if there isnt much connection or attraction at first..then it would feel to forward to me..if 1 person was only attracted. But with me..if i have gone on a date with someone..the connection/attraction has already happined..otherwise i am not a hit and run kinda guymy flute plays differently i guess

is that what's it about, a man being "secure in his masculinity" to be able to handle a woman if she's too FORWARD or aggressive??

very interesting answer and curious WHY u say that. i would think personally it doesnt matter whether a man is secure or not. maybe he just DOESNT WANT or PREFER a woman to be too aggressive and would actually like to take things slow...

i mean in a way its hard to believe cuz men r so accused and r known for taking things fast....but there must be reasons why they would be offended or just not want to have a woman move full speed ahead!

now i wouldnt say i move like a tricycle, but im not exactly a Ferrari either!

"I know they saw me sitting at the table by myself but if they came over playing that crap with me I would tell them to get lost."

And that is why Steve ,they did not come over to you and play their "being forward" ploy .
You presented a persona that told them not to come hither and taught me .

People have an innate ability to read body language ,eye contact ,Ora if you will , that tells them they may enter another persons space ,that they are willing to play ,that they may be forward and make advances .

I have always enjoyed more the company of women that are respectfully forward verses those timid and shy .Being respectfully comfortable with another in each others space is ,well ,comfortable .

If one doesn't want another in their space ,being forward ,put up walls ,body language that says you ain't welcome here .
People do it all the time .

I went out Saturday night to hear my buddies band play live. I sat and just watched all the goofballs and people getting drunk. Dancing and doing what ever.I watched three woman, nice looking just throwing them selves at any guy who would pay attention to them. I thought now why would a bunch of pretty woman have to act like that. There pretty enough they can have anybody they wanted. I know they saw me sitting at the table by myself but if they came over playing that crap with me I would tell them to get lost. I do get affended if woman come on like there crazzy little perverts like that. They're ladies, they don't need to act like animals. I have the highest respect for woman. I'm not into meeting someone and then playing hide the meat pole an hour later. I'm very old fashion. I was raised well and with pride. I would like to meet someone with the same aspect.

*note to self*

Trim nails,

Don't leave claw marks...



OK, I got it. I'm ready to go back at it...

I dont know these few men you have been talking to,
Perhaps they were unwanted advances from a women they were
extremely unattracted to.

Of your full of beans

LOL@ Mary,..I've been reffered to a tigress before...I have another comment about tigers,..but, It's not really appropriate for this forum...lol

lol Mary, me too!

Baby if it's good I purr, moan, roar whatever!!! And if a man is going to date me, he better have sound proof walls or live in the country. That's all I got too say! I don't keep my big mouth shut on the forums why would you think I would be quiet in bed!

boy, i think i might have posted the WRONG thread here...some of these women r LOUD in the HOUSE and then some!....as HSPRIN said, no purring, but roaring and she ain't SHY about it at all!

so i guess its ok being "forward", it just depends where u r forward at and how u do it...

which speaking of...can s/o demonstrate the "bump and grind"??...havent seen it in a while..it was just brought up!

oh, here we go, ladies...the BUMPING has begun!...we can be FORWARD like this!


That pic was too funny mary...that's the old fashioned bumping...today we still bump hips, but the grinding is fun too...couples grind their pelvis's against each other (very sexually) and see how low they can go,while doing it...sometimes, other couples will join in until you have a train of people bumping and grinding together...sort of like a dance floor orgy! It's a lot like the movie "dirty dancing", only dirtier! it's a lot of fun!

I would have to say in most cases, I like when a woman makes a move as it can be very flattering and a turn on for sure. But, and this is a BIG but, too much is too much. For example, I went out with a woman last year, and 20 minutes into our first date, her foot was in my crotch under the table. My thinking was just how many guys does she do this to? Yuck!! Big difference between making moves and acting like a tramp.