| 9/18/2008 12:37:27 AM |
When the EX starts being nice, is it a set up? |
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indoubt
Beaumont, CA
age: 33
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The more I think about it and how you described your ex reminds me just of mine I am thinking he is probably setting himself up to look like a perfect father for court.
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| 9/18/2008 12:41:21 AM |
When the EX starts being nice, is it a set up? |
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phil_n_ma
Feeding Hills, MA
age: 50
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The more I think about it and how you described your ex reminds me just of mine I am thinking he is probably setting himself up to look like a perfect father for court.
lol.....your something else.
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| 9/18/2008 12:49:04 AM |
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sapphireblue579
Jackson, MI
age: 50
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The more I think about it and how you described your ex reminds me just of mine I am thinking he is probably setting himself up to look like a perfect father for court.
Exactly. You hit the nail on the head.
C.Y.O.A....Cover Your Own Ass.
Make certain that what you plan to do is fine and solid legally.
He's playing a game with you. Don't believe what you see. DON'T TRUST HIM!
I've dealt with a LIAR as well. You want to believe...BUT PLEASE DON'T.
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| 9/18/2008 12:51:23 AM |
When the EX starts being nice, is it a set up? |
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indoubt
Beaumont, CA
age: 33
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Exactly follow your gut girl. We have intuition for a reason!
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| 9/18/2008 3:58:04 PM |
When the EX starts being nice, is it a set up? |
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awakeing
Walled Lake, MI
age: 36
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Ladies, I just want to update you so that perhaps you can learn from
my bad experience.
He showed up to the game tried to imply that he was really sick and
didn't want to be there for our daughter. Well after 45 mins I had to
leave for 10 mins to pick up our sons. While I was gone another mother
witnessed him getting flirt and collecting a phone number from another
of the mothers there. When I came back he was surround by women and didn't
save the seats for the boys and myself like I asked. So I went to sit
by another of the mothers on the PTA I knew and spent time talking with the cheer
coach about helping to get the girls new uniforms through fund raising.
Half hour later he comes and says that he needs to run to the CVS across
the street for more video tape. I asked if he was already going would he
pick up one bottle of water for the boys to share till I could get the kids
home for dinner. He's gone for 40 mins! When he gets back the game is over
and we were walking in the parking lot to my car with another child that I told
I could give them a ride home.
He starts screaming at me because we were leaving! He throws the water bottles at me
in front of the kids in the school parking lot! I knew right then and there he had just spent the last 40mins doing something he knew he should not have been doing and took it out on me!
Well let's just say by the end of the evening, he had attempted to go after my
son for getting muddy while playing football with his friends behind the stands,
he got in my face screaming so bad his spit was hitting me in the face that he hated me and calling me all those names that men do putting a woman down, tore all the cushions off my couches, and was so loud that 2 neighbors had called security! Of course I got the
blame for that too! He now says that he will never see me again, he told the kids
that he was never again coming here to get them, that he was a good dad and it's
my fault that he can't be around.
Yep his being nice to the kids was a set up. He now gets to abandon them under the
guise that his last actions were all my fault because him being real nice the last 2 weeks
prove over 12 yrs what a good dad he was.
I know this man is the ultimate of liars but I so want to believe he's telling the truth
in that I will never see him again.
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| 9/18/2008 4:02:01 PM |
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indoubt
Beaumont, CA
age: 33
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So sad girlie. I am wondering if your ex is my ex lol. Sounds allot like him. Not good for the kids though. You have to tell him he can't do that anymore. I had to put my foot down and say look what you are doing to them. He finally got it and now is much better.
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| 9/18/2008 5:41:32 PM |
When the EX starts being nice, is it a set up? |
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notmeme
Waukegan, IL
age: 55
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Awakeing: that was A very sad thing to do to the children and you.It is totaly baffling how someone can do that sort of thing to there childern AND ex's. I mean that is some very hurtfull stuff for A child & not easly forgotten! Here's my 2cents the S.O.B.gets help or he dont come around the kids without supervision of some sort!!!
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| 9/18/2008 8:22:30 PM |
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usakindatheart
Overton, TX
age: 48
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he most likely got dumped by his latest woman... and wants some from you...
smile take the money.... just don't give it up.... if you know what i mean...
work it for your kids... a bed... that was a good thing...
its sad, but women have to do what they have to do, when they are divorced and make a limited income.
most likely when a new woman comes into his life, he will disappear again...
so hopefully your kids will enjoy the time.... always sad to see the kids eyes loose hope again, when dad comes and goes out of there lives... but it is the way of it.... sad...
i skipped over the other post, just re read...
he is playing a game so you will not move... careful... he has a recorder... and if you say something like he has really changed and la la la good father... he is going to use that in court.. watch the phone calls and emails, limit them as they can be used in court and phone calls as well as in person can be recorded...
careful...
[Edited 9/18/2008 8:33:11 PM]
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| 9/18/2008 10:22:12 PM |
When the EX starts being nice, is it a set up? |
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stylistic
Rockville, MD
age: 45
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Ladies, I just want to update you so that perhaps you can learn from
my bad experience.
He showed up to the game tried to imply that he was really sick and
didn't want to be there for our daughter. Well after 45 mins I had to
leave for 10 mins to pick up our sons. While I was gone another mother
witnessed him getting flirt and collecting a phone number from another
of the mothers there. When I came back he was surround by women and didn't
save the seats for the boys and myself like I asked. So I went to sit
by another of the mothers on the PTA I knew and spent time talking with the cheer
coach about helping to get the girls new uniforms through fund raising.
Half hour later he comes and says that he needs to run to the CVS across
the street for more video tape. I asked if he was already going would he
pick up one bottle of water for the boys to share till I could get the kids
home for dinner. He's gone for 40 mins! When he gets back the game is over
and we were walking in the parking lot to my car with another child that I told
I could give them a ride home.
He starts screaming at me because we were leaving! He throws the water bottles at me
in front of the kids in the school parking lot! I knew right then and there he had just spent the last 40mins doing something he knew he should not have been doing and took it out on me!
Well let's just say by the end of the evening, he had attempted to go after my
son for getting muddy while playing football with his friends behind the stands,
he got in my face screaming so bad his spit was hitting me in the face that he hated me and calling me all those names that men do putting a woman down, tore all the cushions off my couches, and was so loud that 2 neighbors had called security! Of course I got the
blame for that too! He now says that he will never see me again, he told the kids
that he was never again coming here to get them, that he was a good dad and it's
my fault that he can't be around.
Yep his being nice to the kids was a set up. He now gets to abandon them under the
guise that his last actions were all my fault because him being real nice the last 2 weeks
prove over 12 yrs what a good dad he was.
I know this man is the ultimate of liars but I so want to believe he's telling the truth
in that I will never see him again.
I was sorry to hear it was not a change for the better. It heart breaking for the kids..when their father acts a fool and says mean things to them. My alcohalic X still does the same thing, not as offten as 11 years have past, but he is nice one day and a very mean man the next. Its difficult to continue to have any kind of relationship with him...I was hoping better for you. All you can do now is love your kids and they will know whats what in time.
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| 9/19/2008 12:23:45 AM |
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tman2408
Hamilton, MI
age: 44
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It sounds like he is either feeling guilty and is trying to spend some time with your girls,or has he met someone with kids,hum,or maybe is trying to get close to get you back,he made your car payment.He sounds just like my bi-polar ex,as she goes thru hear yearly gestures with my daughter.It is so hurtful for the kids,if he is making this big show and goes with it for a month or so,and then doesnt show up again for a month or more.Just be careful,for your kids,and yourself.
take care.
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