2/21/2015 5:56:54 PM |
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ol39er
Cicero, IL
43, joined Jul. 2011
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I see lots of profiles saying that the user is non-judgmental or seeks to meet someone who is. The fact of the matter is that not one single person is 100% non-judgmental. Some people, however, are more or less judgmental than others when it comes to dating and relationships.
On a scale of 1 to 10, how judgmental are you when it comes to dating and relationships? Please feel free to explain your answer.
Please keep this thread serious and civil.
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2/21/2015 5:59:05 PM |
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jester0011
Lake Waccamaw, NC
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I don't judge others.
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2/21/2015 6:00:24 PM |
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ibeenseenitall
Boca Raton, FL
34, joined Jul. 2014
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10
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2/21/2015 6:01:46 PM |
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1sirens
Champaign, IL
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Surgeon General Warning:: Seriousness on a Saturday night is the number one cause of loneliness
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2/21/2015 6:04:39 PM |
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ltlwing
Williamsburg, OH
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Too much a while back.I have been trying to work on this.Not really sure how bad now?...need someone on the outside looking in, to tell me if I have made progress..I think??
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2/21/2015 6:06:10 PM |
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jester0011
Lake Waccamaw, NC
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like I always say don't point fingers at others
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2/21/2015 6:15:49 PM |
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micheleisgreat
Pittsburgh, PA
52, joined Nov. 2013
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Very. I hold myself to high standards and expect the one I'm with to do the same. If you are not honest or are abusive, you are gone.
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2/21/2015 6:25:02 PM |
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eyesofmedusa
San Antonio, TX
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If I were honest ?
Extremely............not so much in the whole "you are not a good person" type a way.
But ........in a "Oh My God.........nooooooooooooo " kinda way...........
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2/21/2015 6:27:09 PM |
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1sirens
Champaign, IL
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2/21/2015 6:45:38 PM |
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extortionegos
Hayward, CA
37, joined Apr. 2014
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Prove yourself worthy then I wouldn't have to judge you
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2/21/2015 6:46:41 PM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
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Too much a while back.I have been trying to work on this.Not really sure how bad now?...need someone on the outside looking in, to tell me if I have made progress..I think??
I'm the opposite....I was too trusting and accepting.
But, I've been working on it.
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2/21/2015 6:48:13 PM |
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chris_90352
Sykesville, MD
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"Non-Judgmental" is a euphemism for "Pot Head".
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2/21/2015 6:48:41 PM |
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stanleyzee
Dayton, OH
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1&3/4
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2/21/2015 6:51:14 PM |
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chris_90352
Sykesville, MD
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"Easy Going" and "Down to Earth" are also euphemisms for "Pot Head".
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2/21/2015 6:52:47 PM |
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eyesofmedusa
San Antonio, TX
50, joined Jun. 2012
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Prove yourself worthy then I wouldn't have to judge you
You have already judged them to be someone who has to prove themselves...........
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2/21/2015 6:53:03 PM |
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lilod
Rochelle, IL
48, joined Aug. 2012
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I don't judge others.
@older--whatever else comes out of this thread, it was worth posting for the entertainment value of this response.
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2/21/2015 6:53:49 PM |
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eyesofmedusa
San Antonio, TX
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Oh My Lord................... Lil
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2/21/2015 6:54:43 PM |
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ol39er
Cicero, IL
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On a scale of 1 to 10, I'm a 5. I'm judgmental in a self-preservational kind of way. There are certain types of people I wouldn't want to date or be in a relationship with, but that doesn't mean that I wouldn't be nice to them.
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2/21/2015 6:55:27 PM |
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chris_90352
Sykesville, MD
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I almost regret I've got jester blocked for some reason.
Seems like every time I see someone quote him, it's instant humor....
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2/21/2015 6:56:25 PM |
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a4umposter
San Antonio, TX
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I don't judge others.
You do all the time.
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2/21/2015 6:57:00 PM |
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eyesofmedusa
San Antonio, TX
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On a scale of 1 to 10, I'm a 5. I'm judgmental in a self-preservational kind of way. There are certain types of people I wouldn't want to date or be in a relationship with, but that doesn't mean that I wouldn't be nice to them.
Sorry, but with using my judgment ?
OMGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG a 5 ?
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2/21/2015 6:57:37 PM |
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wench_doctor789
Atlanta, GA
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I'm a big poopy head
Sorry, I can be serious but I can't be civil
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2/21/2015 6:57:55 PM |
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extortionegos
Hayward, CA
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You have already judged them to be someone who has to prove themselves...........
Not necessarily when there is nothing to prove from the get go.
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2/21/2015 6:59:26 PM |
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pdforone
Litchfield, OH
63, joined Jul. 2010
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Honor thy father and thy mother
Thou shalt not kill.
Thou shalt not commit adultery.
Thou shalt not steal.
Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbor.
Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor’s house, thou shalt not covet thy neighbor’s wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor any thing that is thy neighbor’s, especially his penis!
I am the law, follow those and you probably won't get your butt thrown out! There is some wiggle room, I have seen fathers and mothers that don't deserve any honor.
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2/21/2015 7:01:05 PM |
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gizmosellsbots
Shakopee, MN
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Gather information and most cases can figure out pretty quick if the person is gonna be worth knowing.
Judgment is based on values you were raised on with some common sense. Abusers and Maniuplators cut those off people quickly.
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2/21/2015 7:02:23 PM |
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lilod
Rochelle, IL
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I almost regret I've got jester blocked for some reason.
Seems like every time I see someone quote him, it's instant humor....
That's probably only because it's in small doses. He only has a few tricks, so it gets quite repetitive.
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2/21/2015 7:04:52 PM |
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l380
Alabaster, AL
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I'm pretty damn judgemental.
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2/21/2015 7:05:04 PM |
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eyesofmedusa
San Antonio, TX
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Not necessarily when there is nothing to prove from the get go.
hmm...that would mean you see every interaction as a possible...........
Correct ?
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2/21/2015 7:07:41 PM |
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extortionegos
Hayward, CA
37, joined Apr. 2014
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Nobody's perfect
Yet
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2/21/2015 7:15:04 PM |
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wickedrider
Madison, WI
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one can't be judgmental if one detaches, and opens their mind. what brings in the judging aspect in, is the fight or flight response, or the more intelligent.... "observe" and categorize, which judgmental notes will fit into the slots....
one can simply just walk away and dismiss, and say, we are far more than the sum of what we might appear to be.
then sit back and learn from all of it.
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2/21/2015 7:47:21 PM |
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dan9787_3
Laval, QC
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I'm not too judgmental.
But there is a difference between judging - morally - and evaluating.
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2/21/2015 8:23:17 PM |
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jackscamaro
Newark, NJ
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Depends how my filet mignon is cooked
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2/21/2015 8:24:13 PM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
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I'm not judgmental....I think everyone's nuts....
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2/21/2015 8:24:17 PM |
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mustangwriter
Boerne, TX
54, joined Nov. 2009
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I'm judgmental...but forgiving too.
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2/21/2015 8:29:10 PM |
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idliketotalk
Punxsutawney, PA
52, joined Oct. 2013
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Surgeon General Warning:: Seriousness on a Saturday night is the number one cause of loneliness
I judge this to be funny!
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2/21/2015 8:31:10 PM |
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2times2many
Greenwood Lake, NY
29, joined Jan. 2014
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I don't judge others.
hahahahahahahaha hahahahahahahaha HAHAHHAHAAHA hahahahahahahaha aaaahhhhhhh HAHAHA hahahahahahahaha
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2/21/2015 8:33:48 PM |
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lilod
Rochelle, IL
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Just an aside: to suggest that "everyone is judgmental" renders the word entirely meaningless. To say that someone is judgmental is to say that he or she is EXCESSIVELY critical or disparaging.
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2/21/2015 8:36:16 PM |
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Freeze_Nate0515
Richmond, VA
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I see lots of profiles saying that the user is non-judgmental or seeks to meet someone who is. The fact of the matter is that not one single person is 100% non-judgmental. Some people, however, are more or less judgmental than others when it comes to dating and relationships.
On a scale of 1 to 10, how judgmental are you when it comes to dating and relationships? Please feel free to explain your answer.
Please keep this thread serious and civil.
I'm probably at a 7 or 8.
I tend to compare women to myself. For example, I've done such and such with my life so far, what have you done that's comparable. I'm no perfectionist because I am far from anything that could be perfect but I expect a woman of similar age to have accomplished a certain degree of their goals or have some kind of path laid out.
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2/21/2015 8:38:50 PM |
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Freeze_Nate0515
Richmond, VA
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hahahahahahahaha hahahahahahahaha HAHAHHAHAAHA hahahahahahahaha aaaahhhhhhh HAHAHA hahahahahahahaha
Is the same jester that made a post about how men today aren't manly enough?
Oh, so poetically ironic if so
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2/21/2015 8:44:28 PM |
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monarchqqwings
Streamwood, IL
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I try really hard not to be judgemental. When I catch myself being judgemental, I get upset with myself, cause I didn't mean to be.
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2/21/2015 8:48:59 PM |
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sarahgoldsmith
Stamford, CT
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I can be judgemental but I am flexible with my friends. I tolerate their flaws & weakness because I love them & care about them. As humans we all have weaknesses & strength in different areas. I am flexible with my friends.
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2/21/2015 8:51:34 PM |
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2times2many
Greenwood Lake, NY
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Is the same jester that made a post about how men today aren't manly enough?
Oh, so poetically ironic if so
no
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2/21/2015 8:54:23 PM |
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Freeze_Nate0515
Richmond, VA
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I try really hard not to be judgemental. When I catch myself being judgemental, I get upset with myself, cause I didn't mean to be.
It's okay. Humans are naturally judgemental. It's absolutely nothing to be ashamed of in my opinion. I think the only reasons why it has such a bad rap are the bible, for one. The whole only God can judge and what not. And secondly the vast majority of us are hypocrites whether some would admit it to themselves or not. So judging an individual on a certain behavior or action is psychologically complicated I think because we are ultimately determining whether an action or behavior is acceptable to us by either experience personally or indirectly
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2/21/2015 8:55:38 PM |
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Freeze_Nate0515
Richmond, VA
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It's okay. Humans are naturally judgemental. It's absolutely nothing to be ashamed of in my opinion. I think the only reasons why it has such a bad rap are the bible, for one. The whole only God can judge and what not. And secondly the vast majority of us are hypocrites whether some would admit it to themselves or not. So judging an individual on a certain behavior or action is psychologically complicated I think because we are ultimately determining whether an action or behavior is acceptable to us by either experience personally or indirectly
Okay then
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2/21/2015 8:59:32 PM |
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Freeze_Nate0515
Richmond, VA
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no
Oh but it is, I'm afraid. Lol. I just checked.
How ironic lol
But, ah, I'm merely being judgmental lol
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2/21/2015 9:05:03 PM |
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ladiebugg55
Redding, CA
59, joined Jun. 2012
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Growing up my parents told me to never judge people for who they are or what they do because someday I might be walking in their shoes...but I have to admit that I am judgemental to a point..having high standards, good morals are very important to me and I look for those traits in men I am interested in..some people are extremely judgemental to the point of thinking they're superior to others..I'm not that person...
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2/21/2015 9:13:51 PM |
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2times2many
Greenwood Lake, NY
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Oh but it is, I'm afraid. Lol. I just checked.
How ironic lol
But, ah, I'm merely being judgmental lol
I have no idea and idfc
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2/21/2015 9:23:50 PM |
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kartusch
Logan, UT
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Judging others and tolerance is not the same thing. Yes everyone judges. I say I don't judge as a joke... Facetiously speaking. .... But of course everyone judges
Now tolerance is totally different. What you may be tolerant to someone else will not put up with. Simple as that.
Saying your at a 5 on a scale from 1-10 is bull.
You don't want single moms. That's find but that alone at your age that puts you at a 7 right there.
Now if you won't put up with cheaters
Or liars, murders, thieves, smokers, drug dealers or doers, or even drinkers that takes you even higher. And don't forget if you don't swing both ways... That eliminates half of your options.
Now if you don't care if they are human? That puts you at a 2 for least judgemental ... Only a 1 beats that and that... And that would be you don't care as long as they have a pulse.
So there you have it.
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2/21/2015 10:33:50 PM |
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grneyesrme
Sacramento, CA
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Of course everybody is going to judge people. We are human, it's what we humans do.
It's more about how we judge them. Looks? or do we get to know them first?
Once our judgement is made do you accept the person for who they are? Or do we say I don't agree with this or like this so I'm not going to like you.
It's really more about how judgement is placed.
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2/21/2015 10:39:15 PM |
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greeleybro
Longmont, CO
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im about a 9.5 on the judgement scale.
but when u r as great and wise as I am you can do that!
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2/21/2015 10:50:49 PM |
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kartusch
Logan, UT
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At least your honest!
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2/21/2015 10:53:02 PM |
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mysinglelife2
Mystic, CT
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So I tend to think of it as trusting my gut instincts.
Sounds like making a judgment call is now a bad thing. I don't see anything wrong with the way I interrupt strangers.
If someone has a problem with thinking their to judgmental maybe you should try and be a better person.
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2/21/2015 10:53:54 PM |
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kartusch
Logan, UT
40, joined May. 2014
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Me too! I trust my gut too!
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2/21/2015 11:02:02 PM |
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fishnthec
Mesquite, TX
63, joined Oct. 2010
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I am very quiet about my judgements and keep them to myself. I love to take up for the underdog and make sure he/she/it is treated fairly. I love to play the devil's advocate. I have never been on a bandwagon, taken part in any lynch mobs, or ever burned any of the barns down. I blaze my own trails.
I am a dedicated Libra. Not that I believe in all that astrology nonsense, but I do work at giving Libras a good example to follow.
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2/21/2015 11:20:31 PM |
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jackscamaro
Newark, NJ
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Everybody has preferences. Someone With Alpha position pursues his preference. It's what he does.
I think Judgementalism...is political in relationships and requires weighing assumptions. I'm Alpha so it's preferences. Those are then assumed by others. What I like.
So I have much less conflict because I'm less judgemental....hey it works
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2/21/2015 11:21:57 PM |
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2times2many
Greenwood Lake, NY
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im about a 9.5 on the judgement scale.
but when u r as great and wise as I am you can do that!
um. That's not what He said lol
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2/21/2015 11:53:43 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
63, joined Oct. 2009
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I can judge anything. I'd be lying if I said I wasn't judgemental. Anyone who reads my stuff knows that I am.
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2/22/2015 12:18:14 AM |
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fishnthec
Mesquite, TX
63, joined Oct. 2010
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I can judge anything. I'd be lying if I said I wasn't judgemental. Anyone who reads my stuff knows that I am.
Driver, try to listen to some good music and turn off all of those Conservative talk shows you listen to all day long while driving. You would be surprised how much stress it will relieve!
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3/2/2015 8:55:40 PM |
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singleguynbama
Trussville, AL
50, joined Dec. 2011
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i dont judge anyone for past mistakes because i have made my own share,but i have standards that i hold myself to and wont be with anyone that doesnt have standards and morals of their own that are close in relation to what i believe and like.
If we are talking likes and dislikes then thats not called judging,not liking big women is not judging its called a preferrence and its mine.women look for the same thing a man does and appearance is the 1st thing that a person sees and is also what makes a person interested in another..But thats not called judging someone,thats called interest and either you have it for someone or you dont.a lot of people on here pretend that if you dont like the way they look you have judged them and thats not true at all..i get that all the time because i wont settle for a big woman that i dont find attractive.
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3/2/2015 8:57:21 PM |
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mr_tennisjunkie
Lake Elsinore, CA
32, joined Apr. 2014
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I don't judge others.
except obese women
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