| 1/3/2009 11:14:46 PM |
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eve43521
Fayette, OH
59, joined Nov. 2008
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I have been with one guy for a few years. I recently met someone new that has really gotten under my skin. The first guy is sweet. He is very upfront with his feelings. The second guy is gun shy. He had been hurt and is terrified of getting hurt again. I am comfortable with the first guy. We can talk about anything. The second guys drives me totally insane. He is the most incredible lover I have ever been with. The thing is I don't really see any kind of meaningful future with either of them, so why not have both?
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| 1/3/2009 11:18:22 PM |
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pisceslooking
Palmer, AK
34, joined Dec. 2008
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only if your honest and tell them about each other
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| 1/3/2009 11:21:29 PM |
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boris007
Hemet, CA
43, joined May. 2008
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i've been with two girls. they were both so different but i cared about both differently and for different reasons. i did that for over a year and the test of time showed me what to do. sometimes people change. i wouldn't risk something good for what may be fake. so keep both and the incredible lover guy will probably peter out. be descreet and don't hurt the other guy. sounds like the marrying type....
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| 1/3/2009 11:26:43 PM |
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eve43521
Fayette, OH
59, joined Nov. 2008
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I've been carrying on with the two since august. It's my opinion that if I tell either of them it would be to clear my own conscience and it would hurt the both of them. (Sometimes what we don't know doesn't hurt us.)
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| 1/3/2009 11:28:23 PM |
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tallangel64
Lincolnton, NC
50, joined Nov. 2008
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If you've been with the first guy for " a few years ", that sounds like a committed relationship to me. Looks like after a few years, ya'll would have some kind of understanding to be exclusive. Sounds like your stepping out on the first guy.I'm just on the outside looking in. If the first guy knows about the second guy or that you date others, then it's ok. If I was with someone for a few years, I either wouldn't want to date others or if I did that would tell me I needed to move on and I would no longer see the first guy.
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| 1/3/2009 11:29:23 PM |
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foxy_woman_49
Omaha, NE
56, joined Nov. 2007
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been with teh first one for years and now another guy in the picture
you're sleeping with both of them?
are they aware of this?
you're Cheating!! plain and simple
next
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| 1/3/2009 11:31:08 PM |
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soundminded2002
Naples, FL
38, joined Dec. 2008
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hell no it's not good. i think that is so wrong. i'm proud to say that i never did and won't ever do that.
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| 1/3/2009 11:36:28 PM |
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pisceslooking
Palmer, AK
34, joined Dec. 2008
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cheating is cheating no matter how you try to explain it
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| 1/3/2009 11:36:48 PM |
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barbaraajo
Reston, VA
58, joined Jul. 2008
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as long as you are honest and not playing anyone.....
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| 1/3/2009 11:37:53 PM |
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eve43521
Fayette, OH
59, joined Nov. 2008
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Ok....the first guy has in the past had a wandering eye, someone that he works with. He admitted that he wanted something to happen, but it didn't. In the years that we have been together we don't even live together. I don't see it going anywhere. So that's how the second guy came to be a part of my life.
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| 1/3/2009 11:43:42 PM |
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tallangel64
Lincolnton, NC
50, joined Nov. 2008
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Ok....the first guy has in the past had a wandering eye, someone that he works with. He admitted that he wanted something to happen, but it didn't. In the years that we have been together we don't even live together. I don't see it going anywhere. So that's how the second guy came to be a part of my life.
You don't have to live together to be faithful to another in a relationship. You say you've been with him a few years. The more you reveal, the more it's obvious that what you are doing is not ok.
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| 1/3/2009 11:49:50 PM |
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eve43521
Fayette, OH
59, joined Nov. 2008
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I guess I know that it's not "right." I just don't want to hurt either of them. Until I can figure out which one I want to be with I don't want to hurt anyone.
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| 1/3/2009 11:54:47 PM |
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msmori
Kansas City, MO
49, joined Dec. 2007
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I would say you are in a committed relationship with guy #1 and sleeping around. 
Hell ya, he'd be hurt! you are OLD enough to know the answers to your own questions! Frankly, I'm astonished you'd even need someone to tell them too you! GROW up and act like a GROWNUP! If you want to date... date. If you want to sleep around, be honest with yourself, and call it for what it is! You need to be candid with your multiple sex partners... the reason you don't tell, is because you know neither would approve.
Get Real! 
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| 1/3/2009 11:59:56 PM |
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eve43521
Fayette, OH
59, joined Nov. 2008
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If I could have one guy that was the combination of the two I would have the perfect guy. I want someone that is my best friend AND great in the sack. I was in a crappy marriage for more than 2 decades. I want it all this time.
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| 1/4/2009 12:06:40 AM |
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komngetit86
Fairview Heights, IL
29, joined Dec. 2008
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Girl, that's double-dipping. Just ask yourself if you would like someone that you were insterested to be dating another woman... It's not fair at all to both guys. 
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| 1/4/2009 3:12:02 AM |
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dieseltech393
Andover, MN
66, joined Aug. 2008
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If I could have one guy that was the combination of the two I would have the perfect guy. I want someone that is my best friend AND great in the sack. I was in a crappy marriage for more than 2 decades. I want it all this time.
OP - Did you ever talk with #1 about improving your "in the sack" relationship? Did you ever tell him what you wanted or needed to make sex more satisfying for you. Did you ever ask him what would make sex more satifying for him? He might be better than #2 with a little communication. JMHO Ken
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| 1/4/2009 4:31:59 AM |
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th6231
Point Pleasant Beach, NJ
67, joined Jul. 2007
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Well by the description I would call it simply--cheating.If a man you date for a "few years" were to find out about this new parttime lover--he would likely NOT react very favorably. Rightly so. Even telling him about this new wild sex only partner would probably lead to the old man taking off. Unless he has no dignity or lower standards than most men. How would you feel if your man found a new plaything?? If you have no future with either one--go find someone who will fulfill your desires to have a normal relationship that has a future.
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| 1/4/2009 5:34:43 AM |
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singleagain50
Greenville, SC
57, joined Feb. 2008
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I guess I know that it's not "right." I just don't want to hurt either of them. Until I can figure out which one I want to be with I don't want to hurt anyone.
If you didn't want to hurt anyone, you wouldn't be sleeping with both of them. You just don't want to get caught. You better decide fast and tell one of them that its over, because when you do get caught you're gonna lose both..
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| 1/4/2009 5:56:42 AM |
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awakeing
Walled Lake, MI
42, joined Mar. 2008
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That's not "dating" two men!
Stop lying to yourself and THEM!
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| 1/4/2009 6:15:05 AM |
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kantc
Bullhead City, AZ
56, joined Dec. 2008
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you sound like the average women to me
why stop at 2?
And yes if they find out you will be looking for number 3
This is a classic example of why men find it difficult to trust women
and vice versa for the men who do this
Not that anyones opinion at least not mine will affect your actions
But I for one would never consider having any kind of contact with
Someone who does this type of thing
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| 1/4/2009 10:11:18 AM |
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onechanceonly
Lithia Springs, GA
53, joined Jun. 2008
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I guess I know that it's not "right." I just don't want to hurt either of them. Until I can figure out which one I want to be with I don't want to hurt anyone.
I don't want to sound mean but - you ARE probably already hurting them, they just don't know it yet 
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| 1/4/2009 10:27:07 AM |
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b1hunid
Yukon, OK
38, joined Sep. 2008
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i'm dating 2 guys right now. they're both ok with that
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| 1/4/2009 10:31:45 AM |
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clubkid66
Brooklyn, NY
48, joined Mar. 2008
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It's okay to date a many people as you want. However be sure of what you want and if the guy or guys can deliver and be honest with your situation with them.
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| 1/4/2009 10:52:58 AM |
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tallangel64
Lincolnton, NC
50, joined Nov. 2008
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you sound like the average women to me
why stop at 2?
And yes if they find out you will be looking for number 3
This is a classic example of why men find it difficult to trust women
and vice versa for the men who do this
Not that anyones opinion at least not mine will affect your actions
But I for one would never consider having any kind of contact with
Someone who does this type of thing
I take offense to your statement that this is typical of the average woman. It is not, in general, typical and it's certainly not typical of me. Don't bunch us all together with this woman. I'm a very faithful person when I'm in a relationship. I believe most women are; men too for that matter. The "average" person who chooses an exclusive relationship where both have discussed and agreed to a committment are most always faithful.
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| 1/4/2009 11:00:50 AM |
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sharolas
Elk Grove Village, IL
45, joined Jul. 2008
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How would you feel if it was turned around, and guy #1 was seeing you and someone else? It would hurt. It's considered cheating.
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| 1/4/2009 11:01:42 AM |
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grammyd
Saddle Brook, NJ
60, joined Dec. 2008
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Nothing wrong with having both. Thats why its called dating. Your not engaged, married, have a significant other, so just have fun. Don't make yourself crazy, just go with it, time will let you know which way to go. We always over analyze things, makes you crazy. just enjoy!!!!!!!!
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| 1/4/2009 11:10:58 AM |
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hotpink36
Springfield, OR
42, joined Jul. 2008
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Did it bother you that the first guy had a wandering eye and wanted to sleep with other women? for some reason he didn't go through with it and now you are the one sleeping with someone else.....you should let him know so he can go sleep with other people too...one more thing you said second guy had come out of a bad relationship or something like that so while your in a relationship you start seeing him I hope this poor doesn't lose faith in all women when it all comes out......if there is no future with either of them then break up with them and just have sex that way they are free to find a committed partner
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| 1/4/2009 12:52:54 PM |
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kantc
Bullhead City, AZ
56, joined Dec. 2008
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I take offense to your statement that this is typical of the average woman. It is not, in general, typical and it's certainly not typical of me. Don't bunch us all together with this woman. I'm a very faithful person when I'm in a relationship. I believe most women are; men too for that matter. The "average" person who chooses an exclusive relationship where both have discussed and agreed to a committment are most always faithful.
I apologize, I should have said based on my experiences in life
I have found a great many who DO datemore than one person at a time
And this has been true thru every decade I have lived
I have been hit on more while with someone, than when single as well
But of course not everyone
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| 1/4/2009 1:02:40 PM |
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jerrig
Saint Charles, MO
46, joined Jun. 2008
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I guess I know that it's not "right." I just don't want to hurt either of them. Until I can figure out which one I want to be with I don't want to hurt anyone.
If you can't decide which one you want to be with, then you don't need to be with either of them.
The fact that you even posted this tells me that you know what you are doing is wrong.
My opinion is that you just don't want to lose the security of having someone in your life so you will not do what is right and just move on leaving both of the guys free to find someone who will be loyal to them.
I base this on the fact that you will not tell either of them for fear of hurting them.
If you worry that the truth will hurt them then you -know- in your heart and mind that what you are doing is wrong, is cheating.
Do all three of you a favor and back out graciously before things go bad. And they will. Don't kid yourself into believing that you can find a happy relationship with either of them in the end.
It won't happen.
Why?
Because you have already started the base of the relationships with deceit and cheating.
If you can not be with a man and KNOW that he is the one for you, if you ever have so much as a thought of wanting to be with someone else, then it is time to move on because the relationship is not meant to be. You do not hold in your heart the type of love for either of them that it takes to have a good, loving and long lasting relationship.
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| 1/4/2009 1:06:07 PM |
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lnlass
Laguna Niguel, CA
57, joined Aug. 2008
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If you are honest with both of them as to what you are doing, they can live with it and you are using protection, I suppose it is okay, not my thing, but that is me. But what if the latter guy is sleeping around and is carrying a disease you don't know about? If you are not using protection you could give it to the first guy.....how unfair that would be, if this guy is living under the impression he is the only one for you and you for he.
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| 1/4/2009 1:11:59 PM |
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magtag
East York, ON
48, joined Aug. 2007
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If I could have one guy that was the combination of the two I would have the perfect guy. I want someone that is my best friend AND great in the sack. I was in a crappy marriage for more than 2 decades. I want it all this time.
So you've decided you want it all this time...that's all fine and good, but you think it's ok to have it all at the expense of two people's feelings? If neither one is the right guy for you on their own, you have two choices...move on and find one guy that does have it all...or be honest with the two of them and let them know you're DATING ONLY and you are not being monogamous with either one of them. It appears you are playing the both of them and that's not cool.
There's nothing wrong with dating, but you can't be leading more than one man to believe they are the only one when they're not...that's called cheating and it's wrong and hurtful. Make a decision and tell them the truth about the relationship you have with each of them...at least give these men the choice as to whether they want to DATE you rather than be exclusive with you. Maybe they'd like to get a little on the side too if they knew the truth!
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| 1/4/2009 1:35:38 PM |
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valgirl731
Altoona, PA
49, joined Dec. 2008
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Yes..it is just dating. As long as you are honest what is this problem.
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| 1/4/2009 1:40:16 PM |
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theothergman
Michigan, ND
53, joined Apr. 2008
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Wait a minute. Is it OK for a guy to be dating two women? I don't think so. When I date somebody, I date them. If it's a casual thing, it's casual. If it's serious and feelings start getting involved, or if you start getting intimate, then for me, it's a one girl thing. JMHO anyway.
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| 1/4/2009 2:37:52 PM |
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tallangel64
Lincolnton, NC
50, joined Nov. 2008
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I apologize, I should have said based on my experiences in life
I have found a great many who DO datemore than one person at a time
And this has been true thru every decade I have lived
I have been hit on more while with someone, than when single as well
But of course not everyone
Apology accepted and I understand. We are all influenced by our experiences. I try not to let the bad experiences ruin future possibilities. I like to believe there are more good people out there than bad people. I hope you find a good woman that will be faithful and that you can trust. 
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| 1/4/2009 2:48:06 PM |
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hugsnlaughter
McKeesport, PA
54, joined Jul. 2007
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If you didn't want to hurt either of them, you would not be cheating on them. Why not just tell them and let them both have other lovers also if they want or would you not allow that? For myself, if I was with someone for a few years, we would be committed and there would not be others.
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| 1/4/2009 2:48:43 PM |
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expialidoucious
Arcadia, CA
52, joined Dec. 2008
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With the S.T.D. statistics as high as they are, you beter be an excellent multitasker in order to keep track of everyone that they are sleeping with so that you know who youve really been with !
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| 1/4/2009 3:07:03 PM |
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jajasun
Denton, TX
48, joined Jul. 2008
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Yes..it is just dating. As long as you are honest what is this problem.
Normally I would agree but she said she has been with the 1st guy a few years so to him at least , it's probably more than just dating.
Take one or the other,don't be greedy,Most of us are lucky if we ever find one good partner.
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| 1/4/2009 3:55:28 PM |
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countrycharmer
Litchfield, OH
50, joined Sep. 2008
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Dating is the time to get to understand one each other, although a relationship should be with just one.
my 2-cents
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| 1/4/2009 4:02:04 PM |
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lizzardman72
Chattanooga, TN
43, joined Jun. 2007
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r u sick!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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| 1/4/2009 4:07:55 PM |
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tazz963
Rome, GA
51, joined Jun. 2007
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EEEEEWWWWWWWW Yuck and sleep with both of them too Nasty just nasty so back to the question Nope not right too many people get Hurt in the end JMO
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| 1/4/2009 5:25:14 PM |
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hotrodrob08
Cadillac, MI
30, joined Dec. 2008
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are you kidding me? if i didnt know better id say you were related to my exwife. you want us to feel sorry for you because youre incapable of looking beyond yourself? and those responses saying "its only dating, go for it and enjoy", if this post was by a guy, all you women would be yelling, and criticizing him for even thinking this.
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| 1/4/2009 5:27:57 PM |
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slowhand31
South Pittsburg, TN
37, joined Dec. 2008
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If you can't be with only one of them then break it off with both. It's better for it to end than for them to find out about each other, and they will sooner or later... Then there's some trouble for you!
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| 1/4/2009 5:27:57 PM |
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okaydude
Mesquite, TX
58, joined Nov. 2008
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Hell No
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| 1/4/2009 5:29:14 PM |
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slowhand31
South Pittsburg, TN
37, joined Dec. 2008
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are you kidding me? if i didnt know better id say you were related to my exwife. you want us to feel sorry for you because youre incapable of looking beyond yourself? and those responses saying "its only dating, go for it and enjoy", if this post was by a guy, all you women would be yelling, and criticizing him for even thinking this.
-hotrodrob08
True lol
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| 1/4/2009 5:33:15 PM |
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lust4love
Atco, NJ
44, joined Sep. 2007
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Ummm I think YOU know the answer !
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| 1/4/2009 5:38:02 PM |
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binderdundat
New Orleans, LA
53, joined Sep. 2008
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If I could have one guy that was the combination of the two I would have the perfect guy. I want someone that is my best friend AND great in the sack. I was in a crappy marriage for more than 2 decades. I want it all this time.
You make no sense at all. You're sleeping with two guys but claim you "want it all". You are also extremely selfish. Selfish = Only thinking about yourself. Just because you were in a crappy marriage doesn't mean you have to go around treating men like crap, and that's EXACTLY what you're doing by sleeping with them both without their knowledge. I could care less how many men you sleep with... so long as THEY are aware that you're sleeping around. Allow them the common courtesy of making decisions regarding THEIR sexual health.
woMAN UP and do the right thing... and let the chips fall where they may. If they don't care that you're sleeping with somebody else I'd say "lucky you... you've gotten exactly what you deserve... errrr... I mean wanted".
But have some decency and let them make the decision.
Side note: No wonder men think so little of us... thanks a lot.
  
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| 1/4/2009 5:45:04 PM |
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slowhand31
South Pittsburg, TN
37, joined Dec. 2008
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You make no sense at all. You're sleeping with two guys but claim you "want it all". You are also extremely selfish. Selfish = Only thinking about yourself. Just because you were in a crappy marriage doesn't mean you have to go around treating men like crap, and that's EXACTLY what you're doing by sleeping with them both without their knowledge. I could care less how many men you sleep with... so long as THEY are aware that you're sleeping around. Allow them the common courtesy of making decisions regarding THEIR sexual health.
woMAN UP and do the right thing... and let the chips fall where they may. If they don't care that you're sleeping with somebody else I'd say "lucky you... you've gotten exactly what you deserve... errrr... I mean wanted".
But have some decency and let them make the decision.
Side note: No wonder men think so little of us... thanks a lot. --binderdundat
First off, well said. But to your point of why men sometimes think little of women- You make a good point. I just went through a situation from the long-term guys point of view, but 8 years worth. I don't think poorly of women, but I sure as hell don't see trusting another easily as something that I will be able to do. And sadly, this could bite me in the butt if I were to meet a good lady, but not have any faith in what she tells me... if I'm making any sense, of course.
To the OP: 
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| 1/4/2009 6:44:22 PM |
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dreamin55
Virginia Beach, VA
57, joined Nov. 2008
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You know it's wrong. You can try and justify it anyway you want, it's not going to fly.
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| 1/4/2009 6:51:04 PM |
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ladyvirtue123
Magalia, CA
59, joined Jun. 2008
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I believe as long as neither are in a relationship and you are honest about dating others, it's alright...that's what I do..I was invited out to dinner for tomorrow night, and I told this man that I am dating others..so I gave him the option of retracting his invitation if it bothered him..he was perfectly alright with it as he too sees other ladies from time to time..he thanked me for my honesty and said he definately wanted to keep the date with me..
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| 1/4/2009 6:51:47 PM |
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bestdadntexas
Marshall, TX
49, joined Dec. 2008
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I would feel too awkward dating around. Not my style.
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| 1/4/2009 7:20:33 PM |
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saml
Waterford, ME
31, joined Mar. 2008
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cheating is cheating no matter how you try to explain it
I concur!
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| 1/4/2009 7:38:29 PM |
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foggykat
Brighton, TN
36, joined Dec. 2008
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Women like you give the ones of us out here who DON'T AND WON'T do that a bad name. I really hope your letting both of these guys know what you are doing. And I really hope you don't hurt them or even yourself. There's this old saying my dad always told me
" Don't treat him wrong ( as in the guy I would be dating) and he won't treat you wrong!" So all I can say is be honest and upfront with both of them and yourself.
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| 1/4/2009 10:34:11 PM |
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eve43521
Fayette, OH
59, joined Nov. 2008
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Thanks for all the replies. To further explain my situation the first guy and I were engaged at one time. After telling me that he had a crush on his co worker we both decided not to be engaged. Things did not progress, they regressed. Then I met the second guy. The more I think about it I think that I will let the first guy go and try to make a go of it with the second guy.
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| 1/4/2009 10:39:34 PM |
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th6231
Point Pleasant Beach, NJ
67, joined Jul. 2007
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In case you haven't noticed it by now--you can never go backwards in a relationship--it just doesn't follow the natural progression as a real relationship should be. Breaking it off with the first guy should have meant COMPLETELY. He had a crush on someone else?? Why did you stay around?? You have a chance with another man???--so now YOU take all this experience and all these lessons and put them to better use. Relationships should grow and get stronger everyday. It they don't, they stay weak and meaningless. Good luck to you.
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| 1/4/2009 10:46:58 PM |
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eve43521
Fayette, OH
59, joined Nov. 2008
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Thank you.
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| 1/5/2009 12:18:05 AM |
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catnip13
Los Angeles, CA
48, joined Dec. 2008
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if they know you're seeing others, then they may b seein others then you might get what they're two friends got, and so on and so on and so on. pleaseb careful
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| 1/5/2009 12:21:13 AM |
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midnightgambler
Memphis, TN
38, joined Nov. 2008
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If someone dates two girls or two guys and doesn't tell them I hope they find out about each other is all I really have to say about it.
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| 1/5/2009 1:34:30 AM |
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leprechaunjim_
Fort Collins, CO
64, joined Aug. 2008
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I've been carrying on with the two since august. It's my opinion that if I tell either of them it would be to clear my own conscience and it would hurt the both of them. (Sometimes what we don't know doesn't hurt us.)
If you are in a friendship with each of them (no sex/no boyfriend girlfriend yet) then enjoy it but be ready to make a decision. If either or both of them think they are exclusive, or are having sex with you, then it's dead wrong. You need to let them both know and either make sure it's ok, or let at least one or both of them go, for health reasons if no other reason  Yes, it's going to hurt both of them, but they need to know they are risking disease with you.
I guess a good way to make you understand is to have one of them say. I am in this relationship with a lady I really enjoy, and have found another who just turns my crank. (You're one of the two ladies) Is it ok?
Maybe one of them will ask you to test for STD's and then stay with you. Good Luck
Jim
Edited to say I didn't read all your statements before I posted. Obviously both of them believe they are exclusive. You owe them to tell them, so they can see their doctors.
[Edited 1/5/2009 1:52:51 AM ]
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Is it ok to be be dating two guys? |
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silkpanties53
Baytown, TX
60, joined Dec. 2007
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OH shit
beat me whip me make me feel cheep ! ! ! 
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| 1/5/2009 2:25:47 PM |
Is it ok to be be dating two guys? |
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luvdeb
Richmond, KY
50, joined Dec. 2008
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I've been carrying on with the two since august. It's my opinion that if I tell either of them it would be to clear my own conscience and it would hurt the both of them. (Sometimes what we don't know doesn't hurt us.)
You are making a clear choice based on what you know about these two guys. Don't you think it's only fair to tell them both the truth and give them the power to make an informed choice of their own? Only knowing the truth can they make a decision as to what they may want.
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