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ilovepoodles55
Schererville, IN
53, joined Feb. 2015
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Do you prefer a woman who is emotionally strong or a woman who is vulnerable because she is not over an abusive X?
Please be honest and no one get mean.
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| 4/13/2015 5:26:16 PM |
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archer513
Cincinnati, OH
40, joined Dec. 2014
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Emotionally strong would be the less crazy one.
Emotional=nut job
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| 4/13/2015 5:26:57 PM |
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jer3552
Vale, OR
60, joined Oct. 2013
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I love an emotionally strong woman....don't care at all to be with one that isn't over her X yet 
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| 4/13/2015 5:27:47 PM |
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max811
Palmetto, FL
34, joined Aug. 2010
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So you expect the guys that pray on vulnerable abused women not to get mean....Interesting.....
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| 4/13/2015 5:27:55 PM |
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legendary_j420
Cicero, IL
23, joined Aug. 2014
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Vulnerable obviously
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| 4/13/2015 5:30:59 PM |
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chris_90352
Sykesville, MD
42, joined Sep. 2010
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I've tried the not-over-an-abusive-past thing a couple times.
In fact, I seem to be a magnet for them.
Which worries me, because I apparently seem like their type.
In any case, I find it a bit unsettling and awkward. I'll consider it on a case-by-case basis, but I think I'd rather go for someone without the history of abuse in most cases.
Your mileage, as usual, may vary.
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| 4/13/2015 5:31:55 PM |
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stl1
Saint Louis, MO
61, joined Jun. 2007
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Can I settle for sane?
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| 4/13/2015 5:34:46 PM |
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amargosa
Riddle, OR
57, joined Aug. 2011
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Strong. I avoid women with previous relationship issues like the plague.
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| 4/13/2015 5:36:55 PM |
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ratredux
Meers, OK
67, joined Dec. 2014
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I prefer women who don't have pink dogs.
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| 4/13/2015 5:37:28 PM |
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slutfoluv
Colorado Springs, CO
36, joined Jan. 2011
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Balanced would be nice
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| 4/13/2015 5:37:32 PM |
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dacheesewhiz
Houston, TX
34, joined Jan. 2015
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^ that
Last two.
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| 4/13/2015 5:51:52 PM |
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gothygoogoo
Corning, CA
57, joined Feb. 2015
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Do you prefer a woman who is emotionally strong or a woman who is vulnerable because she is not over an abusive X?
Please be honest and no one get mean.
some abuses are deeper and not from an x...
i deal with the individual woman and her feelings...
don't go searching for any that i have ever been attuned to or preferred I guess?
i have attracted those that have their shit together,
but don't really deep inside...
i'm the same way though...
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| 4/13/2015 5:53:32 PM |
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ohdannyboy59
Arlington, TX
55, joined Sep. 2012
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Somewhere in the middle. Extremes are rarely good.
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| 4/13/2015 5:54:06 PM |
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darthcapital2
North York, ON
45, joined Mar. 2015
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If a woman feels that she is vulnerable because of abusive relationship, well she has no business dating, she should consider "therapy" over dating.
A emotionally strong woman is welcomed by most stable well adjusted man, no stable man wants to date someone that isnt over their abusive ex.
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| 4/13/2015 5:58:42 PM |
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eyesofmedusa
San Antonio, TX
50, joined Jun. 2012
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Hi Op...
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| 4/13/2015 6:07:04 PM |
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ilovepoodles55
Schererville, IN
53, joined Feb. 2015
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Thank you, your answer shows that you are emotionally healthy.
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| 4/13/2015 6:09:25 PM |
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jer3552
Vale, OR
60, joined Oct. 2013
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tyvm
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| 4/13/2015 6:09:34 PM |
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ilovepoodles55
Schererville, IN
53, joined Feb. 2015
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Greetings eyesofmedusa !
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| 4/13/2015 6:11:24 PM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
56, joined May. 2009
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So, is that the only reason a woman can be or should be vulnerable? Is vulnerable always a bad thing?
Is there something specific that makes you create this thread? It kind of seems as though you're trying to call someone out for a choice they made.
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| 4/13/2015 6:13:16 PM |
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numbersor_only
Austin, TX
55, joined Nov. 2014
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The emotional strength that follows recovery from abuse is otherwise known as out for revenge. I will stay out from between these two particular bookends.
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| 4/13/2015 6:13:21 PM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
56, joined May. 2009
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As I reread that, it sounds harsh. I don't mean to be. I'm just curious, because it's a curious choice of extremes.
I cannot imagine anyone wanting to date someone who is not over a previous relationship, no matter what kind of relationship it was.
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| 4/13/2015 6:13:49 PM |
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im2thexy
Belleville, ON
47, joined Dec. 2014
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I dont think it's the only way a woman can be vulnerable...in fact the only way you will be able to really get inside each other and learn about each other in any deep way is to both be vulnerable to each other...
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| 4/13/2015 6:29:51 PM |
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ol39er
Cicero, IL
43, joined Jul. 2011
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I'd prefer a woman who's emotionally strong, and above all, EMOTIONALLY STABLE.
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| 4/13/2015 6:37:47 PM |
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sir_hugo_drax
Big Timber, MT
23, joined Apr. 2014
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I would prefer a Bentley over a Yugo
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| 4/13/2015 7:03:48 PM |
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ilovepoodles55
Schererville, IN
53, joined Feb. 2015
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As I reread that, it sounds harsh. I don't mean to be. I'm just curious, because it's a curious choice of extremes.
I cannot imagine anyone wanting to date someone who is not over a previous relationship, no matter what kind of relationship it was.
Because my guy buddies date women that are an emotional train crash. I talk to guys that tell me they like to rescue women.
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| 4/13/2015 7:06:59 PM |
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gothygoogoo
Corning, CA
57, joined Feb. 2015
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Because my guy buddies date women that are an emotional train crash. I talk to guys that tell me they like to rescue women.
white
night
syndrome...?
i am not one of those!!! 
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| 4/13/2015 7:08:54 PM |
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rescueranger245
Windsor, VA
61, joined Apr. 2011
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Honestly...I have dated both. The strong ones want to control you and seem to be a bit bossy at times. The one who once had an abusive X would jump every time I made an unexpected move near her. She ended up going back to her X.
Can I have one somewhere from the middle please?
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| 4/13/2015 7:09:39 PM |
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beverduster
La Feria, TX
50, joined Apr. 2008
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i like women with blonde hair
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| 4/13/2015 7:12:10 PM |
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rocky_dennis
Delaware City, DE
34, joined Nov. 2013
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That all depends, on what she considers emotional strong? I prefers women, that help people through and not what they have been or what they can put people through.
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| 4/13/2015 7:13:29 PM |
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jer3552
Vale, OR
60, joined Oct. 2013
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cant rescue an emotionally unstable woman...she will pull u under and drown u too
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| 4/13/2015 7:16:43 PM |
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miscbyproduct
Isle Of Man
United Kingdom
18, joined Apr. 2012
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can't rely on judgement/stories from 3rd-4th parties
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| 4/13/2015 7:17:41 PM |
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rocky_dennis
Delaware City, DE
34, joined Nov. 2013
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can't rely on judgement/stories from 3rd-4th parties
There's three sides to a story, his, hers and the truth.
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| 4/13/2015 7:19:48 PM |
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im2thexy
Belleville, ON
47, joined Dec. 2014
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First off being vulnerable has nothing to do with being emotionally unhealthy...it's called being human...also being emotionally strong doesnt mean that you cant also be vulnerable....unless you are shut off emotionally..then that's a whole other story...
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| 4/13/2015 7:21:50 PM |
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wickedrider
Madison, WI
95, joined Mar. 2009
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i'll be a friend to both, respect both, and enjoy their company, and be a listening ear, but i'm way beyond any intimacy, so the point is moot. it's an "old" thing,and sometimes, a travel thing with me.
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| 4/13/2015 7:23:00 PM |
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jer3552
Vale, OR
60, joined Oct. 2013
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First off being vulnerable has nothing to do with being emotionally unhealthy...it's called being human...also being emotionally strong doesnt mean that you cant also be vulnerable....unless you are shut off emotionally..then that's a whole other story...  
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| 4/13/2015 7:23:46 PM |
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teeheehee_
Montreal, QC
33, joined Jun. 2014
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I don't think men have the right to yell at a woman who's crying/ emotional. I think it's better to feel the emotion and get it over with. It's not healthy to bottle it all up because it might come out a few years later in some unfortunate way for ex. poison in your meatloaf.
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| 4/13/2015 7:25:36 PM |
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teeheehee_
Montreal, QC
33, joined Jun. 2014
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Wanted to clarify that I don't cry everday. Maybe 5-6 tears but that shouldn't count as crying. 
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| 4/13/2015 7:26:54 PM |
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jer3552
Vale, OR
60, joined Oct. 2013
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 cowgirl up
u girls go tell that guy with the hair transplants he looks wonderful
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| 4/13/2015 7:28:54 PM |
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im2thexy
Belleville, ON
47, joined Dec. 2014
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I did see it...but i also stated there is such a thing as being vulnerable outside of abuse...this thread seems to link vulnerability with being abused....when one is not the only cause of the other...im vulnerable right now because i have vertigo...but it wasnt beatin into me...it just is...but it doesnt make me any less vulnerable when i cant walk without being dizzy....
Also emotional strength seems to be linked with not being vulerable and not being vulnerable seems to be linked with being a good thing...being able to be vulnerable with your partner is a strength not a weakness...
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| 4/13/2015 7:29:45 PM |
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ilovepoodles55
Schererville, IN
53, joined Feb. 2015
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The worst dates I had were when a guy spent the entire date talking about his X in a hurt and angry way.
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| 4/13/2015 7:30:33 PM |
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jer3552
Vale, OR
60, joined Oct. 2013
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watching Dr. Phil is paying off at flirty
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| 4/13/2015 7:30:34 PM |
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miscbyproduct
Isle Of Man
United Kingdom
18, joined Apr. 2012
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pffffp crying
might, might not mean sumn
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| 4/13/2015 7:33:24 PM |
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im2thexy
Belleville, ON
47, joined Dec. 2014
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That's not from watching dr. phil...that's from my own experiences...if you cant be vulnerable with your partner..they will never get to know the real you...just the you...you're willing to show them....
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| 4/13/2015 7:37:13 PM |
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jer3552
Vale, OR
60, joined Oct. 2013
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wow im feeling vulnerable now 
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| 4/13/2015 7:38:19 PM |
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teeheehee_
Montreal, QC
33, joined Jun. 2014
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Let it all out!
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| 4/13/2015 7:38:32 PM |
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im2thexy
Belleville, ON
47, joined Dec. 2014
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Yeahhhhhh sure Jer...
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| 4/13/2015 7:39:07 PM |
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jer3552
Vale, OR
60, joined Oct. 2013
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I am u scolded me
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| 4/13/2015 7:40:24 PM |
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teeheehee_
Montreal, QC
33, joined Jun. 2014
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Who me?
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| 4/13/2015 7:40:47 PM |
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im2thexy
Belleville, ON
47, joined Dec. 2014
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i dont scold...i just tell it like it is..and how i feel..deal with it...
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| 4/13/2015 7:41:26 PM |
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jer3552
Vale, OR
60, joined Oct. 2013
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the other Canadian woman
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| 4/13/2015 7:43:18 PM |
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teeheehee_
Montreal, QC
33, joined Jun. 2014
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Ah ok. We take turns playing "good cop/ bad cop" to keep you on your toes. 
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| 4/13/2015 7:43:57 PM |
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jer3552
Vale, OR
60, joined Oct. 2013
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...good Mountie bad mountie
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| 4/13/2015 7:45:53 PM |
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josfsd06
Sioux Falls, SD
56, joined Mar. 2014
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I'm not getting involved with anyone who isn't 'over' her ex. I refuse to pay for the sins of he who came before me.
Emotionally vulnerable is a completely different situation. We are ALL emotionally vulnerable at times. One of the joys of a healthy relationship is that we both get the opportunity to be "the rock".
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| 4/13/2015 7:52:22 PM |
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a4umposter
San Antonio, TX
47, joined Dec. 2014
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If you cant be vulnerable with your partner..they will never get to know the real you...just the you...you're willing to show them....
That's true
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| 4/13/2015 7:55:41 PM |
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im2thexy
Belleville, ON
47, joined Dec. 2014
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Ah ok. We take turns playing "good cop/ bad cop" to keep you on your toes.
Yes...you can be the good cop today...T...im feelin a little like being bad...
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| 4/13/2015 8:01:59 PM |
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teeheehee_
Montreal, QC
33, joined Jun. 2014
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Fine by me. I'm easy to please.
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| 4/13/2015 8:04:06 PM |
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jer3552
Vale, OR
60, joined Oct. 2013
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im an emotional wreck after dealing with u two
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| 4/13/2015 8:06:15 PM |
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dasnixter
Jessieville, AR
57, joined Jul. 2010
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I would prefer not being subjected to abusive ex tales of woe
whether vulnerable or not.
I do not expect ladies to be weak/strong/vulnerable or preying.
I merely expect them to be casual w/o keeping their guard up or posturing as some type that they feel a need to project.
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| 4/13/2015 8:06:25 PM |
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sandycrabs
Greensboro, NC
47, joined May. 2011
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STRONG like BULL. 
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| 4/13/2015 8:07:09 PM |
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teeheehee_
Montreal, QC
33, joined Jun. 2014
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Excellent! that's exactly how we want you- dazed and confused and easy to manipulate. 
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