| 9/5/2007 6:06:52 AM |
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bbw_beauty
Flowery Branch, GA
age: 41
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i'm more of an irregular but here goes: the fact that you have to ask that question to start with makes me think you have doubts already. trust your intuition. if there's a red flag going up odds are there's a reason for it.
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| 9/5/2007 6:25:13 AM |
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lovinglife437
Meadville, PA
age: 44
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I agree with everything here; but I also think to some degree that many of us have been hurt, which rightly makes us cautious - but sometimes overcautious. I have had men treat me like I'm a suspect just for asking a simple question, because of their previous experiences. So my best advice is to be careful - trust and respect are earned - but evaluate whether your suspicions are coming from something he actually did, or from within yourself or from past experiences.
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| 9/5/2007 6:26:49 AM |
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bojo7
Debary, FL
age: 54
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I agree with Beauty----Sounds like you have found a red flag
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| 9/5/2007 8:34:35 AM |
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repochick
Memphis, TN
age: 29
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its not so much that there are any real red flags. Its just more a matter of trying to sort through all the BS floating around to see what is real! We all talk on here and thats no big thing. It's just hard to figure out who is just here to have a good time and who is actually looking for something serious.
This really isnt directed at any one person as of yet. Just talked to several different people on here and never can tell if they are just having a good time or what!
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| 9/5/2007 8:37:03 AM |
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maleofcourse74
Saint Cloud, MN
age: 32
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im being real with ya repochick youre very sexy, youre from the same state as me, and we should talk.
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| 9/5/2007 8:38:56 AM |
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strongslowhand
Washington, DC
age: 46
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Simple. Can you get in touch with him in a variety of ways? Is he there for you? I mean, will he drop everything and be there for you, when its important? If he can't do that, barring an overseas military deployment, I'd wonder why. And, I'd wonder why I'm second.
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| 9/5/2007 8:39:13 AM |
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bevyea
Sanger, TX
age: 55
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Repochick...I agree with all the red flag supporters. However, being played is a very open action. Look to yourself on this one. What did you go into this relationship for, long term or just to have some fun. Most of the time we don't have any idea what's going to happen in any relationship, new or old. When we go out on a date with someone new there's no expectations, no problem, we can walk away for any reason no baggage.
It's almost impossible to do it only online...
I've been married and divorced 3x. At this point in my life I'm treating every moment with a person as if it's the first date. I give 100% and have no expectations!
If it works that day, we both enjoy the time together, when the moments are good then we're one happy time ahead of yesterday. I've learned the hard way to live moment by moment in my relationships. Take them for what they are worth then, red flag, time to walk away, who knows.
BOTTOM LINE......If you don't play in the water you won't get wet. If you don't love you won't get hurt but you also won't know the feeling of being loved...if even only for a minute, being loved is such a wonderful feeling...certainly worth the effort of sorting through the red flags and BS.
People change and relationships change...that's life. You need to decide how you want to live your life...
...for what it's worth.
Bev
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| 9/5/2007 8:39:26 AM |
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angelleyes
Plymouth, MA
age: 34 online now!
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i can understand exactly what ur sayin hun ... i wish i would have payed att to my gut feelings or i wouldnt be here now and i agree with WOLFNBOOTS..........
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| 9/5/2007 8:40:54 AM |
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trublu5ft2
Columbia, TN
age: 50 online now!
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It is trusting of your instincts. You just have to listen to it. The problem is that our mind and heart can easily speak louder than those instincts and get you into trouble. Between the 3... I'd trust my instincts before anything else. Trish
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| 9/5/2007 10:23:46 AM |
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agent05949
Greenville, MI
age: 56
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I agree with Tru..............but then again I seriously doubt I'd ever disagree with HER 
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| 9/5/2007 10:41:38 AM |
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littlelilly2
Sturgeon Bay, WI
age: 46
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Repo I think some of the problem is that we allow ourselfs to believe we could screw up a potential match. Truthfully if any of us meet our true mates on here I would like to think (maybe Im wrong) That life itself would make sure the feelings were so intense they could not be ignored by either. Isnt that what we are truely searching for ? That person we just cant live without? I met someone on here ...thought he was it...he wasnt but I dont regret the experience as I got to know a wonderful man...Got beautiful flowers and an awesome date LOL Yes it hurt but the good was so much greater! Hope this helps a little...
~Lilly~
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| 9/5/2007 10:44:54 AM |
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laurajean
Rolla, MO
age: 26
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Hey Repo! I agree with a lot of people on here I think you should try and talk to him on the phone if you have not done so already you can find out 10x more about a person when you are talking to them, they don't have the time to think about what they are going to say because they know if they pause to long then you are going to know somthing is up... It actually just happend to me I was talking to a guy on here and he seemed like he was all great from what he was typing but then I started talking to him on the phone and pretty much all he wanted was to see how many girls he could get on one of these dating sites, so I told him I wasn't looking for a guy that wants 10 girls I want a man that wants 1 so if you haven't talked to him on phone yet and you like him and want to see where it goes tell him to call you if he has nothing to hide then he will call you in heartbeat and start talking if he does then he will probably make up some excuse.
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| 9/5/2007 11:35:00 AM |
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dreamy4u
Fort Lauderdale, FL
age: 39
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Hi Repo,it is better to be safe than sorry.You don't want to spend all your tome trying to figure out someone.If there is alot of doubt in your mind then leave it alone.The signs are usually right in front of us.It is hard to tell anything about a person through emails,instant messages or even a phonecall.This is a chance we have to take when we visiting this site.Communicate by phone for a while and ask alot of questions and try to pick on the inconsistencies.A liar has no memory.If there is nothing to should get their number without even asking.It all comes down to you and how you feel about the whole thing.Best of luck.
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