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lakc
Batam
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I have been talking on the phone to a man I met on DH for the past 3 weeks. He is living in Colorado Springs and I live in Houston. He's planning to visit me in two weeks; this will be our first meet after many hours on the phone each night.
Because we both are free, he wants me to drive to north Texas to meet him this weekend. He is not pressuring me.....basically says that we're already planning the visit but it would be nice to see each other sooner.
I want to meet him and determine whether or not it's the real deal but I'm nervous. The reason I wanted him to come to Houston first was because it's my turf and I would be more comfortable. He's already made reservations....yeah.....airline AND hotel! I won't bring him to my place on the first meet....no way!
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| 4/1/2009 12:25:02 PM |
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slstlc9
Salisbury, NC
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After your phone conversations and if you felt comfortable enough to meet in a few weeks, then I guess moving the meet up may just mean he truly wants to spend time with you and has honest feeings. And the fact that he isn't pressuring you shows that he does have some respect for your feelings....this one I say go with you heart. Good luck and hope it works out well for you... Will be looking forward to hear how it went.
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| 4/1/2009 12:39:03 PM |
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lakc
Batam
Indonesia
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There's no doubt in my mind that he respects my feelings. On many occasions he's been more than thoughtful to me during our conversations.
Part of me just wants someone to say "Go for it!"
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| 4/1/2009 1:26:56 PM |
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slstlc9
Salisbury, NC
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I understand, I am in a similar situation with someone where distance is something we have to over come .... and looking for best time for both of us . But if he said this weekend...I'd be on the first plane because the heart knows, and sometimes you just have to take the risk, as long as your safty isn't in question....best to you.
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| 4/1/2009 1:29:11 PM |
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forestrose
Calgary, AB
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If it is neutral turf, and you stay in seperate accommodations as per your desire, and you have time as you say, why not. Just still take the usual precautions making sure someone knows where you are, email his license plate to a friend, and I have asked for i.d. Sorry if this is overkill, but even psychos know how to say the pretty words!
I wish you luck, and hope you have a wonderful time.
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| 4/5/2009 5:06:55 PM |
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lakc
Batam
Indonesia
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Just a quick update....
I met my guy yesterday and I think....no, I know he's a keeper! He's all he said he was and there will be another get together in two weeks when he comes to Houston. 
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| 4/5/2009 8:21:04 PM |
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lakelandglam
Lakeland, FL
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I tell you what if you fill better meeting him in Houston that what you need to do
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| 4/5/2009 9:22:47 PM |
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alicekathleen
Sacramento, CA
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It comes down to what you feel. I spent Thanksgiving and the day after with a man I had never met in person, at
his house in San Jose in 2007! I felt safe, and he never bothered me. I had my own room and bath, and met his
family. I also took the train to Modesto to meet a man from Yuba City, he paid for the motel rooms, two beds. No sex,
I was not attracted to either of these guys in person, but we had a good time, dinner, music, museum.
I would say, to me, go ahead and meet him in another town, but have TWO hotel rooms, and check out the hotel
on internet to see it is nice, no Motel 6! If you do not want him at your house, help him to make reservations at
a nice motel on the other side of town. Meet him in the restaurant there. Then go with your instincts. You gotta
take a chance of being bored or of not being attracted. If you are afraid of him, do not even meet him. If you
need more time before you decide, say so. Let us know how it goes!
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| 4/6/2009 8:16:22 AM |
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titanicrose
Schaumburg, IL
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I have been talking on the phone to a man I met on DH for the past 3 weeks. He is living in Colorado Springs and I live in Houston. He's planning to visit me in two weeks; this will be our first meet after many hours on the phone each night.
Because we both are free, he wants me to drive to north Texas to meet him this weekend. He is not pressuring me.....basically says that we're already planning the visit but it would be nice to see each other sooner.
I want to meet him and determine whether or not it's the real deal but I'm nervous. The reason I wanted him to come to Houston first was because it's my turf and I would be more comfortable. He's already made reservations....yeah.....airline AND hotel! I won't bring him to my place on the first meet....no way!
Be careful! Meet at a very public place for at least 4 meetings with him before you bring him home and always use your car by yourself! Let him drive his own rental! If he gets upset drop him like a hot potato! Let all your friends know his phone number and name. Get to your first destination very very early and see what his car is get the lisence number and give it to a friend on the phone that minute. Never can be too causious! If any red flags go up with his actions or any stratements leave emmediately and call a friend and go to thier home, not yours! Sorry to scare you but meeting someone from outside your state not in my bag! Good Luck!
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| 4/6/2009 2:15:08 PM |
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slstlc9
Salisbury, NC
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Just a quick update....
I met my guy yesterday and I think....no, I know he's a keeper! He's all he said he was and there will be another get together in two weeks when he comes to Houston.
I think that is great....I am really happy for you and wish you all the best. Hope you and your friend have many more great days (and nights lol) to get to know and enjoy each other
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| 4/6/2009 5:18:16 PM |
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titanicrose
Schaumburg, IL
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Good Luck! Happy for you!
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| 4/30/2009 7:19:13 PM |
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lonelady57
Yorktown, IN
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    Good for you, "love conquers all"!! Nice when a plan comes together for the good guys!
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| 5/2/2009 10:26:35 AM |
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utahgal1
Ogden, UT
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Be safe and have a wonderful time!!
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| 5/2/2009 11:28:30 PM |
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pjspurg
Palmyra, IN
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Congratulations!!!!!!! I'm needed to hear that this does work. May you find all the happiness you deserve!!!
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| 6/23/2009 11:35:13 PM |
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lakc
Batam
Indonesia
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Please give us a Current Update.
Oh my....I forgot about this thread I started! Well, quick update....
I have been seeing my guy from DH since early April and we are now in a committed one on one relationship. He is still in Colorado and I am still in Texas but we manage to visit every two weeks. It is a lot of work to organize calendars and schedules but no major problems as yet.
I met some of his family about three weeks ago and they were very nice. It was a good visit. He will meet my family in Louisiana next month when we go for a long weekend visit. We are planning a family vacation in August....I'm really looking forward to it and so is he.
It has only been two months, 19 days....I'm not counting....but we are making plans for the future. We have no set time table, which is a very good thing. We are happy.
Funny thing is that we were both on other 'paying' sites but met here. He read something I posted on the widow's forum and commented. Later, he sent me an email and I replied. I never thought anything would come from the emails because we were so far in distance. I tell him often "Who'd thunk!?"
I have found my love.
Best of luck to all,
KC & PP
PS: Here is "our" song.
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| 6/24/2009 12:22:54 AM |
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hcb12
Redding, CA
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Way to go
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| 6/29/2009 5:55:26 PM |
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musicandsmiles
Salem, OR
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Keep us updated .... we are all excited for you!
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| 6/30/2009 10:45:37 PM |
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tx_blu_eyz2000
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