| 3/5/2009 12:06:36 PM |
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goodcatch33
Aberdeen, NC
40, joined Jan. 2009
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If you are in a relationship and you know that you yourself do not trust your partner but he trust you will you continue to stay and try to work it out or would you let go and move on?
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| 3/5/2009 12:10:43 PM |
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darlinshel
Clayton, NC
48, joined Jan. 2009
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If he gave me reason to not trust him, I can't see any reason to stay.
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| 3/5/2009 12:25:34 PM |
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barbaraajo
Reston, VA
59, joined Jul. 2008
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When the trust is gone, it is over as far as I am concerned....
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| 3/5/2009 12:25:53 PM |
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wegotdis
Rockford, IL
41, joined Dec. 2008
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i been on that road b4 and trust me on this one if theres no trust theres no relationship. at all!
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| 3/5/2009 12:26:22 PM |
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awakeing
Walled Lake, MI
43, joined Mar. 2008
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Well it's going to be alot of work to get trust back.
Most of the time it still can't be gotten back even after
doing CPR and using the paddles 6 times.
Sometimes you just have to know when to let go.
Time of death: 6:17 pm 
[Edited 3/5/2009 12:27:19 PM ]
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| 3/5/2009 12:39:06 PM |
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lilmissala1957
Hartselle, AL
58, joined Dec. 2008
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I have and it still ended in divorce. So no matter how much you may try to keep it together it does take two!
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| 3/5/2009 12:45:16 PM |
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missmmeoftheday
Brooklyn, NY
50, joined May. 2008
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If you don't feel it, you can't fake it.
Relationships are two way streets... and trust is a major player. JMO
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| 3/5/2009 12:47:57 PM |
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evileddy
Ottawa, ON
43, joined Jan. 2008
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What caused the trust to be dead?
Does he even know?
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| 3/5/2009 1:07:33 PM |
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clearrivers2
Parker, CO
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If you don't trust him anymore there is no reason to stay. Either party won't be happy.
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| 3/5/2009 2:05:50 PM |
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ladyog
Erlanger, KY
60, joined Feb. 2009
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What's the point....So I could end up makeing him as miserable as he made me...I used to go with the payback theory when I was younger but I grew up..
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| 3/5/2009 2:29:50 PM |
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slowhand31
South Pittsburg, TN
38, joined Dec. 2008
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i been on that road b4 and trust me on this one if theres no trust theres no relationship. at all!
Well said, I agree completely.
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| 3/5/2009 2:56:18 PM |
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krasota23
Albuquerque, NM
65, joined Dec. 2008
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If there is no absolute trust between both parties relationship is over and love is dead. I've been there and know what I am talking about.One sided trust also never works.
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| 3/5/2009 3:24:01 PM |
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mikecarpenter
Visalia, CA
42, joined Mar. 2009
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without trust you cannot love one of the major factors in loving sombody is trust
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| 3/5/2009 3:32:02 PM |
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hsprin
Savannah, MO
40, joined Jan. 2009
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Trust is a very, very hard thing to ever get back. Without trust you really don't have anything left. But it just depends on the people and if you really think that they can earn the trust back and I guess the reason why you stopped trusting them in the first place.
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| 3/5/2009 5:15:45 PM |
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lifetimeskier
Olympia, WA
54, joined Nov. 2007
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No wwhen the trust is broken it is so hard to go back and get it again...In most cases it would be over and done...Move on...
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| 3/5/2009 5:23:13 PM |
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leodizdren
Newark, NJ
38, joined Jan. 2009
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no trust, no relationship. Going to the bathroom becomes sneaking around. late nights out becomes cheating. move on life is too short.
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| 3/5/2009 5:24:20 PM |
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thebestman
Atlanta, GA
42, joined Dec. 2006
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Trust is the backbone of a relationship.
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| 3/5/2009 5:55:23 PM |
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susie03
Daytona Beach, FL
46, joined Nov. 2008
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no
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| 3/5/2009 6:30:02 PM |
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tallbevfrompa
Pittsburgh, PA
57, joined Sep. 2008
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What caused the trust to be dead?
Does he even know?
If trust is DEAD I don't think it matters why. It is what it is. DEAD.(
as long as the person who feels it is dead is not being overly mistrustful because of their own issues)
If there was a little mistrust maybe one could work on it, but once it's dead--that's a whole other ball game.
I don't see the point of trying to figure out why. Even if the reason is discovered--it's still dead.
Why waste time trying to revive something that is dead? Unless.... you want to live in drama and be miserable. 
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| 3/5/2009 6:47:42 PM |
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futureunknown3
Madison, WI
47, joined Feb. 2009
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No ... once the trust is gone that is it.
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| 3/5/2009 7:06:32 PM |
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quitesassy
Massillon, OH
46, joined Feb. 2009
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No, no, oh and no. Once that bond is broken and you decide to just accept it, you have opened the door for more.
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| 3/5/2009 8:21:58 PM |
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cinthianna
Goshen, IN
36, joined Nov. 2008
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If the trust is gone,...so am I...
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| 3/5/2009 8:35:14 PM |
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rooster64
Kansas City, MO
71, joined Nov. 2008
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If you are in a relationship and you know that you yourself do not trust your partner but he trust you will you continue to stay and try to work it out or would you let go and move on?
What kind of trust are you talking about here?? Trust in what?? Are they lying to you?? Being somewhere they say they're not?? Doing something they say they're not??
A little more info please..
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Trust is important ~ But i'm not going to worry about where $5. went , or why someone isn't as punctual as a clock..
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i find that if i look for trouble ~ it isn't hard to find..
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| 3/5/2009 8:45:54 PM |
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blueskiestwo
Grantsburg, WI
45, joined Nov. 2008
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 If the trust is gone,...so am I...
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| 3/5/2009 8:52:58 PM |
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thunderstorms62
Endicott, NY
54, joined Feb. 2009
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What kind of trust are you talking about here??
I'm thinking along the same lines as this poster in that
trust comes in all shapes and sizes. (Though most of us
automatically think of infidelity when this word surfaces)
A minor trust issue:
She promises she will take my sick cat to the Vet's office
today but does something else instead. (Minor issue unless the cat dies)
Major trust issues:
1. She decides to put my cat asleep at the Vet's office without consulting me.
2. She screws the Vet after he puts my cat to sleep.
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| 3/5/2009 10:01:10 PM |
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sunbeachflower
Suffolk, VA
46, joined Jan. 2008
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Take it from me girlfriend i have been down that road and haven,t found the end of it yet. i'm single now. but i think you answered your own question.Apart of you want it to change but deep down you know it won,t. you deserve to be honest with yourself.
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| 3/6/2009 5:31:08 AM |
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122750again
Sioux Falls, SD
65, joined Dec. 2008
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If I can't Trust him, No Matter how much I LOVE him, I'm History CYA 
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| 3/6/2009 5:59:56 AM |
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sunfish51
Delevan, NY
58, joined Jan. 2009
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No trust = No relationship
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| 3/6/2009 6:04:33 AM |
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_that_one_guy_
Moberly, MO
34, joined Feb. 2009
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if u cant trust someone then there is no point giving yourself more stress by staying with them trust is the key to a happy relationship and if it is gone so shall you be
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| 3/6/2009 8:06:49 AM |
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evileddy
Ottawa, ON
43, joined Jan. 2008
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If trust is DEAD I don't think it matters why. It is what it is. DEAD.(
as long as the person who feels it is dead is not being overly mistrustful because of their own issues)
If there was a little mistrust maybe one could work on it, but once it's dead--that's a whole other ball game.
I don't see the point of trying to figure out why. Even if the reason is discovered--it's still dead.
Why waste time trying to revive something that is dead? Unless.... you want to live in drama and be miserable.
Because if it's like anything I see here day after day.. you women get this idea in your head and talk to everybody on the planet before talking to your significant other about these things.
Could just be that she thinks he did something and the guy has no clue at all that she's lost trust in him.
Her feelings could be wrong and unjustified.
That's why.
I want more details before giving advice.
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| 3/6/2009 8:55:09 AM |
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special1too
Rockford, IL
42, joined Dec. 2008
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Well I tried to stay and work things out after the trust thing bit me in my a** and ya know what I got? A BIGGER BITE IN THE A** AND MY HEART RIPPED OUT OF MY CHEST!
So I would say if the trust is broken, RUN, DONT WALK.
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| 3/6/2009 8:58:38 AM |
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msbevzie
Oregon, OH
52, joined Aug. 2008
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I learned early on the trust between me and him was gone, BUT I forgave and forgot, and where did I end up 4 yrs later signing papers and back in Ohio...that's what dead trust got me...
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| 3/6/2009 11:43:17 AM |
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heartattack
San Mateo, CA
59, joined Jun. 2007
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I WOULD STAY ONLY IF THE ONE WHO DESTROYED THE TRUST WENT INTO COUNSELING AND I STARTED TO SEE BIG CHANGES!
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| 3/6/2009 11:49:01 AM |
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eimi
Jacksonville, FL
43, joined Jan. 2009
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If he is willing to go to counseling and work on trust issue so it improves yes I would stay.
If he is doing nothing to improve the trust...if married I would stay...take it as the "for worse" clause.
If dating I would cut him lose You can't grow in love with trust issues.
Now I assume he has done something major to not have your trust? If it is cheating...if married he would need to cut it off immediate and forever. If he won't then I would end it.
Above all ...I would pray!
Good luck
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| 3/6/2009 11:58:14 AM |
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swflookin4u
Arlington, TX
47, joined Mar. 2009
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Yes I would stay, but I would closely analyse the past and see what caused him to cheat. If I cannot come to a understanding or reason why so we both can work on each of our faults, then it is time to cut the umbilical cord....
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| 3/6/2009 11:59:37 AM |
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sw_
Gloucester, ON
35, joined Dec. 2008
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How's the sex?
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| 3/6/2009 12:02:43 PM |
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evileddy
Ottawa, ON
43, joined Jan. 2008
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How's the sex?
"Trust me.. I won't put it in your bum"
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| 3/6/2009 12:07:37 PM |
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sw_
Gloucester, ON
35, joined Dec. 2008
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"Trust me.. I won't put it in your bum"
Eff that noise...I'm outta there
If it's like "Trust me...I won't sleep with that waitress...your friend...your sister..." and the sex is ROCKIN...I'll stick around till I get bored or he gets lackluster
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| 3/6/2009 12:29:40 PM |
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pike_co_rfd
Keokuk, IA
60, joined Jan. 2009
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If there is no trust, there is no relationship.
A relationship is built on trust. And without that, you might as well say goodbye.....
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| 3/6/2009 1:41:14 PM |
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sandra49ok
Shelton, WA
57, joined Sep. 2008
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that depends on how much i loved him
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| 3/6/2009 6:39:24 PM |
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nvr4gttn
Yelm, WA
53, joined Aug. 2007
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trust is a huge part of a realationship. If it's gone, so am I...
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| 3/6/2009 8:19:47 PM |
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sierratoo
Grande Prairie, AB
61, joined Dec. 2008
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...it's just not worth the turmoil. Why have something like that constantly eat your insides out? Life is too short. Move on...
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| 3/6/2009 8:25:16 PM |
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followurdreams2
Ridgeland, MS
47, joined Dec. 2008
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If there's no trust there is no relationship..I'm outta there!!
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| 3/6/2009 9:53:17 PM |
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maryg2
Philadelphia, PA
46, joined Oct. 2008
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well, there has to be a reason why i dont trust him and if i have a suspicion, i need to find out for my own peace of mind and heart. if he has already broke that trust, then nope, cant do it. been there and done that. trust is the most sacred of the relationship and esp. marriage. once its destroyed it would be safe to say its nearly impossible to go back!
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| 3/6/2009 9:57:51 PM |
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twluckycat
Youngstown, OH
55, joined Feb. 2009
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Trust is a bond in a relationship. Remember it's a two way street. Once you cross that road you can't go back. What is done is done. It's a long road back and not many make it.
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| 3/6/2009 10:16:09 PM |
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luvdeb
Richmond, KY
51, joined Dec. 2008
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If you are in a relationship and you know that you yourself do not trust your partner but he trust you will you continue to stay and try to work it out or would you let go and move on?
It would depend on what I had invested in the relationship. If it was a long term relationship with children, I would stay and try to work it out. Eventually, I may learn to trust my partner again. Trust must be earned, it's not just given freely.
If on the other hand, it was a short term relationship and trust was never fully formed to begin with, I probably would not stay and try to work it out.
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| 3/7/2009 12:11:41 AM |
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dutchboy4u
Huntington Beach, CA
52, joined Oct. 2007
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Hell no! Adios! NEXT!
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| 3/7/2009 12:15:12 AM |
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frogluver142
Maryville, TN
61, joined Jun. 2008
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I was in a relationship and the trust was gone within the first 2 yrs and i stayed for 7 yrs...never would i stay in one again because without trust there is nothing
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| 3/7/2009 12:22:26 AM |
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tazz963
Rome, GA
52, joined Jun. 2007
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nope sorry couldn't stay because in the back of your mind you will always be thinking are they going to do it again? it never goes away no matter what you try also deep down you start to resent the person and start to look at them in a different way so nope couldn't do it myself 
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| 3/7/2009 12:23:22 AM |
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in_doubtalishis
Beaumont, CA
41, joined Oct. 2008
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Why put yourself through the misery? It is like torture living like that and I feel sad for anyone who feels they have to live that way.
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| 3/7/2009 12:27:27 AM |
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lead_man
Lake Dallas, TX
54, joined Feb. 2009
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Everyone is innocent until proven guilty. I remember being distrusted just because other women would look or talk to me - hopefully nothing too petty
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| 3/7/2009 8:22:02 PM |
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cynthia_78
Bristol, IN
37, joined Jul. 2008
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Trust is one of the most important things to me. For me it can never be won back after its gone. These days all it takes is one lie and I'm walken. Never to look back again. If they can't be honest than I can't respect them. Honesty goes a long way. The negitivity that comes from all the doubt and wondering is not worth it.
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| 3/7/2009 8:48:58 PM |
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cott0n51
South Lake Tahoe, CA
65, joined Feb. 2009
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Maybe it is just time to take a break from each other for awhile get on the outside of the relationship and look in. What I mean by that is go back to just being friends and evaluate What is good and what is bad in the relationship and then look inside yourself and ask yourself if the relationship is what you want.
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| 3/8/2009 12:41:34 AM |
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luvembig51
Troy, NY
58, joined Mar. 2009
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No Period. It's one thing I will not tolerate.
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| 3/8/2009 12:45:21 AM |
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happyface46
Palm City, FL
53, joined Feb. 2009
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No way
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| 3/8/2009 12:50:44 AM |
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08dja
West Jordan, UT
43, joined Feb. 2009
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relationships are built on trust if you can't trust your spouce/mate/girlfriend/boyfriend then you will never have a long lasting relationship, i know i was married a while and if we didn't have that we would have been divorced a long time ago ...JMO THOUGH
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| 3/8/2009 6:09:20 PM |
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curious978
Lakeside, OR
36, joined Feb. 2009
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Hell no! Whats a relationship without trust? Paranoid depression! YUCK!
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| 3/8/2009 6:15:47 PM |
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maxium4x4
Findlay, OH
58, joined Jun. 2008
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It is your decision since you know the situation.
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| 3/8/2009 7:54:06 PM |
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sweetass09
Tulsa, OK
34, joined Feb. 2009
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Nope. Plain and simple. I just ended a 10 yr marriage, because I did not trust my x. If you dont trust the person who you are with, its pointless to continue in that relationship. Move on, step out.. Enjoy life, dont be around peeps you dont trust...All that will do is cause yourself un-necessary heartache. Coming from ALOT of experiance, but, thats just my 2 cents...a.
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| 3/8/2009 8:12:16 PM |
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bobkat007
Mason, OH
61, joined Aug. 2008
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I tried to trust my wife after I caught her cheating. She told me it was over and we celebrated our 19 year anniversary. The next day she ended up in a hotel with him. She keeps telling me its over, but I still catch her in lies. I will never be able to trust her again. I have given up, and will not stay, even though I have 2 kids. They want to be with me and not her.
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