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nothingneeded
Johnston, IA
46, joined Sep. 2014
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I came in contact with a friend..lives about three hours from me.
We met online about five years ago.
Not here.
Had good conversations over the phone, but never met in person.
I told him about couple weeks ago that i might go visit my mother which is about an hour from him.
He suggested i come through on my way to see my mother..i told him....maybe.
Every since, he has texted me a few times every other day, ive responded and that was that.
He texted me last night...i didnt respond. Called me today...i didnt return the call.
I didn't go see my mom....but why didnt i tell him that?
Is this wrong?
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| 3/14/2015 8:41:32 PM |
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ibeenseenitall
Boca Raton, FL
34, joined Jul. 2014
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There all trying to get in your pants
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| 3/14/2015 8:42:40 PM |
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txrose64
Pearland, TX
51, joined Jan. 2013
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I think you might need to make a phone call tonite.
he was excited at the prospect of meeting you and that didn't happen, that happens, or figure out why you're not telling him. 
if you WANT to meet you will.
I know I'd not even consider a LDR for the last decade or so.
figure that out...do what you'd like someone to do to you. 
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| 3/14/2015 8:43:21 PM |
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metu
Auburndale, FL
53, joined Apr. 2007
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You stated that he's "a friend". Friends should be honest with each other.
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| 3/14/2015 8:45:10 PM |
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sagepopper72
Globe, AZ
42, joined Aug. 2014
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You stated that he's "a friend". Friends should be honest with each other.
This
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| 3/14/2015 8:58:17 PM |
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skywatcher58
Topeka, KS
56, joined Feb. 2014
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You stated that he's "a friend". Friends should be honest with each other.
 Remember friends are little treasures that help us through bad days. Treat your friends bad and one day you'll be alone. No one to bounce ideas off. Or to commersierate with.
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| 3/14/2015 8:58:31 PM |
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vagmasterflash
Durand, WI
49, joined Nov. 2014
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Women....dashing men's hopes for eternity. 
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| 3/14/2015 9:00:55 PM |
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snhgirl
Scottsboro, AL
44, joined Nov. 2008
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You should give him the courtesy of a phone call.JMO
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| 3/14/2015 9:02:24 PM |
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eyesofmedusa
San Antonio, TX
50, joined Jun. 2012
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Why didn't you answer or call him when you realized you weren't going ?
And how would you feel if someone did this to your best friend ?
Or you ?
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| 3/14/2015 9:05:08 PM |
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im2thexy
Belleville, ON
47, joined Dec. 2014
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Figure out why you're telling him these things that arent true and getting his hopes up...and if that's not bad enough now you arent even responding to him...ummmmm at your age ditch the game playing and be honest with him....
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| 3/14/2015 9:08:27 PM |
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patriottype
Lubbock, TX
44, joined Jul. 2013
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You are wrong......its a balancing act respecting people respecting yourself....
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| 3/14/2015 9:22:08 PM |
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jer3552
Vale, OR
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Sweetheart ur conscience is bothering u a tad..or u wouldn't put it out there....call the guy and explain
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| 3/14/2015 9:31:23 PM |
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nothingneeded
Johnston, IA
46, joined Sep. 2014
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Figure out why you're telling him these things that arent true and getting his hopes up...and if that's not bad enough now you arent even responding to him...ummmmm at your age ditch the game playing and be honest with him....
Not game playing....i really thought i would go.
First it was going to be by myself...to see my mother.
Then i thought ....see if all four if my kids wanted to go.
Was going to get on the highway...early this morning...but i just didnt go.
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| 3/14/2015 10:04:35 PM |
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tjl503
Portland, OR
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You don't need to make any excuses to this guy. Not replying to his messages makes me think you just want to end it with this guy. He's this electronic friend you've known for 5 years and have never met. If things were going to happen it would have already. If you met him in person you would know if you're still interested in the first 10 seconds.
If you still want him in your life simply text him that you didn't go to your mom's house and that maybe you can get together next time. You already haven't replied to his texts, maybe it's time just to cut him off and move on. Block his number, delete social media and focus on yourself. There are plenty of guys in your area to be talking to dudes 3 hours away. Talk about frustrating. I would need to have at least 1 local side ho if my girl was 3 hours away. This isn't a big deal but you made it one, stop worrying. You didn't do anything wrong! Long distance relationships can suck. I hope that you just move on!
So many people waiting years talking to people online. The day comes that they meet is the day they never talk to each other again. It's a waste, meet in person within the first few weeks, if he can't do that he's not compatible.
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| 3/15/2015 12:33:08 AM |
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soulflight
Dayton, OH
53, joined Apr. 2014
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Just remember this the next time there's a thread about why men/women "flake out" or "stop communicating"
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| 3/15/2015 12:36:09 AM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
63, joined Oct. 2009
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He comes off like a stalker. Something creepy about that guy. Next time don't mention your plans to him and be a lot slower to respond to his messages.
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| 3/15/2015 12:36:29 AM |
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boombap_808
Los Angeles, CA
40, joined Jan. 2015
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How can I elegantly yet concisely phrase this?
Op, u a b*tch !
Nailed it!
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| 3/15/2015 1:43:23 AM |
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miscbyproduct
Isle Of Man
United Kingdom
18, joined Apr. 2012
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your 46 and can't be adult enough to tell him?
you suck.
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| 3/15/2015 2:11:35 AM |
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browneyz
San Diego, CA
58, joined Jan. 2008
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He is a fantasy, fantasies don't like the bright light of reality. If you meet you spoil your fantasy.
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| 3/15/2015 2:15:07 AM |
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acdmv
Scarsdale, NY
47, joined Aug. 2014
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I've always like you OP, but it's long past the time to make this meeting happen. I don't think either party is "wrong"; it's just time to make it right...
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| 3/15/2015 2:15:48 AM |
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miscbyproduct
Isle Of Man
United Kingdom
18, joined Apr. 2012
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oh!
well then,
the changes everything and makes it all ok to be chickenshit.
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| 3/15/2015 3:09:36 AM |
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lucky_1million
Pewaukee, WI
48, joined Jun. 2013
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If you didn't set a specific date and time to meet... it was just a "maybe" date.
They don't really count.
However, it is good to return messages within a reasonable amount of time... especially when dealing with friends...unless the person sent you a message that does not deserve a response like... "Nice boobs". 
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| 3/15/2015 4:33:55 AM |
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cavie59
Enid, OK
55, joined Feb. 2010
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I came in contact with a friend..lives about three hours from me.
We met online about five years ago.
Not here.
Had good conversations over the phone, but never met in person.
I told him about couple weeks ago that i might go visit my mother which is about an hour from him.
He suggested i come through on my way to see my mother..i told him....maybe.
Every since, he has texted me a few times every other day, ive responded and that was that.
He texted me last night...i didnt respond. Called me today...i didnt return the call.
I didn't go see my mom....but why didnt i tell him that?
Is this wrong?
So, you got someones hopes up, then changed your mind and could not tell him. Women do that to men all the time and think it is alright. Now let a man do that to a woman and see how fast he is labeled an uncaring cad.
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| 3/15/2015 4:41:38 AM |
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love_heels69
Chicago, IL
29, joined May. 2014
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Yeah you was wrong and need to contact him and let him know
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| 3/15/2015 5:06:49 AM |
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yetskimama
Walterboro, SC
64, joined Sep. 2011
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You should give him the courtesy of a phone call.JMO
This.....
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| 3/15/2015 5:34:21 AM |
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Elisa78
GhurianAlmerÃa
Spain
36, joined Jan. 2015
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You stated that he's "a friend". Friends should be honest with each other.
yep, n it no point i be so excited.
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| 3/15/2015 5:41:39 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
60, joined Apr. 2011
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Well....you started out talking to him....then left him hanging.
if you thought he was being too fast or you were not sure about meeting him.
its better to have told him.
but your the one who brought up you would be near him soon.
So that suggest you want to meet...all he was doing was playing up to what you seemed to have suggested.
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| 3/15/2015 5:47:40 AM |
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urealysucklol
San Benito, TX
43, joined Jul. 2014
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I came in contact with a friend..lives about three hours from me.
We met online about five years ago.
Not here.
Had good conversations over the phone, but never met in person.
I told him about couple weeks ago that i might go visit my mother which is about an hour from him.
He suggested i come through on my way to see my mother..i told him....maybe.
Every since, he has texted me a few times every other day, ive responded and that was that.
He texted me last night...i didnt respond. Called me today...i didnt return the call.
I didn't go see my mom....but why didnt i tell him that?
Is this wrong?
wow ur f**ked up 
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| 3/15/2015 6:12:35 AM |
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beautifulfire08
Antioch, TN
56, joined Aug. 2013
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I don't have a clue why you didn't tell him that. It's not wrong but ignoring him is very inconsiderate.
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| 3/15/2015 6:25:57 AM |
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urealysucklol
San Benito, TX
43, joined Jul. 2014
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At least now he knows ur a f**ked up stupid b*tch
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| 3/15/2015 6:37:02 AM |
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gavinnall
Bear Creek, NC
31, joined Oct. 2014
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I came in contact with a friend..lives about three hours from me.
We met online about five years ago.
Not here.
Had good conversations over the phone, but never met in person.
I told him about couple weeks ago that i might go visit my mother which is about an hour from him.
He suggested i come through on my way to see my mother..i told him....maybe.
Every since, he has texted me a few times every other day, ive responded and that was that.
He texted me last night...i didnt respond. Called me today...i didnt return the call.
I didn't go see my mom....but why didnt i tell him that?
Is this wrong?
See this is why god said look after the woman,,,,they don't know right from wrong.
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| 3/15/2015 6:37:34 AM |
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gavinnall
Bear Creek, NC
31, joined Oct. 2014
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At least now he knows ur a f**ked up stupid b*tch
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| 3/15/2015 6:41:39 AM |
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gmidas
Moreno Valley, CA
44, joined Mar. 2012
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Honestly, if a female were to behave that way with me, I wouldn't bother speaking to her again even if she called to apologize or explain. I would consider it to be a sign that she's not into me or has deeper issues and I'd move on. There are sooooo many single women out there. Why waste time on one who flakes out?
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| 3/15/2015 6:41:51 AM |
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msangelrn69
Aberdeen, NC
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| 3/15/2015 6:46:19 AM |
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urealysucklol
San Benito, TX
43, joined Jul. 2014
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Stupid b*tch poor guy, he just wanted a friend instead he got a succubus wh*re who sank her claws into his heart, yanked it out now drained it wit her fangs, then put it back in upside down n backwards,
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| 3/15/2015 7:45:51 AM |
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vagmasterflash
Durand, WI
49, joined Nov. 2014
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I smell karma coming.
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| 3/15/2015 7:47:45 AM |
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nothingneeded
Johnston, IA
46, joined Sep. 2014
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Let me explain more for the ones that think i did so wrong.
A couple weeks ago...i got a new phone.
My contacts was listed twice, so i started deleting.
Came across his name and i texted him.
He rememered me...we had not talked in years...maybe four.
I changed my number but he still had his.
We talked for a couple hours...he remembered a lot from the last time we talked...even asked about my kids.
He was telling me i should come visit...i told him i don't go looking for men...let alone drive three hours.
However..i told him i was thinking about going to see my mother...he then suggested i stop by.
Hes a good guy...we used to talk for hours all the time.
But we stopped talking long before i changed my phone number.
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| 3/15/2015 7:49:39 AM |
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nothingneeded
Johnston, IA
46, joined Sep. 2014
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And i did text him last night.
He said no worries glad you texted.
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| 3/15/2015 7:50:43 AM |
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Champaree
Australian Capital
Australia
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If he is such a "good Guy" then why didnt you phone him back and return the courtesy.
YOU should have some basic good manners about this. You didn't show any class.. 
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| 3/15/2015 7:51:14 AM |
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Champaree
Australian Capital
Australia
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And i did text him last night.
He said no worries glad you texted.
Well you didnt say that in your initial post
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| 3/15/2015 7:53:08 AM |
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bill_i_am2
FPO, AP
52, joined Apr. 2010
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It's still, WRONG, INCONSIDERATE, NOT POLITE, UNFRIENDLY, THOUGHTLESS, ................
No matter how your continually unfolding story evolves 
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| 3/15/2015 7:53:56 AM |
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nothingneeded
Johnston, IA
46, joined Sep. 2014
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Well you didnt say that in your initial post
I texted him after the post.
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| 3/15/2015 7:55:28 AM |
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Champaree
Australian Capital
Australia
84, joined Jan. 2015
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It's still, WRONG, INCONSIDERATE, NOT POLITE, UNFRIENDLY, THOUGHTLESS, ................
No matter how your continually unfolding story evolves
Hey Mr Green....
I saw you answered my post the other day (about the 12 incher)and I did not retort... (but it was funny) 
Hope you have a brilliant day!
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| 3/15/2015 7:56:23 AM |
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nothingneeded
Johnston, IA
46, joined Sep. 2014
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If he is such a "good Guy" then why didnt you phone him back and return the courtesy.
YOU should have some basic good manners about this. You didn't show any class..
You're right
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| 3/15/2015 7:58:35 AM |
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bill_i_am2
FPO, AP
52, joined Apr. 2010
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Hey Mr Green....
I saw you answered my post the other day (about the 12 incher)and I did not retort... (but it was funny)
Hope you have a brilliant day!
AUSSIE, AUSSIE, AUSSIE !!
No worries here on your non retort 
All is well as I hope it is with You
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| 3/15/2015 8:02:13 AM |
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micheleisgreat
Pittsburgh, PA
52, joined Nov. 2013
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It's still, WRONG, INCONSIDERATE, NOT POLITE, UNFRIENDLY, THOUGHTLESS, ................
No matter how your continually unfolding story evolves
He's right. And you texted him after everyone told you that you were wrong. Still rude.
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| 3/15/2015 8:02:53 AM |
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Champaree
Australian Capital
Australia
84, joined Jan. 2015
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AUSSIE, AUSSIE, AUSSIE !!
No worries here on your non retort
All is well as I hope it is with You
Yes good, thank you. I Enjoy reading you, even though sometimes you make me cringe but you always bring a smile to my face..
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| 3/15/2015 8:03:33 AM |
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txrose64
Pearland, TX
51, joined Jan. 2013
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in what world do you live in that you think it's OK to respond to someone like this?
not very Texan gentleman
and whoever called her a b*tch...while it's a breach in etiquette not letting the guy know..I don't think it warrants that kind of verbage really...I mean if she went out with another guy instead, or led on three or so and didn't tell them..maybe but even then. Come on guys..YOU class it up too.
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| 3/15/2015 8:13:42 AM |
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nothingneeded
Johnston, IA
46, joined Sep. 2014
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He's right. And you texted him after everyone told you that you were wrong. Still rude.
I already felt bad...when i created the thread.
Just for the simple reason of not responding.
When he called yesterday...i was busy.
When he texted Friday...i was sleep.
Call it what you want....but he will talk to me again and it wont be me calling.
Thats the thing....im not really looking to date...and he knows this.
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| 3/15/2015 8:19:55 AM |
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yetskimama
Walterboro, SC
64, joined Sep. 2011
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Op, this thread didn't go to well
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| 3/15/2015 8:22:00 AM |
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acdmv
Scarsdale, NY
47, joined Aug. 2014
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^^
Took some guts to put it up and lay it all out there, though..
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| 3/15/2015 8:32:11 AM |
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patriottype
Lubbock, TX
44, joined Jul. 2013
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And i did text him last night.
He said no worries glad you texted.
A man would say this.....but you did hurt him and he now knows he is less important to you than he once thought.....we men don't like to make nuisances of ourselves and we avoid women that hurt us.....
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| 3/15/2015 8:33:26 AM |
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bill_i_am2
FPO, AP
52, joined Apr. 2010
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Yes good, thank you. I Enjoy reading you, even though sometimes you make me cringe but you always bring a smile to my face..
Yeah I've gotta work on that " cringing " thingy butt<<---- sometimes it's warranted
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| 3/15/2015 8:34:07 AM |
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acdmv
Scarsdale, NY
47, joined Aug. 2014
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How did she do that Pat? They never met (yet) and she said she might go and meet him...no promises were made...
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| 3/15/2015 8:40:42 AM |
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bill_i_am2
FPO, AP
52, joined Apr. 2010
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A man would say this.....but you did hurt him and he now knows he is less important to you than he once thought.....we men don't like to make nuisances of ourselves and we avoid women that hurt us.....
A REAL man doesn't get all hurt and bothered when a woman says maybe she'll
stop by for a meet 'n' greet and then doesn't call or text butt <<---->> it still is a
bit rude of her not toooooooo 
Stop being such a Sally and start being a Saul 
Damn you metro-sexual men who ruin it for us rough 'n' tumble types
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| 3/15/2015 8:42:49 AM |
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urealysucklol
San Benito, TX
43, joined Jul. 2014
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in what world do you live in that you think it's OK to respond to someone like this?
not very Texan gentleman
and whoever called her a b*tch...while it's a breach in etiquette not letting the guy know..I don't think it warrants that kind of verbage really...I mean if she went out with another guy instead, or led on three or so and didn't tell them..maybe but even then. Come on guys..YOU class it up too. 
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| 3/15/2015 8:42:59 AM |
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patriottype
Lubbock, TX
44, joined Jul. 2013
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How did she do that Pat? They never met (yet) and she said she might go and meet him...no promises were made...
This post makes me think you're an idiot regardless of your gender or sexual orientation.
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| 3/15/2015 8:46:25 AM |
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urealysucklol
San Benito, TX
43, joined Jul. 2014
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I already felt bad...when i created the thread.
Just for the simple reason of not responding.
When he called yesterday...i was busy.
When he texted Friday...i was sleep.
Call it what you want....but he will talk to me again and it wont be me calling.
Thats the thing....im not really looking to date...and he knows this.
if u feel bad you'll give him a free Bj n swallow ,
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| 3/15/2015 8:47:28 AM |
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patriottype
Lubbock, TX
44, joined Jul. 2013
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A REAL man doesn't get all hurt and bothered when a woman says maybe she'll
stop by for a meet 'n' greet and then doesn't call or text butt <<---->> it still is a
bit rude of her not toooooooo
Stop being such a Sally and start being a Saul
Damn you metro-sexual men who ruin it for us rough 'n' tumble types
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| 3/15/2015 8:52:59 AM |
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patriottype
Lubbock, TX
44, joined Jul. 2013
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How did she do that Pat? They never met (yet) and she said she might go and meet him...no promises were made...
We aren't speaking about a bussiness contract or deal where a man might lose all his money....NO THIS IS A GAMBLE WITH A MANS HEART.....I would much rather be broke than broken hearted.
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