| 5/13/2009 1:44:45 PM |
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pc7878
Minneapolis, MN
age: 50
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good ...again well stated
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| 5/13/2009 1:46:50 PM |
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howudoinnn
Grantsburg, WI
age: 40
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Just because someone else's options don't mirror your own does not invalidate their choice...you might feel compelled to denigrate them for having the audacity to differ with your viewpoint, but that shows insecurity in yourself. If you believe in your choices, you know it's not necessary to put others down...not all people who wholeheartedly enjoy the FWB lifestyle aren't "not ready" to commit...they just don't WANT to!  Your entire premise is based on the supposition that everyone wants to commit...that's not accurate by a long shot!
...just my little glorious opinion...   Did i step on someone little toe
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| 5/13/2009 1:50:54 PM |
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bigdog198
Melbourne, FL
age: 58
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It sounds like some people are confusing boyfriend/girlfriend relationships with FWBs.  They are entirely different concepts! 
Hey that is what she call it not me.
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| 5/13/2009 1:57:13 PM |
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maryg2
Philadelphia, PA
age: 41
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wow, i was gone for a little while and u guys really filled me up w/some thoughts here...
it seems like everybody has a slight different version of what an FWB is in their own mind, yet we all realize, yes, it is basically a F-buddy....but u can if its consented to have small talk and hang out and still be on the look-out for a future "soulmate" while in the process. i guess its really just a matter of meeting the needs of different ppl and how they want to go about it.
i know personally i wouldnt want to do FWB if knowing that either one of us even as friends was sleeping w/a BUNCH of other ppl. to me that is straight up gross!....sounds harsh but also sounds scary. but if ppl do it, thats their pregrogative.
oh, and just for the record, i am definitely silly in my threads, but i never said i DO have an FWB or plan to. i wanted for my own curiosity to see how ppl viewed it and go about it. it definitely sounds more like a hook-up thing to have needs and wants met and thats all it is. but i guess u guys really dont have coffee and a cigarette after mind-blowing sex and talk about the weather??
i had another interesting thought too in reading this....i think it seems it was obviously more common to do the FWB thing when ppl were younger as opposed to older, only cuz usually most ppl r looking for something eternal and a commitment and risking having their emotions wrapped up in s/b that has no intentions of ever committing and just straight up sex wouldnt feel good to them.
but i can see ppl that do choose the FWB thing w s/o can work cuz its being independent and knowing u can detach when u want and live your life and still get your needs met....
very interesting to say the least!
thanks u all so far....so can anyone meet at 10:00 next Thursday at Motel 6??? thats my first available opening! gotta lighten it up here!
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| 5/13/2009 1:59:48 PM |
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goodgato
Fort Lauderdale, FL
age: 46
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No, but someone feels compelled to offer a less judgmental and well-articulated viewpoint to balance out your no-sex-getting blather.
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| 5/13/2009 2:03:39 PM |
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howudoinnn
Grantsburg, WI
age: 40
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your right hun..im not getting any..not that i cant..i wont settle for just any..i want the marathon..not the 1/4 mile..
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| 5/13/2009 2:06:46 PM |
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goodgato
Fort Lauderdale, FL
age: 46
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Sorry hun...didn't mean to step on anyone's little toe...or toes. Diverse opinions are what makes the power of the Web such an awesome thing. 
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| 5/13/2009 2:35:10 PM |
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maryg2
Philadelphia, PA
age: 41
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oh, HOWIE (can i call u that?)....i need a piggy-back ride again!
no, really, HOWIE and GOODGATO, u 2 need to shake hands and agree to disagree....to each their own and we have to respect each other, maybe not like it. thats the way the world works! so please play nice, kids!
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| 5/13/2009 2:41:22 PM |
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howudoinnn
Grantsburg, WI
age: 40
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Howie..is that an ex of yoursand me and gato have a mutual attraction to opposite thingsas long as she stays the script and not comeback 2 months down saying fwb's suck..cuzz the holes already dug..live withitim just blowing air..believe half of what i say..and divide the half into laughableequal parts..
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| 5/13/2009 2:57:23 PM |
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tdub42
Brookville, OH
age: 45
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yeah, i assume there r FWB relationships...(i keep calling them relatonships... there it goes again ) that do actually go well and ppl can really NOT have emotional connections and can walk away...IDK
but do ppl sleep w/more than one person when in one cuz if u threw s/o else in the factor, then certainly there could be jealousy....among other things?....this is so confusing. doesnt anyone teach this stuff???
I always ask if there are courses or classes to take ...just like the "little something, something" thread.
I'm thinking like a FWB for Dummies manual...complete with pictures and all...most important chapter would be the Emotional Boundries section.
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| 5/13/2009 8:13:10 PM |
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maniacmassager
Lawrence, MA
age: 45 online now!
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I would do a FWB, if i knew the girl or i wasnt sleeping around with anyone else. id be up for a monogomus FWB deal. 
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| 5/13/2009 8:17:11 PM |
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goodgato
Fort Lauderdale, FL
age: 46
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That's called a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, maniac. FWBs means you're both free to do as you please...but we can all set our own boundaries and call it whatever we like. That's the beauty of free will and choice.
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| 5/13/2009 8:20:04 PM |
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mariner67
Birmingham, AL
age: 43
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That's called a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, maniac. FWBs means you're both free to do as you please...but we can all set our own boundaries and call it whatever we like. That's the beauty of free will and choice.
Now hold on. My FWB and I agreed that it would only be between her and I. And it was. No long term commitment but all the sex we could handle with each other.
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| 5/13/2009 8:27:41 PM |
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goodgato
Fort Lauderdale, FL
age: 46
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...ergo my reference to individual boundary-setting...
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| 5/13/2009 8:44:38 PM |
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william9_17
Kelseyville, CA
age: 26
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I've never heard of a situation that invloved F**k Buddies ending well. When I say that I mean actually knowing people/friends who were into it...Every FWB couple I've encountered usually ended up with them not being able to be friends anymore. It just isn't for me. If I don't have deep enough feelings to marry someone I'm deffinately not going to f**k them
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| 5/13/2009 8:47:37 PM |
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mariner67
Birmingham, AL
age: 43
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I've never heard of a situation that invloved F**k Buddies ending well. When I say that I mean actually knowing people/friends who were into it...Every FWB couple I've encountered usually ended up with them not being able to be friends anymore. It just isn't for me. If I don't have deep enough feelings to marry someone I'm deffinately not going to f**k them
Thats all fine and good. And in some instances you are correct. But there are different strokes for different folks. And whether you believe this or not, this actually works quite well if each of you have the same opinions about how you both want to go about this.
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| 5/13/2009 8:51:34 PM |
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william9_17
Kelseyville, CA
age: 26
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Well yes. I never said it was wrong I just said it isn't for me...
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| 5/13/2009 9:05:37 PM |
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wmmpls8
Minneapolis, MN
age: 40
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Different people will do different things for sure and I dont judge anyone at all, but for me, sex and emotions go hand in hand, cant have one without the other, maybe I need to learn something too, but sex is a physical connection and believe me if I am conneted like that I will be emotionally  too. Just me. 
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| 5/13/2009 9:18:37 PM |
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maryg2
Philadelphia, PA
age: 41
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ok, well, if the TRUE version or terms laid for FWB r not being exclusive w/just one person but multiple partners, then i definitely aint doing it. too many risks involved physically and emotionally.
i thought u could be a F-buddy if it was only at least the 2 ppl that knew each other and still went about their lives....see, i find it confusing to some degree and i think thats where ppl get into trouble...cuz u got that fine line of NOT sleeping w/other ppl, NOT letting your emotions get the best of u and definitely DONT fall in love....so i think u just really have to have an "i dont care" attitude about it and know it only serves one purpose....and that is to have great sex and be on your way!
well, it looks like i wont be having bacon and eggs w/an FWB anytime soon....cuz its not part of the equation....and, damn, i like having breakfast after morning sex!!
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| 5/13/2009 9:22:17 PM |
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mariner67
Birmingham, AL
age: 43
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ok, well, if the TRUE version or terms laid for FWB r not being exclusive w/just one person but multiple partners, then i definitely aint doing it. too many risks involved physically and emotionally.
i thought u could be a F-buddy if it was only at least the 2 ppl that knew each other and still went about their lives....see, i find it confusing to some degree and i think thats where ppl get into trouble...cuz u got that fine line of NOT sleeping w/other ppl, NOT letting your emotions get the best of u and definitely DONT fall in love....so i think u just really have to have an "i dont care" attitude about it and know it only serves one purpose....and that is to have great sex and be on your way!
well, it looks like i wont be having bacon and eggs w/an FWB anytime soon....cuz its not part of the equation....and, damn, i like having breakfast after morning sex!!
You need to read my post on this.
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| 5/13/2009 9:30:44 PM |
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hsprin
Savannah, MO
age: 35
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Mary I like to have sex after my morning sex!@!
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| 5/13/2009 11:41:02 PM |
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bigdog198
Melbourne, FL
age: 58
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In my case the new B/f's didn't want me around. They thought her and I were still FWB and got jelous.
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| 5/14/2009 5:53:25 AM |
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maryg2
Philadelphia, PA
age: 41
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Mary I like to have sex after my morning sex!@!
you wild girl, you!....im starting to think you aren't such a PRINCESS after all!
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| 5/14/2009 8:09:38 PM |
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wmmpls8
Minneapolis, MN
age: 40
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Dont get me wrong I am not criticizing the entity as a whole, as I have not had a f-buddy myself, and I understand what most say about not becoming emotionally attached, but the experience is another thing as well.(talking with a very analytical mind here) I guess I have never had someone just come up to me at the bar for a romp if you will, but humanly speaking, on general terms, hormones can get the best of us, and no one is immune to that 37,000 ft romp, or that 5 minute quickie in the elevator, or in the park at night,never the less the back set of a car, or a lighthouse in broad daylight (I did that but with my ex), here there anywhere yes thats for Gods sake I am not a dog. But anyway when that day comes if it ever does, who to say I would not do that, unless I was in a comitted relationship, then its out of the question. Maybe I can expand more later.
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| 5/14/2009 8:36:40 PM |
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goddess56
Tulsa, OK
age: 61
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There are also lots of women who are happy and secure in themselves who genuinely enjoy FWBs without "pining" to have one guy "all to themselves"...many of us have already done our time in exclusive relationships, been there, done that, got the t-shirt...and are quite happy and content to enjoy another dimension of our lives without being constrained.
Not every woman on the planet feels she has to lasso a guy and lock him up. JMO! 
And of course, gato, you and I are going to disagree on this one. If we're not on totally opposite ends of the spectrum, I don't know who would be.
I know that your viewpoint is far more popular with the guys, but the one who cares about me appreciates mine more. And that's the way it should be. We each find what we're looking for.
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| 5/14/2009 8:48:07 PM |
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binderdundat
New Orleans, LA
age: 49
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FWBs = Not An Exclusive Relationship...every person in the whole world is not wired to think in "Forever and Ever Amen" terms...fyi!
And there's a dozen other options between FWB's and "Forever and Ever Amen".
Just because one makes a choice, whatever that choice is, doesn't mean that anybody not making the same choice just HAS to be on the other end of the spectrum.
I would think that those against FWB's would be thankful for these kinds of threads... it weeds out the undesirables... and vice versa.
At least that's what I read em for
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| 5/14/2009 8:52:54 PM |
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mariner67
Birmingham, AL
age: 43
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And there's a dozen other options between FWB's and "Forever and Ever Amen".
Just because one makes a choice, whatever that choice is, doesn't mean that anybody not making the same choice just HAS to be on the other end of the spectrum.
I would think that those against FWB's would be thankful for these kinds of threads... it weeds out the undesirables... and vice versa.
At least that's what I read em for
So has your way of thinking landed you a man yet? Just curious.
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| 5/14/2009 9:08:08 PM |
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stastas
Brooklyn, NY
age: 47
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it is possible, but difficult not to get attached. Human nature is possessive and it is hard to think that it is only temporary, but under certain circumstances it can work
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| 5/14/2009 9:57:59 PM |
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binderdundat
New Orleans, LA
age: 49
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So has your way of thinking landed you a man yet? Just curious.
"My way of thinking" has "landed me" two husbands and my share of serious relationships. WTF does that have to do with what I wrote?
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| 5/15/2009 8:29:36 AM |
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howudoinnn
Grantsburg, WI
age: 40
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fwb's ..there afraid..and comeup with many poor excuses of y it is the bestt wayyy..keep running..keep getting tested for diseases both cureable ..and the uncureable 1s. Your just washup has been's that gaveup trying..when i giveup trying..it will be when i can no longer breath..6 ft down..la..la..loooserssss
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| 5/15/2009 8:53:22 AM |
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goodgato
Fort Lauderdale, FL
age: 46
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FWBs is a valid lifestyle choice for people who aren't interested in having an exclusive relationship with someone. A loser is someone who can't think for him/herself and needs external validation/approval to live his/her life.
“A man who does not think for himself does not think at all.” Oscar Wilde
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| 5/15/2009 9:23:58 AM |
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howudoinnn
Grantsburg, WI
age: 40
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I have plenty of thoughts..I think all the time..would u care to hear someu might not like though.. anyways..its ur body..stretch that chit out woman....whats nice bout being a man is..we dont loose our gift
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| 5/15/2009 9:25:59 AM |
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goodgato
Fort Lauderdale, FL
age: 46
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What is a chit?It rhymes with the word that summarizes what comes out of your mouth most of the time...
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| 5/15/2009 9:29:39 AM |
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edgeofsandias
Placitas, NM
age: 43
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Can I get some popcorn for this?
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| 5/15/2009 9:34:25 AM |
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howudoinnn
Grantsburg, WI
age: 40
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Oh dont get your longjohn's to worked up now..in trying to figure out what chit means..or is it shit
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| 5/15/2009 9:41:30 AM |
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goodgato
Fort Lauderdale, FL
age: 46
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FWBs are generally literate, somewhat worldly in their outlook...and have a point of reference that extends beyond their neighborhood. They are comfortable in their own skin and make decisions using their own rules.
They ignore the critics with a barely literate grasp of their native tongue and below substandard debate skills. ***Yawn...Purr***
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| 5/15/2009 9:44:12 AM |
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howudoinnn
Grantsburg, WI
age: 40
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u are definately the 1 that is full of shit girl..lol..Im very intelligent..so intelligent that i dont by ur ways..and i am a leader not a follower..theres a differance. ur smart..need i break them down u make me hungry
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| 5/15/2009 11:16:00 AM |
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howudoinnn
Grantsburg, WI
age: 40
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wahooo..gato blocked me..course she wont see this part ..oops lol..Muwhahahahaahaaaa
for miss mary below me now
y are u calling me howie..i have a name..please use it..its tommy
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| 5/15/2009 11:22:57 AM |
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maryg2
Philadelphia, PA
age: 41
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OMG, u 2 popped in here again??....HOWIE, u need to leave GATO alone right now!....she made her choices and to each their own....
u 2 have went from thread to thread about this and its out of control, honey. enuf is enuf.
its gonna drive me to drink!i already drink!....ok, ill just drink more after this drama!
Happy Friday!
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| 5/15/2009 11:28:14 AM |
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tommyutah
Salt Lake City, UT
age: 38
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I've never had an FWB. I don't think my brain could wrap around the idea of it.
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| 5/15/2009 11:31:18 AM |
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darlinshel
Clayton, NC
age: 42
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FWBs are generally literate, somewhat worldly in their outlook...and have a point of reference that extends beyond their neighborhood. They are comfortable in their own skin and make decisions using their own rules.
They ignore the critics with a barely literate grasp of their native tongue and below substandard debate skills. ***Yawn...Purr***
Ok...not bashing your choices or anything - I have always said to each their own. I do have to disagree with this definition though LOL.
FWB is between people that don't want a romantic commitment. It has nothing to do with how literate or worldly they are. A lot are not necessarily comfortable in their own skins either - they have been hurt recently and just aren't ready for a romantic relationship and possibly more pain.
The men you are choosing might fall into the description you provided, but there are many people of all walks of life and interests that do FWB and are not all or even any of those things LOL.
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| 5/15/2009 12:04:38 PM |
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goodgato
Fort Lauderdale, FL
age: 46
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I stand corrected, darl...you're absolutely right. People from all walks of life enjoy the FWB lifestyle, and some may not fall into the category I'm familiar with. I can only offer up my personal experience and I should have specified that in my post.
Good catch, and thank you!
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