bruce_2014
Dothan, AL
60, joined Jan. 2014
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A man has to hear that a woman needs him. That she longs for him to puts his arms around her, make her feel loved. That she wants a man to satisfy her emotional needs. That she wants a man for being her rock. She wants his presence, that it makes her feel secure and wanted.
The modern woman can't do this for two reasons.
First, feminism. Feminism drills in a woman's head that she cannot profess to any vulnerability. She is "strong & independent". She may have these emotional needs but she is taught that it is gauche to admit that only a man can make her feel whole. So she suppresses this truth from her own mind. She is led away from what she needs; and tells herself its wrong to think that way. The needs remain and she drinks boxed wine to dull the ache of longing and hopes her feline friend can provide the emotions that aren't stirred due to lack of a companion. Importantly- never acknowledging these needs and never showing any vulnerability to a man prevents the man from developing deep attraction for her. She is taught to say she wants a "loyal lover" or someone to share her life with but none of these say what a man needs to hear. She tells herself she is "strong" so often she doesn't know what to do on another night alone with the raindrops hitting her roof, thunder outside, sitting by herself, and wondering where things went wrong. The emotional needs she have remain unfulfilled because she never recognized them for what they are, was never honest with herself.
Second, the carousel. Ever notice how women after their "fun phase" are uptight, insecure, rage-y, and most of all defensive. Are they open and vulnerable and sweet? Hard to be when bad decisions on their part meant their "love" was not requited time after time after time. Their mind develops a kind of barrier against the hurt of a man's rejection; this barrier is meant to ward of ever more psychological trauma. The program deep within a woman is trying to protect the woman from her own judgment. Bad decisions means women don't trust....themselves. When they think with their clit, and spread their legs for a man they know won't bother with them afterwards, and hope against all common sense for good luck -- and are disappointed time and again, they create walls. From this defensive crouch, it becomes impossible for her to express vulnerability, impossible for her to trust. She tells herself now more than ever "i don't need no man"; after all, doing so would give the men who abandoned her even more power. To distance herself from the hurt, she adopts a cavalier attitude towards men- which is beyond off-putting. It is repulsive. Women who think with their clit time and again and don't think with their heart (towards a man who would care for them), end up being the wrong woman for a man who thinks with his heart.
(The only man she pursues after the carousel is a pussified one she knows she can control; that means cash & prizes and no further trauma. There is too much existing trauma in her and too much addiction to tingles for her to develop an open, loving relationship with the 80%'er male in any case; if one were to develop, she would find herself "bored" because it is "too easy". When women say "i only want the men i can't get", they are essentially acknowledging they cannot love anymore; the Hamster and clit have overwhelmed the heart.)
A man will only commit to a woman with her head on straight. A woman who is vulnerable to tell him how much she needs him (and then be able to appreciate his love). Historically man has never committed to any other kind of women. He is not going to change this formula any time soon.
[Edited 2/19/2015 5:08:50 PM ]
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sillylaugher61
Murrysville, PA
55, joined Aug. 2011
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I am actually meeting a woman that actually likes it when a man does things for her.
Such as openings doors or helping her with her coat.
also she is a more traditional role woman that believes in taking care of her family and HER MAN! In todays crazy world I didn't know that they still existed.
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