| 12/15/2008 9:23:54 PM |
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bamagirl77
Huntsville, AL
age: 31
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Well, after reading what you wrote....I dated a guy just like you and the relationship didnt work for us...here are the reasons why i broke up with him
He was way to controlling and wanted to know where i was at every minute. He would go to my work and sit in the parking lot just to see if i come out even though he seen my car there. If he got upset over something or his feeling got hurt he would cry like a child and want me to hold him like he was my son. It seemed to me that he had no controll over his emotions nor his whole body. I am no doctor, but in my opinion, the best way to cope with this is to really focus on what you already know is wrong with you and really strive to try to change it for the better...
It all has to do with mind over matter in my beliefs.
I suffered from depression for over 10 years and I found a way out of it. My ways of doing so were to think positive about life.
People who always think negative will always live unhappy and always make the people around them walk away.
Stay focused on what is important....If you know that some of the things you do is wrong...then only you can change them. Focus!
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| 12/15/2008 9:29:33 PM |
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wileyguy
Wilkes Barre, PA
age: 37
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i was married to someone with bpd and i would never do it again.or anything like that.from what ive read bpd and bipolar are closely related and there is no evidence that its not a chemical imbalance.i know for fact when she didnt take her pills she was different.
btw..the reason i wouldnt do it again is because it becomes a living mental hell which you have no control over.
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| 12/15/2008 9:30:14 PM |
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r_bogdewic
Ellsworth, PA
age: 31
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Well, after reading what you wrote....I dated a guy just like you and the relationship didnt work for us...here are the reasons why i broke up with him
He was way to controlling and wanted to know where i was at every minute. He would go to my work and sit in the parking lot just to see if i come out even though he seen my car there. If he got upset over something or his feeling got hurt he would cry like a child and want me to hold him like he was my son. It seemed to me that he had no controll over his emotions nor his whole body. I am no doctor, but in my opinion, the best way to cope with this is to really focus on what you already know is wrong with you and really strive to try to change it for the better...
It all has to do with mind over matter in my beliefs.
I suffered from depression for over 10 years and I found a way out of it. My ways of doing so were to think positive about life.
People who always think negative will always live unhappy and always make the people around them walk away.
Stay focused on what is important....If you know that some of the things you do is wrong...then only you can change them. Focus!
Sounds to me that this man needed the help that wasn't available at the time. This is new and is being treated by a form called Dialectal Behavioral Therapy (BBT) formed by Marsha Linehan, and is only been around for a few years.
Tragic that many people had to suffer this way, but it happens. I'm thankful for the help I got, and that's why I'm trying to offer hope in the ways I can along the road I traveled and recovered.
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| 12/15/2008 9:33:44 PM |
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sedonaphotofan
Sedona, AZ
age: 44 online now!
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Read my other post my friend i stayed with her for 14 years so YES I tried, i am not a quitter, I was hit once, she tried to kill herself stab the walls twice, would you like to hear more of how I ran and did not try to help lol.
So i would take a hard look before crossing that ocean again.
Karl
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| 12/15/2008 9:35:03 PM |
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caleb9
Billings, MT
age: 45 online now!
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I concur, but only on the basis of experience. After a few months of an intimate relationship, I realized that all my energy was being spent on upkeep of her emotions and fluctuating dispositions. I can't "do" that. I have my life with its problems, and my emotional energy is spent on keeping them manageable. I would have to say that the partner I choose to be with would do the same for herself. I would help in every way, but not to the point where it sacrificed my attention to the professional level that is expected of me and my personal life.
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| 12/15/2008 9:35:59 PM |
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r_bogdewic
Ellsworth, PA
age: 31
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Read my other post my friend i stayed with her for 14 years so YES I tried, i am not a quitter, I was hit once, she tried to kill herself stab the walls twice, would you like to hear more of how I ran and did not try to help lol.
So i would take a hard look before crossing that ocean again.
Karl
My bad, after I posted the topic, you already replied. You were too fast for me. "Wanna see the quickest draw in the west? Wanna see it again?"...lol
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| 12/15/2008 9:59:49 PM |
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futureunknown
Marshfield, WI
age: 39
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you asked for it when you started this thread...this isn't the personal ads 
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| 12/15/2008 10:04:57 PM |
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r_bogdewic
Ellsworth, PA
age: 31
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you asked for it when you started this thread...this isn't the personal ads
I know
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| 12/15/2008 10:07:21 PM |
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sedonaphotofan
Sedona, AZ
age: 44 online now!
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My bad, after I posted the topic, you already replied. You were too fast for me. "Wanna see the quickest draw in the west? Wanna see it again?"...lol
Don't know if you want to go there i am a pretty good shot for a city kid from nyc trained by your hard earned tax dollars. You can thank the Marines.
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| 12/15/2008 10:10:20 PM |
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r_bogdewic
Ellsworth, PA
age: 31
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Don't know if you want to go there i am a pretty good shot for a city kid from nyc trained by your hard earned tax dollars. You can thank the Marines.
Ok, I can't hit the side of a bran with a cannon from 12 feet away, so you win on that one....lol
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| 12/15/2008 10:18:37 PM |
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caleb9
Billings, MT
age: 45 online now!
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LOL!
*Imagines a shot fired at a bran flake, as opposed to a barn*
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| 12/15/2008 10:20:20 PM |
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r_bogdewic
Ellsworth, PA
age: 31
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Thanks Caleb. Well, on that note, I'm off to bed.
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| 12/15/2008 10:21:43 PM |
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futureunknown
Marshfield, WI
age: 39
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nite..fun messing with you ... come back tomorrow so more fun can be had
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| 12/15/2008 11:59:36 PM |
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loveme28
Alpharetta, GA
age: 30
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i would say that i would only because i am bipolar and it is hard for me to find some one that can relate to me or understand what i am going through. i would never ask any one to be with me unless they know this because it is hard to deal with some one that is bipolar i have been getting help and it is helping i must say. so once again yes i would.   
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| 12/16/2008 9:16:28 AM |
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r_bogdewic
Ellsworth, PA
age: 31
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Isn't that nice? You would have to really educate yourself on this before you got involved with someone who is BPD. I'll admit, still to this day, I can be very difficult at times, but am getting better at it. However, some people with this disorder aren't as blessed as I am to be so far in recovery, and they are wild, stubborn, emotional, on edge, unstable, etc. as the list could go on and one. You would need to educate yourself to fully understand. Not just understanding how to deal with it, but undersatnding how to get them to deal with you so they don't trigger and rage.
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