Men don't cry.

You say you want that but if you ever seen a man turn into a big blubbery mess over a TV Show or movie your vagina would dry up faster than the Sahara in the summer.

It's like if I seen my girlfriend take a massive dump while squeezing plucking her nose hairs.

I have to agree with this. Or maybe I should say men shouldn't cry in front of women. Every woman that I know that saw her husband or boy friend cry for any reason lost so much respect for him. Women say they want a sensitive man. But I find that they want him to be sensitive to their feelings and NOT to his own. When a woman sees her husband cry she sees it as a weakness and will use it against him.

No. A man should always be in control of his emotions.

This is true. Women don't want to see a man lose control of his emotions. When they see that, they lose respect and look for another guy. A more manly guy in their opinion.

Please note...remember you are answering as women......a crying man in front of another man is not good and should earn you an a** kicking.

You are divorced from your husband. Is your brother still married? I cried when my dog died. My wife didn't come near me for a month after that. There have been other times since my divorce when I have cried with a girl friend only to be dumped a week later. No, it's not a good idea to cry in front of a woman.

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Are you kidding me?!?!

So in your view a woman would rather be with a man who is so
in control that he don't cry no he just back hands her across
the room because that is a real man?

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Awakening,

Who said anything about back handing a woman? I said it's not a good idea for men to cry in front of women because they will lose respect for them.

So you are saying in the "Man Code Handbook"
that showing another man empathy, understanding,
and truly caring are considered a sever man offense?

God it all makes sense now.

i have never worked in an office, so i really did not know that...
the only reason for a melt down in an office is a tragedy such as some died or is dying.
i think i would of poured water on her head.

Well someone dying or a tragedy is when a man should be his strongest so those around him, wife/kids etc etc have a 'rock' to lean on.

The true test of a man is how he keeps himself together under the most stressful of times.

Well someone dying or a tragedy is when a man should be his strongest so those around him, wife/kids etc etc have a 'rock' to lean on.

The true test of a man is how he keeps himself together under the most stressful of times.

i THINK if its not an emergency for you to act on saving some one else's life at that moment....
the day you have your own child, and if it was to die... you would learn a whole new meaning
to what you think solidifies how a man should act or feel during a severe duress.

but, i pray you never do find out.

btw, Burying a child can bring the strongest human (male or female) to your knees...

Eddy, I swear I get that part of it!
I've seen men still do what they needed to do while
tears rolled down their cheeks. Crying itself is not the
bad thing.

Heck many a day I've cried and still have to do what I need to do.
I understand your point that you just can't quit if you need
to cry, but Eddy do you see my point?

Just the action of a man crying DOESN'T MAKE HIM LESS OF A MAN!
His true man strength is being true to himself that he can cry
and still walk in the fire.

Eddy it is said that real courage is feeling the fear/pain/ whatever
and doing it anyway. Every retired "hero" I've heard talk said...
I was scared, I went anyway. I was in pain, I finished anyway.
I cried but I still stood.

God bless those men, even if it only meant being a hero to their
own wife and children.

Ok then Beanz since you want to again point out
that only men can teach a man to be a man then
perhaps men should only live in a society with
men who think like them.
After all you're training each other to only
relate to one another and not the rest of society.

I read a book once called
Emotional Intelligence Why It Can Matter More
Than IQ..

and this is something I remember from it...

CEO's are hired for their skills and experiance...
they are FIRED for their lack of emotional intelligence.

After all as smart as you are what good are you if you
can't relate to others?

The Greatest Man in the world....is human.

dont listen to beanz. hes from another planet. ive held many of my brothers heads in my hands as they wept for their fallen brothers in action. point is, if youre not homophobic like beanz, its ok to show your emotion around other men.

You really are the type of man a woman could love with all her
heart, but she will never feel more lonely than when she is
with you.

Ummm yes I am aware that it is scripted...hence the laughing icon after the comment.

Beanz have you experienced a real loss yet? I ask because you're giving me
the feeling that you've been "trained" and haven't had to live it yet.

Yes...several times...haven't most people after a certain age? (also see my comment about my friend being shot as 1 example) I am in control though 99% of the time....obviously I have cried in my lifetime..but not in front of people except for 1 or 2 extreme cases and that was years and years ago.

There is no connection whatsoever between crying and being a real man. When something hurts you emotionally, deep down to the core of your being, only a cold, emotionless male would not break down. There is nothing manly about keeping all of your emotions in check. That is a lie we've all been told since we were 10 years old. "Be a big boy son. Big boys don't cry. Men don't cry." Society puts us in a "man box" at a very early age it seems. If your mother dies, and you were close to her, and you don't cry, you may just be a heartless, unemotional individual. I'm not saying men should cry at sappy movies or books the way women do, but there are times when emotions can be overwhelming, and to hold them in check just may not be healthy in the long run. Holding a fallen comrade in your arms as he bleeds out should bring tears in most cases I would think, although I've not experienced this first hand — thank God. IMHO.

Gee, Fishin, how does a divorced man who doesn't have kids decide how a widower with kids that has just lost his wife should act and behave? If I was a child in that situation and my father didn't cry, I would be confused and think that he didn't hurt and that maybe it wasn't okay for me to cry or talk about what I was feeling.

I remember my father at age 35 crying and being very sad for over a week when a good friend of his died. I was about 12 and I still remember how touched I was and saddened for my father's loss.

I won't even consider getting in a relationship with a man whose emotional growth is so stunted that he won't cry in front of me. I want a man that is emotionally as well as intellectually developed.