| 12/16/2008 9:21:56 AM |
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suzy_cakes
Madison, WI
age: 30
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no, i wouldn't. i have enough of my own issues/insecurities that i don't need to add someone else's into the mixture until i can settle my own.
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| 12/16/2008 9:26:05 AM |
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foxy_woman_49
Omaha, NE
age: 50
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letters for words makes me go HUH?
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| 12/16/2008 9:34:11 AM |
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r_bogdewic
Ellsworth, PA
age: 31
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letters for words makes me go HUH?
Huh?
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| 12/16/2008 9:55:44 AM |
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msbevzie
Oregon, OH
age: 45
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I was married to a person like you, through thick and thin, but he threw me out the door 4 days before our second anniversary...that was to be my forever husband I still call him my "HERO" as he flys all over the world with the military in harmful situations so we can all have OUR freedom. I still send him cards and acknowledge special events in his life because that is me,I do that part for MYSELF. No matter what terrible things happened I can overlook that part and see and remember the good part of him.
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| 12/16/2008 9:58:50 AM |
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clarity101
Aurora, CO
age: 57
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to all of you with BPD and other personality disorders....there is hope!
my adult son has suffered with bipolar disorder with other complications. he has struggled with this all his life. he turned to drugs in his teens which only complicated matters. he has been in and out of mental hospitals and treatment facilities.
i prayed all his life that he would find someone 'like him' that could see his heart and he could see her heart.
well it happened one year ago. he found the woman of his dreams in a mental hospital and they were married 08/08/08 in a beautiful ceremony with ALL their families. they had months of counseling and we had numerous family counseling sessions so that we would all be aware of what to expect.
the happy newlywed couple live close to several family members who 'check' in on them often. i and her mother take them to ALL of there doctor appointments and check their meds on a regular basis.
they are a 'perfect' fit
the virtue of LOVE is not finding someone perfect, but in loving the imperfect perfectly!
i tried to post their pic here but dont know how. you may view on my profile tho.
best of luck to you!
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| 12/16/2008 10:06:07 AM |
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msbevzie
Oregon, OH
age: 45
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to all of you with BPD and other personality disorders....there is hope!
my adult son has suffered with bipolar disorder with other complications. he has struggled with this all his life. he turned to drugs in his teens which only complicated matters. he has been in and out of mental hospitals and treatment facilities.
i prayed all his life that he would find someone 'like him' that could see his heart and he could see her heart.
well it happened one year ago. he found the woman of his dreams in a mental hospital and they were married 08/08/08 in a beautiful ceremony with ALL their families. they had months of counseling and we had numerous family counseling sessions so that we would all be aware of what to expect.
the happy newlywed couple live close to several family members who 'check' in on them often. i and her mother take them to ALL of there doctor appointments and check their meds on a regular basis.
they are a 'perfect' fit
 YES there most certainly is hope...
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| 12/16/2008 10:09:06 AM |
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steven030463
Warren, OH
age: 45
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no I wouldn't
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| 12/16/2008 10:12:23 AM |
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suzy_cakes
Madison, WI
age: 30
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to all of you with BPD and other personality disorders....there is hope!
my adult son has suffered with bipolar disorder with other complications. he has struggled with this all his life. he turned to drugs in his teens which only complicated matters. he has been in and out of mental hospitals and treatment facilities.
i prayed all his life that he would find someone 'like him' that could see his heart and he could see her heart.
well it happened one year ago. he found the woman of his dreams in a mental hospital and they were married 08/08/08 in a beautiful ceremony with ALL their families. they had months of counseling and we had numerous family counseling sessions so that we would all be aware of what to expect.
the happy newlywed couple live close to several family members who 'check' in on them often. i and her mother take them to ALL of there doctor appointments and check their meds on a regular basis.
they are a 'perfect' fit
the virtue of LOVE is not finding someone perfect, but in loving the imperfect perfectly!
i tried to post their pic here but dont know how. you may view on my profile tho.
best of luck to you!
first, the op was referring to boderline personality disorder, not bipolar.
second, i'm bipolar type 2. i would NEVER want to be in a relationship with someone that is bipolar as well. i'm very unpredictable in my moods and actions. putting two of us together isn't gonna make for a lasting relationship. it's difficult to look out for the best interests in someone else when you can't even do that for yourself. and my family or my significant other's should not be responsible in keeping it together for us. hell, my family refuses to accept that there is anything wrong with me.
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| 12/16/2008 10:16:03 AM |
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foxy_woman_49
Omaha, NE
age: 50
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to all of you with BPD and other personality disorders....there is hope!
my adult son has suffered with bipolar disorder with other complications. he has struggled with this all his life. he turned to drugs in his teens which only complicated matters. he has been in and out of mental hospitals and treatment facilities.
i prayed all his life that he would find someone 'like him' that could see his heart and he could see her heart.
well it happened one year ago. he found the woman of his dreams in a mental hospital and they were married 08/08/08 in a beautiful ceremony with ALL their families. they had months of counseling and we had numerous family counseling sessions so that we would all be aware of what to expect.
the happy newlywed couple live close to several family members who 'check' in on them often. i and her mother take them to ALL of there doctor appointments and check their meds on a regular basis.
they are a 'perfect' fit
the virtue of LOVE is not finding someone perfect, but in loving the imperfect perfectly!
i tried to post their pic here but dont know how. you may view on my profile tho.
best of luck to you!
I just love real love stories like this ..Thx
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| 12/16/2008 10:21:48 AM |
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clarity101
Aurora, CO
age: 57
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first, the op was referring to boderline personality disorder, not bipolar.
second, i'm bipolar type 2. i would NEVER want to be in a relationship with someone that is bipolar as well. i'm very unpredictable in my moods and actions. putting two of us together isn't gonna make for a lasting relationship. it's difficult to look out for the best interests in someone else when you can't even do that for yourself. and my family or my significant other's should not be responsible in keeping it together for us. hell, my family refuses to accept that there is anything wrong with me.
im sorry for you and your circumstances.
the difference is we (her family and our family) have accepted them and are devoted to their well being. i believe they DO have as good a chance as any young couple at a happy life. we are in a unique situation where the lovebirds have a very loving and supportive family. noone has any guarantees in life but with our support system, they have a better than average shot at it!
best wishes for you and the OP...i know what HIS question was just wanted to offer him hope!
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| 12/16/2008 10:27:30 AM |
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brujacakes2
Jim Thorpe, PA
age: 36
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I would never rule someone out based on a medical condition alone BUT, it sounds to me like you could have some 'co-dependency' type issues....not accusing you are trying to diagnose you BUT so long as you are aware of your issues and are willing to acknowledge the need to address them and communicate them that is half the battle right there.
I dated someone with...social anxiety disorder for a few years and it was only a problem under certain circumstances...we would together actively avoid those circumstances and it was all good.
Good luck in your search.
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| 12/16/2008 10:30:50 AM |
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suzy_cakes
Madison, WI
age: 30
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im sorry for you and your circumstances.
the difference is we (her family and our family) have accepted them and are devoted to their well being. i believe they DO have as good a chance as any young couple at a happy life. we are in a unique situation where the lovebirds have a very loving and supportive family. noone has any guarantees in life but with our support system, they have a better than average shot at it!
best wishes for you and the OP...i know what HIS question was just wanted to offer him hope!
i'm sure they have the same chance as any other couple out there, but with both of them being mentally ill, it will make for a long, if not torture filled, road. i applaud both sides of the family for wanting to help. it may help them. but for me, there is no way i would want to be involved with another mentally ill person until i can settle some of my own horrors.
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| 12/16/2008 10:37:50 AM |
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jane_133
Frederick, MD
age: 48
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because you're bright, creative, dark, broody, enigmatic and fit in the right ages and ranges, sure, you'd be interesting
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| 12/16/2008 12:50:12 PM |
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ge0ge0
Tallahassee, FL
age: 42 online now!
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Hey Geo:
What's up? Nice to have you contributing to my posts again. I like your sence into psychology as well. You seem to have a grasp into it. The only thing my friend was that I was talking about Borderline Personality Disorder, not BiPolar Disorder.
BiPolar Disorder is a chemical imbalance, while BPD is nothing more than a set of social interactions that snowballed up into one big mess that was triggered by PTSD and fireballed into repressed feelings and repressed memories that eventually sought their way out. This is a theory by Marsha Linehan, in the fact that it is biological-different from chemical imbalance.
Thanks for posting on here. Keep in touch brother.
Photobucket is lacking in the borderline personality disorder pictures and I was pressed for time.
It's going to be a long road to hoe but with help I'm sure you're more than worthy to be in a caring and loving relationship. 
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| 12/16/2008 1:02:48 PM |
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foxy_woman_49
Omaha, NE
age: 50
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Huh?
When you dont spell it out we might not know what you're talking about..
I thought Bi-polor see I was wrong..had you spelled it out to begin with and then added the letters only that would be clear
anyways....not I gotta re-read your post
my oldest son he use to be very argumentative with me Oh the rounds and rounds of battle that caused.Yet I still loved him and I also saw all the GOOD in him.
So you think you lost someone you very much loved yet you didnt? They were there with you all the time?
First I would ask myself WHY did I do that to myself and to another.
Then I would say face your fears ..then be done with that.
Had I not known ahead of time I would think  and yes it would scare me.
I guess what would matter is how much I love you to be the deciding factor as to stay or leave
Another factor would be... does the Pro's outstand the Con's. Like in general ,for the most part everything else is good
We all have faults..its what we chose to overlook and go with all teh good about a person
*hugs*
sounds like you live in torment
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