12/6/2008 4:04:47 PM |
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johnnybadboy
Baltimore, MD
age: 56 online now!
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Why is it when men argue with women, even if they technically win the argument they lose. But if they don't stand there ground some women think they are wimps. When a disagreement begins between a man and a women how do you defuse it before a bomb goes off. Do you just say?
1. Yes dear you are totally right how could anyone think otherwise (wimp out)
2. Can we agree to disagree on this subject and not get upset with each other (be assertive)
3. Perhaps we should talk about this later I need time to think about it more (stall for time and hope it doesn't come up later)
4. Say what you think and suffer the outcome (be a Man)
I can't say that I have ever won an argument with a woman that I didn't lose in the end. In very relationship there comes a time when you disagree about something. I want to be in a win win situation just one time what’s the secret?
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12/6/2008 4:08:20 PM |
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okaydude
Mesquite, TX
age: 52 online now!
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I don't know the correct answer, but I do know #4 is completely out.
Good luck with that.
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12/6/2008 4:11:52 PM |
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lawn_dawg
Middleburg, FL
age: 39
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It's not about winning. Women want to test you. To see if your strong enough to go the distance, yet gentle enough to not destroy something you care about. If you claim a premature victory, then they feel kind of cheated.
I think women start debates and push buttons the same way, men check out other women. It's not on purpose.
#1 is the worst of the three.
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12/6/2008 4:14:02 PM |
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johnnybadboy
Baltimore, MD
age: 56 online now!
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I don't know the correct answer, but I do know #4 is completely out.
Good luck with that.
We both know that
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12/6/2008 4:32:33 PM |
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foryoubaby
Seattle, WA
age: 23
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I say agree to disagree, and if she cant handle it then take a time out til she calms down. But then again women do tend to hold grudges. Crap you guys do have it kinda hard LOL. I can say from my point of view that life is too short to fight about the stupid stuff, yet it happens. You gotta pick your fights and learn when to say this isnt worth the stress. And really if the girl is constantly fighting with you over something stupid, there is something wrong with her, leave
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12/6/2008 4:34:41 PM |
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johnnybadboy
Baltimore, MD
age: 56 online now!
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It's not about winning. Women want to test you. To see if your strong enough to go the distance, yet gentle enough to not destroy something you care about. If you claim a premature victory, then they feel kind of cheated.
I think women start debates and push buttons the same way, men check out other women. It's not on purpose.
#1 is the worst of the three.
Dawg, I think the test is rigged in there favor and we walk on a tight rope. Are you saying you have to maintain your balance and outwit them on there test? That there are no winners its about learning and discovery? Thank you for schooling me Dawg!
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12/6/2008 4:39:22 PM |
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foryoubaby
Seattle, WA
age: 23
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Test? REALLY? well I am screwed I didnt study for that one 
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12/6/2008 4:40:57 PM |
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jungleskip
Winter Haven, FL
age: 39
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Test? REALLY? well I am screwed I didnt study for that one 
Don't worry...It's an oral exam! 
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12/6/2008 4:41:13 PM |
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lawn_dawg
Middleburg, FL
age: 39
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Dollface, you don't have to study for it, just administer it. 
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12/6/2008 4:42:29 PM |
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smitty4980
Fort White, FL
age: 56
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You could have rephrased your question.
Q. Why did God give women vaginas?
A. Because if He didn't nobody would have anything to do with them!  
Smitty
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12/6/2008 4:44:50 PM |
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carthun18
Saint Paul, MN
age: 28
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be yourself and say whats on your mind, if the love you they will respect you and your answer
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12/6/2008 4:47:37 PM |
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johnnybadboy
Baltimore, MD
age: 56 online now!
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You could have rephrased your question.
Q. Why did God give women vaginas?
A. Because if He didn't nobody would have anything to do with them!  
Smitty 
Smitty is that question on the test too!
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12/6/2008 4:53:59 PM |
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soloact59
Albuquerque, NM
age: 49 online now!
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Too funny, but true. On the rare occasions I was right and my ex was wrong, her reaction was to change the subject, and never acknowledge that I was correct. I think women are so used to winning an aurgument that when they don't their "honey, you're right, I was wrong" response completely shuts down and they are in danger of fainting.   
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12/6/2008 5:01:30 PM |
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johnnybadboy
Baltimore, MD
age: 56 online now!
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be yourself and say whats on your mind, if the love you they will respect you and your answer
carthun, I Guess, I don't always feel the love and respect or the women I've known were were just use to getting there way or the other way around. Gave me something to think about! thank you!
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12/6/2008 5:03:06 PM |
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mike22304

Alexandria, VA
age: 62
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You shouldn't be concerned about winning an argument. Instead you should concentrate on how to avoid an argument. QED...
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