| 9/26/2008 3:16:14 AM |
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sparks60
Marion, OH
age: 60
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Submissive doesn't mean subserviant.
Main Entry: sub·ser·vi·ent
Pronunciation: \-?nt\
Function: adjective
Etymology: Latin subservient-, subserviens, present participle of subservire
Date: circa 1626
1 : useful in an inferior capacity : subordinate
2 : serving to promote some end
3 : obsequiously submissive : truckling
— sub·ser·vi·ent·ly adverb
synonyms subservient , servile , slavish , obsequious mean showing or characterized by extreme compliance or abject obedience. subservient implies the cringing manner of one very conscious of a subordinate position . servile suggests the mean or fawning behavior of a slave . slavish suggests abject or debased servility . obsequious implies fawning or sycophantic compliance and exaggerated deference of manner .
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| 9/26/2008 3:24:23 AM |
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carbonv
Salem, AR
age: 47
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everything in its own time... A bold woman submitting, like has been said here...By all means is a wonderful thing, But don't forget for a second that when a woman turns on the heat and shows you what she wants and means to have her way... DAMN! That is hot! Men feel Damn good about it when a woman shows them that they want him. So Ladies, yes it is fine to submit,and often the thing to do, but DON'T GO WITHOUT! if a man happens not to be instigating sex at a time you want it for whatever reason, cowgirl up and GO FOR IT! He will love you for that too! Variety IS the spice of life! 
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| 9/26/2008 4:04:08 AM |
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tarotdream
Ventura, CA
age: 53
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A bold woman that submits when passion leads . . . and drags me along
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| 9/26/2008 6:03:13 AM |
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sandandsea
Stanfield, NC
age: 48
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I would like to say i could be submissive myself, but i stand 6'10 and i scare people so by default im looked at as dominent. for a women that could over come the fear of my size and take control i would more then likely give, but honestly i cant take certain sex acts because i lose control and turn on domination and they usually submit and have a moaning good time.
i like submissive women and have not had a chance yet with a dom women.
Gabe, I've always had a thing for really tall guys. Come sit by me, and we'll see you can be more aggressive. And, yes, I can keep up the intensity if I'm enjoying myself and my partner!
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| 9/26/2008 6:07:09 AM |
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singen
Saint Cloud, MN
age: 36
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i think there is room for both, sometimes you want to be aggressive and other times you wanna be controled. it would be no fun to be the b*tch all the time!!
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| 9/26/2008 9:24:23 AM |
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kennylingus
Windom, MN
age: 46
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Bold Faced Baby. I like a woman who knows what she wants and isn't shy to say it.
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| 9/26/2008 9:52:08 AM |
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srt8mark
Bakersfield, CA
age: 55
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I don't know if you are familiar with the CSI series on tv, Grissom likes a dom, he's very intrigued by her. A lady like that filling a submissive role to me would be the ultimate turn on. Having read your posts over the past several months tends to make me believe you might just be the one mindyb.
[Edited 9/26/2008 9:54:08 AM]
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| 9/26/2008 11:17:07 AM |
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mindyb
Park Rapids, MN
age: 44
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OK ...Geeeesh! Do We women have to do it all ourselves!
MEN! SUBMISSIVE doesnt mean push over. It means many things but pushover is not one...lacking backbone is not one.
To surrender openly.....like being rendered helpless when he teases you to the edge of orgasm and instead of being the firebomb I am you surrender completely and let him lead the whole way...shit! Tease me too long and watch out thermal explosion of seduction. paybacks are a b*tch. you want teasing  okaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay
submissive means obedient...that means when he says no ....no is no. period. no rebutle no argueing and for pitties sack for the women who freaking manipulate...stop it! that shit is immature. so iit means that even if you dont agree and dont like it if he feels serious enough about it that his answer is a final no . respect his ego and let it be. be silent be still....be loving.
SUBMISSIVE in my book for me...in my actions means ...to respect in grace and gentleness.To have no drma and gentle ways...easy flowing....if you say somethijng that I find stupid at first thought...thinking WTF? where did that come from??? i say nothing I find no need to make an issue of things..why ask WHERE did that come from or What the hell did you mean by that like I see women AND MEN do in a relationship...this is how shit get started and you are failing in relationships because your fighting and bickering over petty things....sometimes when people say something that rubs you the wrong way let it go...NO BIGGY...just CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY...rememeber everything that comes at you in life you can choose to react without thinking of comnsequence or you can think. I choose the end result to be happiness in every given situation...easy going...I would rather save my energy
sooooo submissive has many avenues...and to lack in BOLDNESS in SEX is ohhhhhhhhhhhh so not one of them. TO be bold and shoot the mouth off like an idiot....yeah...thats not a submissive nature thing.
ok so that being said.....MEN........... or women too.....EXACTLY where do you want your boldness...these people want women who get in their face and yell????? thats bold. submissive has an opinion and will call you on your shit but WOMEN who are wise like that also expect result...not just calling you on it but damn it! do something abouot it. ALL PEOPLE should change their ways when you make a f**k up. you dont just go oh! you bust your a** to self improve...thus GROWING process inlife...makes for a brillant mind to embrace wisdom as such.
ok so there ya go...I am submissive and you can see clearly ...we are also....gracefully bold and in my case a bit of a smartass.
plz forgive typos clock is tickin
MUCH LOVE
thanx4urpost
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| 9/26/2008 1:37:35 PM |
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sunnerkat
Orange, CA
age: 35
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i think there is room for both, sometimes you want to be aggressive and other times you wanna be controled. it would be no fun to be the b*tch all the time!!
Agreed!!!
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| 9/26/2008 2:37:01 PM |
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crazygerman69
Motley, MN
age: 39
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I think it is great when there is a little bit of both. One day the man takes the lead to be agressive and another day a woman takes a man by the balls I mean the lead.
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| 9/26/2008 2:52:22 PM |
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mindyb
Park Rapids, MN
age: 44
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We can go for a hike in the rain...I'll lead...make it hard going up hill when it's so wet.
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| 9/26/2008 3:51:59 PM |
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nab5055
Medford, NJ
age: 43 online now!
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When you are a strong woman outside the sexual arena, it can be a serious turn on to give control to someone who just wants to please you. I can be aggressive and quite intense, sexually and otherwise, but I think it would be so pleasurable to let the sweet, soft girl inside please the man who loves me whether I'm strong or submissive.
Oh I so agree with this.......I want to please the man that loves me and I want him to please me too. Love me for who I am...........
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| 9/26/2008 7:21:50 PM |
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gabisanic
Pleasant Hill, CA
age: 51
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OK ...Geeeesh! Do We women have to do it all ourselves!
No, you women do not have to do it all yourselves, we get it!
I believe that the points you make I also made in my posting, different words perhaps, but essentially same message... that a woman who chooses to be submissive whether for a limited period of time or as a lifestyle choice must have an element of boldness, an element of adventure in my opinion. And yes it doesn't hurt to be graceful and a bit of a smartass!
Since I have been the dominant in those types of relationships I was only offering my point of view as to how it is for me, personally. I can only speak for me and not for anyone else. It is not just a role I assume... with it comes responsibility, with it comes trust and respect... it requires awareness and communication. And I agree that when a woman decides to relinquish her power and control, it is a gift.
Control is a very tricky issue, full of nuances and subtleties. It requires knowledge and it begins with me in the role of dominant. I have to know how to be in control of myself first and foremost if I am going to exert my control over others for it is not about taking advantage of the power given to me but about sharing the pleasure of that power without stepping out of character... to win my submissive's mind, body and soul, I have to know first how to win her trust and make her realize that even in those situation where I may be demanding, as a romantic lover I still keep her needs fresh in mind without stepping out of character... I have to know that when it comes time to expect obedience, I need to be strong and yet have a yielding and careful hand and that if she ever were to share real tears, she feels safe in the knowledge that those tears may also be wiped away tenderly without stepping out of character... I have to know how to be patient, know her limits, and know that her trust in me grows because her desire to please me stems not from her fear of punishment but from trusting that I know and understand the fragile nature of mind and body and would never violate her trust and doing so without stepping out of character...
In turn, my submissive partner responds to me out of her want and willingness to please me. She understands that each partner gains from pleasuring the other and both of us know that in the end love is the only binding element that truly holds us together. Love must be the lead link in the chain, for the chain is only as strong as it's weakest link. Not just love, but a mutual respect of one another. All too many times, the dominant does not truly respect the decision and sacrifices it takes to be submissive. At one time or another, it is good medicine to reverse the roles whereas the couple may appreciate fully the scope and depth of the persona they emulate.
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| 9/27/2008 6:41:00 AM |
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mindyb
Park Rapids, MN
age: 44
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Ok so then let me ask what would you not submitt to and would submitt to? I would never date a control freak. I would submitt to a swift spanking on the undercurve of my milky white ass.
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