| 12/6/2008 8:04:57 PM |
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bb36575
Sumter, SC
age: 47
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I had to stop seeing a lady that I really like because she like to argue. She wait till the last half of the date and start a argument about " You didnt tip 20%" "You park to far"
always something small that just didnt matter. Finally I just stop calling, she was evil. not mean but downright evil.
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| 12/6/2008 8:33:50 PM |
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johnnybadboy
Baltimore, MD
age: 56
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It seems I have only run into 2 types of women.
1. They are right no matter what. (if you prove them wrong they hold it against you forever, but still don't admit you are right)
Okay I was wrong only 1 type screwed no matter what LOL
option number 5 smile and say lets go shopping I think you could use some more clothes.
Epatterson, Are you saying that you would reward her. I would think that would be telling her thats it ok to be disagreeable, he's going to take me shopping. I sure hope you are rich.  that would be like buying her off. That could be some high maintenance! But on the other hand in might be worth it, if she shops and bennies bargain basement. I got a good laugh out of #5
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| 12/6/2008 10:22:58 PM |
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hotcowgirl4u
Martins Ferry, OH
age: 54
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What I don't understand--- why more people just don't walk away from the heat of the moment. When both parties calm down then try an actual communication of the issue.
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| 12/7/2008 6:19:44 AM |
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optimystk
Fort Mohave, AZ
age: 48
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I say agree to disagree, and if she cant handle it then take a time out til she calms down. But then again women do tend to hold grudges. Crap you guys do have it kinda hard LOL. I can say from my point of view that life is too short to fight about the stupid stuff, yet it happens. You gotta pick your fights and learn when to say this isnt worth the stress. And really if the girl is constantly fighting with you over something stupid, there is something wrong with her, leave 
Hey Dont forget about the great make up Sex!
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| 12/7/2008 6:22:22 AM |
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hotcowgirl4u
Martins Ferry, OH
age: 54
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Hey Dont forget about the great make up Sex!
Fight for good sex lol
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| 12/7/2008 7:13:45 AM |
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okaydude
Mesquite, TX
age: 52
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<--------Doesn't argue with women....Already learned that very expensive lesson
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| 12/7/2008 7:58:10 AM |
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foxy_woman_49
Omaha, NE
age: 50
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Saying yes dear is for sure to get a reaction out of me and not a favorable one
I despise that term Yes Dear/No Dear
On the note of fighting/arguing: I've had only 1 relationship where that was a problem and that was with my X. OMG it was awful.
I dont believe ppl when you are married or in a relationship should be arguing all the time.
Once I marry him he becomes my best friend and why waste time not getting along...Therefore..I will never make that mistake again. If you want to spend time arguing and not getting along I am not and I repeat NOT going to stick around
Love should be blissful
Love has no anger
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| 12/7/2008 9:42:36 AM |
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mike22304
Alexandria, VA
age: 62
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I had to stop seeing a lady that I really like because she like to argue. She wait till the last half of the date and start a argument about " You didnt tip 20%" "You park to far"
always something small that just didnt matter. Finally I just stop calling, she was evil. not mean but downright evil.
Her criticizing or admonishing you for a perceived slight is not an argument. Her comments become an argument only after you disagree.
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| 12/7/2008 9:48:30 AM |
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lawn_dawg
Middleburg, FL
age: 39
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What I don't understand--- why more people just don't walk away from the heat of the moment. When both parties calm down then try an actual communication of the issue.
Oh....you know if some guy walked away from you when you were heated......he wouldn't make it far, or he wouldn't make it back. Shame on you! 
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| 12/7/2008 10:47:20 AM |
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ladyeden
Waynesville, MO
age: 48
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Arguments tend to be more about "feelings" and priorities rather than just facts.
What benefit is "winning" an argument if you loose a friend or a relationship over it?
If you see that you or they are caught up in the emotions of the argument - then there is nothing wrong with calling a time out to "consider" things or just admit this is getting crazy heated. Do set a time to resolve it tho.
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Recognize that you hear the other's feelings, ask for them to explain them if you don't understand them. Explain your own. Seek COLABORATION in seeking resolution. Remember, if you keep things a together "WE" you are not in an advisarial position - and that you really want to avoid don't you? It shouldn't be a goal for one or the other of you to win and the other to lose, it's about winning together. Then there are two winners and no losers.
On rare occasion, it is necessary to agree to disagree. How ever, if the above approach is taken both feel they have been heard and will at least have appreciation for the other's viewpoint and reasoning behind them. Seek a compromise if the issue affects you both.
And yeah, if a woman's "feelings" are discounted, she feels she's being muscled or brushed - there will be retribution down the line. Guys do it too tho.
Carries a lable - passive-agressive. Very non-productive.
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| 12/7/2008 1:44:45 PM |
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johnnybadboy
Baltimore, MD
age: 56
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Oh....you know if some guy walked away from you when you were heated......he wouldn't make it far, or he wouldn't make it back. Shame on you!
Dagw you have this down to a science, and I totally agree that you wouldn't make it to far, I had my own steel toed boot come flying across the room and hit me upside my head trying to escape/walk away from an argument once. You should have seen how fast I got off my couch and did what she wanted. I learn one thing from that and that is went a women wants you do something like take out the trash she doesn't mean later when you feel like it she means NOW!
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| 12/7/2008 1:49:56 PM |
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texas_okie
Laverne, OK
age: 42
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2. Can we agree to disagree on this subject and not get upset with each other (be assertive)
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| 12/7/2008 3:38:05 PM |
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rocket000
Murrayville, GA
age: 50
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I would ask myself, "WHY" I keep picking the same type of women?
Sometimes "agree to disagree" is fine. However, major issues need to be discussed and resolved. Instead of discussing or arguing to win consider discussing to LEARN.
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| 12/7/2008 9:45:01 PM |
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johnnybadboy
Baltimore, MD
age: 56
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I would ask myself, "WHY" I keep picking the same type of women?
Sometimes "agree to disagree" is fine. However, major issues need to be discussed and resolved. Instead of discussing or arguing to win consider discussing to LEARN.
Because I only had one in the last 34 years (lol)haven't had a chance to pick a new boot thrower yet
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| 12/7/2008 9:47:33 PM |
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deezee04
Stafford, VA
age: 22
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If by some chance, you solve this problem on a forum.....then you're a God in the fact that you solved something that hasn't been known since the beginning of man.
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