| 3/27/2015 9:36:46 AM |
My ex husband new marriage failing calls me. |
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jheneaiko
Pleasanton, TX
37, joined Oct. 2014
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my exhusband recently contacted me we have been divorced 4yrs but not together for about 14-15 yrs. he was always a d*ck when his recent wife was around and he never used to be that way. he told ne about whats going on hes unhappy he apologized for everything bad hes ever done to hurt me and said i didn't deserve that. says he has missed me he still loves me and thats why he hated me so much and because the life he gave his new wife should have been us. his recent wife is very plain and recently he helped her get a job and bought hera car now shes treating him shitty and getting dressed up and perfume i just listened didn't instigate i tried to help him change his mind of leaving her but he insists its over. i have wanted this chance for so long again to be with him and have our family again but under these circumstances i don't know what to think. he's hurting and i can't stand to see or hear him that way. everyone says we were meant to be together since we were together at 16-17 we should not have divorced but we did. we're older now and would go about things differently and we talked about it but i can't have him just coming back to me because hes not happy with her hes 36 im 34 we do still love each other this woman was supposedly his high school sweetheart first love but now hes not sure. theres alot more to it she has 5-6 kids he been taking care of and they aren't appreciating what hes done for them and she talks shit about our boys which are just about grown 16-17 hers are still little youngest is 6. and she has not been intimate with him in 4 mths. she just worries about if he has a beer or not.. she should be worried about more then that right now. it's a dream me and him have wanted never wanted to lose but not this way what is your opinions? i still love him dearly but don't want to make matters worse they have no children together 
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| 4/4/2015 12:10:04 AM |
My ex husband new marriage failing calls me. |
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bedek40
Stockbridge, GA
52, joined Nov. 2013
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Since you asked... he should get out, and you should stay out. Bouncing from one lady to another hardly ever works (read: never). If he can get out; live with himself for awhile, and be happy with it without either of you; then maybe you might think about it.
Personally from your description of your past with him, and his present; he needs some alone time, but it sounds like you will jump given the chance. In my never to be humble opinion, you shouldn't. but that's just my opinion. Good luck.
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| 4/22/2015 10:48:10 PM |
My ex husband new marriage failing calls me. |
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prettylittlebbw
Stroudsburg, PA
45, joined Apr. 2015
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Don't mess with a married man. Never make yourself the reason they leave. Doesn't matter if you know him. Let him figure out his own business for himself.
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| 4/24/2015 4:31:35 PM |
My ex husband new marriage failing calls me. |
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pickygirl72
Pinon Hills, CA
46, joined Sep. 2011
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Stay divorced. Be a friend. and do not get too involved in his affairs(life). He is being nice to you cause his life sucks. Watch yourself. You guys divorced for a reason, remember that reason
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| 4/26/2015 6:40:40 PM |
My ex husband new marriage failing calls me. |
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jheneaiko
Pleasanton, TX
37, joined Oct. 2014
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Thanx everyone for the replies ibwas just tht a ear for him and told him he needed to either make it work with her or leave but there was no me and him he is ny ex husband and father of my children and I'm glad I made the right choice and so did he
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| 4/30/2015 11:00:59 PM |
My ex husband new marriage failing calls me. |
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ms_holland
Danville, AL
53, joined Mar. 2014
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Op, you can't go backwards. We all live with regrets and say to ourselves, what if....
Your ex needs to get his life back on track and not be running to you when there are problems. He needs to stand on his own two feet and not use you as an emotional crutch.
If you ask me, he is using you as an option. If he leaves his current wife, in the back of his mind he still has you to fall back on.
Now this is what I would ask myself, why would I want to take back a man that considers me his option and back up woman?
You deserve more than that. You owe yourself to find the right man that truly treasures you for you and not because you are being taken for granted.
Don't let this man play on your emotions. Make him put his big boy pants on and stop leaning on you.
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| 5/4/2015 6:33:45 PM |
My ex husband new marriage failing calls me. |
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ladybugruth58
Patton, PA
58, joined Feb. 2014
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When my ex husbands second marriage was failing, he called me... I told him straight out, I am not part of his marriage and wont enter into it... I suspect that is how he had affairs in our marriage, wanting sympathy... Don't go back, don't give in... it doesn't ever change.
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| 5/9/2015 1:13:28 AM |
My ex husband new marriage failing calls me. |
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prettylittlebbw
Stroudsburg, PA
45, joined Apr. 2015
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When the past calls, don't answer. It has nothing new to say.
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| 5/20/2015 12:29:39 AM |
My ex husband new marriage failing calls me. |
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pickygirl72
Pinon Hills, CA
46, joined Sep. 2011
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He is probably only turning to you because you are formular to him. And you seem to be forgetting the bad side of the relationship. You can be a friend but DO NOT get too involved or go back with him.
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