| 11/26/2008 7:08:32 AM |
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sunkis
Fort Myers, FL
age: 52
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I MET A GUY ON LINE,MET HIM IN PERSON 2or3 WEEKS LATER.
WE JUST SEEMED TO CLICK RIGHT FROM THE START.
LOTS IN COMMON,REALLY ENJOYED EACH OTHERS COMPANY.
HE MADE JOKES ABOUT ME BEING A BAD LITTLE GIRL AND
JOKINGLY SAID,I`LL HAVE TO SPANK MY LITTLE GIRL,I LAUGHED.
DURING SEX HE STARTED BY GIVING ME A LITTLE SMACK ON
THE BOTTOM,WHICH WAS OK. BY THE END OF THE SEX ACT
HE WAS HITTING ALOT HARDER.
THE NEXT TIME HE GOT OUT BELTS,AGAIN HE JUST TEASED WITH THEM
BUT ,YOU GOT IT ...IT GOT HARDER.
I TOLD HIM I WASN`T IN TO THAT ..DIDN`T LIKE IT,DIDN`T WANT IT!
HE SAID OK,BUT IT SEEMED HE HAD A HARD TIME GETTING AND
KEEPING AN ERECTION WITH OUT SPANKING ME.
IS THIS NORMAL? WILL IT GET RUFFER? SHOULD I RUN NOT WALK
TO THE NEAREST EXIT?
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| 11/26/2008 7:10:02 AM |
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jacobsdad
Greensboro, NC
age: 34
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WHY ARE YOU YELLING AT US????? DON'T MAKE ME TAKE OFF MY BELT AND WHIP YOUR ASS!!
seriously.....why are you yelling?
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| 11/26/2008 7:12:59 AM |
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bobbieforforums
Poultney, VT
age: 39
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umm sounds like someone has mommy issues
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| 11/26/2008 7:15:48 AM |
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kellie08
Blue Bell, PA
age: 39
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Run!!!!  
Dude has a fetish and it drives his sexual interest...it will not work (pun intended) if your not into it! Good luck!
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| 11/26/2008 7:17:16 AM |
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pattilee3
Norfolk, VA
age: 55
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kellie is right, run forrest run 
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| 11/26/2008 7:17:46 AM |
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jacobsdad
Greensboro, NC
age: 34
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i have this fetish of wanting to spank kellie and bobbie right now......you've been very bad girls....make sure you are wearing mini skirts and high heels when you come over later.....daddy wants to play a game
oh, and pattilee wants to join in the fun too?
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| 11/26/2008 7:20:07 AM |
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kellie08
Blue Bell, PA
age: 39
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No worries Jacobsdad we even color coordinated our micro mini's and thigh high boots!!! You'll be pleased Daddy! lol
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| 11/26/2008 7:22:28 AM |
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dreamingoutloud
St Thomas, VI
age: 49
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My B/F gives me a pretty hard smack on the a** everytime we make love, only one right before the end, but have him pull out a belt or any kind of tool to do it and hes history.
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| 11/26/2008 7:43:28 AM |
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allarrimer
Houston, TX
age: 32
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im a pretty open person sexually---and the one thing that has to be there is agreement. you gotta be honest.
you did the right thing and now the ball is in his court!
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| 11/26/2008 7:44:50 AM |
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beanz991
Houston, TX
age: 43
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I like to spank that a** but belts is talking it a bit far.
...or is it..
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| 11/26/2008 7:48:55 AM |
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sunkis
Fort Myers, FL
age: 52
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Sorry NC.
First time I have ever posted.
Wouldn`t have posted now except
I hoped for some answers that
might help me understand,is this
normal,I don`t have much dating
experence......maybe I`ve come
to the wrong place for answers.
Sorry about yelling
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| 11/26/2008 8:21:46 AM |
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dave632
Mississauga, ON
age: 57
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They're just yankin your chain. Don't worry about it. Many posters here are 14 - mentally if not actually. You'll notice that interesting threads get lost quickly and ""DOES EVERYBODY EAT THEIR OWN NAVEL FLUFF?"" idiot threads go on and on and on and on ...
Sorry NC.
First time I have ever posted.
Wouldn`t have posted now except
I hoped for some answers that
might help me understand,is this
normal,I don`t have much dating
experence......maybe I`ve come
to the wrong place for answers.
The answer is: It's normal for him.
It may be something you can get into. Maybe not. I'd be more into whether her was LISTENING to you and your preferences on how hard you can take a whack etc. If he's not listening to ya then run - he's an idiot. If you really like him and can get him to tone down and leave out the belts etc then it may be worth exploring with him.
The pleasure from Sex and pain are very close in neural activity. Many people find a whack or two will enhance sexual pleasure. There is the psychological factors too but just the increase in nerve stimulation will normally enhance sexual pleasure. Only if you are completely turned off at the idea of being "hit" will become a deal-breaker for you two.
Have you spoken to him about it? Seriously? NOT in bed having your butt whacked? If he wants to turn you on a bit and see a rosie red bum then ... live with it if you really like him. If he has fantasies of tying you upside down from the rafters and beating you with bamboo poles until your eyeballs explode ... then maybe it's time to move on. ASSuming he is relatively "normal" he may find it a huge turn on just to talk about it too. Explore. Have fun.
*THOT* Hell, you might even try reversing rolls. Next time you're into it tell him to turn around and bend over ... see what happens.
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| 11/26/2008 9:39:43 AM |
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sunkis
Fort Myers, FL
age: 52
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Thank you for your response.
When I tried to talk to him
He said,it looks like our relationship
is going backwards.
Thats why I fear he only enjoys ruff sex.
and isn`t satisfied with "Making Love"
theres a big difference.
I don`t see our relationship going forward.
I guess some people enjoy this sort of thing.
I dont.
I had hoped I would get more serious responses
like yours,giving me some helpful advise.
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| 11/26/2008 10:01:12 AM |
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walter55
Albuquerque, NM
age: 52
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Belts, spanking, whips..... ouch!!
better idea!!
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| 11/26/2008 10:35:56 AM |
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yaneverknow52
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 55
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Sunkis......RUN!! fast as you can...all the way to the EAST coast!! I'm not into rough!
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| 11/26/2008 10:54:57 AM |
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kater619
El Cajon, CA
age: 32
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What's wrong with rough sex? What about a little choking in the mix? 
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| 11/26/2008 11:06:13 AM |
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walter55
Albuquerque, NM
age: 52
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| 11/26/2008 11:07:40 AM |
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wisdomsearcher
Tulsa, OK
age: 38
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there is an art to spanking when done the right way it can bring pleasure when done wrong it hurts like a hornet sting
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| 11/26/2008 11:46:44 AM |
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april_raindanc
Arlington, WA
age: 66
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Spanking? Normal? What is normal in bed is between two consenting adults. And when you meet someone online and just meet? Do you really know that person? Sounds like it's out of control to me. Or heading in that direction. Go girl! Get him behind thee! Take Care!
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| 11/26/2008 11:53:30 AM |
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sunkis
Fort Myers, FL
age: 52
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This response was for "yaneverno,Port St.Lucie Fl.
Thats quite a distance......I figure
I could make it by early Saturday morning.
Pretend your Motel (6)leave the light on
LOL...LOL...
Thanks for your response
S.
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| 11/26/2008 12:12:06 PM |
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mikeyboy59
Naperville, IL
age: 51
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I agree, get the hell out if you do not like it. If the sex turned to it that fast it is not like the little spanker is going to change. Normal? only if you both want it to be. If you are uncomfortable at all, listen to the little voice.
Dated someone that a little innocent bondage w/ scarfs turned into her wanting to be shackled and "cloth pinned" ouch! May have excited her but the opposite for me. End of that relationship.
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| 11/26/2008 12:12:15 PM |
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sunkis
Fort Myers, FL
age: 52
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What's wrong with rough sex? What about a little choking in the mix?
That must be how they do it in your neck of the woods.
Personally I`m into Warm and Fuzzy,and cuddleing afterwards.
In my buisness we dont even hit the bad guys
everyone is treated with respect.
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| 11/26/2008 12:18:47 PM |
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sunkis
Fort Myers, FL
age: 52
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I agree, get the hell out if you do not like it. If the sex turned to it that fast it is not like the little spanker is going to change. Normal? only if you both want it to be. If you are uncomfortable at all, listen to the little voice.
Dated someone that a little innocent bondage w/ scarfs turned into her wanting to be shackled and "cloth pinned" ouch! May have excited her but the opposite for me. End of that relationship.
Thanks.
I understand if both people like something go for it
but don`t get angry if New partner doesn`t want to
jump on board!
My big concern was will this get ruffer?
should I bail now?
Who would expect this from such a really nice guy.
Thanks again
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| 11/26/2008 12:28:51 PM |
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mikeyboy59
Naperville, IL
age: 51
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Thanks.
I understand if both people like something go for it
but don`t get angry if New partner doesn`t want to
jump on board!
My big concern was will this get ruffer?
should I bail now?
Who would expect this from such a really nice guy.
Thanks again
Will it get rougher, I think oh hell yes. If he can't enjoy sex without it it will naturally have to keep escalating for him to stay excited.
I am sure he is a nice guy..with a sexual procliity for spanking!
Besides, when you told him you did not like it he said the relationship was going backward? Sounds manipulative to me. How nice is that?
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| 11/26/2008 12:55:29 PM |
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mstrc00l3r
Seattle, WA
age: 44
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Will it get rougher, I think oh hell yes. If he can't enjoy sex without it it will naturally have to keep escalating for him to stay excited.
I am sure he is a nice guy..with a sexual procliity for spanking!
Besides, when you told him you did not like it he said the relationship was going backward? Sounds manipulative to me. How nice is that?
I agree with Mikey, it will get rougher. Run like the wind. From your description I would guess that he does not feel any kind of connection with you in the bedroom, it's just about control and getting off. It may not even be his fault, but don't try to fix him, don't walk. RUN!!
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| 11/26/2008 12:57:19 PM |
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sunkis
Fort Myers, FL
age: 52
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Sunkis......RUN!! fast as you can...all the way to the EAST coast!! I'm not into rough!
I`m on my way out now to get some running shoes...
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| 11/26/2008 1:10:38 PM |
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laremdaddy04
Monroe, LA
age: 40
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Normal sex? As with anything in sex...if the two of you don't agree on it, then it won't be normal. If you aren't into it, then move on. Normal is anything the two of you agree on as okay in the relationship.
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| 11/26/2008 1:39:11 PM |
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kater619
El Cajon, CA
age: 32
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I whip my men when they are being bad.....they seem to like it 
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| 11/26/2008 3:58:50 PM |
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sunkis
Fort Myers, FL
age: 52
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I whip my men when they are being bad.....they seem to like it
In my world thats called battery  Hey if no one calls 911 you go girl
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| 11/26/2008 4:48:02 PM |
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hun_rock
Preston, ID
age: 48
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I would hope spanking is natural
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| 11/26/2008 7:22:21 PM |
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stick67
Homosassa, FL
age: 43
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Some lightly smacks on the behind is alright but literally slapping the shit out of it and
using a belt and using it even harder? Sounds to me like he has control issues. Kinda like he's BIG DADDY and whipping the shit out of his kid to me. I'm glad you're getting some running shoes. I just hope you use them. No, whipping the hell outta you is not normal. NEXT!
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| 11/26/2008 7:29:51 PM |
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liguy999
Port Jefferson, NY
age: 47
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I whip my men when they are being bad.....they seem to like it
it all sound good, but not the choking lol. 
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| 11/26/2008 8:09:06 PM |
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seantalia
Bedford, TX
age: 33
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Yep, it's a fetish for sure. And doesn't sound like you're into it. So, run like Rosie O'Donnell would run to the nearest Ben and Jerry's.
I'm down for some light to medium spanking. My man spanks my butt daily, randomly, just for the heck of it. 
As for the choking...there's nothing wrong with that either...
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| 11/26/2008 8:10:36 PM |
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simplman4right1
Sarasota, FL
age: 54
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Most erotic night of my life....
Had this lady friend... we had known each other for *years*
She had recently broken up... so had I.
So we got this hotel room and had wild monkey sex.
She slapped me... screw it.... I got into it and pulled her hair so it banged her head onto the wall.
Man-O-Man-O-Man.... it got "worse".... Tiz amazing neither of us got hurt.
Afterwards... we decided we were both a tad too "unbridaled" to be lovers.
But we had the common sense to recognize that.
If this guy is doing things TO you in the bedroom versus FOR you in the bedroom... let him know you will be willing to file assault charges.
Actually?
Don't even go there.... run like hell and if he ever contacts you again put a restraining order on him.
edited: cause this post allows html code.... and not in the good way
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| 11/26/2008 8:14:22 PM |
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snazzy73
York, PA
age: 41
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Run!!!!
Dude has a fetish and it drives his sexual interest...it will not work (pun intended) if your not into it! Good luck!
There are about 1,001 different fetishes in this crazy world of ours... or different ways of carrying them out... another reason why if I am comfortable enough to meet the person I am comfortable enough to talk about sex during the first meet.
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| 11/26/2008 8:19:44 PM |
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lilj87
Carroll, OH
age: 23
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i think u should get that fool some viagra or tie his a** to a chair and slap his a** wit a belt..
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| 11/26/2008 8:29:20 PM |
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dyandyves
Brunswick, ME
age: 50
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What is normal? What the people involved agree is normal......Whether it be missionary or down and dirty blood draw. Stargulation...It is about consent! No holds bar but CONSENT is the key!
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| 11/26/2008 8:37:04 PM |
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urgenienabottle
Chaffee, MO
age: 32
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Hum...If its good sex I would say so! If your lucky you can move on to even funnier things! Gotta loosen up and have fun....Sticks and stones might break my bones but whips and chains excite me!!!
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| 11/26/2008 9:12:56 PM |
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ioughtano
Volcano, CA
age: 63
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Spanking is one thing....but beating(pun)is another. "RUN"
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| 11/26/2008 9:16:42 PM |
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vicki2008
Tippecanoe, OH
age: 23
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i love my a** smacked during sex, but as far as a belt goes im not so sure i would enjoy that...id run if i were you
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| 11/26/2008 9:20:41 PM |
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liguy999
Port Jefferson, NY
age: 47
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A naughty girl needs a good spanking!!!
i like the spanking part Mix!
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| 11/27/2008 12:18:54 AM |
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chaz9959421
Milton, FL
age: 42
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if you want choking during sex you are wanting someone to f u c k you not make love...... jmo
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| 11/27/2008 12:31:48 AM |
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b1hunid
Yukon, OK
age: 34
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i love to spank that a** but only with my hand
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| 11/27/2008 2:08:28 AM |
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skiwino
Redford, MI
age: 48
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Will it get rougher, I think oh hell yes. If he can't enjoy sex without it it will naturally have to keep escalating for him to stay excited.
I am sure he is a nice guy..with a sexual procliity for spanking!
Besides, when you told him you did not like it he said the relationship was going backward? Sounds manipulative to me. How nice is that?
I don't agree; he may be totally honest and telling you what turns him on and if this is what makes him happy he is right in saying so.
Must we assume that if he said he likes a hug afterwords then that must naturally escalate his need to be squeezed for 5 hours?
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| 11/27/2008 6:01:13 AM |
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serenityfrank
Toms River, NJ
age: 52
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please define-NORMAL______,whatever two are into,,but if not no!
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| 11/27/2008 11:11:53 AM |
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sunkis
Fort Myers, FL
age: 52
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if you want choking during sex you are wanting someone to f u c k you not make love...... jmo
I believe alot of the "Youngsters" have never experienced Real Love Making"
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| 11/27/2008 11:14:12 AM |
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irishlasey31
Berwyn, IL
age: 33
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I likes it hard in there
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| 11/27/2008 11:25:29 AM |
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sunkis
Fort Myers, FL
age: 52
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I don't agree; he may be totally honest and telling you what turns him on and if this is what makes him happy he is right in saying so.
Must we assume that if he said he likes a hug afterwords then that must naturally escalate his need to be squeezed for 5 hours?
Had he been honest from the start....I would not be wrighting this
asking is this normal? what will he want to do next? will it get ruffer?
He would have said what he wanted and needed in order to keep an erection!
And I would have Told him "Honestly" That I wasn`t into that.
Instead of saying the first time "I Feel bad I didn`t realize that hurt you!!!
I Guess I have Stupid written on my forehead....
I don`t have much dating experience,but I`m learning Fast!
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| 11/27/2008 5:50:05 PM |
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sunkis
Fort Myers, FL
age: 52
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serious its because you most likely yelled at him to,
the very first thing you should have done is
GET TO KNOW WHO UR F**KING
SET OUT RULES
SET A SAFTEY WORD
just those rules alone can tell you who and what your dealing with oh an yes spanking
is done on the first time but truthfully its never done in that mannour your boy is f**ked in the head
Wow that's definitely up front and to the point.
And maybe that's what I need,instead of asking
about him and his behavior..................
Wake up call for me....."Know who I`m F- - - - - - ?
A little harsh but,life is harsh today I`m finding out!
I don`t know what you mean by pick a word
And I had no idea this was going to happen.
I talked to him on line 3 weeks before meeting him.
Checked him out on line before first date.
went out to dinner 3 /or 4 times before drinks at his place.
I thought I had all the bases covered.......
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| 11/27/2008 8:41:56 PM |
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dave632
Mississauga, ON
age: 57
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SO you checked him out a bit. NOT like you discovered barrels of body parts in his basement. Geeez. He's a tad kinky and you ain't. Would you be any less traumatized if you liked watching soccer and he was into cricket? ... You drove a Mazda and he drove a Chev? You either find compatibility or you move on. Nattering on like a schoolgirl makes you seem more naive than you probably really are. He hasn't tied you to the ceiling - yet and all that is speculation. Speculation of how BAD it COULD get in a new relationship is just asking for an end to the relationship. You should make THAT decision based on everything about the guy not on ONE thing he likes that you don't. MANY women who have posted here say they like getting whacked during sex. It is NOT kinky for those who like it.
Has he found your GSPOT - yet? There's a "suggestion" on pg 6 of my thread there that involves spanking AND G-Gasms. LOTS of both. If it works for you it is INtense. So much so you probably won't even be aware of what he's doing or when other than you'll be having massive orgasms over and over and over again. The fact that he's swatting your bum at the same time will likely be lost on you. THAT is the kind of spanking MOST of us in here are into .... TRY and enjoy or lose him and find a defrocked priest ... naw forget that. You wouldn't pass the physical.
From:
http://forum.literotica.com:81/showthread.php?t=70892
*************
For anybody who has tried the GSpot technique and found that it works AND likes a little spanking now and then - COMBINE the TWO.
A good OTK (*edit* over the knee spanking is a "blocked site???) and every 10 swats or so give her two to five rapid G-Gasms and then 10 swats. Alternate that back and forth. Keep it rapid and frenzied, pull her hair, lock only one leg down so she can kick the other around, keep one arm firmly over the small of her back so she feels (and IS ) trapped and can't get away. MAKE her submit just a little longer than she wants to. She'll be screaming and begging you to stop. Don't. Part of the thrill for her is NOT knowing if you'll just keep going until she goes completely nutz or passes out from the intensity. I don't think most women can continue this for more than two or three minutes once they start having G-Gasms. It is just too intense. The spanking combines the kinkiness and submission AND the GSpot orgasms can be administered almost like spanks..."WHAT did you call me? OK - That's TEN more!!" It is awesome.
Afterwards reward her with a COLD cold cream bum rub. Aloe Vera based body lotions are great. Put it in the fridge for a while first. When you start spreading the COLD cream over her red cheeks she'll melt. Give her a few more (slower - softer) G-Gasms while you're doing the bum rub. 
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| 11/27/2008 9:26:11 PM |
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nckcntn32
Canton, OH
age: 34
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He must have thought you really needed punished if he had to use a belt. Dayyym!! He prob has some kind of spanking fetish. I like to smack a woman's a** but only with my hand.
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| 11/29/2008 1:14:55 PM |
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meufriend2
Hemlock, MI
age: 39
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no but fun
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| 11/29/2008 1:25:11 PM |
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crochetbymoi
Baltimore, MD
age: 39
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well..everyone has their kinks and if that is something that you are not into and dont want to continue then stop seeing this guy all together before it becomes something more serious. Obviously this something that he likes and needs to find someone that will be willing to give him what he wants.
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| 11/29/2008 2:02:52 PM |
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shears12
Blue Bell, PA
age: 34
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| 11/29/2008 2:50:19 PM |
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hun_rock
Preston, ID
age: 48
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I want to be spanked
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| 11/29/2008 2:52:16 PM |
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scottiscool
Mayville, WI
age: 51
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And I want to spank you.!
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| 11/29/2008 2:54:11 PM |
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blkbagger
McHenry, IL
age: 49
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I have found that even women not particularly into "spanking" are still very aroused by a sharp smack to the a** at the right moment while making love... "WHACK"...
JMO, Ken...
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| 11/29/2008 4:23:39 PM |
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nicky2129
New Liberty, IA
age: 26
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Spanking is awesome i love it
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| 11/29/2008 5:00:13 PM |
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maniacmassager
Lawrence, MA
age: 44 online now!
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I want to be spanked
Your wish is my command! 
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| 11/29/2008 5:15:49 PM |
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grasshopper74
Churubusco, IN
age: 36
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everyone is a freak with fetishs seems like spanking is his if your not into it run because if he likes it now he'll like it later try and find someone whos on your same freak wave
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