| 10/24/2010 8:28:18 AM |
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morningowl67
Manchester, NH
49, joined Aug. 2010
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Notice some consistency here? Most of the good guys are quite a bit older, most of the players and guys who want sex are younger. I'm definitely too old for you, but it may be beneficial for you to look at the guys who are a little older and know how to treat a woman. The younger crowds seem to play quite a bit differently than us old timers. I think it stinks though. The younger guys set a precedence that "all guys are the same." This is what you girls see in all men if that's all you are exposed to. Luckily DH has these forums so you can clearly see that all guys are NOT the same. See the thing is, those of us who are older have a lot of experience. We've had our time of being players and our time of being serious with someone. We have learned what is ideal to us. We also aren't very good at the player game anymore nor do we care to play it. Every single one of us want great sex, but that's not the point. The older guys take the time to woo you. We care about how you "feel." We want a relationship to work out on all levels, not just sexually.
I met someone on here and the initial conversation between us was about values, likes, dislikes, not sex. Eventually our conversations do lead to sex if the other key areas are all good, but that is all part of the discovery period. My GF brought it up 1st, not me. AND, we still haven't had sex, but when we do, OMG, it's gonna be incredible.
Anyway, I agree that if you only look for the best looking guy, in many cases you may find a jerk on the inside. You are pretty enough for any of them, but to many of them you'll be just another tick mark on their played stick. I was like this when I was younger, so I know. I was pretty GQ when I was younger. Oh and BTW, any GQ type you date now WILL eventually let himself go a little. So you won't always have that guy with the perfect body and face. I was a player when I was in my 20's, I had many girlfriends, I didn't care much about them, only myself and getting laid. Then, I met my, now, ex-wife and I grew out of that. We were married 19 years and had a wonderful daughter who is now your age. My values changed a lot over time. My ex was pretty until she became an alcoholic and let herself go, including her mental state, which is why I am now divorced. The can of beer became more important to her than me or my daughter.
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| 11/2/2010 7:35:41 PM |
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luvtokiss1972
Concord, NH
45, joined Nov. 2010
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Well I am on here looking to make friends basically so unless you bring up sex it won't get discussed---SEX is overrated anyways, I'll take a smile and hug anyday!
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| 11/7/2010 12:33:34 PM |
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isitu4me2
Windham, NH
57, joined Nov. 2010
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It can be easy to stereotype a group but with what information was it done? ALL the guys are the same? Maybe the next 20 you correspond with will be different... maybe. But as it goes, energy attracts alike energy. What is it that keeps you attracting "the same" guys?
Wish you the best
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| 11/9/2010 7:58:41 AM |
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hommiegonebad
Concord, NH
25, joined Nov. 2010
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I dont think this girl is she just does not want to talk about sex all the time that is what she is saying
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| 12/19/2010 12:05:30 AM |
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2busydave
Greenland, NH
63, joined Oct. 2010
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Wow... There seems to be alot of anamosity in here! Let me try to throw my two cents into the frey. 
All you guys remember when you were young (late teens and early to mid twenties). I was always looking to get laid. Thank God for my generation when women were told by there mothers "Why buy the cow when the milk is free". It forced me to wait until I was more mature and had found someone that I thought was "the one". Unfortunately, my marriage didn't last. She went a little crazy (something I keep telling myself - lol) after a few years and we found that we just weren't ment for each other.
But I digress, I find that when women are young, they want the bad boy. Then they grow up (usually faster than the guys) and want stabilty (sorry bad boys but you guys aren't known for that comodity). Then when they feel like they are able to function quite well without the tired old husband / boy friend, they start looking for the emotional and physical copatability. But most of all they want someone to respect them and to acknowledge them and their abilities / capabilities (again, sorry guys but forty and fifty somethings tend to treat their significant other as someone they have to deal with and tend to be too complacent. Often taking the women for granted.)
It's only after we guys get tired of being alone that we finally get it. Women aren't object, furniture, a quick carnival ride to be ridden once a month. I might be sounding too much like everyones mother but I think I've learned tobe a better man by listening to wha the woman in the relationship needs instead of just going after what I need. I just hope that when I connect again, that I have the wisdom to remember what it is like to be without the sagnificant other and to appreciate everything that my lady friend has to offer (especially if I can offer her something that she appreciates like my undying respect and love).
I don't know why but when I get on these forums I can't help myself but turn into a windbag. I'm usually not like this in person. It just seems to be that way when I get on the computer. Hope I didn't bore you people to death.
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| 12/21/2010 9:54:09 AM |
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john442
Lowell, MA
57, joined Feb. 2010
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Well we are not all the same ,,some are better.........
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| 3/29/2011 7:36:15 PM |
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butterfly555
Keene, NH
33, joined Mar. 2011
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lol. cause they are all a**holes. they just want want want, never give, and when they do they some how make you feel guilty either way.most of them are all pretenders, they make you fall in love then run the first chance they get. note to self.. never date homeless, no job, and someone that is very stubburn, they just walk all over you. and never rush to move in. and deffently stay away from jealousy men. there emotional and unstable. quote to life, and relationships.
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| 4/22/2011 4:27:53 PM |
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jhndog
Concord, NH
44, joined Apr. 2011
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you haven't met the right one yet.
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| 4/22/2011 4:34:27 PM |
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jhndog
Concord, NH
44, joined Apr. 2011
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if your sick of men find a woman!
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| 6/4/2011 5:48:20 AM |
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jrwiggins6471
Manchester, NH
46, joined Jun. 2011
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 I will concede the fact that alot of guys just want to hook up to score ... however, not everyone here is into that. There are serious people here that would like to find a LTR
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| 6/5/2011 9:55:41 AM |
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shanestar4u
Manchester, NH
31, joined Jun. 2011
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Sexist b*tch. I don't want women for sex. And as far as I know girls think the same thing but they don't blab about it. They flaunt there shit and thats that. If a guy is going to come on to you then just look for someone charming instead of a perv (girls can send guys messages too). And also if guys send you messages like this its probably because they want a "hookup" as in the name of the site.
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| 6/23/2011 1:07:49 PM |
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luvtokiss1972
Concord, NH
45, joined Nov. 2010
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Don't be silly. I am sure there are some really skanky guys on here but there are also some really good ones you just have to look and let your woman's intuition guide you
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| 6/24/2011 12:39:08 PM |
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manta106
Lowell, MA
30, joined Jun. 2011
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i think this is a pretty one sided post
if all the guys you ever make the choice to talk to, are horrible, maybe its time to seak out men who you would not normally talk to. maybe ones that would normally "turn you off" are actully what your looking for
IE sounds like you the constant in this whole thing, not the guys you talk to
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| 6/26/2011 9:38:47 PM |
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babef
Londonderry, NH
41, joined Oct. 2007
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I think what the point is 1 out of every 4 messages a girl gets on here is someone who is to cheap to pay for phone sex so they come on here thinking they may get it. Not saying everyone is, but those who are ruin it for others.
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| 8/8/2011 12:07:38 AM |
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gtrmike
Nashua, NH
62, joined Jan. 2011
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yeah. your pretty and your young and sexy but you don't want guys to think of you like that so you put your pics on here wearing a slip, showing your stuff or with a skin tight shirt standing side view to the camera so your boobs are in high profile and then you whine "why are all guys the same." we only look the same naked and upside down you dumbass.
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| 8/24/2011 12:01:36 AM |
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jcmaine
Farmington, ME
37, joined May. 2011
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why do girls go after the biggest jersey shore eminem looking dbags they can fidn and then complain when they act like dbags???
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| 8/24/2011 9:38:36 AM |
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rotaryguy86
Nashua, NH
30, joined Dec. 2010
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why do girls go after the biggest jersey shore eminem looking dbags they can fidn and then complain when they act like dbags???
Hey! I just got a message from a girl saying I look a little like Eminem! haha! But I'm deff not a dbag. And I don't think Eminem is either. But I see where your going with it. Your talking about the wankster lookin dbags. haha.
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| 8/25/2011 1:27:15 PM |
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bonitamulher200
Salem, NH
51, joined Aug. 2011
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Maybe you should take out of your profile the picture showing your body...I met a lot of nice guys...they just weren't what I was looking for. Good luck in your search!!
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| 8/25/2011 7:41:19 PM |
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jcmaine
Farmington, ME
37, joined May. 2011
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I see all these girls profiles and their friends lists all look like versions of "the situation"
time after time women go after good looking scumbags and then after they get abused or worse and they never ONCE look in the mirror.
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| 8/26/2011 9:33:57 PM |
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hearts2kiss
Amesbury, MA
59, joined Nov. 2009
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 Because women since the dawn of time were told men only want to see two parts of the female body (i think you know which part).. So thats the part that most women show in these ads..
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| 8/28/2011 2:49:20 PM |
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jcmaine
Farmington, ME
37, joined May. 2011
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Because women since the dawn of time were told men only want to see two parts of the female body (i think you know which part).. So thats the part that most women show in these ads..
for many women that's the only parts of them worth a damn.
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| 10/12/2011 9:01:00 PM |
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waterbug87
Guildhall, VT
30, joined Aug. 2011
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sounds like your not talking to the right guys, get out of that city and talk to a country man.
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| 11/18/2011 10:25:47 PM |
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fb1966
Keene, NH
51, joined Nov. 2011
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The same could be said about women. Every woman I met on here has done the same thing... They act like they are interested and then stop the communication altogether. They say they want a man who is loving and all that stuff and I fit that criterior, but it's always the same thing. The question we should be asking is, "Why are all women the same?".
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| 11/19/2011 8:54:40 AM |
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salsaman67
Manchester, NH
49, joined Jul. 2011
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I think what the point is 1 out of every 4 messages a girl gets on here is someone who is to cheap to pay for phone sex so they come on here thinking they may get it. Not saying everyone is, but those who are ruin it for others.
Thank you babef! Those guys that bring up sex are ruining it for us guys that really want to meet someone and we do not start or even talk about sex in any of our communications. Sure, sex will eventually be a part of any relationship, but it is not necessary to start talking about it right away. I'd like to know that I am compatible with a person on many different levels...yeah 29 dimensions of compatibility...where have we heard that before? LMAO. I just want to meet a local, good woman to share my life with.
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| 11/25/2011 12:29:40 PM |
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fb1966
Keene, NH
51, joined Nov. 2011
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I think what the point is 1 out of every 4 messages a girl gets on here is someone who is to cheap to pay for phone sex so they come on here thinking they may get it. Not saying everyone is, but those who are ruin it for others.
You women want guys to see you for who you are, not what you are? Stop dressing like you just got off "duty". I think you know what I mean. I want a woman who doesn't think that I just want her for sex. I want a woman with a brain, not a stretched out you-know-what. You women want us to change? YOU CHANGE!!! If you come off like looks are all that matter then that's all you'll get. Almost all "chip and dales" are scumbags. You want a guy that will be good to you? Start by looking within. And stop lying about what you want in a guy. "I want a guy that will make me feel like a princess, but he's got to be a "chip and dale". You keep saying "Guys just want one thing", but in reality, isn't that what you want? Otherwise looks wouldn't be an issue. You have to ask yourself...Do I want someone who makes me horny or do I want someone that makes me feel wonderful? Stop bashing men and start being true to yourself. You cannot have it both ways.
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| 1/7/2012 8:12:45 AM |
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trebrown
West Hartford, CT
44, joined Aug. 2011
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Always remember this. Men spend ninety percent of their time having sex and the other ten percent thinking about it...... or the other way around..... my opinion... the vagina is the best thing that has ever been made
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