| 9/12/2008 9:56:12 PM |
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robowobo
Caseyville, IL
age: 34
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your relationship ended for a reason. guess it depends what that reason is ,if you can get I've done it twice with two different women and it turned out the same we split it just took longer that's all.
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| 9/13/2008 4:57:53 AM |
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forgetful1
Old Bridge, NJ
age: 41
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I would be friends with my ex husband, we do have kids together. I only talk to him though about anything important with the kids, thats it. I am very blunt and to the point with him and will not carry any other conversation with him. I do not choose to talk to him otherwise though, his new wife is too much to handle, and she gets into everything. She came in his life and she seems to want over take my role as mother which is a huge no no. I was told that she just wants to prove to him that she is a good mother, but hey, prove that with your own children, dont step on my toes. He lets her do it to keep peace but it just dont cut it in my book, I am the one that gave birth to my kids, I am the one that makes sure they are happy and healthy and I live with them, she cant prove to be a good mother to them, which she isnt anyway, she should worry about her own children only.
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| 9/13/2008 5:33:43 AM |
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flnative32750
Orlando, FL
age: 42 online now!
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I am actually still on friendly terms with both ex's. This is primarily because we share the bond of having children together. It makes it so much easier with the kids. They don't hammer me or I them. We keep our opinions of each other away from the kids. We are parents first and foremost. However, I don't ever plan on going back to either of them. It didn't work then and it will most definately not work now. We are different people with different goals, outlooks, and etc.
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| 9/13/2008 5:50:50 AM |
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forgetful1
Old Bridge, NJ
age: 41
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When my ex husband and I see each other for the five minute exchange of my kids to see him or him to drop them off back to me, we never cause tension or really talk for that matter. When he hands me the child support check, I take it and say thank you to him and then i turn my attention to my kids and ask for a kiss goodbye and tell them i love them. Any issue that I have I deal with on the telephone or email. I like doing the telephone personally, emailing him is getting an answer back from his wife and most of the time he dont even know that i emailed him, she keeps it from him being the decision maker. I dont cause one ounce of tension in front of my children. The way i see it, him and i are divorced and we may not like each other but my kids father is their father no matter what and i wouldnt nor do i want to take that right away from them. You only get one set of parents in life, no matter how good or bad they are and honestly, why would i take that away from them. Even my 18 yr old still wants to see his father, i told him that he should!!
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| 9/13/2008 5:55:25 AM |
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confined1
Asheville, NC
age: 35
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I wish my ex would do that. This crazy girl always tries to work herself back into my life during that same exchange. Then gets mad when I say Hell No!!!
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| 9/13/2008 6:14:15 AM |
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forgetful1
Old Bridge, NJ
age: 41
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It sounds like your ex may have the common problem of letting go and moving on. At one point, after my divorce, which i thought was funny. My ex husband told me that he was going to a psychologist and that she wanted to see me. I asked why?? He said she feels that him and I could work things out and get back together. I looked at him and said very bluntly. You did tell your psychologist that you have a girlfriend and you moved her down from Indiana to live with you? I said no thanks, i dont want any part of that, you chose her, take her. I am fine with the whole divorce.
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| 9/13/2008 8:22:01 AM |
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msbevzie
Oregon, OH
age: 44
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Well as stupid as it may sound I am still friends with both of my exes, the first one I have children with the second I don't BUT in my mind and theirs as well there is no reason we cannot get along, even though were divorced doesn't mean we cannot be friends actually with no paper agreement there it seems some people get along ALOT better. I have nothing against it I'm friends with everyone I've known from the past that's me...
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| 9/13/2008 8:28:31 AM |
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metal1970
Towson, MD
age: 38
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I'm still friends w/ my ex-wife, the ex-g/f  . But everything happens for a reason rt? Well maybe one day happiness will find it's way back to me
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| 9/13/2008 9:04:23 AM |
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energy22
Philadelphia, PA
age: 47
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heres a prime example of my ex when my dauther was younger and id call to pick her up on a sunday id get so nervous before the phone call id get diareahha why? she wold pick up the phone id say hi is francesca ready,her replywas YOU MOTHER F**KERRRRRR!!!! every sunday for at least two years i had to dread gettin my own kid ive learned alot about dealing or not dealing with exes since and seems like the blame game is always in place,but that was her not all generally most of them are gone anyway in a just by chance crossing paths a hello and how are you is ok i really have no interest i mean what for.....
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| 9/13/2008 9:52:31 AM |
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forgetful1
Old Bridge, NJ
age: 41
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wow that is horrible for your ex to say that to you. I mean i have done some spiteful things myself but never have i said anything mean to him personally. I think the worse thing i ever did was to make the kids wait until exactly five o'clock exactly to make him wait. i dont do that often though, actually i havent done that in years now. My kids know that when they are with my its our lives and personal to a point. I know that when they are with him, its their lives and personal to a point. All I know is that i keep to myself and the kids know i am a very private person that dont let really anyone know my business. It is just the way it is, we both have our seperate lives now, i dont see a reason to be mean to him though cussing him out. after all some level of respect is still there, we were married for 18 yrs.
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| 9/14/2008 4:41:46 AM |
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robowobo
Caseyville, IL
age: 34
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i play nice with mine but i have kids i dont know about the friends thing just nice enough not to argue thats about it
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| 9/14/2008 5:00:48 AM |
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swifteagle
Elk City, OK
age: 64
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Friendly - yes, friends - no. We have moved on. I have forgiven but I have not forgotten everything that made us exes. My children need the guidance of two parents and my ex and I need our dignity.
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| 9/15/2008 6:38:45 AM |
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hopein08
Jackson, NJ
age: 41 online now!
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This is what I am going through now. I am just not up to getting it all written out here now though and though I think it would be a good idea to get some input from you guys I just don't have the energy to think it through.
So as brief as I can without all the details - my estranged other (is that a right term?) well he has toyed with me, jerked me around, lead me on and every other thing like that for 15 months now and I am emotionally worn out to say the least. He has had another woman in the picture for more than 3 years yet moved out 15 months ago so she was a part of his life much longer. I wanted badly to work things out and left myself open in the beginning for communication and a chance with him just to have him show up wanting "some". Well he knows how to work me so now and again we were still having sex. I have to admit I went through all those months with some sort of blinders on to how he was treating me. It's much more complicated than this too. I told him off and on when he talked about not being sure about us and then saying yes it is over and all that if that is going to be the case then I do not want to see him at all EVER and I do NOT want to hear the sound of his voice over the phone either because it just hurt so incredibly much and was making it alot harder for me. (ok, gotta ease up the tears are welling up). So many many things have happened that I am now hating him really for all he put me through and especially for putting her into our lives (alot more to it with that too) and just the thought of him makes me sick to my stomach. I truly wish that he would disappear from my life never to be seen or heard from again. Unfortunatley I have three children with him and though he has not been financially supporting us at all for a couple of months now and before that wasn't giving that much anyway though I have to say for him that when he first left he offered to give me what would probably be considered a fair amount monthly and he did it for awhile until he lost his job (more to that too). So for me I just can not stay friends with him at all. With where I am at now with my feelings I actually couldn't care less if he has any contact with our children. I don't offer any information about what is going on with them and don't ask him for any help with them at all anymore either. I just know that I have to do the right thing and let him see them but it has gotten to the point for me that I do so when HE asks. ALOT of things were going differently before August 1.
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| 9/15/2008 6:53:31 AM |
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manykisses
Tonawanda, NY
age: 50
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Ummm...hopein08, I know women have sexual needs same as we men do, but...well, from looking at your photo it doesn't seem like you'd have trouble finding a partner, so...quit rewarding your "ex" for cheating on you and just generally treating you like dirt by stringing you along after the split.
There should be some kind of relationship with your "ex" when children are involved because children of both sexes need to have two parents who care, not just one. But as far as being friends, it sounds like this might simply just be too painful for you. Let this one go. Find someone who appreciates a good thing enough to direct all of his affections at one person.
John in Tonawanda, NY
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| 9/15/2008 11:35:52 AM |
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cynthia_78
Hazard, KY
age: 30 online now!
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I tried being nice to my ex but, hes just an a**hole. As for dating someone who is still hangen around their ex running around together and such. Forget that. Thats a little too close for comfort for me. Call me insecure but, I learned the hard way with that situation. I will never be second best to anyone. I have alot to offer someone and I'm not wasten it on someone who lives in the past.
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