Beautiful, intelligent, but lonely

1/1/2009 1:20:55 AM	Beautiful, intelligent, but lonely
1r2r3r4r Minneapolis, MN 65, joined Oct. 2008	I put this post up, because...I see so many women here are very beautiful but lonely. Lets talk about.. why is that, that a beautiful woman experiences very lonely moments, because of the reluctance of men to approach her?. I know some guys, who are terrified at approaching a good looking woman, because they automatically think that she will reject them and besides the old saying "she can get anyone she wants" My question for you and for some of you who are physically beautiful, "animated" lively and "joyful, and or highly intelligent, have you experienced this in your life? It is bad enough that we have so many obstacles blocking our progress with trying to develop a friendship with someone, but, beauty can also be a "curse" as this one lady put it, because she attracts lots of men, but the wrong kind and it causes her to "fall back and want to hide" What are your thoughts on this.? Thank you, PS... I have been told.. you are too beautiful, too intelligent, too kind for me. I have also been told that I am too close to the Lord for them to be able to continue any kind of friendship as they said they felt "bad" in my presence because of what was in their heart. I look in the mirror and think what do they see????.... Meet singles at DateHookup.dating, we're 100% free! Join now!
1/1/2009 8:16:48 AM	Beautiful, intelligent, but lonely
lilmissala1957 Hartselle, AL 58, joined Dec. 2008	Never worry about what they see when they are talking about your closeness with the Lord! I am sure lots of guys avoid me because I make not bones about the fact I love the Lord. That's ok I hope I mirror enough of the Lord that they some day choose Him to be their savior too. I am not what I consider beautiful but I am pretty intelligent considering I don't have much more than a high school diploma. Most guys think I am married. They say I act married. What does that mean? Am I suppose to wear a shirt that says NOT MARRIED? I dress very conservative,I don't party or go out to clubs and bars,I don't throw myself all over a man maybe I should try that and see what happens. NOT.
1/1/2009 11:11:24 AM	Beautiful, intelligent, but lonely
bigcats374 Cedar City, UT 63, joined Sep. 2008	Seriously, some men will always be intiminated by a beautiful woman and will be afraid to approach her. There is also nothing wrong with women making the first contact either. Talk to us at the grocery store, a resturaunt or other public place. We will not bite and you will find out quickly enough if there is any return interest or or not.
1/1/2009 11:43:40 AM	Beautiful, intelligent, but lonely
1r2r3r4r Minneapolis, MN 65, joined Oct. 2008	On the other side, if I found a man to be handsome, I would not approach him as I would believe, whether true or not that he might have had his selection of ladies which is a turn off for me personally. So I am very sorry about that.... I might need to change hey.
1/1/2009 11:56:51 AM	Beautiful, intelligent, but lonely
1r2r3r4r Minneapolis, MN 65, joined Oct. 2008	Quote from ge0ge0: Because their outweighs their beauty... Beauty is in the eye of the beholder dear! No worries.
1/1/2009 11:59:36 AM	Beautiful, intelligent, but lonely
zeanah Clarion, PA 56, joined Dec. 2007	I assume nothing to why men do not approach me. I have no clue??? I feel they obviously are not attracted to me. I have a fun, smiling personality, carry myself with confidense, can start a converstaion with anyone. I am well groomed and am average looking. I have never had a problem making friends or being well liked wherever my job takes me...so to me, the men are just not into me or they would approach me! I know what I have to offer and I know my level of beauty. Not every man will find me attractive, but they will like me as a person...so be it! Now, if I could just find that one who sees the whole package and like it! I do know, in my experience, someone to religious is not for me. I have had religious men be very nasty to me becaue of it...name calling and a self righteous attitudes that I am a terrible person. "Z"
1/1/2009 12:17:15 PM	Beautiful, intelligent, but lonely
sea_maiden Mesa, AZ 63, joined Dec. 2008	Great post.....many beautiful, witty, intelligent women do end up becoming a recluse..or commite suicide....they are hurt so much just not by men but by women also who is so jealous and will do anything to hurt their relationships, family, careers, etc..this is why some can be very stand offish and people thinking they are stuck up and into themselfs..yes it can be a very dangerous curse and a lot of loniness..yes a very beautiful woman is very misunderstood.........Sea
1/1/2009 12:28:33 PM	Beautiful, intelligent, but lonely
leprechaunjim_ Fort Collins, CO 65, joined Aug. 2008	Quote from 1r2r3r4r: I put this post up, because...I see so many women here are very beautiful but lonely. Lets talk about.. why is that, that a beautiful woman experiences very lonely moments, because of the reluctance of men to approach her?. I know some guys, who are terrified at approaching a good looking woman, because they automatically think that she will reject them and besides the old saying "she can get anyone she wants" My question for you and for some of you who are physically beautiful, "animated" lively and "joyful, and or highly intelligent, have you experienced this in your life? It is bad enough that we have so many obstacles blocking our progress with trying to develop a friendship with someone, but, beauty can also be a "curse" as this one lady put it, because she attracts lots of men, but the wrong kind and it causes her to "fall back and want to hide" What are your thoughts on this.? Thank you, PS... I have been told.. you are too beautiful, too intelligent, too kind for me. I have also been told that I am too close to the Lord for them to be able to continue any kind of friendship as they said they felt "bad" in my presence because of what was in their heart. I look in the mirror and think what do they see????.... I think the solution lies in approaching men who interest you. Some men, like women are afraid to approach someone who appeals to them. It's up to both sexes to say "Hi". If you are rejected, no big deal , because the other person really doesn't know you but is going on a gut reaction based on how you look (if they have seen your pictures) and what you say. Different wording can make the difference in who is going to be interested. Now what I am told, is that I am too innocent. The funny thing is that last night, one of my very best friends told me last night, that I am innocent, but he admires me and is trying to be like me. Go figure. It made me feel awfully good though Jim
1/1/2009 2:12:22 PM	Beautiful, intelligent, but lonely
pisceslooking Palmer, AK 35, joined Dec. 2008	Quote from ge0ge0: Because their outweighs their beauty... I knew mywas too much for U!!
1/1/2009 2:16:29 PM	Beautiful, intelligent, but lonely
katytxlady Slidell, LA 54, joined Oct. 2008	I won't call myself beautiful, but I've been told I'm attractive. Neither of my exes are attractive men to most women. But what won me was kindness, laughter and strong character. No man should be afraid to approach any woman. She will either like you or won't, but a good woman won't toss him to curb because of his looks. No one can intimidate you, but you yourself.
1/1/2009 2:41:30 PM	Beautiful, intelligent, but lonely
1r2r3r4r Minneapolis, MN 65, joined Oct. 2008	Quote from sea_maiden: Great post.....many beautiful, witty, intelligent women do end up becoming a recluse..or commite suicide....they are hurt so much just not by men but by women also who is so jealous and will do anything to hurt their relationships, family, careers, etc..this is why some can be very stand offish and people thinking they are stuck up and into themselfs..yes it can be a very dangerous curse and a lot of loniness..yes a very beautiful woman is very misunderstood.........Sea and also ...It's sad that people assume by what's on the outside that someone beautiful and/or intelligent has their life "all together" without taking the time to dig deep inside to find out, sometimes it's the opposite. These beautiful/intelligent/bubbly/positive people sometimes can be the most loneliest on the inside, hiding from the world what's really going on. Maybe they don't want to appear weak, or negative. They don't want to let their guard down because when they do, people notice right away and don't take them seriously when they tell others...."I'm having a bad day" people reply back with....."how can YOU be having a bad day...your life is perfect, you have a great job, many friends, are very loved, and can have anyone you want" Anyone stop to think all those things may not be what he/she is looking for....they are just looking for someone real to love and love them back for themselves...not for how they appear or what they do for the other persons I know that there are so many ladies and men out there that look like they are having a great time and always seem to be happy. But when you approach them with serious questions, they are not able to answer because of the pain they are hiding inside. That is not to say, that they are all like this, many are happy and I have spoken to those also, but like we said before, the world expects them to always be shining and it is not reality. thank you
1/1/2009 2:44:22 PM	Beautiful, intelligent, but lonely
lnlass Laguna Niguel, CA 58, joined Aug. 2008	Have never had to worry about intimidating men with my rather average looks. But I have found that some men are weirded out at the least to meet someone like me that has never been married or had kids as is very independent. I don't deal with drama. I walk away. I think many women are less apt to walk away and these men are used to women that will hang in there with it because they need to be with a man. The irony here is that I really want to find the right man and share my life with him. I have wanted that for a long time, but just have not found that right guy.
1/1/2009 3:08:57 PM	Beautiful, intelligent, but lonely
marqeye Kent, OH 40, joined Aug. 2008	Pisces/Katy=
1/1/2009 5:53:59 PM	Beautiful, intelligent, but lonely
rocket000 Suwanee, GA 58, joined Mar. 2007	One of my dearest friends was the valedictorian of her class at Vassar and stunning. Black hair, white skin and blue/green eyes. She is a gourmet cook and fluent in french. I met her while we worked for the same international corporation in FL. The men were intimidated and the women were jealous. I took the time to get to know her and she became one of my closest friends. She has a tremendous heart. She is now married to a man who is extemely successful in business and worships her. They have a 6 year old son who speaks 3 languages. I think it's a blessing to know which men you intimidate because they are the WRONG men and probably too weak. To the women who treat women shabbily because of their own poor self esteem, insecurities and jealousies.....you give our species a BAD name. [Edited 1/1/2009 5:56:11 PM ]
1/1/2009 6:10:51 PM	Beautiful, intelligent, but lonely
charismafairy Red Deer, AB 50, joined Jun. 2008	Don't know about this one. Guess I fit into the category. Smart enough, pretty enough, lonely enough. I try not to worry about it, just take care of me and what is important to me (my friends and family). When I was in New York working, I averaged about 4 come ons per block on the way to work. I got business cards and whistles or men stopping to just stare with their mouths open instead of crossing the street when the lights went green. I didn't know how to take that because I wasn't used to that, here in Canada, I don't get approached like that. These men were on wall street and times square, wearing full suits and carrying brief cases, getting out of limos etc. Well when I was in New York, I wore my power suits and my hair up in delicious curls in an updo. And there was a response. But I didn't know what to do with it. I felt shy and didn't act on any invitations for coffee. So - I'm the reason I'm lonely I guess. I felt flattered by the attention, but I still was too shy. Maybe a bit embarrassed. I don't know. It felt good but I was scared. I wanted to meet some great person who was exciting, good looking, smart, and everything else, but I was afraid once I opened my mouth, the infatuation would just dribble away. ha ha
1/1/2009 6:14:57 PM	Beautiful, intelligent, but lonely
steven215 Dewitt, MI 64, joined Dec. 2008	As far as being intimidated by beautiful women, I think that intelligent women are much more of a challenge. My experience has been the better the looks the higher the maintenance. Like with any generality the are always exceptions but I'll stand my statement. If people were really looking for inner beauty there would be a lot more interest in the information in your profile. I think most of us look at the picture first......and go from there. As far as being a curse, that's almost laughable it's like saying it a curse being to rich. I have never had to worry about about it and I think I'll worry about more inportant things...........way more important. Also if you been told all those things and can't find a partner, you should seek professional help as you might have a deeper problem.
1/1/2009 6:34:19 PM	Beautiful, intelligent, but lonely
charismafairy Red Deer, AB 50, joined Jun. 2008	Too Rich - its also a curse. Been there too. Too intelligent. Too Pretty. It was my perception. Tried downsizing, you know, not letting people know what I had, not dressing so fancy, not trying to be the know it all, not overdoing it on the makeup and jewellry and perfect hair - just be down to earth. Pretty, rich, smart or not. People respond to genuine and sincere. One time, I was all dolled up to go out on a date. He showed up on a motorcycle and gave me a helmet. It was sexier to put the helmet on over my doo - and hop onto the bike with a skirt and heels. Had the most wonderful day - and the hat hair, did'nt matter, just fluffed it out. And it was the sponteneity that was so fun. Its great to be super dooper smart but save it for the office and just be yourself around friends, but not so inclined to play the dumb blonde. People wont care if you have things if you don't act like you are all that. Of course unless you want to attract those kind of people, but I'm not like that. Things don't matter, you can't take them with you. Friends and family are all thats important. And I learned that nobody is lonely, we live on the planet earth with people all around us. How can we be lonely. Just be as approachable as possible.
1/1/2009 6:41:40 PM	Beautiful, intelligent, but lonely
lakc Batam Indonesia 56, joined Sep. 2008	What does beauty and intelligence have to do with loneliness? Loneliness comes in many different packages. Why should there be the preception that the "less than fortunate" have the run on loneliness? There are many reasons why women and men are lonely. I think that beauty and intelligence only chip the iceberg. JMO
1/1/2009 7:03:06 PM	Beautiful, intelligent, but lonely
zeanah Clarion, PA 56, joined Dec. 2007	Quote from charismafairy: Too Rich - its also a curse. Been there too. Too intelligent. Too Pretty. It was my perception. Tried downsizing, you know, not letting people know what I had, not dressing so fancy, not trying to be the know it all, not overdoing it on the makeup and jewellry and perfect hair - just be down to earth. Pretty, rich, smart or not. People respond to genuine and sincere. One time, I was all dolled up to go out on a date. He showed up on a motorcycle and gave me a helmet. It was sexier to put the helmet on over my doo - and hop onto the bike with a skirt and heels. Had the most wonderful day - and the hat hair, did'nt matter, just fluffed it out. And it was the sponteneity that was so fun. Its great to be super dooper smart but save it for the office and just be yourself around friends, but not so inclined to play the dumb blonde. People wont care if you have things if you don't act like you are all that. Of course unless you want to attract those kind of people, but I'm not like that. Things don't matter, you can't take them with you. Friends and family are all thats important. And I learned that nobody is lonely, we live on the planet earth with people all around us. How can we be lonely. Just be as approachable as possible. Never had your "problem"...lol Glad to see you know what is truly important. Some people like yourself never get the meaning of life and the deep connection with people for just who they are. You sound like you'd be a great catch for some guy! I told my kids to remember this.....when you die and people come to your funeral, they will not be commenting on how much money you had, your great job, how smart or how great looking you were. People will remember you by your spirit in life, your smile and kindness, your heart for others and what you did that helped others, how you made them "feel". Money, intelligence and beauty are great things to have and many work hard to get what they have, however, if the heart, spirit and character is lacking, then you have nothing at all. "Z"
1/1/2009 8:34:20 PM	Beautiful, intelligent, but lonely
1r2r3r4r Minneapolis, MN 65, joined Oct. 2008	Quote from steven215: As far as being intimidated by beautiful women, I think that intelligent women are much more of a challenge. My experience has been the better the looks the higher the maintenance. Like with any generality the are always exceptions but I'll stand my statement. If people were really looking for inner beauty there would be a lot more interest in the information in your profile. I think most of us look at the picture first......and go from there. As far as being a curse, that's almost laughable it's like saying it a curse being to rich. I have never had to worry about about it and I think I'll worry about more inportant things...........way more important. Also if you been told all those things and can't find a partner, you should seek professional help as you might have a deeper problem. I agree with you, but In this post, I was pointing out the "fallacies" of being physically attractive and how one can be stereotyped by society, because of their looks. Thank you for trying to be encouraging.. PS"I just write it off that they are not for me as when the Lord has the "pick" for me...they will accept me for who I am in all areas. Until then...the Lord is the one to comfort and provide what I need. I do have times of loneliness...I am human, I am real, I go on..... some one said.. Eagles do not fly with sparrows and for me to look for another Eagle...this comment hit me between the eyes and I am waiting for another Eagle....that the Lord will lead to me to fly together..."
1/1/2009 10:17:35 PM	Beautiful, intelligent, but lonely
dieseltech393 Andover, MN 67, joined Aug. 2008	Quote from 1r2r3r4r: I agree with you, but In this post, I was pointing out the "fallacies" of being physically attractive and how one can be stereotyped by society, because of their looks. Thank you for trying to be encouraging.. PS"I just write it off that they are not for me as when the Lord has the "pick" for me...they will accept me for who I am in all areas. Until then...the Lord is the one to comfort and provide what I need. I do have times of loneliness...I am human, I am real, I go on..... some one said.. Eagles do not fly with sparrows and for me to look for another Eagle...this comment hit me between the eyes and I am waiting for another Eagle....that the Lord will lead to me to fly together..." Women or men who are "Too" anything and become lonely need to remember, as we all do, that they have worth, value and importance. also OP Don't forget the joke about the man who drown: The river was rising and the National Guard came to the man's house and said come with us or you may drown because the river is about to flood your house. The man replied the Lord will save me, go help others, and stayed. Well the river was at his doorstep. Rescuers came in a boat and said come with us we will save you. The man said others need help more the Lord will save me and he climbed to the roof and waited. The river was about to overtake the man's house and a helicopter showed up and tried to rescue the man. The man said the Lord will save me others need help and stayed. Soon the river overtook the house, the man drown. When he arrived for judgement He asked "Lord, why didn't you save me?" The Lord said "I sent you the national guard, rescuers in a boat, and a helicopter to save you! Why didn't you take my help?" My point is don't miss the signs and expect the Lord to join your hands with His pick. He also provided us with free will which can be used to ignore Him when we do see the signs.JMHO
1/2/2009 12:12:27 AM	Beautiful, intelligent, but lonely
1r2r3r4r Minneapolis, MN 65, joined Oct. 2008	Quote from dieseltech393 My point is don't miss the signs and expect the Lord to join your hands with His pick. He also provided us with free will which can be used to ignore Him when we do see the signs.JMHO true. God has our destiny in His hands if, we let Him. Not only that, but we also have to move forward and not look back, to make sure we do not miss the moment when the Lord opens the door to His choice for us. I think that we miss that too often, because we are too busy looking for that better opportunity, that might come along any minute and never does. If it was easy, everyone would be doing it" Thank you
1/2/2009 1:18:29 AM	Beautiful, intelligent, but lonely
milktogo Vernal, UT 60, joined Oct. 2008	I am not intimidated by a beautiful woman who shows her pic on this site; as a matter of fact (at least with me) the physical attraction must be there first! Distance can be a deal-breaker but not so much so if I like her profile. I have viewed many a beautiful, so called intelligent lady who's profile completely turned me off. Unless you're another Brad Pitt or Kevin Costner (which I'm not) they won't give you the time of day.
1/2/2009 2:06:52 AM	Beautiful, intelligent, but lonely
caleb9 Billings, MT 53, joined Nov. 2008	Welcome to the world. It's a fine world, and a wonderful one, where you can thank the powers that be that no one is exactly like you are. Otherwise, you'd get so bored you'd have nothing to figure out.
1/2/2009 8:03:52 AM	Beautiful, intelligent, but lonely
rocket000 Suwanee, GA 58, joined Mar. 2007	Steven, "what" in the world does being good looking or attractive have to do with being high maintenance? That is a broad brush stroke statement.
1/2/2009 9:01:59 AM	Beautiful, intelligent, but lonely
evileddy Ottawa, ON 43, joined Jan. 2008	Quote from bigcats374: Seriously, some men will always be intiminated by a beautiful woman and will be afraid to approach her. There is also nothing wrong with women making the first contact either. Talk to us at the grocery store, a resturaunt or other public place. We will not bite and you will find out quickly enough if there is any return interest or or not. I'm in no way intimidated by a beautiful woman. What I do have is the bad habit of assuming she's a b*tch.
1/2/2009 9:27:36 AM	Beautiful, intelligent, but lonely
turfy_ Point Pleasant Beach, NJ 45, joined Nov. 2008	If men are intimidated by georgous women or women intimidated by handsome men, then its your own insecurities you should be contending with. Besides; why can't people just have a conversation with someone else without worrying if they think they have a shot.
1/2/2009 3:43:37 PM	Beautiful, intelligent, but lonely
niceguy4tlc Winter Haven, FL 59, joined Aug. 2008	Loneliness is just a state of mind. I was lonely during the last several years of my marriage. Now I live by myself and while far from ideal, I am not lonely. I have friends, with & without benefits. I talk to and see some my family regularly. Now anxiety and other issues are another unrelated story.
1/2/2009 5:41:52 PM	Beautiful, intelligent, but lonely
1r2r3r4r Minneapolis, MN 65, joined Oct. 2008	Quote from sweetiepielove: I choose my path wisely. I would rather be single and lonely than married and lonely (which was what I was for 8 yrs)... So, for now, I think being 'alone/single' is a really great thing until my destiny falls into place! My destiny awaits me for the right time, until then, I'm content That's ironic you said that, because I just listened the message on line today about how so many people that are married, are so lonely. I am content too!!! thank you [Edited 1/2/2009 5:44:17 PM ]
1/2/2009 6:36:29 PM	Beautiful, intelligent, but lonely
1r2r3r4r Minneapolis, MN 65, joined Oct. 2008	Quote from zeanah: I assume nothing to why men do not approach me. I have no clue??? I feel they obviously are not attracted to me. I have a fun, smiling personality, carry myself with confidense, can start a converstaion with anyone. I am well groomed and am average looking. I have never had a problem making friends or being well liked wherever my job takes me...so to me, the men are just not into me or they would approach me! I know what I have to offer and I know my level of beauty. Not every man will find me attractive, but they will like me as a person...so be it! Now, if I could just find that one who sees the whole package and like it! I do know, in my experience, someone to religious is not for me. I have had religious men be very nasty to me becaue of it...name calling and a self righteous attitudes that I am a terrible person. "Z" No, we do not want these kind of men throwing themselves at you or me,no wayyyyy!!!!!!!

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