| 2/10/2015 3:23:46 AM |
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clevelandosxguy
Massillon, OH
40, joined Aug. 2014
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I just can't take this anymore. I have to vent about a couple of things that have been irritating me about women on this site (and others) and this seems like a pretty good place to do it.
As a 38yo man who is married but allowed to see other people (yes, she is too - what's fair is fair), the "dating" scene sucks. Like, completely. I'm a decent looking guy, I'm polite, I'm well spoken, I'm even a little bit funny...but none of that matters. It doesn't matter because if there is one constant in the "dating pool" in my age bracket (loosely defined here as 30-45) it's that every single woman I think I'd like to talk to or flirt with or whatever is only interested in a "serious relationship" - essentially from word one of the initial conversation. As if the magic serious relationship fairy is just going to sprinkle his dust on you and whomever 5 minutes after you start talking and have everything work out forever. LOL! That's not how these things work.
It's a lot of pressure on a guy who knows FROM THE START that he's expected to be Mr. Forever for anyone, much less someone he's never met. And yes, I realize that given my marital status I could never be that person for someone anyway, but I'm just saying. In general, stop trying so damn hard. Meet people. Take all the BS about wanting a husband out of your profile - its ridiculous and you're scaring off any man who is halfway intelligent and realizes that relationships are a product of communication over time, and not an act of Congress. I mean seriously.
Secondly, the other universal truth while trying to meet women around my own age (38), is that nobody just wants to have fun and play a little bit. Everything's centered around finding a special someone (see above). I mean, my view on this is a little bias, granted, but WTF ladies? What's wrong with getting to know someone and having a little fun (whatever that might entail) with someone who doesn't want to be there to help raise your kids with you? Why are you all so opposed to just having fun? Going with the flow? Seeing what happens? Christ, go have coffee with a guy who's not looking to get married, you might actually have fun! I know! Novel concept!!
Again, I'm biased because I'm married and looking for NSA-type activities, but still. Take my advice ladies. Relax. Chill out with the long term relationship stuff for a while. SMILE IN YOUR PROFILE PICTURE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD!! Take some chances...why not? There's no reason any of you ladies out there should be home on a Friday or Saturday night if you don't want to be...the male/female ratio in here has to be 25/1 male...
Thanks for listening (reading) my rant. If you think I'm a pig for saying what every guy - married or unmarried - is already thinking and just won't admit, fine. Let me have it, I don't care. I'll debate you. But if you agree with me...I dunno then...you're pretty smart? Haha
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| 2/10/2015 3:33:48 AM |
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clevelandosxguy
Massillon, OH
40, joined Aug. 2014
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Oh and one last thing. If you're going to go through the trouble of messaging with somebody, try to have some damn personality. I realize you girls are probably inundated with messages, but some effort to answer our questions in more than three words is appreciated. Nobody enjoys trying to drag a conversation out of somebody.
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| 2/10/2015 11:39:03 AM |
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catstillsingle
Cleveland, OH
37, joined Feb. 2014
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Well that was refreshing, to hear what a guy actually wants. Got any advice for us ladies who only want a NSA/FWB but keep running into no stamina, no power, no sensuality, no passionate, no humor type males? We DON'T need help with our kids, jobs, money, cars, etc. We just want passionate, hot, intense, sexy, sometimes rough, enjoyable sex. And maybe a conversation or two. Are we asking for too much?
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| 2/10/2015 12:58:58 PM |
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clevelandosxguy
Massillon, OH
40, joined Aug. 2014
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No, not at all. If you're not getting those things out if he person you want to play with...stop playing with them and find someone else!
For all the frustrations I have about women, I'm sure ya'll have your own list about men. Kick 'em to the curb and find someone who excited you lol
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| 2/10/2015 1:07:44 PM |
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catstillsingle
Cleveland, OH
37, joined Feb. 2014
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No, not at all. If you're not getting those things out if he person you want to play with...stop playing with them and find someone else!
For all the frustrations I have about women, I'm sure ya'll have your own list about men. Kick 'em to the curb and find someone who excited you lol
I'm looking, but hoping he finds me.
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| 2/10/2015 9:34:30 PM |
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gregjj
Hamilton, OH
32, joined Mar. 2014
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Guys like you make it impossible for guys that actually are single and looking to find a woman..cause they think all guys on here are like you. Your married you shouldn't even be on here.. Focus on your marriage..if you wanted to see other women you shouldn't have got married..
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| 2/10/2015 9:49:34 PM |
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msreesi
Stout, OH
53, joined Jul. 2014
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Guys like you make it impossible for guys that actually are single and looking to find a woman..cause they think all guys on here are like you. Your married you shouldn't even be on here.. Focus on your marriage..if you wanted to see other women you shouldn't have got married..
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| 2/10/2015 10:15:48 PM |
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clevelandosxguy
Massillon, OH
40, joined Aug. 2014
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Guys like you make it impossible for guys that actually are single and looking to find a woman..cause they think all guys on here are like you. Your married you shouldn't even be on here.. Focus on your marriage..if you wanted to see other women you shouldn't have got married..
Says who? You? My wife and I are happier than most married couples, I would wager. Been married 10 years this year, have 4 wonderful children, blah blah blah. What exactly do I need to work on?
Oh wait. I have to fit my life into your definition of what a marriage should be. Right. Got it. You can only be happy being manogamous. I forgot.
Sounds like excuses to me Greg. Instead of blaming me for your trouble, and try being interesting. I've had two DM's today from ladies who've read this thread and wanted to know if I wanted to hang out. Why? Because I'm interesting. I have a personality. Try it sometime Greg. Stop whining about me and go be something. I'm not your problem, you're your problem.
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| 2/12/2015 9:27:25 AM |
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nobs4u
Mansfield, OH
56, joined Oct. 2008
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Sounds like you have trouble pleasing your mate or keeping her happy. I would offer to give lessons to you,but,you seem to have it all figured out,kudos! 
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| 2/12/2015 12:44:54 PM |
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clevelandosxguy
Massillon, OH
40, joined Aug. 2014
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Haha! Lotta hate in this chat for someone that has a great situation.
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| 2/12/2015 2:47:35 PM |
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nobs4u
Mansfield, OH
56, joined Oct. 2008
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HA! So great you have to join a dating site! HA! No hate,have at it,bro,I'm just a traditionalist is all,one man one woman...ok,ok,two or three or more women,but not all together. Ya know,you could always move to the Saudi states and start a harem! good luck,enjoy yourself,whatever works for you. Me,I think yer just braggin is all and I doubt your veracity,but whatever.Later
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| 2/12/2015 2:51:56 PM |
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clevelandosxguy
Massillon, OH
40, joined Aug. 2014
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What's wrong with joining a dating site to find people to play with? My profile is quite clear about my situation...your comment makes no sense.
Be a traditionalist all you want, I don't care, but why is it so unbelievable that someone could be in a happy marriage and see people on the side - out in the open?
Relationships mean different things to different people. My lifestyle may not be for you, and that's fine. Yours isn't for me.
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| 2/12/2015 3:48:45 PM |
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nobs4u
Mansfield, OH
56, joined Oct. 2008
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I never make any sense.Say,you could always go for the Bruce Jenner gambit and have ya a change and then play with yerself...I kid,I kid. In all honesty,I have yet to hear your wifes' side of the story,hmmmm. Has she contributed to your profile page? Does she have a profile on here? Just curious is all and,no,not bi-curious,sorry.
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| 2/12/2015 3:53:25 PM |
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clevelandosxguy
Massillon, OH
40, joined Aug. 2014
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She's on Tinder, as am I. However, women have better luck there than guys do, so Tinder is all she needs - while I need to use a couple different services to find a date or two a month worth having. We both go out once to twice a month and that's about it...we really do enjoy each other's company.
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| 2/12/2015 5:33:02 PM |
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nobs4u
Mansfield, OH
56, joined Oct. 2008
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well,brother ,what ever works for you,I wish you the best,really,no hate...maybe a little jealousy,("Dont make me call the jelly school,Wendy,m'kay"),but no hate. best of luck!
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| 2/12/2015 7:20:36 PM |
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53michael
Hamilton, OH
57, joined Dec. 2011
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OP check out Tina. You know the spicy one. Tinaspice. she want you!
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| 2/13/2015 5:59:10 AM |
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here4foromsonly
Cincinnati, OH
56, joined Sep. 2012
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OP check out Tina. You know the spicy one. Tinaspice. she want you!
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| 2/13/2015 8:45:28 AM |
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clevelandosxguy
Massillon, OH
40, joined Aug. 2014
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OP check out Tina. You know the spicy one. Tinaspice. she want you!
Yeah I'll pass. Thanks though haha!
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