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dare2dream100
Springfield, MO
age: 45
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definitely say what you think...If in the end you can't "win" you can agree to disagree. Personally I don't want a yes man, I want someone who knows what they think, whether I agree or not!!! I will admit when I'm wrong, however sometimes it is impossible to prove to me I am wrong! There is not always a true right or wrong answer, to me most situations come down to a matter of opinion and everyone has a right to theirs. If you cannot agree to disagree on 99% of everything then you are in the wrong relationship. The other 1% is to important to compromise on. JMHO
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| 12/6/2008 5:18:59 PM |
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johnnybadboy
Baltimore, MD
age: 56
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You shouldn't be concerned about winning an argument. Instead you should concentrate on how to avoid an argument. QED...
Mike, I agree but it happens and like Dawg said sometimes it's a test. If its a test than the disagreement is hard to avoid because it has been planned.
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| 12/6/2008 5:25:16 PM |
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kitise
Greenwood, SC
age: 30
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how can u avoid an argument with a woman... 
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| 12/6/2008 5:31:14 PM |
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johnnybadboy
Baltimore, MD
age: 56
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definitely say what you think...If in the end you can't "win" you can agree to disagree. Personally I don't want a yes man, I want someone who knows what they think, whether I agree or not!!! I will admit when I'm wrong, however sometimes it is impossible to prove to me I am wrong! There is not always a true right or wrong answer, to me most situations come down to a matter of opinion and everyone has a right to theirs. If you cannot agree to disagree on 99% of everything then you are in the wrong relationship. The other 1% is to important to compromise on. JMHO
Good answer Daretodream, If you can admit being wrong that shows a lot of character, the however sometimes it is impossibe to prove me wrong part. Just means you have a strong conviction/opinion on something.. thank you!
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| 12/6/2008 6:30:26 PM |
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singleagain50
Greenville, SC
age: 50
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Just follow the 10 rules for dealing with women.
#3 Never argue with women. Especially if you're outnumbered.
#4 No matter how many men are present, it only takes ONE woman to outnumber them.
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| 12/6/2008 6:54:39 PM |
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tssphoto
South Park, PA
age: 44
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You can't avoid an argument, if she wants a fight, she'll start it over any stupid thing. I always go for #4, speak your mind if you know you are right, then stop talking. This will piss her off for awhile, but she'll get over it. If you know she's right, admit it, and move on.
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| 12/6/2008 6:58:24 PM |
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epatterson
Peculiar, MO
age: 40
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It seems I have only run into 2 types of women.
1. They are right no matter what. (if you prove them wrong they hold it against you forever, but still don't admit you are right)
Okay I was wrong only 1 type screwed no matter what LOL
option number 5 smile and say lets go shopping I think you could use some more clothes.
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| 12/6/2008 7:04:23 PM |
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mrgoodhoney
Glen Carbon, IL
age: 55
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Traditionally you win an argument by agreeing with them and then turning it around with a but. In my area we lump ethnic groups together, mostly western Europeans by calling them "Hunkys". The definition of a hunky is anyone who argues for argument sakes. This may be the case and either you accept confrontation or you move on. But you seem to want to give it a good ole farm boy solution. Try setting her up but first memorizing something such as Presidents by numeical order. Lincoln was 16. Once you catch her talking out her behind you don't want to let her forget. Not all relationships last or are good for you. The good days need to outnumber the bad. Somebody on here keeps asking why men cheat! I don't know??????????
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| 12/6/2008 7:09:49 PM |
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clarity101
Aurora, CO
age: 57
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I say agree to disagree, and if she cant handle it then take a time out til she calms down. But then again women do tend to hold grudges. Crap you guys do have it kinda hard LOL. I can say from my point of view that life is too short to fight about the stupid stuff, yet it happens. You gotta pick your fights and learn when to say this isnt worth the stress. And really if the girl is constantly fighting with you over something stupid, there is something wrong with her, leave 
you are very wise for such a young lady!!!
obviously there are not many guys around (young or old) who are wise enough for you.
best of luck finding a good guy that is worthy of you. 
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| 12/6/2008 7:11:17 PM |
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guidojones
Hooper, NE
age: 46 online now!
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Traditionally you win an argument by agreeing with them and then turning it around with a but. In my area we lump ethnic groups together, mostly western Europeans by calling them "Hunkys". The definition of a hunky is anyone who argues for argument sakes. This may be the case and either you accept confrontation or you move on. But you seem to want to give it a good ole farm boy solution. Try setting her up but first memorizing something such as Presidents by numeical order. Lincoln was 16. Once you catch her talking out her behind you don't want to let her forget. Not all relationships last or are good for you. The good days need to outnumber the bad. Somebody on here keeps asking why men cheat! I don't know??????????
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| 12/6/2008 7:42:27 PM |
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dustcloud
Norman, OK
age: 53
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Ok, When I was in Marriage Counciling I was assigned a book to read called Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. That helps to explain how to deal with the other sex. Any time there is an arguement, Listen, nod, and then (this is going to take some effort) say what is on your mind and use lots and lots of words. Then talk about your feelings and take a long time to elaborate and again use lots and lots of words. (This going to take all night) Now be warned. There may be a chance that her idea is crazy. (After doing all this to explain why it bothered me for her to use credit cards, and how I wished she would cut them up, she said she never knew I felt that way. She then told me to stand over there so that I would not see he use them) We are divorced now.
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| 12/6/2008 7:45:23 PM |
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dare2dream100
Springfield, MO
age: 45
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It seems I have only run into 2 types of women.
1. They are right no matter what. (if you prove them wrong they hold it against you forever, but still don't admit you are right)
Okay I was wrong only 1 type screwed no matter what LOL
option number 5 smile and say lets go shopping I think you could use some more clothes.
That is so NOT true!
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| 12/6/2008 7:51:27 PM |
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maryg2
Philadelphia, PA
age: 38 online now!
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It seems I have only run into 2 types of women.
1. They are right no matter what. (if you prove them wrong they hold it against you forever, but still don't admit you are right)
Okay I was wrong only 1 type screwed no matter what LOL
option number 5 smile and say lets go shopping I think you could use some more clothes.
 ha, i think this option #5 is funny as hell. see, u can always find humor in everything. i think if option #5 was presented to me, i might still hold my viewpoint, but it would definitely slow me down and have to re-think my strategy cuz i would be like shopping??? now, dear, we can work all this out rationally and still have a hell of an enjoyable day....
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| 12/6/2008 7:53:26 PM |
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jokergypsy
Ashford, WA
age: 59
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I cant and wont say im wrong for the sake of ending a discussion. it would grate on me until i said something later on which could be worse. Just listen to each others point of view and let it go at that. Take the argument to the hot tub with a bottle of wine it will probably work its self out JMO ---LUCAS
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| 12/6/2008 7:55:14 PM |
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ladyvirtue123
Magalia, CA
age: 53 online now!
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For me it has nothing to do with winning..It's about being heard and having respect for my opinion..compromise at all times..who cares who wins?..I'd rather walk away from an intense argument rather than fight it out..fighting takes two and I do not partake..fighting leads to hurtful comments and tearing away at ones self esteem and I do not go there, ever! I don't want to regret or try to take back hurtful comments so I just don't make them..we are all entitled to our own opinions and so what if his is not the same as mine..it doesnt need to be..
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