| 11/12/2008 9:29:21 PM |
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forestrose
Calgary, AB
age: 56
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Yes, Foxy, it is a job - with lots of great benefits!
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| 11/13/2008 10:03:13 PM |
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mwhitefalcon
Cherryville, BC
age: 50
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Thank you all for your response. Lots of wisdom out there.
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| 11/29/2008 3:23:00 AM |
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forever4
Victoria
Australia
age: 48
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does anyone know where whitefalcon has gone ???????????????????????????????????????????????
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| 11/29/2008 5:23:37 PM |
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tcnurse
Scottsburg, IN
age: 54
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Welcome, Falcon. Stay blessed.
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| 11/29/2008 6:28:10 PM |
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steven030463
Warren, OH
age: 46 online now!
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You know what, Its the same here. People treat you different while on disability than when your not. I've been on here for awhile and I still haven't found anyone special. Everyone says, I'm the nices guy they've met but nothing else. Yes you get treated different. I have great friends, but there no one who wants to be with me to share my life. Thats Ok. Yes I do collect disability but you know what, I don't have to live on that. I'm very well off from my accident. but Its only me so I just live off the disability check. I don't need nothing else. I'm not going to be on this site much longer because Its just driving me crazy not meeting anyone. don't get me wrong, my friends from DH are awesome and I love them with respect. But DH isn't for me. I was never the person to get on these sites and meet people. I don't know how to do that. I don't even know how to date. I was with someone for a very long time. You lose all that dating stuff when you don't do it. Its up to you if you want to put your getting disability, I would because there going to find out anyway and its going to be the same thing. They will shove you aside. Its a shame because guys like me would give a woman the world. Welcome to DH and god bless you. I hope you are one of the lucky ones to find someone special.
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| 12/1/2008 5:27:44 PM |
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strangeduck
Philadelphia, PA
age: 47
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As a person with a disability, I would say to be careful what you divulge. Most people who do not have disabilities know very little about the disabled community and make many assumptions -- such as you are "stupid" and could be taken advantage of, or that you are some wilting flower on the vine and could be taken advantage of. I would say it is good to elude to your disabilities, but make sure you say it from a position of strength. People who say they are understanding are not always so understanding and sometimes rather ignorant. Your disability is a part of who you are; you don't have to hide it, but you divulge that kind of personal information the way you divulge any personal information -- very carefully. Take care.
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| 12/15/2008 3:58:36 PM |
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jacel
McLoud, OK
age: 63
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 I've been on this sight for -- say 3 years; NEVER met a quility woman; The only thing I can say for SURE is-- womeen WANT PERFECTION; And IF your NOT perfect -- you can just go to; That's the message I've gotten from every woman I've talk to; They never said it to my EAR; But, every one of them has convied it;--- And with those few words of wit; I'll say go bye; There's no sence going any farther;
[Edited 12/15/2008 4:00:00 PM PST]
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| 12/16/2008 3:29:27 PM |
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nick19
Clarksville, TN
age: 23
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Don't ever be afraid to say you have a disability I have PTSS and I am not ashamed of it. If people cant accept you for who you are then they aren't worth your time. It's always good to be very honest when talking to people especially being on here looking for that special someone. Honesty is the key to success
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| 12/21/2008 12:37:00 AM |
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cdl_lady
Robeline, LA
age: 60
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Welcome to the group.
I think it is up to you about adding your disability to your profile.
If rejection causes you too much emotional pain, perhaps you would be better off mentioning your disability 'up front' in your profile.
However, I believe we should look at those small-minded & self-centered people as 'good riddance'.
The phrase is often extended and emphasized as to 'good riddance to bad rubbish', or as it was first coined 'good riddance of bad rubbish'.
Charles D*ckens was the first author to record that in print, in his 1848 novel Dombey and son:
"A good riddance of bad rubbish!" said that wrathful old lady [speaking of Susan Nipper]. "Get along with you, or I'll have you carried out!"
If they pay attention to the groups and forums we mention in our profile, they will discover 'who' we are--- and our disabilities have nothing to do with that.
We each must recognize our personal worth beyond our physical limitations, our 'looks', our weight, our income or our jobs. Those things are not 'who' we are.
The Bible tells us 'not to cast pearls before swine because they will simply trample them underfoot'.
Our Creator did not want us to be 'yoked unequally' with others--- and that means more than our having the same faith or religion--- we must yoke ourselves with those who have the same value system as ourselves.
People who reject us for our disabiliy have no concept of love or commitment.
They are carnal creatures who are only interested in their own sexual pleasure and I seriously doubt whether they have ever loved anyone as much as they love themselves.
They would have no understanding of the marriage vow of loving faithfulness 'in sickness and in health'.
If those people shun us without even bothering to 'know who we are', then the loss is theirs and not ours.
[Edited 12/21/2008 12:39:01 AM PST]
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| 12/21/2008 12:50:18 AM |
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cdl_lady
Robeline, LA
age: 60
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jacel, I'm sorry that you have not met any 'quality' women.
But please do not lump all of us females together.
I don't lump the 'jerks' with the 'good guys'.
I'm simply seeking someone with whom I'm 'equally yoked with' according to the Bible, and that has nothing to do with worldly values.
Good luck in your search for happiness.
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| 12/21/2008 1:18:07 AM |
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cdl_lady
Robeline, LA
age: 60
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'bookshort', what you shared with 'mwhitefalcon' about the cruel ignorance of 'martz1958' is similar to the bigotry I've also experienced from 'physically healthy' idiots!
They are as unpleasant as stepping in dog poop, but at least we can clean our shoes off easier than we can enlighten the dim minds of men like 'martz1958'. LOL!
I hope 'mwhitefalcon' does not get discouraged in finding someone special to love and to be loved in return.
We each deserve happiness and love.
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| 12/21/2008 8:51:43 AM |
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hannbalshottie
Hannibal, MO
age: 53
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I think the OP has left the building....
This member has deleted their profile, sorry!
With all the negativity he seems to have gotten, can we blaim him?
Op... If you are out there watching the forums even though you deleted your profile...I do hope you find the happiness you are looking for in your life....
Merry Christmas.... 
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| 12/21/2008 11:35:08 AM |
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hellzwintr
Anderson, IN
age: 41
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Hello back, and welcome!
If you are disabled, then yeah sure put 'er in there, if someone really wants to know you it shouldn't matter. I too have anxiety problems and I'll say it right out.
Alot of ppl don't understand that this time of year just makes those types of things worse, I get that, you see it in alot of posts.
Lets say it and be done, we are the lonely, unwanted, loveless or love lost club!
All aboard!
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| 12/21/2008 3:19:03 PM |
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carllove1
Austin, IN
age: 47
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i know this woman when they know you are disable they do run, i dont know about guys, iam not gay, i love woman,   
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| 12/23/2008 6:02:38 AM |
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foxy_woman_49
Omaha, NE
age: 50
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Have a Merry Christmas All
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