This.

Being a friend is also knowing how it works. They build a relationship and you step into the background because you respect him and his. You don't stop being friends, you just take your proper spot.

You also have to understand that if it's a problem for her, that his loyalty should be to the woman he chose. It may be patently unfair and totally not warranted but it's the way she feels and he has to honor that. (Until he decides not to, anyway, and that's his decision, not yours.)

I personally don't have a problem with my mate having friends of the opposite sex. I know his character and I trust him. My late husband had a close female friend for decades before I knew him. In all the time they knew each other, if anything were to have happened, it would have. She became a good friend to me, too, and I appreciated the perspective she gave him.

However, I know that other people do not have that mindset and if that's what you choose to have than that determines how you'll deal with it. You have to decide whose happiness is more important to you.

Oh and you're talking to people who probably never been in the situation before. I'm willing to bet he either has chicks on the side and probably want you too. I done f**ked chicks that had bf while I had a gf. Trust me even though you might feel you're innocent if that relationship ends you are a part of the reason.

Stardards? Rules? Morals? What the fu€k is that? Its all about how you feel, ain't that right ladies?

Who gives a fu€k about truth and decency anymore. Especially in relationships. Why should we care what our S/O thinks?

Until you becomes the one that matters right? Then shit change now don't it?

Correct bcuz there are more women who have and will fu€k a male "friend" than not. And thats bcuz their choices are driven by what that woman "feels" at that moment. All rules go right out the window if that man make it "feel" right at that time.

I've done it many times with women coming in trying to be friends, putting me in the friend zone before I can get started.

Thats the correct thing to do, say bye and be done with it if their friendship is too clise for comfort.

I have lady friends who are like sisters to me and we NEVER crossed that line.

If I started dating someone, I can assure you, my friendship would never be an issue with my lady bcuz I KNOW how to give my lady the respect she needs to establish the trust factor between us.

last history dictates future. So, what woman would date you now? He just shot himself in the

I agree with the girlfriend. She obviously sees it as cheating and I would too. But no one has any standards or morals anymore.

First rule of dating for men is to NOT do what women do sir.

You don't jump into a relation FIRST THEN find out who you're dating. You find out FIRST by courting them properly.

If she's damaged by previous events there WILL be all kinds of signs to read. So if you stop making decisions like a women these things will speak for themselves.

There shouldn't be a reason for jealous unless the guy in question here has given the gf a reason to be jealous. Has he cheated before? Is he overly secretive about things aNd people?

If my man had a lot of women friends and kept quiet about them calling or how often then yes the gf has a reason to get upset....if op, you're the only female friend he chats with on the phone and she is fully aware of off how often you to talk and how long ...if its all just friendly chi chat the gf has serious trust issues and then that problem lies with him and the gf.