1/22/2015 10:35:03 PM |
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zeitgeist2
Toledo, OH
53, joined Jan. 2012
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Any guy posting here will be blocked as a f*g.
From the beginning but short....
She cheated.....with a f**ker I hated....for a while...after 25 yrs.
Then the shit hit the fan when I found out and I tried to save my marriage...I begged her to stay and work it out...
She left me for him anyway....
So after four years of being separated (with a few booty calls on her part)
And after living with her boyfriend for 4 years and finally breaking up cuz he beat her ass....
She's pissed cuz I got laid by a female f**k buddy last week?
I'm lost for words...is it a turf thing or something...or is she just insane?
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1/22/2015 11:03:38 PM |
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pickygirl72
Pinon Hills, CA
46, joined Sep. 2011
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If you guys are no longer together than stop caring what she does or says to you.
Sounds like you guys were horrible together anyway. Good u broke up, now move on.
Not sure i understand the whole story.
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1/22/2015 11:19:52 PM |
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zeitgeist2
Toledo, OH
53, joined Jan. 2012
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Quote from pickygirl72:
If you guys are no longer together than stop caring what she does or says to you.
Sounds like you guys were horrible together anyway. Good u broke up, now move on.
Not sure i understand the whole story.
Ok thanks.....it's a longer story but I edited it down for brevity.....we had a good run...or so I thought....25 yrs...I'm not bitter...I miss her very much..
And yeah she could come home tomorrow and jump in my arms...I love her that much.....but I know she wont...
Foolish pride rules.
I'm just wondering after all this water under the bridge ,cheating, boy friends etc...and a failed marriage....why does she care who I screw now?
Does it mean she gives a shit or not?
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1/22/2015 11:24:40 PM |
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zeitgeist2
Toledo, OH
53, joined Jan. 2012
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OH PS....I'm not claiming I was a prefect Husband....I had my faults but I never cheated....my mistress was a beer at a friends house...
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1/23/2015 12:06:41 AM |
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jenny_oo
American Falls, ID
40, joined Jul. 2014
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She gives a shit...
I'm not sure how many shits she gives, but at least one.
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1/23/2015 12:38:53 AM |
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zeitgeist2
Toledo, OH
53, joined Jan. 2012
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Quote from jenny_oo:
She gives a shit...
I'm not sure how many shits she gives, but at least one.
Thanks hon.....I thought maybe it was just me......I wont ask you what to do....my shit is all f**ked up.....
Maybe I just miss what we had.
But she sure is pissed after all this time.
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1/23/2015 10:36:29 AM |
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bier95
Clara City, MN
66, joined May. 2011
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I see it as long as you did not have another lady in your life then she still had control over you. As soon as another lady shows up they get pissed because they have lost control.
She may or may not care a lot about you but does not want you with someone else. I went thru something similar, best thing is move on.
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1/23/2015 1:31:02 PM |
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cinnamonnhaze
Minneapolis, MN
53, joined Apr. 2014
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She cheated.....with a f**ker I hated....for a while...after 25 yrs.
..or is she just insane?
OR are you insane?
Definition of insanity is doing the same thing over & over, yet expecting different results.
I have girlfriends like you. Same crap, different guy. Sometimes the same guy. They still call me to cry. I listen but I've stopped advising.
Sure, my marriage sucked at the end (& the middle & some of the beginning - lol), but he's out & we are "never ever ever ever getting back together".
Stop the madness! No more booty calls. No more talking about who screwed who. Accept it. She is who she is. If you want the drama, take her back!
I really don't believe you're gonna take any DH advice. That's silly. You have to make up your own mind.
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1/23/2015 5:04:09 PM |
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zeitgeist2
Toledo, OH
53, joined Jan. 2012
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OR are you insane?
Definition of insanity is doing the same thing over & over, yet expecting different results.
I have girlfriends like you. Same crap, different guy. Sometimes the same guy. They still call me to cry. I listen but I've stopped advising.
Sure, my marriage sucked at the end (& the middle & some of the beginning - lol), but he's out & we are "never ever ever ever getting back together".
Stop the madness! No more booty calls. No more talking about who screwed who. Accept it. She is who she is. If you want the drama, take her back!
I really don't believe you're gonna take any DH advice. That's silly. You have to make up your own mind.
I'm taking it in thanks.
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1/23/2015 5:11:05 PM |
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cinnamonnhaze
Minneapolis, MN
53, joined Apr. 2014
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lol.
I just checked in & saw your post.
Didn't mean that to sound so harsh. I stayed in a bad marriage way too long. Mine had a slow & painful death - because "I" let it linger like that. I tried hard to make it work. In the end it was all up to me (alone) to just let go. He already had let go. I was just making it easy on him - not me.
I think I'm safe in saying, she's not the one doing any of the suffering here....
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1/23/2015 7:24:50 PM |
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pickygirl72
Pinon Hills, CA
46, joined Sep. 2011
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Well she knows she f**ked up and she cant have the control anymore, so she is mad and just plain curious.
Let her go for now. Let her think of what she did, don't just let her back in so soon. Don't make it easy for her.
Take your time. Figure out what YOU want in life, does she want the same? Once that trust is lost its very hard to get back.
What's the rush to get back with her?
Cause your lonely? That's no reason to go running back.
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1/23/2015 7:28:57 PM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
68, joined May. 2010
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OK ... Geist
I flagged you for a f*g.....
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1/23/2015 8:22:33 PM |
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zeitgeist2
Toledo, OH
53, joined Jan. 2012
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OK ... Geist
I flagged you for a f*g.....
LOL.
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1/24/2015 7:59:03 PM |
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freckleyez
Perrysburg, OH
36, joined Oct. 2014
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Sounds like she thinks you are her property. She doesn't want anyone else having you, so she is pissed.. Get out!!! She is being very selfish! She wants you in her time at her beck and call.
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1/26/2015 1:49:47 AM |
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zeitgeist2
Toledo, OH
53, joined Jan. 2012
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Thank you ladies....that pretty much matches what I was thinking....will take it under advisement...
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1/26/2015 8:10:12 AM |
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wnts2byrs
Conway, AR
44, joined Oct. 2014
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Jealous & selfish much? It's none of her businesses who you see, what you do or where you go.
You need to cut those strings & move on. If you continue to allow her childish behavior, it's going to hold you back, prevent you from moving on and you'll have no one but yourself to blame.
I know it's hard, but let her go, let the relationship go & let any hopes of a future with her go.
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1/26/2015 5:26:10 PM |
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mary_e0612
Kalamazoo, MI
59, joined Nov. 2014
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She doesn't want you and doesn't want anyone else too. Your her fall back man.
Been down that road. My ex didn't want me and I was not to want anyone but him. I gave in then when I found a text and said screw that and I'm now happy and him, well let's say I got the sugar and little miss got the broke a** daddy!
Drop her like a hot potato. Yes it may hurt but not that long if you've been able to go outside of your vows for a "f*** buddy" Just my thoughts on it.
Good Luck
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