| 9/8/2008 8:54:57 PM |
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donovaninsurrey
Surrey, BC
48, joined Jan. 2008
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i am 39 and have been single for almost 11 years due to the fact that i have a very hard time talking to women and get panic attacks if i try and ask them out. is there any hope for a man like me or should i just give up? what do i do?
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| 9/8/2008 9:55:47 PM |
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foxy_woman_49
Omaha, NE
59, joined Nov. 2007
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dont ever give up
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| 9/8/2008 10:00:09 PM |
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donovaninsurrey
Surrey, BC
48, joined Jan. 2008
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i don't know what to do. im so lost. i rarely even leave my house unless its for work or groceries
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| 9/9/2008 1:22:31 AM |
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xxhereiamxx
Coquitlam, BC
27, joined Apr. 2008
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go and get drunk, that usually loosens people up
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| 9/9/2008 8:39:32 AM |
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kickincountry
Minneapolis, MN
98, joined Jun. 2008
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Just be yourself...Talk about general things...Talk to her like a friend...If anything you'll make a friend and maybe more...
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| 9/9/2008 11:25:18 AM |
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jochenb29
Port Moody, BC
38, joined Mar. 2008
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Donovan shyness is simply a slight need for a boost of confidence. So next time when your in front of a woman you'd like to ask out be prepared by boosting your confidence by simply phoning some friends and asking them what they think of you. All their speeches should boost your confidence hopefully just enough to ask the lady out. Best of luck to you...
[Edited 9/9/2008 11:26:52 AM ]
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| 1/15/2009 11:39:32 PM |
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dianabc
Dawson Creek, BC
59, joined May. 2008
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hi, it is terrible to be shy, I am at times, and when I have to meet someone from a dating site, it is terrible. But as someone told me years ago, talk to them as you would a new friend. That may help with the initial shyness, and I hope it works. I know it is no fun as I was very shy until my 30s. good luck!
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| 3/27/2009 6:39:03 PM |
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alan272
East Helena, MT
59, joined Feb. 2009
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| 7/5/2009 5:22:59 PM |
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bbwcompanion
Maple Ridge, BC
61, joined Apr. 2009
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All you have to do is make her laugh. Say no more. Then send flowers. She will never forget you. She might be so taken she'll ask YOU out! Be sure the note has your phone number.
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| 7/7/2009 12:25:54 AM |
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carguy53
Kamloops, BC
62, joined Jul. 2009
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 I'm still trying to figure out the reply by "alan272" and get a closer look at the photo. Unfortunately he has his profile set on 'invisible'. Gee, Alan, may we hazard a guess as to how you overcame your own shyness?  
But seriously, folks, it can be more than a little 'intimidating' for even an older single guy to make a move on this or any other dating site when the overwhelming number of members are the products of failed relationships. Most newcomers probably feel that they must establish a very good impression on the opposite sex in order to compete not only with the other 'fine' members but also with the new (love interest's) previous partner. 
Some would agree that it is indeed best to take it slow and think of the other person as a casual contact with friendship and trust as the first two priorities .
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| 7/12/2009 8:53:26 PM |
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luckycoin
Prince George, BC
36, joined Jul. 2009
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well i think you need to try and stop thinking terrible things of who what where when.Thats probably y u r getting anxiety attacks..You are putting to much pressure on your self take a deep breath and relax whats the worst thing a women can do (say no)many fish in the sea..I am also a shy person but I know I have to over come my problem or I might miss my opportunity finding that special someone.. I might be young but all my friends are happily married and I want that... If it is that serious maybe u should talk to your doctor about it maybe its some kind of disorder..I hope I helped abit there always my mom shes single lol she can do the talking for the both of u lol Take care I hope you over come ur situation best of luck..Jess
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| 7/24/2009 10:28:43 PM |
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tiemeup1234
Victoria, BC
44, joined Jul. 2009
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im shy as well dude, just drink will loosen you up.
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| 7/27/2009 7:45:52 AM |
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lucy_
McComb, MS
49, joined Jul. 2009
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good morning 
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| 8/5/2009 8:01:48 PM |
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ladyfarmer53
Winfield, AB
64, joined Feb. 2009
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I have same problem as you would you like to practise on each other?
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| 10/24/2009 3:28:46 PM |
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artgurl_v2
Kamloops, BC
50, joined Oct. 2009
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Perhaps you are being too hard on yourself.
Do you have a genuine interest in who people are? what they care about? what inspires them? If you do, you will never run out of things to talk about. Worry less about what you 'think' they are 'thinking' about you and focus more on learning something about a fellow human being.
Practice coming out of your shell in little ways. Make eye contact with a cute grocery clerk. Say hello to a stranger waiting in line at the bank. Have meaningful conversations with people online even - then you still have the safety of the computer screen while you get comfortable.
BREATHE! It seems so simple but the very act of taking a few deep breaths changes you physiology to a more relaxed state.
Take the pressure off of yourself and enjoy the journey. Plan to make friends with no other expectation. If there is more to be explored it will make itself known. But in the meantime, you can be more relaxed about it.
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| 12/13/2009 4:10:50 PM |
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youngat61
Port Coquitlam, BC
66, joined Oct. 2008
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Select some funny lines for the start of a conversation or breaking the ice. Select jokes for interjecting during your conversation with her. You may search on the internet for good clean lines to break the ice and the clean jokes, the guy jokes , the blondie jokes, the Nufie jokes and finally all the dirty jokes ! Use a joke/jokes that is appropriate for the situation and mood, and that is the key. You will have to give some thoughts and plan and also practise. You will fail in the few meetings in the beginning but in about third one you wil make a hit! Believe me, it works. I have done that. The problem I have is, I find most woman not to be so appealing at the end of the conversation /date and while she wants to sleep with me the first night, I postpone by just giving an excuse. Surely I do give or take the cell no. I only like the ones who tell me to call her or they call me after that night. And that happens only a few times!
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| 1/10/2010 3:32:30 PM |
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outgoinggirl100
Vernon, BC
50, joined Jan. 2010
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Firt of all, i would like to say, being shy is one of the best qualities in a man, I would rather go for a shy person and more reserve than an obnixious arrogant boob. I think you must first feel good about yourself, love who you are, you need to find that inner strength which we all need to discover. Once that is established then you work on your outer appearance, such as grooming, well dressed and presentable, now who would not want to give you the once over. Its also better to ask a girl with a friend to boost up your self confidence. Just because someone turns you down, its not the end of the world, its that persons loss. And you just move on, don't take rejection as a falure, more of an experience and put it behind you and move to the next. You know a nice opening line if your interested in someone is "wow you have such beautiful eyes". Hey it may be corny but it worked on me one time. You can usually tell by the other persons body language if she is interested or not, such as her looking into your eyes and being totally flatered by the comment. But if it looks like she is in a rush to get out of the situation and thanks you while she is walking away, then forget about it.Don't give up, there is someone for everybody, Good Luck
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| 2/11/2010 12:11:03 AM |
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justjimandagain
Decatur, AL
48, joined Nov. 2009
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| 2/14/2010 4:29:45 PM |
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lisbeth24
Coquitlam, BC
37, joined Jan. 2010
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It sounds to me as though you are having difficulties because you feel super anxious about that. Well, its really hard to tell someone what to do or say especially when you feel that overwhelmed. Take it one breath at a time. Maybe build up your tolerance. If you find someone attractive but you don't know how to approach them, a simply smile and eye contact and then build it up everytime you see someone you might fancy.
Hope that helps at all.
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