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awakeing
Walled Lake, MI
age: 36
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This is me baby taking off my red satin cape, bullet proof wrist braclets, sexy
push up bra. I'm keeping my golden lasso of truth because that is what I am.
I'm not your Wonder Woman no more. Not here to rescue you, do your work, take
care of you and make you a man.
Watch me dance butt naked on that red cape as I disappear.
Ok venting over.
Have any of you ever made the mistake of over functioning in a relationship?
I confess right here and now that's what I did wrong. I let him believe that
I was able to do it all. I was always stepping up to the plate. I became a human doing and lost that woman in me who was a very real human "being". I don't ever want
to be a superhero again.
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| 1/9/2009 7:01:33 AM |
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wileyguy
Wilkes Barre, PA
age: 38
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yes 
problem is it doesnt just go away.its a personality trait and thats also your relationship 'style'.
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| 1/9/2009 7:08:13 AM |
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wolfi
Albuquerque, NM
age: 43
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Forget the push-up bra.
They have a hilarious commercial on Telemundo for the 'Extreme Bra'.
It's a latex giant rubber band and it'll put those puppies right where the commercial says they ought to be - about 1 1/2" below your chin......
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| 1/9/2009 7:18:58 AM |
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mizp
San Jose, CA
age: 45
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yes
problem is it doesnt just go away.its a personality trait and thats also your relationship 'style'.
Very true, Wileyguy....
but once you see it, it is a matter of breaking the pattern without changing who you are....
easier said than done, but possible....
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| 1/9/2009 7:29:29 AM |
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countrycharmer
Medina, OH
age: 44
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yes OP
In the ideal world relationships are a 50/50 split. On any given day they may shift, although when average it should be 50/50. The problem develops when one side what (demands, takes, expects, manipulates, orchestrates, whatever) that the split be averaged in their respective favor most (if not all) of the time. My entire marriage was me giving my all and she demanding every bit plus more.
Your not alone, although at least now you understand what a healthy relationship should be and will settle for nothing less.
My 2-cents
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| 1/9/2009 8:14:10 AM |
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lakc
Houston, TX
age: 48
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yes OP
In the ideal world relationships are a 50/50 split. On any given day they may shift, although when average it should be 50/50. The problem develops when one side what (demands, takes, expects, manipulates, orchestrates, whatever) that the split be averaged in their respective favor most (if not all) of the time. My entire marriage was me giving my all and she demanding every bit plus more.
Your not alone, although at least now you understand what a healthy relationship should be and will settle for nothing less.
My 2-cents
I could have written these exact words.......... I don't mind giving more on certain occasions if it's warranted but I'd also like to receive a little more when I need it. I'm exhausted giving and just want a little TLC for a change. 
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| 1/9/2009 8:14:26 AM |
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usakindatheart
Overton, TX
age: 48
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op... that was the greatest mistake of my marriage..
i should of played helpless more often and the needy call me 24/7 cause i just can't
bare not having attention...
poster above is right... it is our personality..
some are just born managers, or go getters... we push and pull till the job gets done.
and we have little patience for slackers.. so we give up on them and do it our selves.
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| 1/9/2009 9:32:35 AM |
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clubkid66
Brooklyn, NY
age: 42
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You like to nurture and that's not bad. However save that for the kids not the grown men, once in a while it's nice but if you make it a lifestyle it can be abused. You are entitled to be angry but don't let yourself repeat history.
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| 1/9/2009 10:00:36 AM |
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awakeing
Walled Lake, MI
age: 36
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I just want to thank all of you for allowing me to share my mistakes.
I enjoying reading the humor, and felt a relief in those who understand
because they too wanted to be the "superhero" to the one they loved.
I am angry that I allowed my traits of a hard work ethic, deep compassion,
and desire to help and heal be used against me. I am shocked to just now realize
in my life that what I thought were strengths in my personality were used against
me. I never saw it till Wednesday when the EX was leaving he looked right at me
and said..."I thought you were Wonder Woman, you could do everything. When I saw
you couldn't I became angry with you."
That moment hit me like a ton of bricks. I never thought of myself as
a hero just a person making her best effort to do right and do it well to
the best of my ability. I honestly don't think I've ever felt this mix of
emotion toward myself in my life before. Part of me wants to kick my own butt!
I reject the idea that this mistake will be my relationship "style"
I'm going to make a sincere effort in my next relationship to be as
fair about life as I can. I will allow myself to know what it feels
like to be cared for in return.
I feel my solution is I have to learn that it's ok to have sick days,
to need help myself, that when I get tired I don't still stay up till
the project is finished, perhaps it's about learning that I need to
receive. I have been told before that I have a fear of being taken
care of and I laughed and blew it off. I should have listened to my
friends. 
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| 1/9/2009 10:22:45 AM |
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lilmissala1957
Hartselle, AL
age: 51
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I too tried to be the wonder woman of relationships after my divorce from my kids dad. I worked usually 2 jobs or so many hours at one that I may as well have have 2. Plus I cleaned the house,did the laundry,the shopping,the cooking,the cleaning up,taking care of the kids,any business I could do without him, and waited on him like a servant! My son and I were just talking about this yesterday. I never got to sit down for even a few minutes if he was there. It was get me this or get me that and if I tried to balk at the order OMG you have never seen a fit like that man threw!
So I learned a very hard lesson that I will never forget! And I won't go that direction again!
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| 1/9/2009 8:13:26 PM |
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ladyvirtue123
Magalia, CA
age: 53
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yes
problem is it doesnt just go away.its a personality trait and thats also your relationship 'style'.
I agree wileyguy..I too an an over doer..I pamper and dote and do it all when I'm in a relationship..I do that because it is a big part of who I am..I would much rather do for others than have them do for me..for years I've heard my friends telling me that I spoiled my husband and my kids by over doing it..doing too much for them consistently..I threw a party one time and when my best friend arrived, she commented to everybody, "once again you've out done us all!"..(I throw large parties and do all the cooking, and I decorate using themes depending upon the occasion)..I was annoyed with her comment actually because of the way she said it..another story..I know that in my next relationship I will do the same thing for him..I'm a pleaser and my reward is the appreciation I see in him for what I do...
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| 1/9/2009 8:23:28 PM |
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leftfooted
West Covina, CA
age: 50
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kinda of similiar to a workaholic,just some people tend to concentrate on the relationship not never noticing exactly where it actually is and that they are slowly drifting from who they are,too many people attempt to insure that they do not lose a relationship when they should be insuring that they do not lose themselves,if and when this does occur then the impact of the lost relationship is greater then if they were to allow some time for themselves,
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| 1/9/2009 9:15:13 PM |
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acting_out
Eagle, CO
age: 46
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virtue lady..... i really don't want to be mean....
thats a serious condition. it shows a personality trait that is not healthy....
you may have better success with another relationship after you figure out why you do this.
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| 1/10/2009 12:46:20 AM |
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ladyvirtue123
Magalia, CA
age: 53
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virtue lady..... i really don't want to be mean....
thats a serious condition. it shows a personality trait that is not healthy....
you may have better success with another relationship after you figure out why you do this.
..lol...thanks for your advice...
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| 1/10/2009 6:53:57 AM |
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kantc
Bullhead City, AZ
age: 50
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The real question I have is
Did YOU think you were Wonder Women
And He Thought you Were Not?
Perhaps he Lacked the strenght or the patience to live with
A super Hero, OR maybe you need to seek a man who
Has the same super powers that you do, and become the dynami Duo
I admire strong traits in any person
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