| 3/15/2009 11:25:06 AM |
Sometimes the end is there. You just have to say it. |
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justmysay
Wichita, KS
age: 38
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Yea, sometimes the end is here and sometimes it's hard to let go, sometimes you know it's over even before it began... Sometimes it's wishful thinking that keeps it going Sometimes it's because your lonely, sometimes you can set yourself up to be hurt, sometimes it is what it was....Sometimes it's just time to say I can't do this anymore...
I made choice's I don't regret and made an even bigger one today but nevertheless I won't regret it yes, it was a hard decision to make..
I will be stronger for it.... There's always a tomorrow...
Thanks... Just really needed to vent..
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| 3/15/2009 11:58:31 AM |
Sometimes the end is there. You just have to say it. |
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mskitty57
Tucson, AZ
age: 58
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Staying strong is the hard part.
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| 3/15/2009 12:07:34 PM |
Sometimes the end is there. You just have to say it. |
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otdrman1
Grantsburg, WI
age: 38
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Better to leave a bad relationship knowing you did all u could..Than to stay in and try to change that person . jmo
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| 3/15/2009 12:11:53 PM |
Sometimes the end is there. You just have to say it. |
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awakeing
Walled Lake, MI
age: 36
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I agree there is real freedom in letting go.
Like Madonna said....The power of goodbye.
True wisdom is knowing when.
In this life all we can do is the best we can.
My heart goes out to you during this painful time
of growth.
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| 3/15/2009 12:13:07 PM |
Sometimes the end is there. You just have to say it. |
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neo_52
Marathon, FL
age: 52 online now!
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Better to leave a bad relationship knowing you did all u could..Than to stay in and try to change that person . jmo
Take it from an old man ,this young man has wise words .
And ,don't stay too long or you may lose your own identity .
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| 3/15/2009 1:35:00 PM |
Sometimes the end is there. You just have to say it. |
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katrinasq
Mena, AR
age: 40
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There are three diffucult stages in this process, I have found.
Realizing/admitting it is over to yourself
Accepting that it is over, the relationship is not good for you and it's time to move on
Taking action to end the relationship and start healing
None of these steps is easy, but all are necessary for closure, healing, and personal growth.
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| 3/15/2009 2:44:41 PM |
Sometimes the end is there. You just have to say it. |
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justmysay
Wichita, KS
age: 38
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Knowing I don't have to settle for less and being able to let go.... I won't lie was hard cause I liked the guy a lot... No one should have to settle for less, just to have a few moments of happiness.. Happiness should be everyday and every moment... Well at least this time it only took me a little over a month to figure it out. No regrets just life lessons...
Thanks... all....
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| 3/15/2009 3:20:37 PM |
Sometimes the end is there. You just have to say it. |
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slowgin1
Perry, GA
age: 46
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i'm going on 10 months.......i'm the one doing all the giving and he is doing the taking...Good sex isn't worth a broken heart......i won't to be strong...just weak....i'm not even sure he would be upset if I ended it...heck I've talked to him 15 minutes all weekend...
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| 3/15/2009 5:08:35 PM |
Sometimes the end is there. You just have to say it. |
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tryagaindj68
Evansville, IN
age: 40
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It's like Lefty said in another thread: the farthest away from someone you can be is when you're sitting right next to them, and you know you can't have them.
It can seem easier to stay in a dead or dying relationship than to kiss goodbye and move on, but at some point, you realize there's nothing left to save but time (and hopefully some fond memories).
"You can't make your heart feel something it won't..."
[Edited 3/15/2009 5:19:35 PM PST]
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| 3/16/2009 7:50:25 AM |
Sometimes the end is there. You just have to say it. |
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susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 61
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i'm going on 10 months.......i'm the one doing all the giving and he is doing the taking...Good sex isn't worth a broken heart......i won't to be strong...just weak....i'm not even sure he would be upset if I ended it...heck I've talked to him 15 minutes all weekend...
Slow, here is my mantra: KNOW YOUR WORTH  
Knowing your worth frees you to love yourself unconditionally. Knowing your worth frees you to kick that guy in the a** for taking advantage of you. Knowing your worth opens your path to find a man who is worthy of your love and devotion. Stop giving. Stop being an enabler. Relationships include lots of communication. If you are afraid to bring the subject up because he becomes angry, he is not the one for you. Your heart is broken now, what's the difference if he is there or not? Don't you feel like he is living single within your relationship? How fair is that to YOU and why are YOU letting this happen to you?
How do I know these things? I recently went through it. Paid good $$$ to a shrink to help me see where my role was in the destruction of the relationship. I was a complete enabler and that's exactly what he was looking for. Now I am telling you for free: love does not hurt...love does not hurt....love does not hurt.
God bless you, girlfriend.
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| 3/16/2009 10:09:26 AM |
Sometimes the end is there. You just have to say it. |
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justmysay
Wichita, KS
age: 38
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Slowgin1, yea, girl we are worth more.... I was lucky very lucky... was a month of talking and a week of a little more but only took me a week to figure out this guy wasn't giving anything... Just getting what he wanted and telling me what he thought I wanted to hear and only when he wanted to say it... Hell NO.... It's a Give Give not a Give Take... I am in search for Happiness every moment, not just when he wants to give it...
Two Takers it's over before it begins, A Giver and a Taker it's going to be a bumpy ride, Two givers can last a life time...
I'm a Giver and so are you... We deserve what we give in return!!!!!!!!!!
I'm glad to know that I wasn't the only one who needed to hear this, I regret nothing it all happens for a reason.. You can either cry or you can learn from it... I am learning from it... As for my pain, it only lasted a day, not that i didn't care but I care more for me... Now I'm free and with freedom comes bliss.....
Here's to all my sisters.... 
(Guys you too Hell, I'm sure some of you have been through this shit too)
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| 3/16/2009 10:18:25 AM |
Sometimes the end is there. You just have to say it. |
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country_guy60
Mankato, MN
age: 48
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Not all men are bad asses and take you for every thing they can get. I`m a giver by heart
Good Luck
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| 3/16/2009 12:51:04 PM |
Sometimes the end is there. You just have to say it. |
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msbevzie
Toledo, OH
age: 45
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Yes and somedays I think there is a high bridge right down the road, I might want to go stand on the edge and look over...like lately...THEN I stop and think...I lost that baby soon to be 4 years ago BUT I also have other children that are alive...and alot of people that truly love me...who would I be hurting...sometimes doing the right thing HURTS!
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| 3/16/2009 1:41:29 PM |
Sometimes the end is there. You just have to say it. |
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ladyog
Happy Valley, OR
age: 53
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I gave up everything I owned...20yrs of things I had collected...my job...my car..my pets...everything except what would fit into two suitcases....
I still cry sometimes for what I left behind....but if I didn't save myself...nobody else was going to...
And things can be replaced...
I still miss him but if we would of stayed together I would of killed him...I'm sure..
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| 3/16/2009 3:05:10 PM |
Sometimes the end is there. You just have to say it. |
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slowgin1
Perry, GA
age: 46
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Slowgin1, yea, girl we are worth more.... I was lucky very lucky... was a month of talking and a week of a little more but only took me a week to figure out this guy wasn't giving anything... Just getting what he wanted and telling me what he thought I wanted to hear and only when he wanted to say it... Hell NO.... It's a Give Give not a Give Take... I am in search for Happiness every moment, not just when he wants to give it...
Two Takers it's over before it begins, A Giver and a Taker it's going to be a bumpy ride, Two givers can last a life time...
I'm a Giver and so are you... We deserve what we give in return!!!!!!!!!!
I'm glad to know that I wasn't the only one who needed to hear this, I regret nothing it all happens for a reason.. You can either cry or you can learn from it... I am learning from it... As for my pain, it only lasted a day, not that i didn't care but I care more for me... Now I'm free and with freedom comes bliss.....
Here's to all my sisters....
(Guysno you too Hell, I'm sure some of you have been through this shit too)
thanks girls...I knew there were woman out there that were like me...I have friends who say..girl...just quit going to see him....he is not a mean man, not abusive, in fact we have a great time when we are together....i just haven't met anyone in his family, gone to church with him, he has met my daughter once....he lives a couple of hours away and since last year he has been here once....i'm an enabler that is an understatement....I know what I need to do....just got to get there....thanks ya'll...
[Edited 3/16/2009 3:05:35 PM PST]
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