| 11/3/2007 3:21:07 PM |
Settling ... Being too picky |
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trublu5ft2
Columbia, TN
age: 50 online now!
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I have said, since my divorce in 91, that I would never settle in a relationship again. I have never just " settled" for anything in my life except past relationships. Some quip back with " Maybe you are just too picky"
Is there a difference between settling for something that might not bring you what you desire and deserve.. and choosing to be selective enough to wait for the best that you know is out there?
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| 11/3/2007 3:24:04 PM |
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txmale2112
Humble, TX
age: 38
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there isent a perfect match. you always find something you dont like about a person. its hoping you find more things you like about the person then dislike. yeah sure there are deal breakers thats to be expected but if you are to picky you are gonna be a very lonely person. for some that bothers them others it doesnt seem to bother them as much. to each there own.
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| 11/3/2007 3:28:06 PM |
Settling ... Being too picky |
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silkpanties52
Baytown, TX
age: 52
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shoot i don't know
where both at the 1/2 way point of our life
but i won't settle for less than what i am
looking for
what ever that is 
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| 11/3/2007 3:30:14 PM |
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trublu5ft2
Columbia, TN
age: 50 online now!
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I'm not picky. But I am not going to settle ever again. I am not seeking a perfect man.. I couldn't handle the boredom! But, if I want to spend the rest of my life with someone, you can bet ur sweet ass that I'm gonna make sure that he is the one to share it with me! Some are more selective and spend more time looking for that perfect car but less time and effort to find the tru relationship for them?
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| 11/3/2007 3:30:23 PM |
Settling ... Being too picky |
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osipsc
Chicago, IL
age: 54 online now!
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Tru:
I agree with tx, there isn't a perfect match - do we know with absolute certainty that this will or won't work out? We make the best decision at the time, then adjust as things change.
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| 11/3/2007 3:36:42 PM |
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slinky1971
Kingston, GA
age: 36
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Depends, i think many times people are confused about what they "deserve".
not so much on this site, but on pleases like myspace or even craigslist, i see quite a few people that say " i deserve the best". but they are usually damaged goods, unintelligent or otherwise not really much of a catch.
I really believe most relationships are based on "the best we can get" which is not the same as "the best".
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| 11/3/2007 3:37:09 PM |
Settling ... Being too picky |
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superscreename
Suffolk, VA
age: 30
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Excellent question, this goes right along with what I was talking about yesterday in finding the ONE. I think that you have to decide what is important and what you can compromise on. I know that there are things that are intolerable for me, but there are alot of things i want that I just might not get in a woman. I feel like I am getting more and more confused by the day sometimes.
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| 11/3/2007 3:37:59 PM |
Settling ... Being too picky |
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txmale2112
Humble, TX
age: 38
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funny picky people never admit they are picky lol. ok being "selective" might of been a better choice of word to use. seeing thats what you used. you say your looking for what you deserve what about what the other person deserves? you holding others to a higher standard what if they did the same to you? would you like that? if you have a laundry list of things you want in a partner and its longer then what you can put up with there is a problem lol. just some thoughts im not trying to be rude or anything. i hope you do find someone who fits the bill so to speak. 
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| 11/3/2007 3:38:38 PM |
Settling ... Being too picky |
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castertroy
Howell, NJ
age: 38
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I am picky and that is that!
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| 11/3/2007 3:39:54 PM |
Settling ... Being too picky |
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trublu5ft2
Columbia, TN
age: 50 online now!
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wow.. not really a good catch because they are not as intelligent and therefore should not have the right to be selective? Just gonna bite my tongue on that one lol. I want what I deserve... what every human deserves. No more, no less. I am just not going to accept what crumbs someone might have left over.
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| 11/3/2007 3:45:42 PM |
Settling ... Being too picky |
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trublu5ft2
Columbia, TN
age: 50 online now!
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I would expect the other to be selective too! And I do not have such a list. I will know him when I find him.. PERIOD! Selective is not so much raising your standards as it is finding that COMPATIBLILITY! Is that not the source of a relationship.. the solid ground before the relationship is built?
[Edited 11/3/2007 4:13:05 PM]
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| 11/3/2007 3:52:55 PM |
Settling ... Being too picky |
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superscreename
Suffolk, VA
age: 30
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Yeah, compatibility is where it all seems to fall. If you are compatible to the right degree, all the other stuff will just fall into place. Enough stuff in common and the list is all checked off. I think if you can find that special person that you are compatible with, you can stop wondering if they are enough for you or if they meet up to what you want and then you start wondering how many things you can do for them, and how to make them feel great. You want to do all you can to measure up and make life great for them. I think when the attention shifts, that is when we truly fall in love. When I think more about her and what I can do for her and to make her happy, I know she is it.
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| 11/3/2007 4:07:17 PM |
Settling ... Being too picky |
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trublu5ft2
Columbia, TN
age: 50 online now!
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Looking for that one who is compatible is more to the truth than being too picky and prob the true form that many of us feel. I don't mind a guy who is into nascars just because I'm more into dirt track races. But if he has the sense of humor like a rock, we would just not make it.
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| 11/3/2007 4:09:49 PM |
Settling ... Being too picky |
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castertroy
Howell, NJ
age: 38
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Nascar , cheap beer and chicken wings
Count me out...lol.
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| 11/3/2007 4:14:13 PM |
Settling ... Being too picky |
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trublu5ft2
Columbia, TN
age: 50 online now!
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can't handle cheap beer, nascar and can tolerate chicken wings
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