| 12/10/2014 6:33:21 PM |
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calblueray
Arlington, TX
59, joined Sep. 2014
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Seems hard to find a lasting relationship. Women and men seem to have unrealistic expectations for each other. Leads to a lot of misery.
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| 12/10/2014 6:37:48 PM |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
49, joined Jul. 2013
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Yes so sad, misery loves company
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| 12/10/2014 10:02:35 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
63, joined Oct. 2009
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Then they wonder why a relatonship or marriage always fails. You can't change the guy after you're marriage. Women seem too picky. Men just want sex and a decent meal now and then, but that's totally unrealistic these days.
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| 12/10/2014 10:17:42 PM |
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knrionr
Cinebar, WA
64, joined Nov. 2014
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some do...maybe to have defense ? ready in case one or other decides to end relationship..so he or she can say. `. well see u were this way or that way anyway ` ? Maybe judgmental means U r not in Love...I do not know 
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| 12/11/2014 1:59:03 AM |
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mramazing8163
Kansas City, MO
25, joined Feb. 2014
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I'm confused by your post, if the expectations and needs were unreasonable then how is it a miserable situation once you're out of it? That should be a sigh of relief. And what expectations are unreasonable?
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| 12/11/2014 2:04:16 AM |
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pickygirl72
Phelan, CA
44, joined Sep. 2011
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When you find the right person those judgments and expectations seem to not matter anymore.
Problem is people get with the wrong person and think its great when in reality it is not. And that leads to misery.
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| 12/11/2014 3:16:30 AM |
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vagmasterflash
Durand, WI
49, joined Nov. 2014
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I love singledom. The remote is mine!
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| 12/11/2014 3:25:49 AM |
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damsel876
Osceola, AR
29, joined Jul. 2013
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Sometimes I don't think people put enough judgment into who they get into relationships with or have children with.
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| 12/11/2014 3:31:49 AM |
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naturebiy
Mc Kenzie, TN
39, joined Jul. 2011
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Judgement...
What are they judging you of op?
Your character. .
Your flaws..
Your wrong doings?
You need to be more specific and elaborate on the details a little more before a good answer can be given.
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| 12/11/2014 3:36:42 AM |
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amusicluvr
Salem, OR
62, joined Nov. 2013
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OP - IN calling others "judgmental", aren't YOU being judgmental? Why complain about others doing what you do?
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| 12/11/2014 5:14:33 AM |
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gamerman17
New York, NY
27, joined Apr. 2010
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Seems hard to find a lasting relationship. Women and men seem to have unrealistic expectations for each other. Leads to a lot of misery.
That is relative to your point of view and may be true for you based on your surrounding, but I necessarily personally don't agree as in everyone is different. Based on perception and standards into how they view things and psychological background and makeup, the sexes may view things differently and thus value more things than others, thus having different levels of expectations. It is moot and debatable on what type of expectations these are given their particular characteristics and standards that they have, whether is unrealistic or not. Whether it leads to a lot of misery or not is dependent on that opposite sex's ability to either fulfill those expectations or not fulfill them and try to play it off like they could.....gamer
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| 12/11/2014 6:04:29 AM |
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forumfriendly2
Norfolk, VA
38, joined Sep. 2013
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it's the women ,somebody always has a better job or car or apartment they won't stay in one place ..life is full of options till your old and alone
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| 12/11/2014 6:25:54 AM |
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testsignup
Springfield, VA
61, joined Sep. 2009
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Seems hard to find a lasting relationship. Women and men seem to have unrealistic expectations for each other. Leads to a lot of misery.
OP, if you really want to get more out of this than a self-righteous rant, I suggest you really think carefully about the meaning of "unrealistic expectations."
You are thinking of "unrealistic expectations" as things like "I want a tall, attractive mate who gives me wild sexual pleasure and lots of gifts" kind of stuff.
However, in order for a relationship to last through lifes standard trials and travails and disappointments, all the people in it have to consciously be dedicated to being with each other, and not just to filling a list of fun.
And that ALSO qualifies, as a potential "unrealistic expectation."
It isn't the "being judgmental" thing that's the problem. Everyone's judgmental. If the goal is continuity, the "judgment" will be to remain together. If the goal is daily hits of "fun," the same "judgment" will rip things apart.
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| 12/11/2014 11:17:41 AM |
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Eternalnight
Moody, TX
38, joined Oct. 2014
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Testsignup is always right ! 
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| 12/11/2014 11:29:35 AM |
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candmann73
Petersburg, VA
41, joined Apr. 2014
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Seems hard to find a lasting relationship. Women and men seem to have unrealistic expectations for each other. Leads to a lot of misery.
high expectations only leads to letdowns & disappointments. ,I try to have standards rather than expectations
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| 12/11/2014 11:32:05 AM |
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chitowngirl78
Oak Lawn, IL
36, joined May. 2014
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Seems hard to find a lasting relationship. Women and men seem to have unrealistic expectations for each other. Leads to a lot of misery.
Negative people stress me out, so I avoid them like the plague.
You worry too much. Time for you to figure out what you like and just have fun.
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| 12/11/2014 11:38:44 AM |
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chitowngirl78
Oak Lawn, IL
36, joined May. 2014
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Then they wonder why a relatonship or marriage always fails. You can't change the guy after you're marriage. Women seem too picky. Men just want sex and a decent meal now and then, but that's totally unrealistic these days.
Marriages fail because people marry for convenience not because they actually want to spend the rest of their lives with each other.
If I marry a man its because I love everything about him (including his flaws--thats what makes him unique) and the things he does. Why would I want him to change--unless its for the better??
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| 12/11/2014 12:56:04 PM |
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mramazing8163
Kansas City, MO
25, joined Feb. 2014
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And if it's a consistent flaw that all women have where they're needs from you are unreasonable then maybe you should start looking at yourself
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| 12/11/2014 1:55:15 PM |
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carmelcb
Leonia, NJ
24, joined May. 2012
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high expectations only leads to letdowns & disappointments. ,I try to have standards rather than expectations
agreed, although a standard is still an expectation.
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| 12/11/2014 1:58:46 PM |
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kawkasian
Houston, TX
47, joined Sep. 2014
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Seems hard to find a lasting relationship. Women and men seem to have unrealistic expectations for each other. Leads to a lot of misery.
Is that your judgement?
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| 12/12/2014 4:39:54 AM |
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stamina1975
Madison Heights, VA
39, joined Apr. 2012
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When you find the right person those judgments and expectations seem to not matter anymore.
Problem is people get with the wrong person and think its great when in reality it is not. And that leads to misery.
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| 12/12/2014 10:19:05 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
63, joined Oct. 2009
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Women know everything so they aren't being judgemental. They're just telling the truth. 
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| 12/13/2014 12:51:59 AM |
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pickygirl72
Phelan, CA
44, joined Sep. 2011
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seem too picky.
Yes you need something?
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| 12/13/2014 3:36:28 AM |
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ahleah4mriris
Fort Worth, TX
44, joined Jul. 2014
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blame the media world
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| 12/13/2014 3:38:33 AM |
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b2cold
Bark River, MI
22, joined Mar. 2014
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I do my best not to judge. See the best in people.
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| 12/13/2014 6:59:53 AM |
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jimmco
Monroe, NY
52, joined Sep. 2014
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Yup...they don't want to grow up
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| 12/14/2014 7:52:56 PM |
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mysticalunion
Casa Grande, AZ
57, joined Jun. 2014
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Judging is being critical of the other person. Just saying what they are doing is not.
For instance== you never clean up the kitchen-- that is just stating a fact- not being judgemental. If you say-- you are a lazy sob for not ever cleaning up the kitchen-- that is being judgemental. There is a difference in stating facts and going beyond that.
You rob money from banks. That is just factual.
You dirty rotten no good thief--- judgemental.
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| 12/16/2014 6:27:14 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
59, joined Apr. 2011
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When you find the right person those judgments and expectations seem to not matter anymore.
Problem is people get with the wrong person and think its great when in reality it is not. And that leads to misery.
I think the op has a point myself.
too many these days seek a perfect relation where everyday is all rosey and if its not....they bail.
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| 12/16/2014 7:07:17 AM |
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randystaats
Sacramento, CA
44, joined Nov. 2007
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I love singledom. The remote is mine!
Then what are you doing here?
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| 12/16/2014 9:07:02 AM |
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numbersor_only
Austin, TX
55, joined Nov. 2014
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Being happy with real life is an art. Escaping into fantasies to cope with real life is a big business. Settling for someone you can sort of enjoy but mostly blame is typical. To stop being judgmental, how else would you get your way? Judgement lays blame. To get out from under blame you have to do what I want. An apology wouldn't hurt your standing, either. Tyranny in the love nest requires judgement. Might as well hook up in the same way as the relationship will go.
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| 12/16/2014 9:13:12 AM |
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johngabel99
Conway, AR
31, joined Nov. 2012
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Human nature
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| 12/16/2014 10:30:43 AM |
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rose1206
Gilbert, AZ
33, joined Jul. 2012
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high expectations only leads to letdowns & disappointments. ,I try to have standards rather than expectations
I agree that's a great way of seeing it.
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| 12/16/2014 10:53:05 AM |
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ctr916v2
Roseville, CA
51, joined Nov. 2014
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I agree to not complain if DH chics just show me what they are all about even if they are not from the Show-Me State.
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| 12/16/2014 9:55:51 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
63, joined Oct. 2009
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Because they are perfect, perhaps better than perfect.
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| 12/16/2014 10:29:43 PM |
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theringhand
Kalamazoo, MI
35, joined Jul. 2014
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it's the women ,somebody always has a better job or car or apartment they won't stay in one place ..life is full of options till your old and alone
Bullseye.
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| 12/20/2014 1:11:47 AM |
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wildfir
Albany, IN
43, joined Sep. 2013
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Men and woman want that perfect mate. But no one is perfect. People who judge others feel bad about them selves so they must put someone down or judge that person. I don't even entertain those idiots.
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| 1/13/2015 8:32:56 PM |
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2hot2eat
Desert Hot Springs, CA
40, joined Jun. 2014
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B cuz we r human
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| 1/13/2015 8:44:22 PM |
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boyinneed
Miami, FL
50, joined Aug. 2011
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Because it is easy...
Solving it is not...
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| 1/13/2015 8:57:36 PM |
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grneyesrme
Sacramento, CA
47, joined Aug. 2013
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Not so sure it's always being judgemental. Probably more than likely it's knowing what will & won't work for you. The older we get, the more we know what we want & what we don't & being realistic makes us less likely to take chances we once did when we were younger.
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| 1/13/2015 9:11:58 PM |
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icecreamsammich
Tucker, GA
64, joined May. 2014
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Relationships are not required to be politically correct.
You can like what you like.
You have to!!!
I know I could never be Ina relationship with a woman not into oral.
Straight up stopped dating a woman that said she didn't like giving it. No reason to even play games.
I even want her to be attractive to me!
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| 1/14/2015 6:05:07 AM |
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gamerman17
New York, NY
27, joined Apr. 2010
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Seems hard to find a lasting relationship. Women and men seem to have unrealistic expectations for each other. Leads to a lot of misery.
In my opinion, you only become judgmental based on what personal perspective you are accustomed to seeing. Being that is the case, you are only used to seeing things from one perspective. Some are more extreme and lofty than others based on their experiences. However, I would not mistakes having lofty expectations of an individual than just having personal preferences. Though that being said, both CAN lead to misery because you be basically looking forever the personal you want to be with, so you have a sound point there.....gamer
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| 1/15/2015 8:13:12 PM |
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fwayne55
Hurst, TX
58, joined Dec. 2014
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Im always getting judged harshly. It sucks. Its not my fault.
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| 1/15/2015 8:39:11 PM |
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24milkduds
San Francisco, CA
55, joined Mar. 2012
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Yep
Sucks!
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| 1/15/2015 8:47:26 PM |
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toxictears1970
Marrero, LA
44, joined Dec. 2014
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Yep
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| 1/15/2015 8:51:08 PM |
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dasnixter
Jessieville, AR
55, joined Jul. 2010
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Yea, and they came before me; men to my left and women on my right.
And they cried out unto me, "Why oh modest one must they be so judgmental"?
Verily, upon hearing their suffering, I was moved and comforted them, so they may know the trvth and seek no more.
Why not, eh?
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| 1/15/2015 8:52:40 PM |
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toxictears1970
Marrero, LA
44, joined Dec. 2014
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Weird says op deleted
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| 1/15/2015 9:05:09 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
63, joined Oct. 2009
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Because "women" know more than the almighty goddess and guys know less than a retarded catepillar!
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| 1/16/2015 10:42:42 AM |
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dasnixter
Jessieville, AR
55, joined Jul. 2010
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Que: Three Dog Night, Easy To Be Hard
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=98pkG0y_U_Q
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| 1/16/2015 10:51:52 AM |
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smstephanie
Moorhead, MN
41, joined May. 2014
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it's the women ,somebody always has a better job or car or apartment they won't stay in one place ..life is full of options till your old and alone
Once again thank you for your overly bitter I hate the world response...Damn some b*tch f**ked you over bad....very enlightening every time you post 
[Edited 1/16/2015 10:52:32 AM ]
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| 1/16/2015 12:20:27 PM |
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fwayne55
Hurst, TX
58, joined Dec. 2014
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Once again thank you for your overly bitter I hate the world response...Damn some b*tch f**ked you over bad....very enlightening every time you post
dont be so quick to judge forunfriend. I left a gf for a new gf who had a boat at her lakeside home. I liked driving gf2's boat and the sex was nice. Gf1 sent me judgemental texts messages saying I was no good and another said I was just a slut which hurt my feelings.
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| 1/16/2015 12:28:25 PM |
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kawkasian
Houston, TX
47, joined Sep. 2014
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Why wont men and women stop being judgmental ?
We'd all be dead if we didn't make judgements. You make hundreds of judgements a day that keep you alive.
..try running across a freeway for example a dozen times without making any judgements.
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| 1/16/2015 12:35:19 PM |
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lookin4him2012
Boone, NC
46, joined Jan. 2012
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Once again thank you for your overly bitter I hate the world response...Damn some b*tch f**ked you over bad....very enlightening every time you post
I know right. Looking at his pictures, he isn't much of a prize either especially with his attitude. And he says he's only like that on this site but the real truth comes out eventually with people you date. His perfect gal won't hang around long once his bad side comes out with her. And why even be on here if you're that happy in a relationship unless you're looking for someone as a back up just in case it doesn't work out.
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| 1/16/2015 12:36:10 PM |
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lookin4him2012
Boone, NC
46, joined Jan. 2012
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Because "women" know more than the almighty goddess and guys know less than a retarded catepillar!
for once a man that knows what he's talking about!
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| 1/16/2015 1:39:02 PM |
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dasnixter
Jessieville, AR
55, joined Jul. 2010
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I do not regret blocking the surly one
and actually enjoy reading some of his quotes.
Reaffirms my decision to distance myself from the negativity.
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| 1/16/2015 2:09:44 PM |
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hogaseman
Benátky nad Jizerou
Czech Republic
63, joined Jun. 2014
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Op maybe if you didn't look like Marilyn Manson your prospects would go up
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| 1/17/2015 3:28:00 AM |
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happylauren
Crown Point, IN
53, joined May. 2013
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Another troll. You guys ran him or her off.
Run, run, run as fast as you can, you can't catch me I'm the ginger bread man.
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| 1/17/2015 7:10:47 AM |
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fwayne55
Hurst, TX
58, joined Dec. 2014
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Hoo-Lee-Shit! So you and the dog are a package deal. Not judging.
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| 1/17/2015 7:26:17 AM |
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dasnixter
Jessieville, AR
55, joined Jul. 2010
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I've a sweet tooth for gingerbread.
Yummy.
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| 1/17/2015 7:38:07 AM |
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imlookin4sum1
El Cajon, CA
52, joined Mar. 2012
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My Friend Where the Troll
Nasty Nasty
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| 1/17/2015 11:53:11 PM |
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browcottoncandy
Nottingham, MD
39, joined Dec. 2014
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