10/7/2007 5:05:58 AM |
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superscreenname
Suffolk, VA
age: 30
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I don't like the sound of this. How long of an online relationship are yall talking about having before the meeting in person? Seems like if you built the relationship up enough online and over the phone you would click in person. Am I wrong? This spooks me from the online thing.
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10/7/2007 5:11:03 AM |
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steak_king
Whitmore Lake, MI
age: 50
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Can't argue with you there screen
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10/7/2007 5:12:22 AM |
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waytogo51
Prairie Grove, AR
age: 51
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Don't get spook Super. To me on-line dating is better than just meeting some one and then going out. What I mean is. You see some one at a party or somewhere and you are attracted to them. You ask them out and find out you have nothing in common. But on-line you get to find out more about them before you actually meet. Which to me gives you better opportunity for you to click. Not always the case. I hope I am making sense here.
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10/7/2007 5:26:41 AM |
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superscreenname
Suffolk, VA
age: 30
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That is what I was thinking waytogo. I mean you get to talk about so many things. Coupled with that, if it is long distance, things won't get clouded totally by the physical/sexual relationship because it doesn't exist at that point. I actually like that fact quite a bit because in the past I've had a problem with that for sure. Plus, nowadays I feel that sex before the right time in a relationship will usually cause the rest of it to stop developing properly and ultimately cause it's demise. I just know that I am talking to someone right now that I am very interested in, moreso than anyone I have met in many years, and I think this is my biggest fear. That we will meet in person and she will be like, "WTF was I thinking?"
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10/7/2007 5:32:59 AM |
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waytogo51
Prairie Grove, AR
age: 51
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I agree Super, but that is a chance we have to take. But another thing for me is. I am more shy about going up to a woman in person and trying to get a date with them. On-line I am not as shy. It really helps me. Plus some time an lady will contact me first.
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10/7/2007 5:33:26 AM |
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steak_king
Whitmore Lake, MI
age: 50
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Physical attraction comes into play whether you admit it or not. You can click on the phone and here, but in person are 2 different things. That has been my experience and is JMO.
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10/7/2007 5:35:15 AM |
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superscreenname
Suffolk, VA
age: 30
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Oh definately, physical attraction is very important in my opinion. Just the early sex thing that causes problems to me.
51, at least here you know what their intentions are also, you know if they are lookning or not unlike the genral public.
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10/7/2007 5:39:43 AM |
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steak_king
Whitmore Lake, MI
age: 50
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I must be misunderstanding you then. It takes 2 to have sex, if one doesn't want it then it'll come later.
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10/7/2007 5:43:27 AM |
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superscreenname
Suffolk, VA
age: 30
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I am probly not coming across right.
Either way, I am not the same person I used to be persay. I have found a different set of feelings and morals within myself over the past few years. Iused to let sex get in the way but no longer do. This is probly one of the reasons I haven't entered into a relationship in years. Girls these days are very ready to hop in the sac.
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10/7/2007 5:49:15 AM |
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steak_king
Whitmore Lake, MI
age: 50
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Gotcha! That might be at your age, I can't say. However you are thinking the right way, sex just adds to the relationship and is NOT the premise FOR the relationship. Congratulations you've grown up! JMO
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10/7/2007 5:52:10 AM |
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cutencuddls
Hopewell, VA
age: 38
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*trying not to get on my soapbox*
Super.. do you realize that society has developed women into "being willing to jump in the sac" right away? Let me tell you what it is like from a woman's view point....
You go out with a guy.... he has seemed wonderful on the phone and possibly computer. You finally decide to meet up with him. You have made it clear where your moral standpoint is.... You do NOT go to bed with him, but have a great time on your "date". He never calls again. He tells you online that it isn't going to work. Or, chooses to take his "insult to his manhood" one step further and calls you names (like "frigid", "c*ck tease", etc)
Now, flip side....
You meet this guy. Finally decide to get together... knowing how your own personal morals have stunted any hope of a relationship in the past, you choose to go against your own moral core and sleep with the guy. He now has no respect for you, got what he wanted from you, finds you "too easy" to want to pursue a relationship with.... and again, nothing past the first date.
I'm sorry... but I find that women are pretty much stuck in a bad situation until they meet that rare man that actually DOES respect the woman's morals.
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10/7/2007 5:58:50 AM |
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superscreenname
Suffolk, VA
age: 30
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I see where you are comming from cuddles. I do see that society causes different stereotypes and such for men women and others, but isn't it up to us to stick to our principals in order to find what it is we are looking for? Plus, any guy who says he won't lose respect for you if you sleep with him on the first date is lying and just wants you're tater. Yes, I said tater. It seems to be harder and harder to find people we connect with, that are truthful, and have the same point of view.
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10/7/2007 5:58:59 AM |
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steak_king
Whitmore Lake, MI
age: 50
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Well cuddls, scenario 1, you stick to your morals and the guy doesn't call back. Guess that means he doesn't have the same morals as yourself (assuming all went well on date) so why would you care if he didn't call back? It doesn't seem like he's your guy to me.
Don't know why you'd even consider scenario 2 if you are sticking to your morals.
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10/7/2007 6:00:33 AM |
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superscreenname
Suffolk, VA
age: 30
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Yea, I was just about to repost that exact same thing steak.
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10/7/2007 6:05:48 AM |
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steak_king
Whitmore Lake, MI
age: 50
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Screen, you have a lot of time, do what you know is right. No sense in getting another (assuming you are) divorce down the road.
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