| 12/16/2008 10:20:34 AM |
Ex Still Calling? Backup Plan |
|
thickness28
Memphis, TN
37, joined Oct. 2008
|
Ok, im starting to think that my ex is calling me because he wants me as his backup plan. He is with someone now, but he tells me they do not get along. We are friends so he can call me every now and then, but he calls me daily. Honestly, i do have feelings for him, but i will not allow him to use me. I dont even feel like im getting anything out of this, except putting my heart on the line. Should i not talk to him at all?
Meet singles at DateHookup.dating, we're 100% free! Join now!
|
| 12/16/2008 10:21:56 AM |
Ex Still Calling? Backup Plan |
|
beanz991
Houston, TX
50, joined Jun. 2008
|
Cut him off.
|
| 12/16/2008 10:23:19 AM |
Ex Still Calling? Backup Plan |
|
lnlass
Laguna Niguel, CA
59, joined Aug. 2008
|
Ditto. When it is over it is over.
|
| 12/16/2008 10:32:09 AM |
Ex Still Calling? Backup Plan |
|
stonyisle79
Chicago, IL
35, joined Jul. 2008
|
You should cut him off,its obvious he is taking advantage of the feelings he knows you still have for him
|
| 12/16/2008 10:42:05 AM |
Ex Still Calling? Backup Plan |
|
evileddy
Ottawa, ON
44, joined Jan. 2008
|
Tell him you are pregnant.
|
| 12/16/2008 10:54:20 AM |
Ex Still Calling? Backup Plan |
|
danny86
Shelby, NC
31, joined Feb. 2008
|
well now i wouldnt say that hes using you yet......since things are goin bad for him in his relationship maybe hes starting to remember who had it good with...
|
| 12/16/2008 2:05:19 PM |
Ex Still Calling? Backup Plan |
|
thickness28
Memphis, TN
37, joined Oct. 2008
|
You all are funny. haha I will stop answering his calls. If he wants me back he will have to work hard for it.
|
| 12/16/2008 2:09:23 PM |
Ex Still Calling? Backup Plan |
|
doreen1111
Brenham, TX
53, joined Oct. 2008
|
Tell him you are pregnant.
Good one Eddie!!! If he still wants you as a back up after that ... he's probably not using you. If he was, he'll be gone. 
|
| 12/16/2008 2:26:08 PM |
Ex Still Calling? Backup Plan |
|
evileddy
Ottawa, ON
44, joined Jan. 2008
|
And she can always pull the "I had a miscarriage" game.
|
| 12/16/2008 5:57:24 PM |
Ex Still Calling? Backup Plan |
|
justgg07
Reserve, NM
48, joined Sep. 2008
|
It's no fun being someone's back-up plan. Find someone who wants you as #1. 
|
| 12/16/2008 6:56:00 PM |
Ex Still Calling? Backup Plan |
|
nolybam
Barrie, ON
50, joined Nov. 2008
|
Ok, im starting to think that my ex is calling me because he wants me as his backup plan. He is with someone now, but he tells me they do not get along. We are friends so he can call me every now and then, but he calls me daily. Honestly, i do have feelings for him, but i will not allow him to use me. I dont even feel like im getting anything out of this, except putting my heart on the line. Should i not talk to him at all?
He is your ex for a reason, if you two aren't together now then don't give him the satisfaction of calling you for his "backup". Only makes things more harder for yourself.
|
| 12/16/2008 7:24:31 PM |
Ex Still Calling? Backup Plan |
|
otheah
Painesville, OH
43, joined Jul. 2008
|
You all are funny. haha I will stop answering his calls. If he wants me back he will have to work hard for it.
Sounds like you would be willing to go back if he "showed" you the right stuff. Trust me, if he didn't have it before, he hasn't gotten it by now. He's just looking for the mental release of his stressful relationship, possibly with benefits. He sounds confused and just looking for an easy way out.
Don't be easy girl. Make sure he knows you are busy and don't have time to take his calls every time he dials your digits. Don't support the codependency. He'll suck you in and when you think you have your relationship back, and then he starts to pull away for the same reasons you broke up over, you will be the bad guy (gal, sorry).
Relationships rarely go back to the original goodness once the breakup occurs.
|
| 12/16/2008 7:26:12 PM |
Ex Still Calling? Backup Plan |
|
tallangel64
Lincolnton, NC
53, joined Nov. 2008
|
No, you shouldn't talk to him but if you have feelings for him you will. Most of us have been there and it's alot easier to suggest that someone not talk to an ex but following through is a whole different story.
|
| 12/16/2008 7:49:46 PM |
Ex Still Calling? Backup Plan |
|
turnup_gr33nz
Fort Wayne, IN
51, joined Oct. 2008
|
tell him to stop calling u
|
| 12/16/2008 9:11:48 PM |
Ex Still Calling? Backup Plan |
|
clubkid66
Brooklyn, NY
50, joined Mar. 2008
|
If you got a use for him then keep him around if not then get rid of the sap.
|
| 12/16/2008 9:12:37 PM |
Ex Still Calling? Backup Plan |
|
midnight08
Clarksburg, WV
47, joined Mar. 2008
|
I agree with Noli, he is your ex for a reason. Leave him your ex, get rid of him and move on. No other guy is going to take you serious with your ex hanging around.
|
| 12/16/2008 9:18:06 PM |
Ex Still Calling? Backup Plan |
|
milo1234
Jacksonville, FL
51, joined Aug. 2008
|
STOP Answering.  
|
| 12/16/2008 9:18:55 PM |
Ex Still Calling? Backup Plan |
|
808_sm
Honolulu, HI
49, joined Mar. 2008
|
You not his "backup plans" you are his entertainment. Meaning if he breaks it off with the current gf, chances are he not returning back to you anytime soon. You'll get that, "I need time and space to get my head together" In other words, time to see what else is out there.
Bottomline...You are just entertaining him. Which is worse than being a "backup", if you are expecting him to come crawling back to you after his breakup.
Don't be a backup or entertainment for him.
|
| 12/17/2008 3:23:15 PM |
Ex Still Calling? Backup Plan |
|
dare2dream100
Springfield, MO
54, joined Nov. 2008
|
Remember: Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option! (or back up in this case)
|
| 12/17/2008 3:45:40 PM |
Ex Still Calling? Backup Plan |
|
randij
Saint Paul, MN
41, joined Dec. 2008
|
Ok, im starting to think that my ex is calling me because he wants me as his backup plan. He is with someone now, but he tells me they do not get along. We are friends so he can call me every now and then, but he calls me daily. Honestly, i do have feelings for him, but i will not allow him to use me. I dont even feel like im getting anything out of this, except putting my heart on the line. Should i not talk to him at all?
Oh oh, I'm really good at this one. It has happened to me more times then I care to count. First, hell no! You deserve to be with a man who wants you ALWAYS and not when it's on his terms. He's obviously trying to keep you there as a back up. I've had it done to me, and in the end, you'll be the one that gets hurt. Don't fall for it! If he is having problems with his gf, you're the last person he should be discussing it with.
|
| 12/17/2008 5:01:38 PM |
Ex Still Calling? Backup Plan |
|
dutchboy4u
Huntington Beach, CA
54, joined Oct. 2007
|
Don't talk to him until you're over him.
|
| 12/20/2008 2:21:59 AM |
Ex Still Calling? Backup Plan |
|
areallady1
Pittsburgh, PA
52, joined Apr. 2008
|
Ok, im starting to think that my ex is calling me because he wants me as his backup plan. He is with someone now, but he tells me they do not get along. We are friends so he can call me every now and then, but he calls me daily. Honestly, i do have feelings for him, but i will not allow him to use me. I dont even feel like im getting anything out of this, except putting my heart on the line. Should i not talk to him at all?
I have one of those. Put yourself in her place. I get a kick each time my phone rings because 1. I see him as her problem now. He chose her so let him live with his decision.
2. I deserve to be the number one. Look at it this way the relationship is fine but she is not as good in bed or she doen't want it as often or he is feeling a little unworthy in the relationship and wants to turn to something to feel better about himself. If you do talk to him do what I do encourage him to fix his problems with her.
|
| 12/20/2008 3:32:57 AM |
Ex Still Calling? Backup Plan |
|
basster
Lamar, MO
66, joined Nov. 2008
|
It all comes down to what do You want to come out of this? It sounds to me as if some big part of you wants him back & then another part of you doesnt because of being hurt. If he cant be trusted & you know he cant then tell him that if he really cares about you in any way then he would respect you enough to leave you alone. there is also a possibillity that he is seeing someone else besides the one he is with now Ron
|
| 12/20/2008 6:06:44 AM |
Ex Still Calling? Backup Plan |
|
barbaraajo
Reston, VA
60, joined Jul. 2008
|
Cut all ties
|
| 12/20/2008 8:08:54 AM |
Ex Still Calling? Backup Plan |
|
lovinbut
Albert City, IA
39, joined Jul. 2008
|
No! You can call me
|
| 12/20/2008 9:15:11 AM |
Ex Still Calling? Backup Plan |
|
keykeper34
Boise, ID
63, joined Apr. 2008
|
The man is lonely and bored.
Trust me when he finds another
lady to entertain
you'll be dropped.
I would suggest changing the spelling
of his name in your cell phone to D-E-L-E-T-E
The next time he calls just don't answer it.
If he leaves a message delete it without
listening to it.
|
| 12/20/2008 6:08:56 PM |
Ex Still Calling? Backup Plan |
|
barbaraajo
Reston, VA
60, joined Jul. 2008
|
do not accept his calls
|
| 12/20/2008 6:10:52 PM |
Ex Still Calling? Backup Plan |
|
lawn_dawg
Middleburg, FL
48, joined Nov. 2007
|
Yeah, they miss us when there is nobody else...drop him. Give yourself a gift this holiday season, the gift that keeps on giving lol. Get rid of the creep.
There is a saying, when somebody else lives in your head...you get stuck paying the rent. It's time for a good old fashioned eviction...
|
| 12/20/2008 6:41:37 PM |
Ex Still Calling? Backup Plan |
|
coolhandluke462
Salem, OR
56, joined Sep. 2008
|
And she can always pull the "I had a miscarriage" game.
hay my ex did that to me
|
| 12/20/2008 7:35:31 PM |
Ex Still Calling? Backup Plan |
|
susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
69, joined Mar. 2008
|
Unless you want to spend the rest of your life listening to his whining ass, tell him it is disrespectful for him to talk behind his girlfriend's back and you don't want to hear it anymore.
|