Bedford, IN

1/1/2009 1:01:31 AM
23hiaf Bedford, IN 55, joined Mar. 2008	I like to hug instead of shaking hands. Not a squeeze just a polite little hug. I had a guy tell me that hugs were inappropriate...that men take it wrong & think I am coming On to them. I think he's crazy! Am I wrong? [Edited 1/1/2009 1:12:16 AM ] Meet singles at DateHookup.dating, we're 100% free! Join now!
1/1/2009 1:03:28 AM	Bedford, IN
ledrock Preston, ID 53, joined Dec. 2008	I hug makes a smile on my face
1/1/2009 1:29:11 AM	Bedford, IN
hotpink36 Springfield, OR 43, joined Jul. 2008	I was raised in church so I was always taught not to hug men because your boobs are the first thing that touches him
1/1/2009 1:31:51 AM	Bedford, IN
ryn514 Cobourg, ON 55, joined Oct. 2008	If it's a first time meeting, it might be a little awkward..but the world needs WAY more hugs
1/1/2009 1:35:30 AM	Bedford, IN
milktogo Vernal, UT 59, joined Oct. 2008	I think as a rule, guys take hugs as flirting...unless you're at chuech!! HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!
1/1/2009 2:12:03 AM	Bedford, IN
merk135r Fresno, CA 37, joined May. 2008	Quote from hotpink36: I was raised in church so I was always taught not to hug men because your boobs are the first thing that touches him lol, what a ridiculous rule.
1/1/2009 2:14:50 AM	Bedford, IN
beverly64 Talladega, AL 50, joined Sep. 2008	Hugs are fine,just as long as you don't hold too tight that might give the wrong impression..JMO
1/1/2009 3:38:32 AM	Bedford, IN
ledrock Preston, ID 53, joined Dec. 2008	Thats what I mean a nice hug my church no it is not recommened
1/1/2009 6:22:23 AM	Bedford, IN
curves385 Saint Petersburg, FL 44, joined Nov. 2008	I see nothing wrong with a hug...
1/1/2009 6:25:58 AM	Bedford, IN
seakats Palm City, FL 53, joined Sep. 2008	Our society has become so crazy that we would even ask such a question. Read Leo Buscaglia books.
1/1/2009 6:26:55 AM	Bedford, IN
waytogo51 Farmington, AR 58, joined May. 2007	Quote from beverly64: Hugs are fine,just as long as you don't hold too tight that might give the wrong impression..JMO I agree. I don't see anything wrong with hugs.
1/1/2009 6:27:15 AM	Bedford, IN
lust4love Atco, NJ 44, joined Sep. 2007	a hug is like a lap dance without legs.
1/1/2009 6:34:57 AM	Bedford, IN
okaydude Mesquite, TX 59, joined Nov. 2008	Hugs are great! Keep giving them. Kiss on the cheek is not bad either.
1/1/2009 6:40:20 AM	Bedford, IN
lucky7708 Minneapolis, MN 68, joined Jan. 2008	A hug is a handshake for the heart.
1/1/2009 7:01:58 AM	Bedford, IN
bdcamp South Bend, IN 69, joined Dec. 2008	That guy is a nut case, I have female friends that are married and we hug almost ever time I see them and there is absolutely nothing sexual about these hugs. Gee what a world
1/1/2009 7:07:37 AM	Bedford, IN
justteena Moose Jaw, SK 44, joined Nov. 2008	Hugging is great! Definitely not a come on, unless you are hugging them naked
1/1/2009 8:01:47 AM	Bedford, IN
lilmissala1957 Hartselle, AL 58, joined Dec. 2008	OH MY!!!! If hugs are a come on I have been one slutty woman in my life! As a waitress there are no telling how many hugs I gave and recieved over the years. It was never a come on just part of the day. Hugs make you feel so good and appreciated. Wish I still worked so I could get all those hugs. That's probably one of the things I miss the most. I am not so much of a hugger now except at church and with my kids and best friend. I raised my kids to be huggers. There was not much affection when I grew up so I wanted to make sure my kids got lots of hugs and that in turn taught them to be huggers.
1/1/2009 10:30:43 AM	Bedford, IN
jerrig Saint Charles, MO 47, joined Jun. 2008	Quote from lucky7708: A hug is a handshake for the heart. I love that and couldn't agree more. We all worry too much about silly things like this. And it is causing us to become such an impersonal nation and so disconnected from one another. And that's sad, pathetic actually. I love hugs and yup I even give them on first dates when meeting someone. It is the best icebreaker out there. If guys see this as a sexual innuendo then really the issue is theirs, not mine.
1/1/2009 11:05:37 AM	Bedford, IN
mizp San Jose, CA 51, joined Feb. 2008	I hug people all the time, even for coffee meets. I think there should be more hugs in this world, and if I like someone they will get a hug pretty much every time I see them. I have seen a few people who aren't used to it, maybe not raised to show affection, but I have never had anyone complain.
1/1/2009 11:15:06 AM	Bedford, IN
bigcats374 Cedar City, UT 62, joined Sep. 2008	A hug is always ok and gives both of you a good feeling of acceptence.
1/1/2009 12:44:26 PM	Bedford, IN
leprechaunjim_ Fort Collins, CO 65, joined Aug. 2008	I am a toucher. I hug my friends, male and female, take a hand, touch an arm or shoulder when talking. It's not a sexual thing unless you turn it into one. Just looking at someone can be a sexual thing. I don't know why religions have to pervert a show of affection. I know that hugging my male friends doesn't make me gay, any more than hugging my women friends makes me want them. If it did, I would be in serious trouble, because most of my close friends are married. It's all in the attitude. Go with what makes you comfortable. If someone is leering at you, don't give him or her a hug if it makes you nervous. Jim
1/1/2009 12:51:32 PM	Bedford, IN
nyguitar77 Dumfries, VA 37, joined Nov. 2008	A hug from someone I know = fine. A complete stranger = NO WAY. I don't know what their motives are. Maybe they're trying to pick my pocket? Maybe they're trying to get a cheap feel? I'd prefer to keep my wallet, thank you.
1/1/2009 12:53:24 PM	Bedford, IN
barbaraajo Reston, VA 58, joined Jul. 2008	Depends on the type of hug, but I like to hug!!! I give out lots of hugs!!!!
1/1/2009 12:55:10 PM	Bedford, IN
piscesbabe New Fairfield, CT 47, joined Jul. 2008	I think a hug is totally fine - I would much rather give someone a hug hello than shake hands any day.
1/1/2009 12:56:20 PM	Bedford, IN
hugsnlaughter McKeesport, PA 55, joined Jul. 2007	I love hugs..obviously... my id.
1/1/2009 1:11:21 PM	Bedford, IN
sea_maiden Mesa, AZ 62, joined Dec. 2008	A hug here, a hug there, a hug everywhere a hug.....( wink ) Sea
1/1/2009 4:40:05 PM	Bedford, IN
perfectweather Saint Petersburg, FL 57, joined Oct. 2008	Quote from lilmissala1957: OH MY!!!! If hugs are a come on I have been one slutty woman in my life! As a waitress there are no telling how many hugs I gave and recieved over the years. It was never a come on just part of the day. Hugs make you feel so good and appreciated. Wish I still worked so I could get all those hugs. That's probably one of the things I miss the most. I am not so much of a hugger now except at church and with my kids and best friend. I raised my kids to be huggers. There was not much affection when I grew up so I wanted to make sure my kids got lots of hugs and that in turn taught them to be huggers. I think hugging is largely a Southern thing. I notice people from down south are far more apt to give ya a hug than a New Yorker. I always hug.....I think it's a great ice breaker and puts people at ease...it lets them know you think they are nice. I raised my daughter to hug and show affection also........Mebbe it's an Alabama thing???
1/1/2009 4:44:32 PM	Bedford, IN
lust4love Atco, NJ 44, joined Sep. 2007	Depends if its a fully clothed hug or a bikini hug or full frontal nudity hug. [Edited 1/1/2009 4:44:55 PM ]
1/1/2009 4:55:27 PM	Bedford, IN
barbaraajo Reston, VA 58, joined Jul. 2008	ok
1/1/2009 5:14:35 PM	Bedford, IN
pisceslooking Palmer, AK 34, joined Dec. 2008	I'm a hugger too.....my ex boyfriend didn't like it when I would greet male friends with a hug.... too bad for him, now he's the ex
1/1/2009 5:37:00 PM	Bedford, IN
charismafairy Red Deer, AB 49, joined Jun. 2008	Hugs - I have lots of european friends and they kiss on each cheek, even meeting strangers. And so a hug to me is the same. And if someone gets a big turn on because I gave them a hug and gets the wrong impression, they can get a number and get in line. It doesn't change anything. And a boyfriend getting jealous? Won't happen if he feels secure about the way I feel about him and knows and feels I love him and can be trusted and that there is nobody else ever but him. Thats my job - to make sure he knows. If the intention is to greet with brotherly love, then there is nothing wrong with that. Hugs make people feel great. I went to my daughters church, and there was a cookie and tea session downstairs after. I have only been to her church twice. Well - there was this middle aged couple there and the Mike was a hug kind of person. But when asking me if he could get me more hot water for the tea, he squeezed my shoulders slightly. He does this with others too. His wife is used to it and they sit close to one another and you can tell he loves her. He is just a giving soul and cares about people and is warm hearted. I took nothing inappropriate from it and it felt good to feel accepted and it was a good afternoon especially since I had been feeling alone and a bit under the weather. So - who cares if someone else filters your behavior or misconstrues it, its their dysfunctional belief system, not yours. And you are what counts in your life. me
1/1/2009 6:26:17 PM	Bedford, IN
lakc Batam Indonesia 55, joined Sep. 2008	Hugs are much better than hand shakes.......you never know where the hand's been!
1/1/2009 6:28:34 PM	Bedford, IN
soloact59 Albuquerque, NM 55, joined Sep. 2008	Nothing wrong with a hug like the OP describes.
1/1/2009 6:31:00 PM	Bedford, IN
dreams2711 Peoria, AZ 47, joined Mar. 2008	I do not think there is anything wrong with a hug...presumeably you have chatted/messaged with this person and therefore there is a monacle of comfort..so a hug is just a nice way of saying hello and nice to meet you. Now a blind date--no I personally would not be comfortable with a hug.
1/1/2009 8:23:48 PM	Bedford, IN
clubkid66 Brooklyn, NY 48, joined Mar. 2008	Hugging is fine as long as it's not a humping attempt.
1/1/2009 8:27:09 PM	Bedford, IN
saml Waterford, ME 31, joined Mar. 2008	Hugs are good.
1/1/2009 8:28:58 PM	Bedford, IN
lissakay85 Naples, ID 30, joined Dec. 2008	Quote from lucky7708: A hug is a handshake for the heart. Ditto
1/1/2009 9:08:46 PM	Bedford, IN
smitty4980 Fort White, FL 63, joined Nov. 2008	<------------likes hugs Maybe someone is not doing something right here. All of you wonderful ladies can line up and practice your hugs on me. Smitty
1/1/2009 9:52:20 PM	Bedford, IN
nvr4gttn Yelm, WA 53, joined Aug. 2007	nothing wrong with hugs...and in church no hugs, whats that about???
1/1/2009 9:57:01 PM	Bedford, IN
bryneyes0104 Milwaukee, WI 41, joined Dec. 2008	I'm kinda funny about the hugging thing. I don't like to be hugged unless its by someone that I am close to...such as family or a signficant other.
1/1/2009 10:33:55 PM	Bedford, IN
bella2020 Lebanon, OH 54, joined Sep. 2007	Never met a man that hated a hug(strange)
1/1/2009 10:36:06 PM	Bedford, IN
wileyguy Wilkes Barre, PA 44, joined Apr. 2007	im a hugger bella.happy new year
1/2/2009 3:08:52 AM	Bedford, IN
lobo_corazon Orleans, ON 46, joined May. 2008	Quote from beverly64: Hugs are fine,just as long as you don't hold too tight that might give the wrong impression..JMO Humping his leg might give the wrong impression. Or at least cause an uncomfortable scene!
1/2/2009 3:20:05 AM	Bedford, IN
sapphireblue579 Jackson, MI 56, joined Aug. 2008	Quote from 23hiaf: I like to hug instead of shaking hands. Not a squeeze just a polite little hug. I had a guy tell me that hugs were inappropriate...that men take it wrong & think I am coming On to them. I think he's crazy! Am I wrong? No, you're not wrong. If anyone has a problem with that....then they have something wrong with them. I'm a hugger. [Edited 1/2/2009 3:23:34 AM ]
1/2/2009 8:00:57 AM	Bedford, IN
turfy_ Point Pleasant Beach, NJ 44, joined Nov. 2008	Quote from 23hiaf: I like to hug instead of shaking hands. Not a squeeze just a polite little hug. I had a guy tell me that hugs were inappropriate...that men take it wrong & think I am coming On to them. I think he's crazy! Am I wrong? Where I'm from a hug and a kiss on the cheek are the greeting! Not doing so would be inappropriate.
1/2/2009 10:54:19 AM	Bedford, IN
niceguy4tlc Winter Haven, FL 58, joined Aug. 2008	Quote from hotpink36: I was raised in church so I was always taught not to hug men because your boobs are the first thing that touches him They taught you that in church? Where do I go to register? On a serious note. I think there is polite hugging and inappropriate hugging. Why ex was a big time S&M cheater and I nearly lost it when she hugged a sky cap. The kind where her DDs got smashed into him and that poor sky cap nearly passed out when he saw my vein pop out of my neck. I almost canceled the trip, probably should have. It was our last.
1/2/2009 11:02:44 AM	Bedford, IN
pisceslooking Palmer, AK 34, joined Dec. 2008	DUMB QUESTION, but what is a sky cap??
1/2/2009 11:36:09 AM	Bedford, IN
foxy_woman_49 Omaha, NE 56, joined Nov. 2007	Nothing wrong to give a hug hello and a hug bye hugs make everyone feel good doesnt mean anything sexual or a desire to want them
1/2/2009 11:51:37 AM	Bedford, IN
soonergirl01 Oklahoma City, OK 65, joined Aug. 2008	Quote from perfectweather: I think hugging is largely a Southern thing. I notice people from down south are far more apt to give ya a hug than a New Yorker. I always hug.....I think it's a great ice breaker and puts people at ease...it lets them know you think they are nice. I raised my daughter to hug and show affection also........Mebbe it's an Alabama thing??? Maybe it is part of that "southern hospitality." I was raised on hugs and my kids were raised on hugs. If I have a friend or co-worker that is having a bad day, I will give them a hug to say "I care." IMO hugs are a wonderful thing!
1/2/2009 11:57:13 AM	Bedford, IN
xangel_kissesx Chandler, AZ 40, joined Oct. 2008	just because I hug you doesn't mean I wanna jump in bed with you LOL ...I love hugging...sometimes your having a bad day and a hug somehow just makes it all better...I'm all for getting and giving hugs but I suppose there ate people that feel this is an invasion of their personal space perhaps they come from a family background where displays of any sort of affection were simply not given....I think it all depends on a persons background and up bringing....I'm Italian and in my family we always greet and say goodbye with a hug and kiss on the cheek.
1/2/2009 11:57:43 AM	Bedford, IN
zeanah Clarion, PA 56, joined Dec. 2007	Well then, in his opinion, I am inappropriate! I and my family are big huggers. I see nothing wrong with an innocent hug. If he feels it is wrong, then he obviously to is up tight. However, some people just never hugged growing up or have experienced it with their friends and family. It can make some people uncomfortable. I can't truly understand it, but they may have personal space issues...who knows? If your intentions are good and just friendly, then I wouldn't sweat it. If a guy told me that, we would not be a match and we would not meet again! "Z"
1/2/2009 2:00:55 PM	Bedford, IN
leprechaunjim_ Fort Collins, CO 65, joined Aug. 2008	The way I see it, you hug people who are willing, and if you are making someone nervous, offer a hand. I accept a hug from anyone and give one back. As a performer, people are always wanting to be a part of the music, and sometimes a hug is their way of expressing that. The groups that I hang out with are all huggers and I even get kissed sometimes by close friends. It's no big deal until you make it one. Perception is everything. Jim
1/2/2009 2:13:25 PM	Bedford, IN
rockin_ron Petersburg, IN 56, joined Jun. 2008	Im open minded...hug the hell out of me
1/3/2009 3:40:38 AM	Bedford, IN
poppirocco Cicero, IN 69, joined Dec. 2007	I was introduced to hugs about 10 years ago. Up until that time I was not a hugger- not with anybody (except a spouse and my kids). But an elderly couple whom I met and grew to love always had a hello and good-bye hug for me. And you know what? It felt good. I've read the word "acceptance" and "I care" in these posts and I think those just about says it all. There is nothing more meaningful to me than to be able to hug my friends and family - and to be hugged in return.
1/3/2009 5:05:19 AM	Bedford, IN
mark_penn_state Jackson, NJ 54, joined Dec. 2008	hugging very appropriate.. if you are hugger. I had one lady refuse 2nd date, because I hugged her twice. once was ok, 2nd too much. So, I quickly moved on. she was not right for me.
1/3/2009 5:51:01 AM	Bedford, IN
r0gg Sardis, MS 82, joined Aug. 2008	Quote from 23hiaf: I like to hug instead of shaking hands. Not a squeeze just a polite little hug. I had a guy tell me that hugs were inappropriate...that men take it wrong & think I am coming On to them. I think he's crazy! Am I wrong? Not everyone plays by the same rule book.
1/3/2009 6:14:46 AM	Bedford, IN
th6231 Point Pleasant Beach, NJ 67, joined Jul. 2007	There is a time and a place for everything. well intentioned hugs that are totally unexpected---like running up and grabbing a stranger and screaming HI--I CARE!!---I don't think so. But knowing your "huggeee" should give you a clue as to whether they understand what your are doing. If they roll their eyes and wince in disgust--or avoid you for years at a time--I would say that person does NOT like being hugged. Just my opinion--I am probably wrong.
1/3/2009 9:14:53 AM	Bedford, IN
msbevzie Oregon, OH 51, joined Aug. 2008	Hugging is an awesome gesture...to me it's nothing sexual I hug alot of people just a kind way to say hello or goodbye
1/3/2009 9:33:08 AM	Bedford, IN
kristenb Canton, NC 54, joined Nov. 2008	i love a hug or two,,,,just don't grab nothing
1/3/2009 11:10:48 AM	Bedford, IN
barbaraajo Reston, VA 58, joined Jul. 2008	Hugs

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