| 12/4/2007 7:29:17 AM |
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big_joel
Ash Flat, AR
age: 55 online now!
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im glad you are at least honest with your self
now why on earth would any one want to go out with you
if you dont have the courtesty to at least call him and break the date
instead of letting him set there waiting
come on now be a honest person we have helped you
[Edited 12/4/2007 7:31:00 AM]
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| 12/4/2007 7:39:46 AM |
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leahmarie
Aston, PA
age: 59
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You owe me an apology. I told you twice that you were wrong in going on this trip, and now you say you are not going. You should apologize to me and to all the others who told you that you were wrong. Considering your behavior, I think the guy is lucky you are cancelling out.
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| 12/4/2007 2:07:29 PM |
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geo13
Hanover, PA
age: 46
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kazy are you telling the whole truth or just the shell for some reason. Is it possible you sent redflags yourself. there is always two sides of the story.
[Edited 12/4/2007 2:09:25 PM]
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| 12/4/2007 2:32:44 PM |
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knittinkitten
Lady Lake, FL
age: 71
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I can't help but mention that I'm not sure anyone owes anyone explanations, apologies or whatever. Remember, many of us do not know each other......we all have our opinions, but how often would any of us be so quick to take the opinion of a stranger? These forums are for setting out our thoughts and feelings, but I see no reason to EXPECT anyone to accept my opinion as gospel. Nor do I expect insults or disrespect. It's not nice.
That being said, I like to remember that there was a time I was new to all of this, new to being single, new to being online, new to being faced with a scam artist or a player. I want to remember that so that there never comes a time when I forget that others are faced with these dilemmas. I hope that I can be helpful, with an explanation as to how I handled a problem, along with the outcome. When one sees that many people feel the same way about a subject, that's the time for someone to take stock of their thinking and open their eyes and ears.
I don't forget for one moment how badly I, too, want to experience the thoughts and feelings our OP was strong and brave enough to post for us to see....and, how she actually did come through with flying colors, possibly as a result of our caring posts. Let's support her now, because, she needs it.
It's nice to be a friend....not nice to always want to be right.
Just my thoughts.
Sincerely,
Knittin Kitten
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| 12/4/2007 3:10:11 PM |
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heatherhoney
Middlesboro, KY
age: 50 online now!
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I agree knitten 100%. Just because we ask for advice doesn't mean we are obligated to take it. She is an adult and the decision to go or not was ulitmately hers but I do agree with big_joel...she should at least call and cancel.
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| 12/4/2007 6:51:55 PM |
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knittinkitten
Lady Lake, FL
age: 71
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I see where she posted that she wasn't gonna tell "anyone" she wasn't going...I thought it referred to her family and children. I assumed she had told him. I hope so....it's better that he learn ahead of time that she had "chosen" not to make the trip, instead of "chickening out" at the last minute.
If OP had, in fact, not told him...I agree it was not right.
I just felt that it appeared that some people were "pouring salt on an open wound"...and, we all know how much THAT hurts.
OP...you just jumped your first hurdle....you'll be fine!
Fondly,
Knittin Kitten
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| 12/5/2007 6:31:31 AM |
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farmboy_fun
Hillsboro, OR
age: 58
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sorry to bring this up but you have two rick factors,
have a friend stay with you hahaha and ask for a aids report
from a doctor, and confime the report.if he is for real you will
have no prob.and being special ,,,, again if hes for real it will be just to be together.
roger
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| 12/5/2007 6:40:58 AM |
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crowdog3
Ponca City, OK
age: 24 online now!
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If he seems too good too be true, RUN, run very far away
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| 12/5/2007 7:41:53 AM |
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kazyka
Hudson, NH
age: 37
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I'm not that cold, of course I told him, but also there are two sides to every story, I think I messed up. I think I jumped the gun. This guy really seemed sincere. I really F......up. I liked him. ALOT. I think I blew something really good here. I got scared. I was wishy washy. I told him I'm comming, I'm not comming. I'm getting one room (because of finacial reasons) but 2 beds. I'm getting my own room. There was mix singles all over the place for him. I again F......up. I really liked him, and now even if I went he's not going to be there.
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| 12/5/2007 9:21:48 AM |
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sunnyday7
Longview, WA
age: 60
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IT is not over until the FAT LADY sings......... if someone gets upset..... put everything on the BACK BURNER.... what the H__L IS THE RUSH....
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| 12/5/2007 9:26:53 AM |
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kazyka
Hudson, NH
age: 37
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I don't know what the rush is, but I just want to see him, and make it real. And if it was all a cyber fantancy in myhead then so be it. I won't drag it on and on. I'll know. But if the connection is real, then we can have this long casual relationship and see where it goes. I don't know maybe that sounds stupid! Who knows? I sure don't. Tears are flowing all the time over this, crazy huh.....
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| 12/5/2007 9:48:51 AM |
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sunnyday7
Longview, WA
age: 60
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waiting ,,you will be in the SAFE ZONE......better safe than sorry....do a camera phone back & forth.....
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| 12/5/2007 12:25:51 PM |
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leahmarie
Aston, PA
age: 59
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kazyka...... I think you should spell your name as CRAZY. Are you for real?
You need some serious 
You claim red flags went up, but now you want to see him???
You never met him, but you are going to share the same room???
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| 12/5/2007 12:30:57 PM |
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holdinpanama
Panama City, FL
age: 44 online now!
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this is the same one who wants advice about hurting someone she cares about.the girl got problems i think instead of asking people on dh she needs a physiciatrist
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| 12/5/2007 12:57:44 PM |
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bossman777
Galivants Ferry, SC
age: 50
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dreama took that chance to meet me. she brought family with her. we all met and the rest is history. we are now living together and planning a wedding, so my advice is take someone with you this could be mr. right. you dont know if you dont go....... bossman777
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