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baldhead1va
Richmond, VA
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for a woman to ask a man for money early on in the relationship just because you're dating & having sex?
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be_great
Houston, TX
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Had that happened to me. It's kinda tacky on their part to do so, so early in the meet.
I'd give it but at the same time, it shed light on who she is, early on. Just go with your instinct, though. 
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snarky__muffin
Sichuan
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I guess if you're that desperate for money, you'll ask anyone. 
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riflessivo
AlmafuerteStaffordshire
United Kingdom
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for a woman to ask a man for money early on in the relationship just because you're dating & having sex?
Why would she ask at any point?.
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jlyinc
Chaska, MN
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Not something I would do.
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mindya
Vancouver, BC
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Is she asking for help or payment for sex?
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inknpink
Castle Rock, CO
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Def not appropriate. Don't expect someone to give you steak if you can only afford hotdogs yourself! 
Unless she's a hooker, then 5 dolls to make him holla!
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baldhead1va
Richmond, VA
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Why would she ask at any point?.
Rifle I have to admit, It was a little uncomfortable & disappointing because I really like this girl.
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riflessivo
AlmafuerteStaffordshire
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Rifle I have to admit, It was a little uncomfortable & disappointing because I really like this girl.
I get it Feisty. I don't get asking for it. The only man I have ever asked for money from and paid back is my own father.
I don't know it's called a sense of pride.
Did you give her money?
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love2kiss8
Columbus, OH
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No it's like a hurricane effect if you give a little they might ask for a lot. I never gave money to a guy and never asked for any either when i was in a relationship in the past. It would be a major turn off for me. I want someone who is financially stable like I am.
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grneyesrme
Sacramento, CA
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Nope!
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idliketotalk
Punxsutawney, PA
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There could be a situation where it is appropriate. For instance if you are at the bar and you ask her to play some music on the jukebox.
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baldhead1va
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I get it Feisty. I don't get asking for it. The only man I have ever asked for money from and paid back is my own father.
I don't know it's called a sense of pride.
Did you give her money?
No not yet, but I'm torn/conflicted...
She specifically asked if I could GIVE her $250-$300 spending money towards her Jamaica trip with her girlfriends.
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| 4/2/2015 6:35:24 PM |
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mindya
Vancouver, BC
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Appropriate depends on the reason - a loan till payday or an unexpected emergency - I'd consider it.
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| 4/2/2015 6:36:05 PM |
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miscbyproduct
Isle Of Man
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yes it is
BUT THAT CAN BE CUT THROAT.
I don't have a problem with a fairly new INVESTED date/gf ASKING FOR HELP.
part of that is friendship.
part of being a friend is helping, consulting/advising, and consideration of each's best interest.
if a friend gets i a bid, they can call me for help.
how much and what kind of help depends what i am capable of, how good of a friend, how much help, in what way, whats reasonable and sensible.
someone i am romantic with, gets that too and under the same basic consideration.
cause friendship is part of being a lover
so i would consider helping, depending how,the amount, level, and vs level of relationship. ONE OF THE THINGS THAT'D BE PART OF THAT CONSIDERING IS, has she doen anything to help me? ain't ever offered to cook me a meal, volunteered a helping hand if hanging at the house all day/weekend, bothered to make or bring me a glass of tea, etc... she probably wasting her breathe asking for help.
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mindya
Vancouver, BC
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No not yet, but I'm torn/conflicted...
She specifically asked if I could GIVE her $250-$300 spending money towards her Jamaica trip with her girlfriends.
So what has sex got anything to do with this?
Why didn't you mention this in the opening post...
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love2kiss8
Columbus, OH
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No not yet, but I'm torn/conflicted...
She specifically asked if I could GIVE her $250-$300 spending money towards her Jamaica trip with her girlfriends.
I could understand something super emergency related like $50 because she isn't working and needs some clothes for a job interview very important. But the trip is rather miscellaneous not something urgent I wouldn't but it's your choice. I would tell them to save up for it.
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idliketotalk
Punxsutawney, PA
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No not yet, but I'm torn/conflicted...
She specifically asked if I could GIVE her $250-$300 spending money towards her Jamaica trip with her girlfriends.
In that case I'd think no.
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be_great
Houston, TX
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@idlik,
Appropriate "early" in the relationship, though??
It's tacky to me, and shed light about her. And she asking for money because they had sex.
So, you're looking at a chick that may feel she only need to bring to the table one thing: what the good Lord gave her.
You won't be able to build anything with a Woman like that because she's gonna be a high-maintenance type...and overboard with it.
Just me-think.
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riflessivo
AlmafuerteStaffordshire
United Kingdom
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No not yet, but I'm torn/conflicted...
She specifically asked if I could GIVE her $250-$300 spending money towards her Jamaica trip with her girlfriends.
Nope Feisty, you don't give her a penny. Once you start it will be an expectation.
She wants to go with her girlfriends. She can find the money. You are not responsible for her choices or maintaining a lifestyle it seems she can not afford.
You're not an ATM.
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be_great
Houston, TX
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No not yet, but I'm torn/conflicted...
She specifically asked if I could GIVE her $250-$300 spending money towards her Jamaica trip with her girlfriends.
Aww hell naw, bro. Leave that chick alone, man. 
She might look good and hot as hell...and she's using that to get around.
I thought it was $50.00 and less. But $250 to $300???
Tell her: when can you pay me back?
If she trip about that, she ain't about nothing but pimping you.
Y'all aren't committed on a serious level to be asking for that much.
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baldhead1va
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We'll let me add this little wrinkle...
She's an EX girlfriend who I've recently started seeing again, is that a game changer, or still inappropriate?
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| 4/2/2015 6:46:26 PM |
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riflessivo
AlmafuerteStaffordshire
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We'll let me add this little wrinkle...
She's an EX girlfriend who I've recently started seeing again, is that a game changer, or still inappropriate?
Still very wrong
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| 4/2/2015 6:47:27 PM |
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jer3552
Vale, OR
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Baldy we already told u not to go back to her....now she putting the touch on u for moola...run buddy run 
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im2thexy
Belleville, ON
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Money for a trip?...I would say no...if she can't afford all her expenses..she shouldnt be going...
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be_great
Houston, TX
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I agree with Rife.
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baldhead1va
Richmond, VA
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Still very wrong
Ok I thought so too, just wasn't sure.
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baldhead1va
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Baldy we already told u not to go back to her.. ..now she putting the touch on u for moola...run buddy run
Trueeee
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| 4/2/2015 6:50:23 PM |
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renee398
Chilhowie, VA
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Just tell her that you were getting ready to ask her for $500.
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mindya
Vancouver, BC
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We'll let me add this little wrinkle...
She's an EX girlfriend who I've recently started seeing again, is that a game changer, or still inappropriate?
I see you keep moving the goal posts around..
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riflessivo
AlmafuerteStaffordshire
United Kingdom
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Ok I thought so too, just wasn't sure.
Darlin, unless you are living with another person as in partner or spouse. Your money is your own business.
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| 4/2/2015 6:54:10 PM |
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txrose64
Pearland, TX
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I don't think it's appropriate for EITHER party to be asking for money ever, until we're an "us" under one roof/living together/married unless it's something that was prearranged to be reimbursed or something like that. PERIOD.
it's NOT about the money and especially if you keep it that way.
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txrose64
Pearland, TX
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We'll let me add this little wrinkle...
She's an EX girlfriend who I've recently started seeing again, is that a game changer, or still inappropriate?
oh and she's using you. Your last name is "paycheck"(sorry forgot to add that)
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esmeraldar
Toms River, NJ
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In general not. But sometimes a person might need a loan. Like maybe they just started a new job and won't be payed for two weeks. I've had to ask friends for help in that situation. But I never asked for very much and always pay it back.
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casheyesblond
Belmont, NC
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hey baldhead1va let me hold a dollar
just joking
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rocky_dennis
Delaware City, DE
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Is it appropriate? I hold people to the same standards, I hold myself too. If I wouldn't do what she did, that's my answer. I wouldn't, so to me it wouldn't be appropriate.
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sinkenloe
Troy, NY
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No
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lovetodoit
Buffalo, MO
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I don't mind buying dinner drinks paying the way to events , but I'm not giving up cash if that's the deal she's a hooker . I'm not that dude.
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baldhead1va
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Ok so my answer to her should be NO because it sets a bad precedence!
Besides I'm the one footing the bill everytime we go out:
Dinner
Movies
Bowling
Concerts
Clubs
Drinks
I NEVER ask her to pay!
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renee398
Chilhowie, VA
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You should start asking her to pay some,at least once in awhile. Just to check her reaction. 
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baldhead1va
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You should start asking her to pay some,at least once in awhile. Just to check her reaction.
I've been dating a long time, I have yet to find a woman who WANTS to pay on a date.
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Champaree
Australian Capital
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NO.
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wench_doctor789
Atlanta, GA
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I ask that he buys me a dollar gift once a week
Yes, I am a dollar digger
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miscbyproduct
Isle Of Man
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She specifically asked if I could GIVE her $250-$300 spending money towards her Jamaica trip with her girlfriends.
that, i would not do.
it is not a "need"
most likely i'd dump her over it
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riflessivo
AlmafuerteStaffordshire
United Kingdom
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Ok so my answer to her should be NO because it sets a bad precedence!
Besides I'm the one footing the bill everytime we go out:
Dinner
Movies
Bowling
Concerts
Clubs
Drinks
I NEVER ask her to pay!
See? It's nice that you pay for her when you go out but now and again she should treat you.
Instead she's taking the piss.
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txrose64
Pearland, TX
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No not yet, but I'm torn/conflicted...
She specifically asked if I could GIVE her $250-$300 spending money towards her Jamaica trip with her girlfriends.
are you sure it's with her girlfriends?
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miscbyproduct
Isle Of Man
United Kingdom
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you could LOAN her the money, have her fill out a auto lean form
see how she fills about it then
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| 4/2/2015 7:27:18 PM |
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baldhead1va
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are you sure it's with her girlfriends?
Yes I'm pretty sure about that.
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jjbriteyes
High Springs, FL
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Not appropriate at all
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lucky_1million
Pewaukee, WI
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NO NEVER!!!
Sort of sounds like a female player.
If you were going on the trip too... maybe it would be a different story.
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| 4/3/2015 12:38:43 AM |
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skywatcher58
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Yes if she's gonna pay him back.
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| 4/3/2015 12:41:06 AM |
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mindya
Vancouver, BC
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If one on my lady friends asked for some money for a trip - I probably would cough up the dough - I ain't broke and friends to me are worth treating.
I just gave $160 to a friend of mines daughter that was struggling. Her parents are pensioners and don't have much spare cash. They all were extremely grateful.
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im2thexy
Belleville, ON
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If one on my lady friends asked for some money for a trip - I probably would cough up the dough - I ain't broke and friends to me are worth treating.
I just gave $160 to a friend of mines daughter that was struggling. Her parents are pensioners and don't have much spare cash. They all were extremely grateful.
Mind that's awesome...
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| 4/3/2015 12:43:56 AM |
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skywatcher58
Topeka, KS
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@Bald thats a lot of money will she pay you back?
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| 4/3/2015 2:07:33 AM |
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baldhead1va
Richmond, VA
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@Bald thats a lot of money will she pay you back?
No she didn't ask to borrow it.
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| 4/3/2015 2:13:12 AM |
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jlyinc
Chaska, MN
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I feel like if you are planning a trip you should be smart enough to account for spending money as well.
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letitridegirl
Louisville, KY
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I feel like if you are planning a trip you should be smart enough to account for spending money as well.[/quote Well yea both should go in it only fair
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baldhead1va
Richmond, VA
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I feel like if you are planning a trip you should be smart enough to account for spending money as well.
I agree!
I'm really not a cheapskate; I just wished she never ask me that so soon, it really changes the way i look at her and the relationship.
I also keep hearing in my head how women don't want no broke a$$ man; I have it to give, but I don't like being put on the spot. Would be all together different if I VOLUNTEERED to give her the money without her asking.
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jlyinc
Chaska, MN
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Regardless if you have it to give or not, it just shows poor planning and perhaps greediness on her part.
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a4umposter
San Antonio, TX
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If one on my lady friends asked for some money for a trip - I probably would cough up the dough - I ain't broke and friends to me are worth treating.
I just gave $160 to a friend of mines daughter that was struggling. Her parents are pensioners and don't have much spare cash. They all were extremely grateful.
You're very generous.
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