/2014 9:42:03 AM |
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jackscamaro
Newark, NJ
44, joined Mar. 2014
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After months of dating the most amazing significant other you've ever had he asks you to move with him.
For the past few months you've been driving a couple hours to each other's house and now he asks you to move in with him a couple hours away from your family and friends. Your life. You knew this was going to eventually happen if things worked out.
What do you do?
Well if this works...and it looks good. She will move.
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| 12/2/2014 9:42:42 AM |
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rocky_dennis
Mechanicsburg, PA
35, joined Nov. 2013
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I don't know, I wouldn't put myself in that position presently. I can't just drop my career, home and other responcibilities.
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| 12/2/2014 9:43:18 AM |
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ibane
Zanesville, OH
44, joined Feb. 2014
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No
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| 12/2/2014 9:44:03 AM |
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truckerdaddy915
El Paso, TX
40, joined Feb. 2014
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Did once. Never again.
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| 12/2/2014 9:44:03 AM |
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whalemstrsback
Corning, CA
58, joined Oct. 2014
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lock
the
doors...
and
go...
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| 12/2/2014 9:44:22 AM |
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tweakthis2
Clarksville, TN
29, joined Jan. 2014
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I don't have children. The only thing holding me here for now is finishing my degree, which is about a year from completion.
I'd move. Especially if it's only a couple hours away from home. That's an easy weekend drive back.
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| 12/2/2014 9:46:50 AM |
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teeheehee_
Montreal, QC
33, joined Jun. 2014
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No. If got engaged then yes.
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| 12/2/2014 9:47:48 AM |
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_bear_claws_
Chandler, AZ
52, joined Aug. 2014
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Nene..  ... ... how you been Doll ??
I'll be there as soon as I get finished packing , the first ruck is on its way right now... 
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| 12/2/2014 9:49:30 AM |
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truckerdaddy915
El Paso, TX
40, joined Feb. 2014
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Nene.. ... ... how you been Doll ??
I'll be there as soon as I get finished packing , the first ruck is on its way right now...
Lmao! Mexican junk dealers. See those trucks all over El Paso on Saturdays cruising the garage sales.
Good way to sell all your stuff in one shot. 
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| 12/2/2014 9:50:07 AM |
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nene_bug69
Midland, MI
24, joined Jul. 2014
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Hi bear! Lol
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| 12/2/2014 9:53:54 AM |
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artokol
Vaubecourt
France
96, joined Nov. 2014
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I already did once and it worked, however I usually have to travel due to my job so moving was possible and yet the difference was only 90 minutes away-still in the end it had to end regardless of location.
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| 12/2/2014 9:54:32 AM |
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vafella2014
Madison, VA
44, joined Aug. 2014
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Hell nah then u be stuck under her control  tortured and a slave
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| 12/2/2014 9:55:57 AM |
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plantkeeper
Alexandria, VA
52, joined Apr. 2011
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Has he put a ring on it? I wouldn't move without something more concrete. How will you live? Do you have your own money? At least obtain a job first... Good luck....
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| 12/2/2014 9:57:31 AM |
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kingslayer99
Arlington, TN
51, joined Oct. 2014
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IF she pays for my relocation expenses hell yeah! What happens if I pick up relocate and it doesn't work out?
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| 12/2/2014 10:00:00 AM |
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plantkeeper
Alexandria, VA
52, joined Apr. 2011
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By the way is this fireball guy? I thought he only wanted sex?....hmmmmm
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| 12/2/2014 10:25:29 AM |
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sweetmama117
Bronx, NY
55, joined Aug. 2013
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OH I've done that, now I don't know. I think it's
the mans turn to move in with me, I'm tier of finding
a new place bye new furniture f**k that no I wouldn't.
But that's me. It would have to take a really good man.
If I would I'll do what one of the poster wrote lock
the door and keep the apartment.
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| 12/2/2014 10:27:04 AM |
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dixie_dancer
Kansas City, KS
27, joined Feb. 2013
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i did it once, but not for a guy. i picked up and willingly moved 1300 miles away from everything i knew. it was exhilarating. and in the next 12 months or so, i'll do it again, but this time, for a guy. what's another 500 miles?
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| 12/2/2014 10:30:51 AM |
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vafella2014
Madison, VA
44, joined Aug. 2014
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Yeah you take a big chance when you do that , they start yelling this is my house lol
You leave everything behind and end up shit creek without a paddle if they turn into a monster after a couple months 
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| 12/2/2014 10:31:09 AM |
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nene_bug69
Midland, MI
24, joined Jul. 2014
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Money/ job is of no concern to me I'm pretty well off. And so is he. I'm not moving yet it's just something we have talked about it's not something set in stone
As for the ring. I never want to get married and he knows that. So if he did bring a ring out then I'd prolly break up with him on the spot lol
It really is only 2 hours away it's not like I'd be moving states away I just wanted to hear opinions on it.
I've heard people say before to never move for a significant other unless of course you are married. But when money and a job isn't a factor for me and if it doesn't work out I do have places I can always come back too if need be.
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| 12/2/2014 10:34:07 AM |
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grneyesrme
Sacramento, CA
47, joined Aug. 2013
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I move. I'm ready for my next chapter. 2 hrs away isn't nothin.
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| 12/2/2014 10:36:53 AM |
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txrose64
Pearland, TX
51, joined Jan. 2013
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probably not. My life's here, career, young adult kids, family, friends, etc.
but then again I knew that and dated locally only.
now move into a new house in a central local together, yeah I did that. 
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| 12/2/2014 10:39:11 AM |
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helmholtzwatson
Raleigh, NC
50, joined Jun. 2014
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Sure, I can work from anywhere.
Don't think I could live too far from the ocean, tho.
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| 12/2/2014 10:41:56 AM |
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diana29615
Greenville, SC
46, joined Jan. 2014
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For the right man I'd move mountains
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| 12/2/2014 10:46:46 AM |
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6969foryou
Sacramento, CA
37, joined Nov. 2012
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LOL...
See that's the trick everyone falls for... All of those nice and awsome dates.... Well that's as it's good as it gets... It's all down hill from there. Stop dating and move on to the next person. You can't restart all of the nice newness of dating with another person. This moving in stuff is the beginning of the end.
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| 12/2/2014 10:57:25 AM |
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fishnthec
Mesquite, TX
64, joined Oct. 2010
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I would never move into a woman's place. Never have- never will.
And after my last wife moved in with me to my house the last time, and made numerous and continual comments that she felt like she was living in my house, I will never move another woman in with me either.
Instead, I expect that If I were to ever live with another woman in any way, shape, or form, I will be expecting that we will both be moving somewhere other than the location either of us live now.
When both people make the sacrifice of moving, and they are both moving into a location suitable for both peoples careers etc., it puts things on a level keel right from the get-go and is the best way to start a full-time living-together long-termed arrangement!
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| 12/2/2014 11:00:04 AM |
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esmeraldar
Toms River, NJ
67, joined Jan. 2009
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I would probably do it. I would have to clean up this place so I could sell it. I'm mot working and don't have any family. If I found someone that amazing I would probably do it. But maybe I would keep this place in case things didn't work out.
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| 12/2/2014 11:02:52 AM |
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whalemstrsback
Corning, CA
58, joined Oct. 2014
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For me to move and feel comfortable doing so...
I would have to change my whole life...
Sell this place and have $ for whatever happens...
In other words - it would be a total and complete change of life for me...
to
do
this
to
myself...
would take an extraordinary amount of willpower and effort...
and a very special woman to make me want to do that...
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| 12/2/2014 11:05:26 AM |
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6969foryou
Sacramento, CA
37, joined Nov. 2012
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Money/ job is of no concern to me I'm pretty well off. And so is he. I'm not moving yet it's just something we have talked about it's not something set in stone
As for the ring. I never want to get married and he knows that. So if he did bring a ring out then I'd prolly break up with him on the spot lol
It really is only 2 hours away it's not like I'd be moving states away I just wanted to hear opinions on it.
I've heard people say before to never move for a significant other unless of course you are married. But when money and a job isn't a factor for me and if it doesn't work out I do have places I can always come back too if need be.
Ahhhh!!
Now it makes sense....
This is a common human error....
You have a sense of security that if things don't work out... You have a safety net or things to fall back on... Bad approach... It's like a free shot in your mind.
Hey in the end it's your decision, and life... Some however have walked in your footsteps and just telling you what you may experience.
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| 12/2/2014 11:06:23 AM |
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kawkasian
Beverly Hills, CA
35, joined Sep. 2014
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2hrs away 
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| 12/2/2014 11:08:57 AM |
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gotheon123
Apex, NC
47, joined Jul. 2013
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In theory, yes.
The reality is a bit more complicated.
But if it's really right, I'll try to figure out a way.
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| 12/2/2014 11:12:40 AM |
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icecreamsammich
Tucker, GA
64, joined May. 2014
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I can't very easily. It could happen to an area in a year or waiting for a job to open.
I am in a specialized field so it isn't easy.
I want to retire in 10 years so I will move anyway then!
Take it to the lake!! I will be living somewhere with a pier and a not too long drive to the city.
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| 12/2/2014 11:13:19 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
60, joined Apr. 2011
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After months of dating the most amazing significant other you've ever had he asks you to move with him.
For the past few months you've been driving a couple hours to each other's house and now he asks you to move in with him a couple hours away from your family and friends. Your life. You knew this was going to eventually happen if things worked out.
What do you do?
Well, you dated him knowing eventually if things worked out....it would come down to this.
So why date in the first place, if you can't do that?
it makes no sense....unless it was a shag that turned into something more.
I think the answer is you move in, or talk and find a more plausible solution....both can agree with.
or move on because he obviously isn't that important to you or whatever....and tell yourself not to get involved with anyone that's more than a half hour away.
Why get involved in the first place, if two hours from family is such an issue?
I can see it if you have an important high paying job as the culprit.....and if the case he can move there.
all that said....sure its a tough decision and too many relations fail....but if he is all that....it might be worth persuing.....your not that far from home and the friends and family will remain that.
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| 12/2/2014 11:18:01 AM |
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turkalurk82
Godfrey, IL
33, joined Sep. 2014
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I moved 1000 miles after a year of flying to orlando every other month. We had some good years together, but I wouldn't recommend it. I often felt like I was living in her world. Like its harder to keep things balanced because the one who moves sacrifices so much. However, 2hrs isn't very far at all.
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| 12/2/2014 11:23:34 AM |
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dezweather
Phoenix, AZ
43, joined Oct. 2014
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After months of dating the most amazing significant other you've ever had he asks you to move with him.
For the past few months you've been driving a couple hours to each other's house and now he asks you to move in with him a couple hours away from your family and friends. Your life. You knew this was going to eventually happen if things worked out.
What do you do?
Who has the better job?
I couldn't relocate bc of my job.
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| 12/2/2014 11:58:15 AM |
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kawkasian
Beverly Hills, CA
35, joined Sep. 2014
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if you value a job more than the person, then don't make the move, it wont end well. 
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| 12/2/2014 12:05:10 PM |
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playingindirt
Eugene, OR
59, joined Mar. 2014
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I have. I love where I live. I have no interest in moving out of oregon ever again.
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| 12/2/2014 12:05:13 PM |
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ifiweruidh8me2
Cheyenne, WY
34, joined Sep. 2014
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Personally, I would not. I move at a very slow pace and would want to make sure all my affairs, as well as, his were order before even considering this. I like to actively date a person for close to a year before defining the relationship, let alone giving up my safe haven and that part of my independence. Shoot, I have a min of 8 months dating before you can meet my kid.... ya I know...
HOWEVER, that's just me. I'm a big fan of following your intuition. If it feels right then go with it. This is about you & him, not anyone else.  
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| 12/2/2014 12:09:51 PM |
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mindya
Babylon
Iraq
62, joined Jan. 2009
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A very slim maybe. I've tried the long distance thingy, three hours traveling each way in some cases. It takes a long time to get to really know someone. I prefer local.
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| 12/2/2014 12:12:31 PM |
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fishnthec
Mesquite, TX
64, joined Oct. 2010
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I moved 1000 miles after a year of flying to orlando every other month. We had some good years together, but I wouldn't recommend it. I often felt like I was living in her world. Like its harder to keep things balanced because the one who moves sacrifices so much. However, 2hrs isn't very far at all.
Exactly! When two people want to live together or marry, They should consider getting a new place altogether.
If the deed or lease is not in both names, there is no balance of power. Of course you never anticipate having such issues, but you never want to hear, "This is my place, so, if you don't like (Fill in the blank) or if anyone is moving out, it is going to be you"!
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| 12/2/2014 12:13:55 PM |
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amicablyme
Wheeler, IN
58, joined Oct. 2014
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Maybe?...
Last couple of months it's always been, No Way!
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| 12/2/2014 12:53:53 PM |
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lookin4him2012
Boone, NC
47, joined Jan. 2012
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I won't live with a man before marriage. And I highly doubt I will ever marry again. So whoever I get serious with will have to have a very long term dating relationship or move on. I don't care.
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| 12/2/2014 12:57:55 PM |
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kawkasian
Beverly Hills, CA
35, joined Sep. 2014
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I won't live with a man before marriage.
What about cats?..I'm guessing yes?
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| 12/2/2014 12:58:21 PM |
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oppsiidazi
Orr, MN
45, joined Oct. 2014
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no. probably not. i may not like where he lives.
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| 12/2/2014 12:59:57 PM |
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teeheehee_
Montreal, QC
33, joined Jun. 2014
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I won't live with a man before marriage.
What about cats?..I'm guessing yes?
Omg
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| 12/2/2014 1:02:41 PM |
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ifiweruidh8me2
Cheyenne, WY
34, joined Sep. 2014
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I won't live with a man before marriage.
What about cats?..I'm guessing yes?
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| 12/2/2014 3:07:18 PM |
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turkalurk82
Godfrey, IL
33, joined Sep. 2014
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Exactly! When two people want to live together or marry, They should consider getting a new place altogether.
If the deed or lease is not in both names, there is no balance of power. Of course you never anticipate having such issues, but you never want to hear, "This is my place, so, if you don't like (Fill in the blank) or if anyone is moving out, it is going to be you"!
Well I was more referring to the moving away to where they live aspect of it. We did get our own place, but for me it wasn't about power but the lack of sacrifice on her part. I guess I would have felt better about it, if she had ever found a job she could keep in the 4 years we lived together.
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| 12/2/2014 4:46:36 PM |
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sarahgoldsmith
Washington, DC
44, joined Jan. 2014
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I don't know, nene. When it comes to money, don't depend on anyone but yourself. Not having money can be a big strain on a relationship. Unless he is really a wealthy guy.
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| 12/2/2014 4:47:45 PM |
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vagmasterflash
Durand, WI
50, joined Nov. 2014
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Don't do it. It's not a Nike commercial.
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| 12/2/2014 4:48:18 PM |
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b2cold
Elk Grove Village, IL
35, joined Mar. 2014
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Op. Do it. Wouldn't ya? Like you said you know its coming. I would.
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| 12/2/2014 4:52:57 PM |
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genx1200
Encino, CA
45, joined Oct. 2012
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The making of a jaded woman in real time. Awesome!
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| 12/2/2014 4:56:47 PM |
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lookin4him2012
Boone, NC
47, joined Jan. 2012
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Quote from kawkasian:
I won't live with a man before marriage.
What about cats?..I'm guessing yes?
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nope. But I have a job and can pay my own bills. Men are fun but and great for relationships for a while - but not good enough for me to marry. He will have to be pretty special. I set my standards high.
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| 12/2/2014 4:58:32 PM |
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lookin4him2012
Boone, NC
47, joined Jan. 2012
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Quote from ifiweruidh8me2:
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STFU fat a$$ ugly b8tch. You're just pissed cause you gotta take what you can get! Must suck being fugly.  
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| 12/2/2014 5:09:54 PM |
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rose1206
Gilbert, AZ
34, joined Jul. 2012
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The future with that person would have to look very bright, but I wouldn't move out of state.
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| 12/2/2014 5:11:57 PM |
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larena40
Lemon Grove, CA
43, joined Jan. 2014
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Can't say that I would. Been there done that.
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| 12/2/2014 5:12:39 PM |
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ol39er
Cicero, IL
43, joined Jul. 2011
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I would never have gotten involved with someone that far away in the first place.
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| 12/2/2014 5:54:32 PM |
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sweetmama117
Bronx, NY
55, joined Aug. 2013
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I had my ex husband move in with me, in 11yrs I never
told him get out of my house or never remind him that
it was my apartment. I could have been as angry as hell
and never kick him out of my bed. He left cause he wanted
to not cause I kicked him out.
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| 12/2/2014 6:10:48 PM |
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debyduh
Hamburg, PA
52, joined May. 2014
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If you want to move in with someone you are an adult and you can do that anytime you want as long as you can do that in a adult manner. You have to have enough money to move out of his place if it doesn't work out. You should store any stuff you don't take with you when you move. sit down and be honest with yourself. Are you moving towards something or running away from something. Always be safe. You should know his background and know if he is financially stable. Know that relationships are usually great the first 3-6 month then reality changes. I had 2 relationships that lasted many years and both we moved in quickly and a few that I waited longer and ended not long after I moved in. You really can't tell until you live together. Just be smart, safe and have enough tucked away to get out if you have to. Also do not leave friends and family. Stay in contact and keep spending time with them. A relationship should add to your life, not take you away from everyone you care about.
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| 12/2/2014 6:11:55 PM |
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ifiweruidh8me2
Cheyenne, WY
34, joined Sep. 2014
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Roflmao. ..this coming from someone without a photo and such high standards and false sense of superficial self that all you can do at your age is hate and name-call. I'm sure that mouth and negative attitude will keep you right where you are in life. Stay classy.  
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| 12/2/2014 9:41:20 PM |
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carmelcb
Tallahassee, FL
25, joined May. 2012
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I'd only move if I was engaged
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