| 9/28/2008 9:32:04 PM |
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rach08
Lakeville, MN
age: 18 online now!
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all the guys ive dated have been jerks... abusive and only use me. what am i doing wrong? i cant find anyone seriously? anyone got any advice or any guys out there got proof that all guys arent jerks? leave me some love!! -Rach
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| 9/29/2008 7:46:14 AM |
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kissmyaka
Saint Joseph, MN
age: 22
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there is plenty of ways to find a nice guy you just got to find a guy that is willing to be friends with you a long time before anything eles also the guy gots to like you for more than your looks because personality is what counts the most like think about it you date a person for a very long time there looks are slowly going away but there personality isnt
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| 9/29/2008 6:33:12 PM |
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grokster
Minneapolis, MN
age: 44
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A big problem for women of your age is that men (and I use the term loosely) are at their sexual peak at 18. That means little thought or consideration for anything other than sex. Even if the guy is generally nice, just the scent of a woman is enough to drive them out of their minds.
Of course, a woman's sexual peak is early thirties, long after the guy's has ... waned. Basically, this means that when you're coming into your sexual peak your partner is discovering they have a "favorite chair". It's one of God's great jokes.
Of course, if society was more liberal, the 30 year old women would be dating the 18 year old men - both would get what they need most with little attachment anxiety. Of course, that would be too (as another poster put it) "creepy".
If you want a real relationship, either find a guy you can be friends with that's getting all the sex he needs somewhere else. It'll leave him able to think around you. Or choose boyfriends that are significantly older than you (like 28). Of course, older men may consider you too young to be a serious relationship.
C
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| 9/29/2008 8:02:15 PM |
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rach08
Lakeville, MN
age: 18 online now!
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i beg to differ some guys at 18 are ready for relationships unfortunatly thier all in one but some guys at 28 cant even handle a relationship
i got to kno a guy for 10 months on and off and still no matter how well i thought i knew himtheres always another side ... how do i find both sides before i fall to hard n waste to much time?
thnkkx for ur replies guys i really appiciate it by the way!!!
-Rach
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| 9/29/2008 8:44:44 PM |
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kissmyaka
Saint Joseph, MN
age: 22
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i dont think you ever will truly know the person a person is like a galaxy that never ends if you knew everything about them you would get bored and move on i know people change for better or for worse but everything happens for a reason you will find that guy that will make you truly happy and i will find that special woman that will make me happy someday too
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| 9/29/2008 9:48:12 PM |
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wild2b
Brainerd, MN
age: 45
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Hey Rach, I have found dating someone you should take at the least a year to get to know them, watch for red flags, you know the things that make you go hmmmmm, if he is self centered move on, self centeredness is a big red flag to me, those other red flags are things that would personally make you incompatable like inattentiveness, you need to find a guy who is mature for his age, you'll find him. Actually its not that easy finding a lady either most of them want Brad Pitt and usually the pretty boy's are the biggest asses on the face of this planet. So what have we found out here... find a attentive man, of average looks, whos mature...good luck Rach and may god bless.  
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| 9/30/2008 7:54:26 AM |
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rach08
Lakeville, MN
age: 18 online now!
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yaaa looks don't even matter to me but apparently they matter to guys lik I was talkin to a friend he said on a scale of 1-10 I was dressin on a 3 well I'm dressin wats comfortable for me.... he said that if I wanted to get any attention wat so ever from any kind of guy that I needed to dress 8+.... (daily mind you....) my mind has been so skewed and so contorted by so many guys its not even funny I don't even know where to begin what happened to guys liking you for you???? honestly what's going on in the world relationships in general just the word causes me more stress then work and college combined.... AHHHHH
like different points of view on this would be lovely and very much appriciated!!!!
thnk yOoOu
-Rach
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| 10/1/2008 2:57:49 PM |
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grokster
Minneapolis, MN
age: 44
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Dress the way your comfortable dressing. If he doesn't like it, forget him. You have to find a person you are comfortable with, and he with you. You can't do that by pretending. If all the guys you meet are jerks, think about who you're looking for. Are you going for "bad boys"? Open your field a little - ask someone you think is nice out for a night with some other friends, even if it someone you know would never ask you out. Some of the shy guys are really nice (I was very shy at your age). If it doesn't work out, what do you lose? Just keep it friendly until/unless it really clicks.
Clay
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| 10/2/2008 8:10:25 PM |
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yus
Rochester, MN
age: 22
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yaaa looks don't even matter to me but apparently they matter to guys lik I was talkin to a friend he said on a scale of 1-10 I was dressin on a 3 well I'm dressin wats comfortable for me.... he said that if I wanted to get any attention wat so ever from any kind of guy that I needed to dress 8+.... (daily mind you....) my mind has been so skewed and so contorted by so many guys its not even funny I don't even know where to begin what happened to guys liking you for you???? honestly what's going on in the world relationships in general just the word causes me more stress then work and college combined.... AHHHHH
like different points of view on this would be lovely and very much appriciated!!!!
thnk yOoOu
-Rach
looks don't matter to me either....i go for a great personality and its on the inside that counts, if guys don't see whats on the inside, then they aren't worth your time...Nice guys finish last..its just a matter of finding them... I'm not just saying that either just because i'm one of those nice guys..its just the truth ya know what i mean? 
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| 10/3/2008 8:45:54 AM |
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rach08
Lakeville, MN
age: 18 online now!
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yea thats what ive heard! but honestly whats with people saying
"o your too young to for a long term"
or "you dont understand" "youve got ur whole life ahead of you"
im one bad relationship away from owning 20 cats for the rest of my life 
i just cant tell ya how many times its seemed right and it turns out wrong... its nice that you dont look atthe outside but ur one of a milion im gonna start another post and ask guys how many actually care if looks matter this might help change my mind set alittle on men... for good or worse... who knos..
-Rach
keep the love coming 
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| 10/4/2008 12:29:30 AM |
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ownlife
Minneapolis, MN
age: 22
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As soon as you stop looking someone will come out of left field. Or right field. You've gotta be careful with that whole "love" thing. It's addicting and blinding and can definitely influence you to do some dumb things.
Just focus on the things in life that make you happy and eventually something cool will happen to you. Also, a lot of women seem to be attracted to guys who treat them like garbage. I've never heard a guy say he's looking for a woman to get emotionally attached to him so he can treat her like crap and she'll still stick around. Well, I've said that jokingly once, but I have a strange sense of humor. It's not my fault.
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| 10/4/2008 3:21:41 PM |
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swig11
Preston, MN
age: 46
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I have proof that all guys aren't jerks. Just last weekend I met a girl from this web site. We had been texting, e-mailing, and talking on the phone for about a month. We set up a lunch date for last saturday. When we met I knew immediately that she was not for me. For many reasons to tell the truth.
Did I leave her standing in the parking lot? Nope. We went on a motorcycle ride like we had planned. I bought her lunch, again like we had planned. We had a nice conversation for a couple of hours. We ended the date with a hug. Just how it began. After the date we chatted and I informed her that I would be looking for someone that lived closer to me. I could have been mean but I wasn't. I would call that Minnesota nice........Scott
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| 10/4/2008 3:43:07 PM |
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rach08
Lakeville, MN
age: 18 online now!
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I have proof that all guys aren't jerks. Just last weekend I met a girl from this web site. We had been texting, e-mailing, and talking on the phone for about a month. We set up a lunch date for last saturday. When we met I knew immediately that she was not for me. For many reasons to tell the truth.
Did I leave her standing in the parking lot? Nope. We went on a motorcycle ride like we had planned. I bought her lunch, again like we had planned. We had a nice conversation for a couple of hours. We ended the date with a hug. Just how it began. After the date we chatted and I informed her that I would be looking for someone that lived closer to me. I could have been mean but I wasn't. I would call that Minnesota nice........Scott
but what made her not for you... was she not your type... was she to large persay or what? you had been talkin for a long time and its the inside that counts if thats wut ur saying... so obviously u judged her on looks... i dont believe that is nice... its nice u let her down easy but u judged her either way...
(just playing devils advocite im not a fan of many men any more and the way they treat ppl)
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| 10/4/2008 4:02:18 PM |
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swig11
Preston, MN
age: 46
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She may read this, so I want to be nice. She physically was different than what I had been told. She also looked nothing like her picture. Her posted pictures are very grainy almost like a little foggy. She was nothing like what I had expected. Physical apperance is just as important as personality. IMHO............Scott
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| 10/4/2008 4:08:52 PM |
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rach08
Lakeville, MN
age: 18 online now!
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She may read this, so I want to be nice. She physically was different than what I had been told. She also looked nothing like her picture. Her posted pictures are very grainy almost like a little foggy. She was nothing like what I had expected.
Physical apperance is just as important as personality. IMHO............Scott
soooo all in all guys are shallow EVEN AT 46...
thank you scott!
i think you should remember that personlity is the thing that lasts and looks go away with time.... god theres no gettin through to ppl are me and yus the only ppl in the world who get this theory?!
[Edited 10/4/2008 4:13:11 PM]
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